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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:35:35 PM | well it was never my intention to come across that I was desperate to meet a man.....I guess I'm just trying to figure out how to talk to men in general......you know, when you hear stories about people meeting in line for coffee....or waiting at the bus stop.....
people never just come up to me on the street, maybe i look mean! lol
maybe I'm a confused child and not really sure what the heck i'm talking about, but I will take some things into consideration, like...revamping the profile....and just getting out to meet people in general, that's always a good thing!
i would never try to be someone i'm not, i would hope to meet someone who appreciated me just the way I am....and who knows, maybe even grow as better individuals together....you know, that old chesnut! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:45:07 PM | next time try this
a) smile alot
b) comment on funny things.. like oh I love your umbrella..where did you get it...or I simply love that flavour of coffee
c) when you go out socially like to a bar.. bop to the music.. smile and look approachable.. it is relaly hard for men these days..us ladies dance together and yet the men still feel the need to ask women in order to dance.. those who look most approachable get the offers to dance... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:09:01 PM | hahahahaha actually i was at the library today and this guy came up to me and was trying to talk to me, but i had my headphones in....but:
1.) he looked really young
2.) i was looking mean again
3.) I think he just wanted spare change
So it doesn't count! lol | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:18:20 PM | | Wow, OP....That is a great profile you've got now! More pics and they're nice. You don't look mean in any of them, btw. (Re: number 2. in your last post. I don't get it though. Maybe I missed something. LOL) | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:27:15 PM | | Oh, hahahahaha.......I said something about how random strangers don't usually come up to me because I think I walk around looking mean and unapproachable! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:20:56 PM | My opinion, for what it's worth, there's just too many people out there playing games. After all, it's really easy to play the field here right? How many times have we seen posters here that have said they met someone, started going out, and found out the person they were seeing was still trying to arrange dates on a dating site?
I think this medium has made people far too disposable. Another hotter, better version is just a mouse click away, right?
I also think the harder you look, the harder it is to find. All my long term relationships have happened when I wasn't looking, wasn't interested. When I was looking, there was nothing worth dating out there.
Ok, I just realized I sound bitter!!! I'm not, honestly, but dating has cure changed, and I don't think for the better.
I think your profile is just fine OP, and your pictures are awesome, keep plugging away, get yourself out and about and chances are you'll find someone worthy of your time. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 6:12:28 PM |
Oh, hahahahaha.......I said something about how random strangers don't usually come up to me because I think I walk around looking mean and unapproachable!
Nah, that can't be, because I ALWAYS look mean and people always come up to me...and they call me "sir".
I don't think you look mean at all, but I think in the one picture you look alot like Sporty Spice !. Viva Forever..what a truly kick ass song ! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:40:20 PM | | sporty spice!!!!!!!!!!! what the! lol | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:48:19 PM | sporty spice!!!!!!!!!!! what the! lol
Yep, and come to think of it, she never had a boyfriend either!
KIDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDING !!!! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:05:58 PM | Anti-Elvis, I don't have a hate on for you, just your anti-POF stance. It's a bit hypocritical with your continued membership. However I posted in another thread of yours, and didn't attack you, so methinks you're being a drama queen.
Ok I agree with Daisy, your profile is looking great now.
I don't get how some people can just casually talk to others either, I'm far too reserved for that I suppose. This is why when I went out, I would bring someone friendlier and it would break that awkwardness for me. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:12:52 PM | | Hey man, Sporty Spice was a hottie. Nothing wrong with her. I always had this vision of her and baby. Oh man. Hahaha. The only one that I didn't go for was Scary. Yeah, that hair didn't do it for me. OP, you look great in your photos. Your profile looks way better. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:17:18 PM | Oh thanks guys....
I think I prefered ginger spice....she had curves and knew how to work em! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:21:27 PM | Nothing wrong with Ginger. Haha. I never did listen to their music, but I did like the look. Ginger still looks good. I saw a pic of Joan Jet today and all I can say is Daynm.
Ok, now back to your regularly schedualed program. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:53:05 PM | | does that mean joan jett looked good.......or bad? | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:41:48 PM | She is just as hot today as she was in 85. I had such a thing for her and Pat Benitar. Both were the smokinest rockers of their day. Not sure how Pat looks, but Joan still has it.
Three cheers for thread hijacking. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:48:10 PM | I definitely dig the changes you've made to your profile as well. Sorry if my original comments came off a little harsh sounding.
and to add to the hijacking of thread... Joan Jett is way hotter now than when she was younger.... at least in my eyes. Not quite sure what it is though. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:49:59 PM | | If you want the unvarnished truth and maybe it's just my experience(s), if a person is sincerely looking to meet a sincere someone, don't count on this website... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:56:17 PM | | well.....i think there are good and bad people everywhere you go.......sincere or insincere.........is that how you spell it? lol anyways, i'm just keeping an open mind, that's all | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:08:45 AM | Well done on the profile, OP! Very upbeat, humorous, and gets your vibe across quite well.  | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:17:26 AM | | Yeah I would agree tall-n-curvy. I don't look at a lot of profiles - I just don't have enough time, but I did look at your original one and your updated one. I do like the new look much better. Good job and good luck. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:21:48 AM |
Nah, that can't be, because I ALWAYS look mean and people always come up to me...and they call me "sir".
That's my problem too.javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:19:06 AM |
If you want the unvarnished truth and maybe it's just my experience(s), if a person is sincerely looking to meet a sincere someone, don't count on this website...
Man what is with all the bitter Calgarians??!  I met many sincere people, who were seriously looking for something meaningful, but sometimes you just don't hit it off. Then again that's anecdotal and apparently not worth anything.
Personally I think people's attitudes play a huge part in if they're successful, not only with dating, but life in general. When it's piss poor, people tend to pick up on that. Don't lose hope, it's disheartening to watch. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:46:29 AM | | I think in a lot of cases "insincerity" includes short, fat, ugly, poor, dull or otherwise excludably perfect. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:57:17 AM | ^^^^
I can't speak for others, but I don't think it's necessarily bitterness or a piss poor attitude, it's just being realistic. I'm sure everyone on here knows 1 or 2 or even 5 couples who met on POF... but I betcha they each know dozens more who are still single! There may be 10's of thousands of success story testimonials, but as it said in another thread a couple of days ago, there were almost 77 MILLION visits to POF in July alone. Tens of thousands out of hundreds of millions per year is pretty insignificant.
It does occasionally work, and in theory it could work for everyone... but in reality it only works for an incredibly tiny percentage of all people who try it.
That isn't bitterness or pessimism; it's cold, hard, undeniable, statistical fact. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:13:31 AM | I have met great people and not so great people off this site. The same thing with real life. So I am not sure that this site is the end all and be all, but rather another useful tool in the jungle of dating.
I do think alot of people use it as a fast food drive thru and agree with what was said before, that even when you meet someone they are also looking for another better cuter version. I think the trick is just to relax and have fun with it.
I have met alot of friends off POF. To the point it should almost be called Plenty Of Friends instead. But without this site I would have never met them. I would suggest go to the different functions. You have more luck actually meeting people.
And NL, we need a pact that if we are not married by 40 then we are getting married to each other. LOL
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