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| Give me a sign, signal....hint, slap upside the head - ANYTHING !!!!
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:54:18 PM | OP there is a really interesting book you may like to read.. it's called 'Act like a lady think like a man' that may answer your questions for you.
The author says to put it in game fishing terms - if they are out fishing they are either players looking for players or keepers looking for keepers. You pull up whatever you hook on your line, but you only keep some of them and throw back the rest.
The start of the game is to hook the fish - all the fun of the chase and reel them in - for players and keepers. Only once you've got them in the boat do you know if you are going to keep them, or throw them back.
If he's looking for a player and you are a keeper or vice versa, that's a mismatch and he'll throw you back sooner.
If he's looking for a keeper and you are a keeper great, your words and actions will indicate this to him and you may be the keeper he's looking for. Only you can really know now whether he or you were players or keepers.
No wonder this place is called 'plenty of fish'.
Read the book OP  | |
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| Give me a sign, signal....hint, slap upside the head - ANYTHING !!!!
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:33:59 PM | | I think most women hate it when a guy buys her dinner or gives a gift and then thinks it means he's entitled to more - I know I don't like it. It almost sounds like you are the one doing that here. He bought you dinner, drinks, roses, etc and you think that if he bought you something you have a relationship. Crying for 3 days after 1 date? I didn't cry for that long when a relationship of 8 months ended. Why so much emotion invested at this stage? | |
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| Give me a sign, signal....hint, slap upside the head - ANYTHING !!!!
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:19:23 PM |
There is nothing wrong with a fling...it does not always have to lead to a relationship but if for you it does, don't sleep with men too early in the "relationship-building phase"...hold out for some form of committment.
Taken, I have a serious question for you, what kind of committment are you talking about here? To be exclusive? To get some kind of promise that he is planning on being with you for the rest of his life? I really need to understand this because I have just met a woman, she says I turn her on, and she wants to make love to me but can't because she needs some kind of committment. I could lie to her but I won't, I am recently divorced AND had a crappy "rebound" relationship with someone that I really thought was going to be "the one" that I would be with for the rest of my life. I may be a little jaded, or just over cautious, but right now, I just want to date around. Doesn't mean I want to sleep around, just meet other women to date and get to know. Can you tell me what "women" mean when they say they want "committment"? | |
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| Give me a sign, signal....hint, slap upside the head - ANYTHING !!!!
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:32:53 PM | | For me a commitment means you are committed to the relationship. It doesn't mean marriage or anything like that, but it does mean focussing on the relationship and not dating anyone else. I am guessing though, that 10 different women could give you 10 different answers to this one. | |
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| Give me a sign, signal....hint, slap upside the head - ANYTHING !!!!
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:58:29 PM | Op, I know you hurt right now, that's totally understandable, that you feel rejected. I think it's best not to bet all your chips on a guy so soon after meeting him-same goes for a guy dating a woman as well. It's healthiest to open your heart to someone more slowly, after they prove to you with their repeated presence and keeping your agreements that they respect you and really do have feelings for you. That's my two cents anyways. Op-this too shall pass  | |
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| Give me a sign, signal....hint, slap upside the head - ANYTHING !!!!
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:56:24 AM |
Yall dont get it though : Why'd he stick around and wait on me to have breakfast ????
he was hoping you'd put his boner to good use...bit of morning boner there...
He did mention he had a boner though...and would need a cold shower
yeh he was hoping you'd pipe up and say...*oh you poor thing...let me tend to that boner of yours...
seriously...he bought you those flowers to sweeten you up for a *good time* with said boner...
and he even brought along a vase LOL probably took it from a restaurant table :-)
want him back ? message him...*now about that boner.......*
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| Give me a sign, signal....hint, slap upside the head - ANYTHING !!!!
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:38:32 PM | You sound like overly prude to me, maybe thats why hes ignoring you now.
Listen to the others who mentioned you act like a girl in highschool or jr high. They hold weight.
He probally liked you, but couldent get over the feeling there was something weird. When he finally got home and had moment alone to think what it was he realised how immature you where and decided to leave well enough alone and that you wernt it. | |
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