| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:59:39 PM |
But you need to use that freedom to enjoy it. If you simply work, come home, do nothing, you're going to be bored and lonely. And if you were married for a long time you may be out of practice with trying new things, I know I was. So you've got to step outside of your comfort zone and do something different, try something new. It doesn't have to be anything crazy, buy a can of paint and change the color of a room to something new, something you would love. Stop to eat on the way home from work at a new restaurant, someplace you've never been before with cuisine you've never tried. Check out some new hobbies, take a class, find places to hear live music. Whatever you can find, do it. You may find it's not for you but you'll start to understand that you do have choices and how to act on them
I wa married for 30 years 25 of them were wonderful LOL Your insight and advice are wonderful. I will use it and pass it on. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:38:26 PM | | well...you don't have to worry about crumbs in the bed. says it all, actually. no fuss, no muss. might get a little lonely at times, though. i always think the best of both worlds is having a SO but always keeping separate houses, finances, and the like. cake...icing...eat! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:45:32 PM | Sorry, I'm not in your age group but I couldn't resist this. All in fun :)
After you go, I can catch on my reading
After you go, I have lot more time sleeping
And when you go, it looks like thing's gonna be lot easier
Life would be at ease you know
I really should be glad.
Chorus:
But I'm bluer than blue
Sadder than sad
You're the only life this empty room has ever had
Life without you is gonna be
Bluer than blue..
After you go, I have a lot more room in my closet
After you go, I can stay out long if I feel like
And when you go, I can run through half screaming
And no one can ever hear me
I really should be glad
(Repeat Chorus)
I don't have to miss no tv show
I can start my whole life over
Change the numbers on my telephone
but the night will sure be colder. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:49:53 PM | I will be 50 in a week and am enjoying this thread and am resonating with many of the comments. I'm particularly happy about being able to say  to those with agendas that I do not wish to buy into or who try to change me. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:56:12 PM |
I will be 50 in a week and am enjoying this thread and am resonating with many of the comments. I'm particularly happy about being able to say to those with agendas that I do not wish to buy into or who try to change me.
Another really good point! Thank you! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:03:30 PM | I'll be 50 in 2 weeks. I've been rearranging my living room for a month and no one (not even the dog) has complained!!! And I don't have to have a king-sized bed!  | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:41:59 PM |
ismne2 that must be pronounced, is mean too. Are you bitter of what? You have misread, misinterpreted my comment. A good reason for why I try to stay away from people who don't get sarcasm. I should not have responded to your thread. The true nastiness and bitterness is in your response which is a very personal attack on me....based on nothing more than that you didn't get my sense of humor. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:09:59 PM |
]You have misread, misinterpreted my comment. A good reason for why I try to stay away from people who don't get sarcasm. I should not have responded to your thread. The true nastiness and bitterness is in your response which is a very personal attack on me....based on nothing more than that you didn't get my sense of humor.
...OP in defense of ismene...She is somewhat like me in that we seem to share the same dry sense of humour that not everyone gets. I knew she mean't no harm in her comment just by the little emoticon she used. That's the problem with the written word...it sometimes comes across as harsh when it is not mean't to be.
...maeflowers | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:26:35 PM |
The nice part about being single -- and dating -- at an older age is that by now, peoples' personality flaws, behavioral quirks, and mental illnesses have manifested themselves.
Not always true, sometimes they have become very good at hiding these things. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:49:27 PM | Upside: Not having to shave your legs.
Downside: Having no one to shave your legs for.
Upside: Not having to come home.
Downside: Having no one to come home to.
Upside: Not having to cook.
Downside: Having no one to cook for.
Upside: Doing what you want, when you want and how you want it.
Downside: Always doing what you want, when you want and how you want it.
Upside: Staying up as late as you want posting silly posts on some silly forum.
Downside: Staying up late (because you can't sleep and you have no one to talk or cuddle to) posting silly posts on some silly forum (that you were blistfully unaware of in what seems like a lifetime ago)...
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:05:53 PM | | good points, danielle. age has nothing to do with it, btw. well, except that maybe you get a little more realistic (of course, the pessimists like to call it "jaded"). at any rate, i'm not so sure i could tolerate living with someone 24/7 these days. i could deal with it if he lived maybe a block or so away...all of the fun with no responsibility and all the privacy i want. i don't like any kind of pressure. maybe i'm getting lazy...or heaven forbid, "set in my ways" lol. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:56:50 PM |
Upside: Not having to shave your legs.
Downside: Having no one to shave your legs for.
Upside: Not having to come home.
Downside: Having no one to come home to.
Upside: Not having to cook.
Downside: Having no one to cook for.
Whatever, I never need to shave my legs; I enjoy staying home to do what I like such as cooking delicious food, which means I enjoy taking good care of myself, then turning downside into upside. Sorry, I am just so positive... | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 12:30:32 AM | Oh, there's lots of beneficial shit.. But we don't always take advantage...
Many of you are Plebes... Novices at dealing with the big Five- O...
I've had seven years experience at being 50...
And just when you think you've got it right, a whole new decade begins to rear it's silly grin over the horizon...
People who remember my birthday piss me off... E-cards from Hallmark, mostly... (No one has any time for originality... So we outsource)... Clever quips about the hazards and pitfalls of aging... Fvck that noise...
Yet the cop who pulls me over for speeding asks politely that I turn my stereo down so that we may converse in reasonable tones...
Pleased with my co-operation, citation bearing my signature firmly in hand, I usually get this parting shot:
"Be careful out there, Pops... And hey... I dig "Alice in Chains", too"...
"You ain't seen nothin' yet...Wait 'til I'm ninety, ya little shit"... | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:14:52 AM | Upsides are to numerous to mention. Do what I want when I want. Have been a widow since 2004 and can honestly say I am so happy with where I am in life. Does help to live in my area of California. Also think a persons education, job etc plays a role in how content they are with life.
~Beth~ | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 2:40:43 AM | once you pass 50, you have ten more years to be 60. at 61, having a pretty good idea of my plusses, my minuses, what i want and with little time to waste-- i look better at this age, feel better, am dating more and honing in-- slowly but surely. at 50, if you "believe", you can be a bit more disciplined and not be distracted by the wrong people for the wrong reasons. you can begin to believe in yourself and spend more time on yourself, versus work, kids, et al. well, it actually took "me" getting to the later 50's to get it together. but then again, not many 50 years olds adopt teens and first become a mom at that age!
as for the rest, i was always pretty much my own person. however, this time around, i am less pushed to rush out, if i want to stay home, because i know that when i am ready, the world has a lot in it for me. i think too many people give up too fast and too soon. again, w/o hormone replacement, i think i'd never leave the couch either!
i tell my kids and i've said it here before, that they have a good 40 years left, before they need to worry about dates, et al. the first part of life is about work, service and education. the last part of life, is about applying what you've worked for, getting a little service back at ya and learning more about "good" relationships. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:38:28 AM | "The nice part about being single -- and dating -- at an older age is that by now, people's personality flaws, behavioral quirs, and mental illnesses have manifested themselves."
Wow! I couldn't agree more! Makes it much easier to separate the wheat (very small pile) from the chaff (huge ass pile!) | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:08:06 AM | If there is an upside to being single at any age, why are dating sites such a huge success? If life is so great on your own, why waste it looking for a partner?
Actually, being single has a lot of advantages, but not being single appears to have more for some reason. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:53:32 AM | | My upsides are that I have created what I want, I am happy and satisfied with my life by living a healthy, comfortable lifestyle, and no longer need to work hard. Although I can do what I like, I am positive and ambitious like I was young. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:30:50 AM |
If there is an upside to being single at any age, why are dating sites such a huge success? If life is so great on your own, why waste it looking for a partner?
I too find it a little hard to swallow, all the gushing about how wonderful it is to be single. If that is so, what are you all doing here? Certainly it is better to be on your own than to be in a miserable relationship. And being alone lends to a person becoming personally strong and self sufficient, being his or her 'own' person. But it does seem, that if it were really as great as so many seem to be suggesting, they wouldn't be here seeking someone to share life with. | |
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