| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:49:49 AM |
IIf life is so great on your own, why waste it looking for a partner?
Happiness shared is happiness doubled. Maybe you never understand this kind of sentiments.  | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 12:55:50 PM | One upside of being 50+ is continuing to be "true to myself" (To thine own self be true).
I am working on ignoring and forgiving those (and I mean NO ONE in particular) who insist on writing they are plum sick & tired of or worried about others' choices and behaviors such as doing nothing, working hard, gushing about what they like, and a million other choices/decisions/acts of free will.
It's so easy for ANY ONE to should others on a forum, to write it's better that yous, to write yous don't belong/shouldn't be here ... so there! Actually, it's juvenile. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 3:21:10 PM | I LOVE being single. As in not married. I've got a GF, but NO living together, with the possible exception of truly dire circumtances.
Without being redunant, freedom is the BEST thing about it. After my wife's passing it was lonely at first, but I quickly got my @$$ back into the swing of things. I won't make any lists as I can't add a thing that hasn't been mentioned..but FREEDOM...It's a beautiful thing! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:59:58 PM |
FREEDOM'S just another word for nothing left to lose.  I suspect most people who are so happy with their freedom would give it up pretty quickly if the 'right' person came along. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:04:35 PM | "I suspect most people who are so happy with their freedom would give it up pretty quickly if the 'right' person came along."
Provided he lives at his place, and doesn't want to live at mine, and doesn't give me a hard time when I leave for 6 months a year in Cuba. Otherwise, see you.
Better be prepared to not sleep in the same room when we have sleep overs etc. etc.
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:06:49 PM | | The best thing about being over 50 and single...I have the chance to met that special someone and the knowledge of all my prior mistakes and lifes experiences to make sure that the life we will have together will be a good long happy one! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:07:55 PM | ^^^Thank you mae. What a true lady, such class.
...You're welcome.
FREEDOM'S just another word for nothing left to lose.
I suspect most people who are so happy with their freedom would give it up pretty quickly if the 'right' person came along.
And I suspect you would be right....to a certain degree. I'm pretty firm in not wanting to get married again but I woul not hesitate to enter into an exclusive, monogamous relationship with the right fella.
...maeflowers | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:10:50 PM | I don't have to share my bathroom with anyone? Okay, that's not entirely true at the moment, because I'm living in transition at the time at my sister and brother-in-law. I share a bathroom with an 18 month old toddler (their little grandson) from time to time ... OMG he's sooooo cute ... I just love babies .. :love:
Let's see ...
Being over 50 and single and not feeling like it ... is an upside.
Being over 50 and single with no one to go home to at night ... is a downside.
Being over 50 and single and ... Oh what the Hell ... at the moment, the only upside I can find right now is "not feeling like it". Other than that ... (although I know there any number of perfectly good reasons for feeling good about being single and over 50) I really don't know that I'd rather be single but for sure I wouldn't want to be with someone just because I don't prefer to be single.
I'm not "settling" just so I have someone to go home to at night!!!
No, no, no!!!
I'm pretty firm in not wanting to get married again but I would not hesitate to enter into an exclusive, monogamous relationship with the right fella. Ya ... what she said!!! | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:13:44 PM |
I suspect most people who are so happy with their freedom would give it up pretty quickly if the 'right' person came along.
Have to agree with you "Issie",,,
I'm pretty firm in not wanting to get married again but I woul not hesitate to enter into an exclusive, monogamous relationship with the right fella.
So if you met the "right" one and you had been together for a couple years and he asked you to honor him by marrying him, you'd tell him no? Then if he said I really want this and he's made you very happy, you'd still say no? Would you break it off even or would it have to be the way you want it,,,
Just asking,,, | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:17:18 PM | I can't help but think that I would know very well if she was right for me at this stage in life,,, and I don't plan on making any more serious life or character changes,,, so I'm believing it would be my "rest of my life" marriage,,,
I wouldn't hesitate,,,
-said the old romantic fool- | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:19:32 PM | Well today the great part of being single....is a bubble bath a long hot bubble bath with no one screaming I am using all the hot water.
My house is messy from painting...no one telling me to clean up my mess...
Went all day without make up...in my ripped up ratty sweats...
I didn't make my bed.....
I put my scented candles in every room and lit them....so it smells so good....
I have tons of smell good soap and shampoo and girly girl stuff in my bathrooms setting within reach...
I can use any razor I want....no one gripes about it being dull
I can have any friend over that I want without any telling me they don't like them
I had a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for dinner...no one griping because I didn't cook...
I painted my living room walls....patina....and it looks wonderful...instead of a yucky ole white color...
I stood on the furniture....and jumped on the cushions.
I took a nap....
That's just today.
If I am going to be single I am going to be happy. That way whenever I find Mr. wonderful...they will like me even better because I am already happy. It has taken me time to adjust to being single. But I decided that I had to learn to be happy whether I am single or in a committed relationship....I hope to find someone it would be wonderful. But until then I enjoy where I am at .....at this exact moment in life....and everytime I get to feeling scared or sorry I make a gratitude list. Things I am truly thankful for and it works for me..... | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:19:47 PM |
So if you met the "right" one and you had been together for a couple years and he asked you to honor him by marrying him, you'd tell him no? Then if he said I really want this and he's made you very happy, you'd still say no? Would you break it off even or would it have to be the way you want it,,,
Just asking,,,
...Oh stop trying to complicate this you brat. I will be the first to let you know how it turns out should I meet the right fella and should he ask me to marry him...so stay tuned.
....maeflowers | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:20:03 PM |
The best thing about being over 50 and single...I have the chance to met that special someone and the knowledge of all my prior mistakes and lifes experiences to make sure that the life we will have together will be a good long happy one!
Quit being so reasonable, sweet and hopeful. There's no place for that around here. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:19:09 PM |
...OP in defense of ismene...She is somewhat like me in that we seem to share the same dry sense of humour that not everyone gets. I knew she mean't no harm in her comment just by the little emoticon she used. That's the problem with the written word...it sometimes comes across as harsh when it is not mean't to be.
Excuse me but her "sense of humor" was not dry it was mean spirited. I am quite old enough to know the difference thank you. And IF you find people don't "get" your sense of humor perhaps you should rethink it or at the very least learn to judge who you can use it on and who it will offend.
Here is Websters deffinition of sarcasm:
1 : a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
2 a : a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual b : the use or language of sarcasm
Please notice in the deffinition that is says it is meant to cause pain and is directed against someone. There was nothing witty or ironic about what she said.
I actually have a very good sense of humor. Would you care to point out the humor in what she said? Perhaps then I can join in on the laugh. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:32:15 PM | I actually have a very good sense of humor. Would you care to point out the humor in what she said? Perhaps then I can join in on the laugh.
Since a few of us have been posting for awhile we get use to each other's writing techniques....she was using her dry sense of humor. She wasn't attacking.
Not everyone is going to agree with us...nor are we going to like what everyone writes all the time.....but take what you like and leave the rest....
The more that you write you will see everyone has different techniques and you actually look forward to what they write....She is one of my favorites along with quite a few others...but if you don't like what she has written then gloss over it and move on. Find your favorites and read them....Everyone of us is different but writing on here is a great way to relax.....unless you personalize everything that is written....Peace | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:36:23 PM | | I just looking at my bills and I found one on my own. Living with in my means!! It feels good to have a budget, to get all the bills paid and to put a little money back each month. | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:37:59 PM |
Excuse me but her "sense of humor" was not dry it was mean spirited. I am quite old enough to know the difference thank you. And IF you find people don't "get" your sense of humor perhaps you should rethink it or at the very least learn to judge who you can use it on and who it will offend.
Here is Websters deffinition of sarcasm:
1 : a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
2 a : a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual b : the use or language of sarcasm
Please notice in the deffinition that is says it is meant to cause pain and is directed against someone. There was nothing witty or ironic about what she said.
I actually have a very good sense of humor. Would you care to point out the humor in what she said? Perhaps then I can join in on the laugh.
...I have no intention of getting into anything with you I have merely stated an opinion with regards to ismene's comments. If you have followed my posts on these forums you will find that in the three years I've been here I don't think I've ever been mean or sarcastic to anyone.
If I somehow offended you raredawn you have my apologies.
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:18:38 AM | ^^^now now ladies^^^nobody's mean spirited around here except for ME
Okay...back to the thread....
If I am going to be single I am going to be happy. That way whenever I find Mr. wonderful...they will like me even better because I am already happy. It has taken me time to adjust to being single. But I decided that I had to learn to be happy whether I am single or in a committed relationship....I hope to find someone it would be wonderful. But until then I enjoy where I am at .....at this exact moment in life....  yahoo blueeyessmiling
FREEDOM'S just another word for nothing left to lose.
And nothing ain't worth nothing honey if it ain't free
I suspect most people who are so happy with their freedom would give it up pretty quickly if the 'right' person came along.
okayyyyyyyy twist my arm
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:12:51 AM |
is one of my favorites along with quite a few others...but if you don't like what she has written then gloss over it and move on.
Agree with you totally and would have done just that except she directed her comments at me. And again, where was the humor. I saw none. And so far no one has shown me any. Lets face it her comment was more an attemp to intimidate a person who isn't a regular on the forums, to make me look small and self pitying, than it was to display a rapier sense of humor.
Its very nice that several of you have defended your "friend". But it doesn't change what she wrote nor the tone it was written in. I will give the benifit of the doubt, perhaps her intention was to creat some sort of humorous post but she missed. No one has been able to point out the humor. You can't say something nasty, add a cute little icon and turn into something humorous. In fact even the icon was sticking its tongue out at me.
As you said one needed interalize every thing written. Like wise one needed post if they feel the thread is self pitying, stupid, redundant, boring, etc. One could just keep thier nasty comments to themselves and go to the next thread. Don't you think? | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:14:42 AM | Your allowed to hang onto your anger if you want. That is up to you.
Now on to the subject.
This morning I got up at 4am....walked. Set outside with a cup of coffee with a jacket and shorts on.....kind of chilly and waited for the sun to come up. I love the early morning to reflect and to become spiritually aware of life and everything around me. I also pray and meditate this time in the morning. It helps me find my center and put the focus on myself. This morning I do what I call the bitter prayer. Whenever I am frustrated or angry with someone I pray for them everything great in life. This morning I prayed for several people......I ain't no saint but I hate feeling angry and carrying this crap with me. It makes me mean. So I am learning this before if ever another comes along in my life to share it with. I love my mornings ..... my favorite time of the day. This is my time I don't have to share with anyone its the most beautiful time of the day for me. So right now at this moment I can say I am very happy to be single......peace | |
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| What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:44:46 AM | The Honey Do list is a lot shorter.
Toilet seat is just where I want it to be.
Don't have to spend a small fortune on bed sheets and curtains to match along with new rug dust ruffles new quilt then re paint the walls to match everything else. Do woman ever ask if it's OK to redecorate with pink bows and something that looks like it oucked flowers? After spending thousands, slintly hating the new look. ( yes dear it looks great. I have always wented to sleep in a rooom with all the worlds flowers and pink bows. ) Nothing says ours like your taste in decorating) Then hear the master bath now looks shabby!
Oh yeah I can cook waht I want anytime I want or have dinner at the local Pub if I want. | |
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