| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:47:45 PM | How about I wear mine because it's mine. I paid more then a grand for my ring and it looks better on my finger then it does in a box on my dresser.
Rings are supposed to be very personal. Not only from a marriage standpoint but the reality of it is it's something "I had planned on wearing the rest of my life".
Lets not leave out how nice it goes with my watch and bracelet.  | |
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| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:10:29 AM | Is he fairly short???? If he is, it might be in your interest to check what's inscribed on that ring...something like this perhaps? Ash nazg durbatulûk, ash nazg gimbatul, Ash nazg thrakatulûk agh burzum-ishi krimpatul.
[translation: One ring to rule them all, one ring to find them, One ring to bring them all and in the darkness bind them.] | |
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| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:31:04 AM |
I do understand that some business people like to wear a 'fake' wedding ring so that they appear more stable. It is actually quite common. A single might also want to wear a ring to appear less available, etc, etc. That's cool. He can wear a ring. Just not THAT ring. He can also keep other pieces of jewelery given to him by women. Just not that one.
I personally wear a ring on my left hand while at work or associating with clients and other business associates. - Yes, I have been hit on and have had passes made at me.
Wearing something DOES tend to tone that down a bit. - I feel I need to do as such as my personal and professional ethics will now allow for me to be personally involved with clients and business associates.
If I do get asked out, I just very graciously thank the person for their interest, but also let them know I am spoken for....whether or not I truly am.
And yes, I personally have a LOT of jewelry and I am going to wear it. - I deserve to.
AND if I see a man with a wedding ring on his hand, I do the right thing and just don't go there. - buh byeeeeeeeeee! | |
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| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:32:50 AM | I can see wearing such a ring at work. I did that for about 3 or 4 months after my divorce because i wasn't ready to have men start hitting on me. But 10 years is ridiculous. Chances are he is still married and is just trying to make you, and possibly forgot to REMOVE it.
I wouls not ever date a man who still wore a wedding ring from a previous marriage, or had any connection beyond what was absolutely necessary to a former spouse OR girlfriend. ( I recently met a man who totally ignored a question I posed about his ex. Totally hot move!! I love it! It was totally the right thing to do. )
I would never WANT to wear my old wedding ring. It would be disrespectful of my new man, and distasteful in general. But certainly, there are people out there who know very little about good taste.... | |
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| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:37:22 AM |
What could be the implication/reasons behind? It makes me wonder if the person who does it:
- has not moved on?
- feels s/he is STILL married in the eyes of the Catholic church?
- just wants to appear unavailable to certain people?
- for the sake of the children?
Inquiring mind wants to know ... Is he really divorced? If so, there is no reasonable reason to continue to wear a wedding ring. He's either a liar or a nut. | |
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| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:41:34 AM | Easier to pick up chicks at the bar. They see the wedding ring and realize, "Hey! This dude's into commitment! Just what I'm looking for!
Lots of guys use this trick and it works like a charm. If a girl is looking for a NSA fling she will go for a married guy every time. | |
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| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:42:10 AM |
I have a ? My wife just asked for a divorce this past sunday.. ? is how long does the pain last? A long time. It's not going to be easy, and the pain is not going to go away just like that. You are honest enough on your profile to say you are looking for someone to talk to and listing that your are just looking for friends. Spending time in the forums and 'talking' to people, men and women, here is a good idea at this point. Good luck. | |
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| Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:22:26 AM |
My wife just asked for a divorce this past sunday.. ? is how long does the pain last?
Well.....how long have you been with your wife? In Divorce Care, they recommend taking the number of years you were with your ex and divide by 4 on your calculator. -that is more than likely how long it will take before you are totally over your ex. - That same answer is also recommended how long you should be on your own before you try to date again as well.
- Nobody likes that answer.......but that is pretty much standard.
In answer to your original question, you will feel lousy for a while, but in time, the pain will subside. The first year for me was the hardest but it got easier in time.
- Take your time, get out there and a new change of scene. Meaning take on new interests, hobbies, activities. In doing this, it will not only get you out of the house for a bit, but it will give you something new, positive, constructive to do, and yes, you will meet new friends. - Yes, just friends who will become of great support to you. | |
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