| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:50:35 AM | It doesn't make me more cynical about dating in general, but definitely more cynical about dating people from here.
The population of this forum seems to primarily consist of people who are hellbent on blaming whichever gender they're attracted to for all of their personal problems. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/4/2009 2:25:12 PM | | lol, not really, because I am one of those ones just here for the forums and my internet life is far different from my real life, so honestly forum posts and threads I look at as a kind of fiction, if you get what I'm trying to explain. I know personally when I am doing forums most of the time I just be talking s*** and don't know what the hell I'm talking about, like now, so basically "in my world" everybody in forums are doing the same. So for the most part for me forums are entertaining. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/4/2009 3:44:17 PM | | It has made me much less cynical. I used to think my problem was within myself, some basic quality I had that invited women to find fault. Then I read the many and various threads about Red Flags and realized it is not me at all, it is a hobby women have, a pastime for venting noxious anger into the atmosphere that also serves to justify dating frustrations. In my mind I picture the old Soviet Union Red Square during a military parade with all the red flags waving. I used to think that my ideas about romance were exceptionally impractical and possibly out dated, making it nearly impossible to pitch woo and have it stick. Then I read a ponderous number of threads in which with religious zeal warring factions decimated each other verbally over who pays for coffee, and I realized the strange way in which underlying misconceptions manifest as trivial combat. I imagined the daggers glared at coffee shops, the angrily thrown coffees, the vehement stomping out at having never been so insulted in all his or her life. In all, I have found that for any possible self-doubt if I just look through anecdotes it turns out there is no basis. I am not the problem, at all. I never was. In fact, there is no real problem with dating other than the very simple fact that the woman for me is of a very rare type, and so it is my job to typecast her, right here on my casting couch, when the wind blows her in my front door. Hope lives and beware, for I am once again possessed by it, unstoppable in my mission of love. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:38:58 PM | No.
Cus I don't date the crazy or bitter people who post crazy and bitter comments.
and if you read the forums a lot you'll see some pretty sharp and sexy ladies
who make some pretty cool comments.
That should give you hope.
Not depress you.
We cannot change the human condition.
With 6 billion people that's too big a task.
But we can find and date a pretty cool human.
THAT however is doable. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:10:55 PM | No, it does not make me cynical or effect me in a negative fashion. I'm just baffled with some of the scenarios people post on here, and their choices. It makes one wonder "WTF were you thinking?!" lol
These forums are no different then any other I've been a member of. You put a group of people with different backgrounds/experiences, etc...it's inevitable that people are going to flame one another, but there are also those do provide us with a different perspective that does make us step back/rethink (much kudos to those).
I take the good, and overlook the bad.
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:12:05 PM | | I've found the forums to be quite enlightening as to the inner workings of the male mind. It really has been a lot of help to me just in every day life dealing with men. I never have viewed the relationship between men and women as adversarial, but I find that I can relate to men better having said insight. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/8/2009 10:52:28 AM | | Well, misery loves company as conventional wisdom notes. Online dating can be a bewildering experience and people are looking for advice. I just saw a documentary on dating websites and matchmakers. Now I understand better why my experience is frustrating. Out of 40 well designed and sincere emails sent I received 2 'hellos'. For many the experience is even less productive. Women here are jaded with choices. Can a woman who has 5000 favorites not make a decision and choose someone she thinks is a possible date, or partner or whatever?!.. There was a woman matchmaker on this documentary who is paid $50,00-$100,000 to match make. This woman's record of successful matches are close to 98% without a divorce and yet this woman has to push, prod, and force these women to sometimes to just even go out for a first date! Amazing, and here we are... | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/8/2009 10:58:39 AM | | K2k, if a woman has 5,000 favorites and you have none... you are reaching out of your league. There are women you are your equivalent in life and also have zero favorites. You choose to go after the much sought after... its your fault you don't get picked. Deal. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:25:43 AM |
Does reading these posts now affect the way that you approach new dates? Good or bad? In other words, do you think that it might be easier if you weren't exposed to the experience and attitudes of the other fishies.
I actually find a lot of the posters in these forums to be quite positive and supportive. Most of it is patronizing but not intentionally. Overall, I don't think viewing the forums has hindered my possibilities of connecting with someone. People either want to get to know you or they don't. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/8/2009 12:46:32 PM | Hey mtnwldflower!
This makes you want to move to Canada because of the US attitude? Or because of what the people up there look like?
Actually I enjoy reading how potential dates post here. I have found that the postings are a window to that person more than the simple profiles that I am used to reading. In short, I know that some people have completly different ideas about things that would be a deal breaker in a relationship. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/8/2009 12:56:17 PM | when i read some of the adventures of my peers, it helps me realize what an all-out freakin catch i am. 
in seriousness, though, one of the best things about the forums for me is reading the other men. there's aren't too many places in my life where a bunch of guys are willing to talk about their emotional lives and parse their relationship experiences. very illuminating. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/9/2009 7:24:25 PM | it's not the forums that makes me cynical....
it's my mail box !!
Just tonight.......naughty little message from a man.....
clicked on his profile......it's all about Church and having God in a relationship....
Ay yi yi!! It's easier being single than wading thru the nutcases! | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/9/2009 7:29:24 PM | | I started checking out the forums when I starting dating again after divorce. I found it nice to see issues being discussed I could relate to - having been out of the scene for a while. It's good to knwo you are not "alone" with your experiences and definitely has its entertainment value | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/10/2009 8:33:26 AM | Reading the forums has actually made me much LESS cynical about dating, but this reading has also made me much more cynical about on-line dating. In person dating is more relaxed and fun because I know her and I are in the same situation (this may sound obvious, but I'm young and the loudest women I've heard in my life have been man-haters). Without reading the forums I think I would have just become jaded and angry about on-line dating but after reading the forums I'm finding it's just lethargic and unattractive.
If it wasn't for my nervousness of striking up conversations with random attractive women wherever I may find them, I don't think I would be on here as much struggling to meet people. It's tough to dismiss on-line dating though because in theory it seems like such a great place to meet people who have common interests. | |
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| Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:58:32 PM | I think being in the forums has helped break some of my illusions yet has also helped me in weeding through the jungle of psychos! It’s amazing to see the emotionally damaged on rampage here!
So no, it hasn’t made me cynical at all, its given me many new tools! | |
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