| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:56:57 AM |
Here for the forums only
Makes no difference whatsoever if they don't read the profile and they message you anyway Corn.
Last year I helped a friend join another dating site so went step by step taking her through it all on the phone and ended up with a profile with no pic and no info ... and guess what, it still had messages coming in saying "hey babe I like your profile".  | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:46:56 AM |
Is your profile finely honed to attract just the right type of person for you? Do you perfect it meticulously to show yourself in your best light
Oh absolutely! I spent many a minute (almost 24) composing mine. I'm really trying to attract the waffling, rambling, nonsensical type........So far so good.
I've not had any messages who fail to see my humour. I bet there's tons who dont though, thankfully, they're the ones who dont message me | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:16:15 AM | I've added and subtracted bits from my profile a few times lately, all to no avail.
I can't remember the last time I had a message, other than from a nice guy I'm currently chatting to. Even when I've messaged a few guys I'm ignored or get read/deleted. I was feeling quite low about it all until I ventured out into the real world a few times recently and got lots of admiring glances from nice looking men.
I honestly think people's perception of what they want or deem acceptable is unrealistic and I've probably been guilty of it too. Sometimes you have to get out there in the big bad world to realise you aint so bad after all... | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:19:32 AM | | Mizphitz read your profile think its great and would love you as a friend. I have a wicked sense of humour and if I put down on my profile what am like people would run away. am totally mad game for most things and love dressing up oh and a bloody flirt and a tart as well. but if I put that would only get men asking for sex, which I bloody get anyway | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:37:23 AM |
.....or are you just here for the crack?
So my question is............just how serious do you take this site? Is your profile finely honed to attract just the right type of person for you?
I don't take the 'dating' aspect of the site that seriously, but it is an excellent way of getting to know new people. So, my profile, whilst being largely accurate (there is one blatant lie that my friends will have spotted) was deliberately kept 'light-hearted'.
In my naughtier days, I *cough* had a fake profile which was designed to repel. Although partly true, I included references to my alcoholism, my social worker and shrink, the tattoos which I had removed with a Stanley blade, and included ridiculous interests such as 'doing anagrams of the word TO', and 'training to be Trevor MacDonald's stunt double'. It was purely to use the forums, but loads of women contacted me for natters, despite it's content. I directed most of them to my real profile, and didn't hear from most of them again.....
A SOH is essential! | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:44:16 AM | just how serious do you take this site? Is your profile finely honed to attract just the right type of person for you? Do you perfect it meticulously to show yourself in your best light............or are you just here for the crack?
I edit and add/change my profile as I go along, I would say I like too have on their what I feel is important to say, and what others should know.
Do I take PoF seriously, hahahaha of course not.
Am I up for the crack, There is not many cracks I would'nt go up 
I dont give a monkeys what people think of my profile, why should I .Most have/never will meet me , the vast majority that view it will never really know who I am, the profiles are a mere snippet of who we are, its says so on my profile. | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:21:02 PM | Mizphitz ..... I just didn't like your profile at all - you'll never get a bloke with a profile like that ............. 
... and why cant I access my mail box ??!! Its overflowing with ladies that I cant access ... !!! | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:03:36 AM | So my question is............just how serious do you take this site? Is your profile finely honed to attract just the right type of person for you? Do you perfect it meticulously to show yourself in your best light............or are you just here for the crack? I don't think it is even possible for a subjective profile to attract "the right type of person". It might attract the type of person who is attracted to the type of person he thinks wrote the profile, but was the profile actually written by the type of person the profile depicts? In my experience the answer is 100% no. Many profiles seem to be an exercise in how many clichés you can write down in two minutes with very little, if any, reliable and useful information. Most profiles look like they were Cut&Pasted:
"My kids are the greatest". No $hit Sherlock, everyone thinks their kids are perfect. It's not even an opinion, it's a gentically programmed response to being a parent.
"I want a caring man". Because if you don't say that they'll think you're looking for a total b@stard?
"I have a bubbly personality". What is this supposed to mean? I want a woman, not an Aero bar.
"I have been told I am attractive". Oh that's handy. Thanks for telling me that. Saves me having to form an opinion of my own.
"No weirdos". Can we take it as read that someone who does want a weirdo will probably say so? Can we also assume that the average weirdo doesn't actually know he's weird and therefore won't be deterred by this?
Listing things like pastimes, musical interests, preferred reading and so on is, to me, pointless because it implies the writer only wants to meet someone who has those things in common, and even if I do have those things in common I don't want to be with someone who has a restricted outlook. If someone says they love Harry Potter, for example, I think, so what? Are you saying you only want to meet Harry Potter fans? Does it matter? If that's not what you meant, why mention it?
I could go on but I'm even beginning to annoy myself so I won't. My point is it's usually folly to try to assess any of the important things you want to know about people from what they've said about themselves. How they say it might be useful though - if someone writes in textspeak for example I skip to the next profile. If someone seems to be aggressive, skip to the next.
My profile is deliberately uninformative because anything I write is going to be about how I perceive myself, which, considering the purpose, is a bit irrelevant. For me, my profile isn't a marketing campaign, it's just a hi I'm here and a point of contact. The only way to know what someone's really about is to have a conversation. | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:52:48 AM |
So my question is............just how serious do you take this site? Is your profile finely honed to attract just the right type of person for you? Do you perfect it meticulously to show yourself in your best light............or are you just here for the crack?
When I first joined POF, my profile was very po-faced and serious and didn't reflect who I am or what I was looking for. Then I decided to sack that idea off and just be myself, so I rewrote it to try and be true to myself. I understand that not everyone will like it, but for those who do, it's as honest as I can be.
For those who say that us blokes don't read profiles anyway, well I must be an anomaly becuase I base any messages I send from the complete overall profile rather than just a picture. There's nothing I hate more than those profiles which are two sentences long saying "I don't know what to say in this because I like most things. Send me a message if you want to know more". Those are awful, but if there's a woman with a profile that's personal or informative or witty, rather than stock and formulaic... they'll likely get a message from me. | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:23:51 AM | After reading this thread , I felt compelled to take a look at your profile OP.
I think its great and it made me smile.
Self deprication can be great when used in the right circumstances. It can show that you don't take yourself or life too seriously. Its a fine line though and when overstepped can give the impression of self pity.
Is your profile finely honed to attract just the right type of person for you? Do you perfect it meticulously to show yourself in your best light............or are you just here for the crack?
I wrote my profile primarily to amuse myself. If it amuses others, then that's a bonus. | |
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| Sense of humour bypass..or just trying to help?
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:33:51 PM |
After reading this thread , I felt compelled to take a look at your profile OP.
I think its great and it made me smile
am glad it made you smile...........and you are right - I never take myself or life too seriously.....if more people would take their heads out of their backsides and plant their tongue's firmly in their cheek's the world would be a much happier place ;) | |
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