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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:27:33 PM | | to be fair this site has toughen me up had more offers of sex then I had from my husband all our marrid life. decided all men over 50 just want a good time, | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:41:58 PM | | Well, thanks, majority of posts have been helpful and amusing, the others dont bother me coz Ive had a quick look at their profiles and seen how sad they are,and so can discount what they say. The guy who looks like a paedo can especially f**k off, but I expect hes used to that! | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:48:13 PM | View in general seems to be, crap for dating, but you can have a laugh on the forums. Having trawled through a few Im not so sure, think I can do better down the pub, same handful of faces who've been on here 3+ years posting badly worded crap to each other,aged teddy boys trying to captivate buck toothed brummi yetis, masking lack of anything meaningful to say by plastering the place with emoticons .....but, as ever, time will tell! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:48:59 PM | I think you should block the ratings thing, stick upa picture of yourself in a tuxedo and buy a large, cheap bottle of cider and down it in one go. Whatever you decide after that can only be described as 'fair game'.  keep fishin | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:21:30 PM | 1) are these sites bad for me?
Yes if:
1) You have unrealistic expectations
2) You compare yourself to those who are more successful
3) You are too sensitive
4) You lack strength of character
5) You do not understand and/or know your 'target market'.
2) Would I be better leaving the whole business
There is nothing wrong with taking a break if you are not getting the desired results.
3) and on line dating may be a bad move for me
You could be right if your OP is anything to go by!
4) Am I being cynical?
Very much so.
5) Is POF different
I doubt it and the answer to this question will vary depending on whom you ask! I think I must be on a different site to some, as I have no complaints, because:
1) I have a 'highish' response rate where messages are concerned
2) I have not met any loons or not in the negative sense anyway
3) I have had some fab meets/dates/intimate encounters/etc through POF
4) I have made new friends/acquaintances
5) I was not promised anything when I joined this site, nor did I have to pay.
6) or should I get out before I get any heartache?
Either that, or 'toughen' up a bit.
7) Please help!
I do not mean to be harsh, but I noticed a lot of finger pointing from your OP. Just a quick thought for you... is there a possibility that the problem lies within? The saying "If nothing changes, nothing changes" is screaming at me...
All the best with whatever you decide OP . | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:55:08 AM |
I probably take things to much to heart
I agree.
You put your profile up and you take your chances ..........its a bit like opening your door to strangers.........you never know whos gonna come knocking !! | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:41:23 AM | | yes but on here you have the choice to close the door quickly if you want, what annoys me most is when you chat for a while then they just go without a bloody word. hate that | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:16:37 AM | | came into this expecting to much but soon learnt how to play the game, talk to loads had more offers of sex then in my whole married life. but dont think I will ever meet the man I want to spend the rest of my life with on here | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:24:04 AM | Getting involved in the forums is a good thing, OP.
It helps you realise that your experience is the rule rather than the exception.
I think most of us have the same doubts and concerns when we first try internet dating, but people learn from it. We take varying amounts of time, but most of us learn not to let our self esteem be so vulnerable to a bunch of strangers. Try not to think of it as something you do to find your girl, but a place to talk to other people also looking for their girl/guy. | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:20:47 AM |
Getting involved in the forums is a good thing, OP.
Not so advisable if you are going to be personal and abusive about the posters, you drew attention to yourself by asking a question as to if you should stay or go, reverting to childish name calling and sniping about people who responded is uncalled for.
You think the dating is tough, wait until you get your a$$ kicked about the forum. | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:42:43 AM |
...same handful of faces who've been on here 3+ years posting badly worded crap to each other,aged teddy boys trying to captivate buck toothed brummi yetis, masking lack of anything meaningful to say by plastering the place with emoticons .....but, as ever, time will tell!
3+ years? How would a 'newbie' suss that?
DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS? | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:59:35 AM | | Post writer I have heard about so many men who have had the confidence they had left completely destroyed by dating sites. The problem is theres too many men compared to women, and women just pick the nicest looking ones and all the average ones are ignored like they are even uglier than the elephant man. I would say dating sites for men are only any good if you look like some Hollywood superstar. If not then just forget it or use the site to just find friends or something. I wouldn't really worry as most people on the internet lie so you're not missing out on anything. As someone else said, you're best just going to night clubs or something. | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:10:17 PM | Kieran, put the following words in the right order;
talk. ass. of. out. you. your.
I'm so fed up with being told women on here only go for filmstar looks guys. It is just not true.
Women tend to go for guys who are not negative in their profiles, nor post pity threads or posts stating all women go for are good looks.
Women go for men who are confident in themselves, and any men posting pity threads and posts or have negative profiles are obviously not, therefore women are not attracted to such guys. Looks have nothing to do with them.
In fact, most men who are deemed to be handsome by description I have found lacking in depth and I was soon bored. | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:40:45 PM |
In fact, most men who are deemed to be handsome by description I have found lacking in depth and I was soon bored.
Likewise, my experience has been similar with women. They can be as gorgeous as anything, but if the personality is lacking then the measure of their physical soon fades.
On Topic: OP, as soon as you realise that this whole dating nonsense shouldn't be taken very seriously, you'll be much happier around these parts. Hoping to find someone on POF is like pinning your financial stability on winning the lottery. The chances of it working out are uber slim. Still, keep on truckin' and best of luck to you mate | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:45:49 PM | What you fail to see though Hanneke you're older than me, and as you know when people are younger it's looks that matter the most, it's sad but it's reality and we can't hide from the fact. That's what I was meaning. Hardly anyone reads a profile, they just look at the pictures, so in that light, it tells me that looks are most important when it comes too dating sites. What else do you expect? No ones personality can truly shine through on a computer screen, there's not body language involved (which accounts for 90% of communication), nothing, apart from how a person looks, and this is most likely what someone would contact another person for. Even POF says that you're most likely to be contacted if you have a good picture up, I can only surmise a good picture meaning good looking? Which ever way you look at it the facts are there, if you're looking for personality and it's important to you, then you need to look in the real world and not use a computer for a date, that's what am trying to say.
Edit: Sorry Hanneke I thought you where a lot older til I looked at your profile, them small pictures can look a lot different once you see them bigger, sorry :o( | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:13:21 PM |
take the bag of rubbish off the back of your door , put your loo seat down
Brilliant....and so right.
There was athread about "background" of people's photos somewhere on the forums...
And you're also rude...
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/9/2009 9:31:44 AM |
Edit: Sorry Hanneke I thought you where a lot older til I looked at your profile, them small pictures can look a lot different once you see them bigger, sorry :o(
Kieran, apology duly accepted! | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/9/2009 2:55:01 PM | | Having read your profile...you have nothing to worry about. I suggest those women that haven't left a message...probably a lucky escape!!! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:30:16 PM |
Kieran, put the following words in the right order;
talk. ass. of. out. you. your.
I'm so fed up with being told women on here only go for filmstar looks guys. It is just not true.
Hanneke your posts often crack me up. Think you're wasting your breath (ink? pixels?) tho. | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:31:00 PM | I've wasted more time than I care too reading this thread so will be brief, you get what you put in and the more positive and proactive you are the higher your chances. Think about who and what you want and what criteria you have then look for those that meet your requirements and sell yourself, if it doesn't work don't beat yourself up internet dating may just not be for you and try something else, this should be an extension of the real world not a replacement and most certainly not hold your hopes and dreams.
The guy who looks like a paedo can especially f**k off, but I expect hes used to that!
There is never an excuse for retorts like that and you wonder what provokes a seemingly intelligent man to respond like that? | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/17/2009 12:53:20 AM | In your profile you state
I am an optimistic, cheerful person. I enjoy life and all it offers
So that would include all the people you describe as paedos, teddy boys, sad etc I presume?
After reading your posts in the forums I would say your profile is a whole load of BS, perhaps you need to either change your profile to be the truth or stop showing your true colours in the forums as they don't show the same person.
As for is it bad for you to be on here, from alot of what you've said about yourself and seeing as you had to work so hard to be self confident I would leave now before you have to start working so hard at that again. | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/17/2009 10:12:48 AM | stick with it
Otherwise how will you find what your looking for | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/17/2009 10:21:43 AM |
After reading your posts in the forums I would say your profile is a whole load of BS, perhaps you need to either change your profile to be the truth or stop showing your true colours in the forums as they don't show the same person.
I must admit I didn't read the profile but the pic looked like what you would expect from reading what he wrote.. sounds like a plonker and looks fairly similar also  | |
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| Time wasting?
Posted: 11/17/2009 10:37:18 AM | View in general seems to be, crap for dating, but you can have a laugh on the forums. Having trawled through a few Im not so sure, think I can do better down the pub, same handful of faces who've been on here 3+ years posting badly worded crap to each other,aged teddy boys trying to captivate buck toothed brummi yetis, masking lack of anything meaningful to say by plastering the place with emoticons .....but, as ever, time will tell!
Did you say badly worded crap!
Your profile is just one long sprawl, that's so poorly laid out, it's beyond belief that you actually think you "will one day be a published writer" - who will then make writing his "career"!
Stick to the day job mate! And as for your chances on here - especially with your attitude - give up now!
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