| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:38:54 AM | OP: I wouldn't say I did any "work" making him a better person, but he did marry the girl after me........OUCH!
However, gotta love KARMA! The girl after me was having an affair while they were engaged.......... and he still married her!!!
Let it go...if he was meant to be your partner it would have happened.  | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:45:32 AM |
You date someone or live with them and the person marries the next person after you. You did all the work making someone a better person. Another person reaps the rewards.
Has someone ever jilted you??
stop making people your pet project and fixing men.
find your self a man that's already house broken.... | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:50:30 AM | | Alas, the illusion that you can change a person. The reality is that person got sick and tired of that one trying to change them, so they moved on. | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/4/2009 12:00:38 PM | You date someone or live with them and the person marries the next person after you. You did all the work making someone a better person. Stop dating projects and get serious about understanding who might be compatible with you.
Has someone ever jilted you?? It's happened to everyone. Join the club. Keep fishing.  Good luck.  | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/4/2009 12:07:09 PM |
I never hounded him... I put him up on a pedestal... He was my world....
PS. we never had a argument ever.
I've not checked your profile but I'm assuming by your picture you are very young....Something that I believe every woman 30 and over has come to realize..NEVER EVER put a man up on a pedestal! | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:55:25 PM | lol...I've just checked your profile! Damn you are looking so good for 39!  | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:21:06 AM | | I'm hardly so important or powerful to have made someone a better person. They just liked the next person much more than they did me. No harm, no foul, just life. | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:29:21 AM | Any time you feel that you had to "fix" someone, the relationship isn't going to work. "Fixing them" usually involves trying to make them someone they aren't. This usually makes them unhappy. They come away from this, sometimes, knowing more about what they want and what they need. This allows for the speedy location of it... provided that they have the right social circles.
I don't feel like I've ever been jilted. Even my long term relationship that ended with her seeing someone new before I'd even moved out NEEDED TO END. I'm happier now than I was in the relationship. | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:09:13 AM | Never get something that needs fixing unless you can show a return on the investment.
Join a charity and help people who deserve it.
I would say I certainly improved the financial and social status of one once, years ago and it went to his head. I left.
However, gotta love KARMA! The girl after me was having an affair while they were engaged.
LMAO gotta love it. | |
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| Jilted lover
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:07:18 AM | I never hounded him... I put him up on a pedestal... He was my world....
lolamac
no you never hounded him...just put him on a pedestal to sculpt him... to groom him... polish him..... until he shone like gold! then you rearranged his place till it became the palace of your dreams....
and when all this was done he came off the pedestal and looked at his world and said this is not who i am... and then he looked in the mirror, and said... this is not the man i know....and then he opened the door and put you out... saying .... i need someone to love the man i was. thank you!
lovers do not come in built as you will kits... they come fully assembled. should you find there is a need to polish them... groom then...train them 99% of the time... they are not for you.... the other 1% means you bought them at a pet store...
woff woff....  | |
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