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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:29:43 AM | Your a bit old to be worring about what someone thinks...and so is he for that matter...if looks are that important and whats inside is missed than its no good for either of you....Ive dated woman that couldnt pass a mirror without a look and they were pretty shallow but it was their life....then Ive dated woman that like me cleaned up good.....most had their head on right and we enjoyed each other....as I said bfore....your not in school any more....youve gone thru lifes struggles....who do you owe anyone cept yourself!?!good luck! | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:43:41 AM | I let go, I didn't worry, I HAD A GREAT TIME! | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 6:04:47 AM | Glad you had a good time. Just remember, men are pigs, and proud of it.
Diet is more important than excerice. My wife watches everything she eats and excercises daily, 4 days on the tread mill 3 days on the bike trainer and lifts weights with the ball for core strengthening. She is 44 with the body better than most 20yr olds after having 2 kids. She did this for herself, not me....though I much prefer it. After the second kid, she got busy taking care of them and the house instead of her and gained weight, size 4 to a size 12. Sorry to say if we had met when she looked like that, we wouldn't have gone out. I wouldn't have left her, but wasn't thrilled with her appearance. Now she's a size 1 or 2 depending and looks 10+years younger than she is. If he is attracted to you now, it can only get better with the work you are doing.
If he is only looking to get laid, frankly, breathing is the only criteria. Hope it works out and keep up the good work. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:46:14 AM | Some thoughts that might have been stated earlier.
- Try to relax. DOn't overthink it.
- Go to a place like victoria's secret and find something that works for you. Generally speaking the less material the higher the cost for it though.
- Dim the lights. ie. don't have the 2 overhead flourescents on along with the halogen torchiers. Even the Olsen twins would probably look bad in that lighting
- Maybe a bottle of Merlot prior. However, keep in mind that while alchohol giveth the desire, too much may take away some of the ability (Shamelessly stolen from Tom Clancy)
- Consider if you want to confide in him prior. The trouble is that a lot of us guys are a little slow at reading body language. He might mistake any tension he sees in your facial expressions and body language as your being dissatisfied with him.
Have fun and good luck !!
Oh, here is one other thing. Why not start off with something like giving him a back rub?? You can control things for the beginning that way. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 10:40:33 AM |
I let go, I didn't worry, I HAD A GREAT TIME!
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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:59:26 PM | Good for you!!!! If two people have a connection, nothing much else will matter!!!
Julius | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:01:57 PM | OP , if he is in to you , like you are to him .. nobody is perfect . The one's that are close have a personality of a rock so it all equals out .
You are a pretty lady and shouldn't worry about it ... jump him ! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:22:27 PM | i only read the first page, but this is an awesome opportunity for you...
weigh the possible outcomes:
a) he actually is turned off and then your embarassed.
b) he isn't and you hook up.
It's been my experience that being emotionally charged makes for the best nights--I'd be thrilled to have a fear like that and be in a situation to possibly hook up because of it... it could make for some incredible fun believe it or not; either you get embarassed, which by this point in your life you should be able to deal with, or your fears are dispelled and they turn to passion :) | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:17:24 PM | | If this guy really likes you and wants a Loving passionate relationship with you he will gladly accept you for who you are and love you for the person you are NOW.Sure you may look a little better to him if you were a little smaller or more Toned and that may be something you want to work on for YOURSELF but im sure if he Really wants a relationship with you he's happy with who you are now. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:58:06 PM | | At his age, he's not "perfect" either. I'm sure it didn't matter to him. Glad to hear that you let go and had a great time! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:10:23 PM |
Do men really look that closely?
Does it matter that I am working on getting fit?
Do men look at the total package or just the wrapping?
Am I over thinking this?
A real man who really does like you wont care. You have 2 headshots on your profile, you're attractive, very much so. He's been there this long, Im sure he wont be leaving, and on the off chance he does, you're lucky because he wasnt that good of a guy to begin with.
If he's a nice guy, when he sees you naked for the first time, before hand, tell him you feel insecure, he'll then re-assure you that you're beautiful, that is, if he's a good guy. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:14:05 PM | a real man will understand that you are trying to better yourself and will encourage you to do so. a loser will accept mediocrity.
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Posted: 11/11/2009 6:26:07 PM | | You did say you were 45 right? Wow some people ask the childish questions. | |
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