| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:36:39 PM | I have dated a few non-religious men and in the end it never works out well for one reason or other. I have come to the conclusion that it is best to date men who are at least in the same "ballpark" as me concerning religion. If you are non-religious then perhaps you should stick to dating non-religious women. Good luck! | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:43:18 PM | I think it would have worked better for them if they felt guilty first and thus not committed the sin, once it's done and they knew better before they did it, I don't think ole JC is going to except their blatant lie. Then again, I don't believe in JC so I might be a bit biased.  Seriously, pulling the religious card after screwing is much too little too late. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/1/2009 11:08:25 PM | larda: you can understand if you are not religious, it isn't rocket science.
op: hey, maybe they just wanted a quick flind and you were the easy target heh. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/1/2009 11:54:30 PM |
I don’t understand this mind set. I can understand being religious and saving oneself for marriage if one is young but once one is in one’s 30+’s with divorce(s) and kid(s) why pull this card?
These ladies are following the Bible... as Christians, that is what they are called to do. Yes, the vast majority of people in society have had sex before marriage ... yes, it *is* commonplace in our society. Perhaps the women you dated were not Christian when the past sexual relationships took place. The ladies' views may have changed when they became a believer, therefore they should not be held accountable for prior actions (if this is the case). Another thought is that the women simply messed up in prior relationships, and have re-committed their life to God.
Messing up in the past does not give a person a license to continue to intentionally do so in the future.
This is one example of why I choose to date people who have similar religious views to myself. It is important for the couple to be on the same page and, if one is religious and the other is not, certain beliefs (such as this) can tend come between a couple.
Try not to take offense or feel rejected by these ladies not wanting to take your relationship to a more intimate level. They are doing so because of their value system. It has no bearing on you or anything you said or did. Perhaps just see it as an incompatibility. There's surely someone for you out there.
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:01:09 AM | Agree with those that flagged the OP's profile as stating "non-religious". I'd go further. Nothing in even in his "text" says anything about religion.
OP, are you really sure you're looking for the religious type or just have some weird addiction to them?
Try going out with non-religious types for awhile and see. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:57:21 AM |
however once the sex started they began to feeling guilty. Not just “did I sleep with you too soon” guilty, but “I’ve sinned against God guilty.” Then they broke it off because they needed to seek the Lord!
I can understand being religious and saving oneself for marriage if one is young but once one is in one’s 30+’s with divorce(s) and kid(s) why pull this card?
OP: Reread the above. You don't need to look at the crystal ball or read the tarot cards to know that you simply didn't live to their expectation after the sex. That simple. Because if one is THAT religious, the guilt trip will be earlier than sex.
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 2:08:16 AM | Jesus isn't stealing your girlfriends.
He's just being used as a convenient excuse.
If a woman's really ready, Jesus wont get in her way. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:01:37 AM | At the end of this it seems your are attracted to women with strong religious beliefs..
You like what they bring to the table in most areas except the no fornicating part.
Analogy ....if you hate that your girlfriends are doing heroin stop dating junkies...
POF has a rating system for sex...it's called seeking an intimate encounter. The down side is you can be blocked by quite a few on this sight if you email a person who seeks an intimate encounter let alone if you have your setting set at that level.
The term Intimate encounter hardly covers the issue.....It should just say sexual encounter...
I find it far more intimate to hold a woman hand than touch her.... fill in the body part...but I'm a word Nazi and believe the English language should be used in its proper form and not in the bast^%dized state that it is in. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:23:46 AM | maybe you should spend more time in the initial email stage of things getting some clarity around the other person's religious beliefs/values. it's a bit mind-boggling to me how a person describing themselves as "non-religious" would even make it to a 1st or 2nd date with a religious zealot.
or, you can learn how to dance with poisonous snakes. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:28:04 AM |
Some people take Christian-Judea biblical teachings very seriously. The story of the old testiment city of sodom and gamora, which was burned to the ground in its entirity due to fornication and sodomy that was being widespread practiced in society, all being seen as sins as the reason for its destruction. It would appear if so, America should be going up in flames shortly.
Some people need to stop taking things so seriously. If I were to venture a guess, I would guess a meteor shower, or a comet or asteroid of some description. I'm sure America is going to be just fine. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:34:27 AM | | i try very hard to not date religious men....first off i think if ur that into Jesus-u can't b into me because i am not religious......and i am for sure an unrepentent sinner........i dont want to date u and i defintely dont want to sleep wityh u and hear the whole-oh i sinned...we should do this again.....i love god-let me stick ir in ur a$$....blah blah bullsh*t!!! | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:35:43 AM |
You list yourself as "Non-Religious"-- why not stick to your own kind? You'll never understand if you're Non-Religious.
My thoughts exactly. This is sort of a no-brainer. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:48:36 AM | In the beginning I would ignore that they said that they wanted a Christian man, or that Jesus was part of their life, or stuff like that. Still, saying that you are Christian or other doesn't mean anything. For instance most women that say they are Catholic, it means that they go there once a year (for the majority). But I did go in several dates where I found that they were too religious for me. I even went out with a woman who was learning to be a yoga instructor, and part of the training was spiritual. She had at first huge conflicts because her Christian faith said to not accept these other teachings, not for what it was saying, but because the source was not from the Bible. Eventually she came to terms with it and accepted it herself.
So my advice is that even when you think that you can overlook how religious a person may be, it is a major compatibility factor, ignore it and you will have years of hell. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:21:44 AM |
These ladies are following the Bible... as Christians, that is what they are called to do. Yes, the vast majority of people in society have had sex before marriage ... yes, it *is* commonplace in our society. Perhaps the women you dated were not Christian when the past sexual relationships took place. The ladies' views may have changed when they became a believer, therefore they should not be held accountable for prior actions (if this is the case). Another thought is that the women simply messed up in prior relationships, and have re-committed their life to God.
See here's where this get mucky with the literal Bible interpretation people because technically, whether you are divorced or not, the only way you should in terms of what the Bible says remarry and not be fornicating is if your first spouse is dead, so they are already bending the rules by actually trying to have a life again even if they don't have sex outside the confines of marriage.
I also think they are pretty much full of shit because as others have said, would be a bit better if they thought about the whole fornicating thing before they actually fornicate.
Now, I don't have a problem with a woman who believes that she made mistakes when younger and wants to do it right the second time, I think occasionally you find a man of the same mindset, think with his/her big head instead of the nether regions but you have to be realistic about whether a man/woman is going to wait until marriage if you are older than 30 and whether Jesus who didn't have huge issues with the major sinners of the world is getting his shorts in a knot when someone who has suffered a miserable marriage actually finds a few moments of happiness. But then again, I don't hold a literal interpretation of the Bible either.
OP, the kind of person who is going to use this as an excuse or whig out after the fact should not be difficult for you to identify. Ask them early if they are church goers if they believe in a literal interpretation of the Bible and use terms like yoked, etc. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:28:43 AM | | Perhaps you'd be better off dating girls who don't have imaginary friends...that way they can't use them as an excuse not to date. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:36:28 AM | Well as silly as it sounds, I am a Christian but I too try to avoid the religous types.
Partly due to exactly what you were saying. But I did not see it as they get scared that they sinned or at least what a preacher has said was a sin.
Every Shop at sams club? everytime you go there you can find carts all over the store offering free samples. They give you a little taste of something and hope that you like it enough to buy the whole package.
I liken their actions to something similar. They know many men would not be in a relationship if there was no sex.
I have been in relationships that the love making was less than spectacular. I know for me just because of that fact alone I would never consider being in a relationship with a woman without there being that form of communication. (Yes Sex is a form of communication. )
I believe in God and have Christian Other listed in my profile but that does not mean that I would have sex with a woman then try to cause her to feel guilt because of it. Those are tactics used but someone else listed in the bible 
I don't even go to church because every church I have been to thus far was full of hypocrites that LOVE to judge others for their actions and take it upon themselves to attempt to point to scriptures. Like the old bity groups that love to sit around sticking their noses into other peoples lives so that they can send post cards with scriptures on on them without listing who sent it.
I was sharing a house with a woman before. We were both single parents or rather should I say SOLE parents. We were sharing a house to be able to split the cost yet each have a better quality of life due to being able to afford a better place as a result of sharing.
Had some ole bitties gang up on me saying i was wrong to share a house with a woman I was not married to. I shut them up pretty quick when i pointed out the Jesus was living with not just men but he traveled with women and shared places of rest with women. Shoot in some parts it was those women they were traveling with that bought the food and supplies. Why did they have to buy supplies at all?
ANYWAYS>>>>>>lol
Jesus does not steal my girlfriends. There was only one that what you described happened and it did not bother me because I did not think we were speaking the same language in that area of connection anyways. (Would have been very boring down the road if things got more serious)
If a woman was indoctrinated into something like that form of thought that if they make love to someone that it is evil well... she would not be my type anyways.
I do usually avoid cathloc though...lol..... | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:37:57 AM | | I always check this stuff out before I get too far into dating someone. No bible thumpers or conservatives for me! I know if we clash on that stuff, we will definitely clash in the bedroom. And not in a good way. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:55:04 AM | You're in the Bible belt, stay away from Baptists and people that check Christian other as they tend to be more fundamentalist in their thinking, literal Bible interpretation, and more of the mindset of rules and sin
K, I lived in Oklahoma for 15 years, and I watch the news, and I knew that Baptists are scarier than the demons they decry, but I thought "other" meant kinda like "new age reasonable". Shheesssh! Thanks for the heads up.
"Steal his cross"-  This thread is a hoot!!! OP, I got whupped by the guilt whip in OK, but by a Roman Catholic, who (according to her) are reknowned for struggling with the burden of the Cross.
Perhaps you'd be better off dating girls who don't have imaginary friends...that way they can't use them as an excuse not to date.
Why do the women in this thread have all the great lines??!!
OP, my last lover secretly felt that she had lived her whole life with the feeling that she was about to get caught with her hand in the cookie jar. I really liked her, she was a really good sport, but she asked me once whether I was afraid of death, which was a "no", and of God. The latter stopped me in my tracks (was thinking imaginary friend thoughts), and all I could say was that I hadn't met up with Him yet. Her more developed sense of guilt and sin did us in. 
The only rule-making authority I respect is my own, and if we're gonna be partners, then I'll respect hers as well, but only if they're really hers, and not borrowed from someplace or someone else. | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:22:25 AM | | Let Jesus have them, there are lots of women who can't stand Jesus that you might like better. Look on the bright side, you got sex and they left on their own. Win/ Win | |
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| Jesus is stealing my girlfriends!
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:19:37 AM |
I’ve dated two women (not at the same time) over the last year. Both of them had strong religious beliefs. Our personalities clicked and we had a lot in common; however once the sex started they began to feeling guilty. Not just “did I sleep with you too soon” guilty, but “I’ve sinned against God guilty.” Then they broke it off because they needed to seek the Lord! WTF? I liked these women! I would have been glad to keep the relationship(s) going but I don't understand this feeling of "sin" they had.
I was raised a preachers kid and was privy to a fly on the wall point of view on this matter and this cycle of desire and guilt and redemption was very common even within the bounds of marriage with these women and is not the least of the reason I stay clear of the church folk
the heathens seem much more sane | |
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