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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:52:40 PM | Kick him to the curb. He starts the first date off by insulting everything you like, then calls you a Dork and a Loser, then, when you point out you two have nothing in common he says "So What?"
He's not only an ass, he may actually be potentially dangerous. If he's already disrespecting you this soon into anything, who knows what other boundaries he feels entitled to step over?
Just sayin.. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 9:04:37 PM | I have a suggestion other than "kicked to the curb", have his profile marked & removed as abusive. Saving others some grief and generally making Plenty of Fish a nicer pond to cast in 
Happy  !! | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 9:10:46 PM | | ^^^ can also we report "stupid" people ? Saving others some grief and generally making Plenty of Fish full smarter people ... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 12:53:08 AM | | He thinks you're hot, that's why. You have nothing in common, but he wants to pet and play. You would never date someone who has nothing in common, but some people only care about appearance. I think he fits into this category. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:03:26 AM |
Posted By: tracyannk on 11/3/2009 9  16 PM .... Would you go out with someone you had nothing in common with? What if this person seems to hate everything you like? .....
Usually an "average" man has most in common with another man of similar age.
The likes/dislikes are usually more similar and with a woman.
Women like shopping -men don't.
Men like football - women don't.
Soulmate of a man is probably a man, soulmate of a woman is probably another woman.
Yet, the trick is, most people are attracted to the opposite sex.
Maybe because differences are actually more attractive than the "what do we have in common"?
My approach to this:
I am looking for a woman that
-shares some of my interest (to love travelling is a "must", no exceptions)
-but different enough! For example I don't want anyone from same profession. I am economist, and does not appeal to me so interesting to have an accountant or financial professional for the job of the partner -would rather choose someone who has arts backround for example. Or a teacher. We may have less "in common", but as a couple might be better together.
So, for many aspect, I prefer actually differences over similarities.
I'm aware that dealing with differences might be difficult, but hey, long lasting relationship is hard work anyway, so I don't mind!
Just my 2 cents. Good luck everyone in your search/datings! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:12:04 AM |
So, for many aspect, I prefer actually differences over similarities.
I'm aware that dealing with differences might be difficult, but hey, long lasting relationship is hard work anyway, so I don't mind!
Hey, I see your point and agree, but look at some of the (lack of) interests that she points out:
- He hates dogs; she loves them and has one, which she cherishes
- Political beliefs are the complete opposite; if she's extreme left wing and he's extreme ring wing, then that could pose a problem!
- They don't like the same food; so they need to cook two meals every night
- They have different taste in movies; no biggie
The dog thing alone would be a deal breaker for any dog lover. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:35:46 AM |
The dog thing alone would be a deal breaker for any dog lover.
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Yeah...this one threw me off a bit. It's not that he 'isn't a dog person' - he said he hated them- knowing I had one...
I know some of you think this was a stupd question to ask, but this is the first time this has happened to me. Usually, with me, guys pull this c0cky stuff after the first date...its been my experience that when a guy is interested he'll be nice, polite, whatever to get to that first date. I thought it was weird that he acted like such as A$$ towards me and then thought I'd go out with him anyway...very 7th grade.
Just for the record -that I didn't meet him here. I met him in IRL... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:49:47 AM | Tell him that you'd love to focus on just his looks and ignore everything else about him like he's doing with you, but your disadvantage is that he's just not cute enough for that. That should get rid of him.
I do that to older guys who message me. I say "I'm with ya dude, I like em younger too." | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:59:31 AM |
OMG i LOVE that show!! it's sooooo scary. i guess i have more in common with you than he does, lol.
Right? "A Haunting in Connecticut" was especially good. (Not the movie, though).
Tracey, there's this thing that's all the rage with the kids these days. It's called "negging", wherein a guy insults a girl, either because he's insecure and shy, or he's an ***hole who goes after girls with low self esteem. I think a teen can grow out of it, but a grown ass man? Probably not. Lose his number, and ask him to lose yours.
He's an ***hole. Why wast your time wondering why he's an ***hole? | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 6:09:01 AM |
I take it however you would not take a guy like thus, who has this sort of attitude? I mean just reding many of your posts, you have mentioned several times that you will not settle and that "chemistry" has to be apart of the ingredient or it's a no go.
I'm not one of those posters that forgets what she says. I've never said "chemistry" - at least not initially. I have said "attraction". Beyond that (in the rare case it's there) I look for a bunch of traits that tell me I can get along with him, which ironically is the OP's point.
And yes, in time, chemistry has to grow in order for it to be considered as a serious thing.
I take it you are the type that would hold to that and you would not date a douchbag like this.
Probably not. I don't think he's a douchebag, though - I think he's a guy who'd rather not focus on anything but attraction alone. Fine for him, but not my thing. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:00:20 AM | ....and I was like "watching A Haunting on the Discovery Channel. There's a marathon on because it Halloween."
Tracy - I'm sure you're referring to the live lock-down in the "Trans-Allegheny Lunatic Asylum." Wasn't that awesome??? I Tivo'd it and watched it Monday evening when I got home! LOL.
Count me in as a dork too, then! 
I'm always calling myself a dork and a nerd..so has my boyfriend - more than once! I honestly laugh and agree with him.  | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:13:52 AM |
Would you go out with someone you had nothing in common with?
Absolutely not. If I don't have at least a few things in common with a man, there is no way that I could ever date him.
This guy is obviously careless to the fact that neither one of you have anything in common, but is willing to continue on. Regardless if there is nothing there.
A booty call comes to mind. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:28:38 AM | | **Shudders** - flashbacks of my ex hubby. Some people just lack social skills and basic etiquette because they were not taught them. Sounds like he wants to make a connection - (probably a shallow one as mentioned by other posters) - but has some serious issues. Probably good idea to stay polite but keep your distance. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 12:44:48 PM | Despite all the badly done psychoanalyses done so far (which reveal more about the analysts than the subject), I'll have a go:
I think it's a pose to get your attention, to stand out. Rather than blend into the army of guys who will claim (perhaps truthfully) to match your likes and dislikes to 5 decimal places.
And I think it worked- you DID post a thread about him.
His goal MAY have been only to get you into the sack, like most of that army. You can't say he's been less successful than them.
He may have overplayed his hand with the " loser" comment, though. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 1:07:06 PM | some oppiset things can be overlooked, (hating broccoli, chick flicks or snowy winters)
however oppiset views on political, religion or animals is definately just a waste of time on your time.
-makes it tough when they're a great kisser... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 1:08:29 PM |
Tracy - I'm sure you're referring to the live lock-down in the "Trans-Allegheny Lunatic Asylum." Wasn't that awesome??? I Tivo'd it and watched it Monday evening when I got home! LOL.
No....that was Ghost Adventures on the Travel Channel. It was on Friday night - lol I watched some of it because, well, I'm a dork...maybe its a New Jersey thing :-)
I don't mind being called a dork when it's a term of endearment - but he said it kind of nasty...like it was a bad thing... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 2:43:58 PM | You know, I have met this guy in several different variations.
Guy one thought he would be cute and call me a jackass. He said it was a term of affection. I said it was a means of ending a date.
Guy two would argue or disagree with me on every topic under the sun. If I said the sky was blue, he would say no, it's a shade of violet. Politics..forget it. Then when I asked a question about anything he would tell me how "I don't listen very well". I think he heard me when I said goodbye though.
Some guys just don't get it or they get off on making whoever they are with feel like crap. He probably was attracted and was seeing if he could play the 'antagonist' to see if he could get you in bed. You know, the same crap they learn in the schoolyard when they throw dirt on you. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:20:34 PM | | tracy QUIT wasting your time.you'll do better. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:32:10 PM | | Hes an idiot and theres a lot of them out there | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:28:42 PM | is the goal to date yourself?
I'm personally looking for someone who is very different from me.
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:35:34 PM |
Yep, I agree, ya made his weenie waggle, and that's about all there is to that.
That's probably it, what you have in common that he's focused on isn't what movies you like or your pet, it's the body parts you have different that feel good when they're put together.  | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:39:55 PM | .. well a little off topic.. but..
the dork and loser thing..
I can't understand why people do that.
the town Im in, people do talk like that..
I find it very weird and disrespectfull..
it's something different when it's said in your face followed with a smile and a kiss..
but like that..
shocking | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:06:38 PM | Yep.
booty. call.
Ignore him unless you plan on putting out in a hurry. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:41:04 AM | | Why try and meet people, they either block, dont reply, or write in all caps what they want or dont like. I feel like im getting fussed at. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:59:08 AM | | Sounds like some guys take being a bit of a prick too far. I have heard of guys being a bit difficult or a smart ar*e to be a bit funny and all that but this is ridiculous. I have been called an idiot, as an example, but it was after i did something or said something funny and not an attack. I think this guy needs to work on his social skills to work out what is appropriate to say and when. I hope it is an act and he really isn't like that, otherwise there are real problems. | |
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