| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:28:39 AM | I want the amend my advice ~ it is now go on the web cam before you give your number out to anyone, it saves a lot of text tennis, but it may rob your mates of much amusement  | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:02:16 PM | Hunni,
it sounds a bit like you're feeling sort of rejected, like you did something to put the guy off. I think you did, but don't feel rejected, feel smug that you were smart enough to get him to reveal his colours so early in the game!
I'm quite quick to hand out my number, but that situation would have had my spidey senses tingling too, well done lass! | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:13:06 PM | | Anyone can have my home phone number straight away because I'd rather have a conversation than a game of email tennis, but I never give my mobile number to anyone I haven't met because I can't bear texting. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:53:57 AM | Hunni i think you did the right thing, i don't give my number out unless i feel comfortable with someone, certainly not after a handful of messages.
Only once did i give my number out very quickly, never again! | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:08:15 AM | | I have no qualms about giving out my phone number! Though there's been times when I've regretted it, for the most part it's never been a problem. However, I much prefer MSN rather than emails and possibly before picking the phone up. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:26:55 AM | To the OP:
Personally I loose interest if they don't give out their number after a few days.
If a guy asks for your number it doesn't automatically mean he's a player, he might just want to talk to you to check you're not a freak.
The best and only defence against players is to not have sex. Even if they move on, at least you've had a free night out.
Another point worth noting is replying to multiple messages from different people can become very time consuming, especially for us men, who aren't known for multitasking. The nature of this site means we are very rarely in talks with only 1 person at a time.
Think of the messaging phase as the equivalent to the initial mingling one does at a social gathering, so one must assume it may be rushed sometimes. However, it was wrong of the guy to give you an ultimatum, so soon into the conversation.
I hope this makes sense
Good luck! | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:27:02 AM | | jjx i think it depends on what mobile you have, i used to be able to block people on my Samsung, now i have an iphone and cant see how to do it on there, you can call your network and they can advise you. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:31:26 AM |
Also, don't keep going on about the fella, if he's on this site - would you like it?
Donkey, she never SAID it was you!!! Now you've let the cat out of the bag!!! 
Hunni, you did the right thing!  | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:28:59 PM |
Playing devils advocate...........
How would you have communicated pre-internet days ?
Ermmmmmm - we did not send our number in snail mail envelopes to random strangers from Yellow Pages 
OT - I personally do not give my number to anyone that I have not met in person. Only after I meet someone I give (or not) my number.
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:27:40 PM |
OT - I personally do not give my number to anyone that I have not met in person. Only after I meet someone I give (or not) my number.
So, Londongirl, how do you meet up? I mean, don't you have any way of letting them know or vice versa if you can't make it? I think I'd do the opposite, I wouldn't dream of meeting someone in the flesh I didn't trust with my phone number.
Playing devils advocate...........
How would you have communicated pre-internet days ?
I was talking to a mate about this, the other day, and how before we even had house phones never mind mobiles, how did people sort it out? I guess they dated locally, people they knew and they knocked on each other's doors and the girl's dad 'vetted' the guy. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:30:47 PM | | yup same thing happened to me - I said I don't use msn these days as people I add from this site tend to be sex pests. He said I know what you mean I only add people I trust. We had not even had a conversation beyond hello!!!!!!! | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:03:10 AM | msg 39 - arrange date/place/time to meet and turn up..... simple
Recently I gave my phone number to somoene who I was going to meet - long story short we did not meet...Thnat was just a one off though. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:23:53 AM | Control freak by the sound of it, you best off without it........................
The right time is when you feel comfortable | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:26:50 AM | jjx11 on 11/6/2009 4 48 PM
Subject: How soon do you give your number out?
Message: How do you block someone from phoning you then...?
You tell BT and they arrest the little minx after four unwanted calls, they can get up to two years in prison for being a pain in the a*se. BT have been known to take away their right to a phone line too  that slows them up | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:30:18 AM | Hunni, I think you did the right thing there.
I do tend to give my number out after a few days and have a good feeling about someone, as I prefer texting someone then chatting to them. I don't have a computer at home, so it is also more convenient.
And if I am not interested in them anymore, I just tell them so. Must say, bar one prank pervert call on 1st April I have never had any problems with persistent texters/callers. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:21:28 PM | I remember giving my home number to a woman who requested it when I was new to this type of dating. So, to show I was who I was, I duly gave my home number over to her (I thought she wanted my home number to prove to herself that I didn't have a wife hidden away). But I thought it wouldn't be a problem as I was single at the time.
Big mistake. She wasn't a serious stalker but she WAS a pain in the posterior, ringing me up at all hours sometimes 5 times a day. Turns out she was just desperate and lonely and her constant calls were not welcome as I was a shift worker. In the end I told her that I had started a relationship with someone and that was the only thing that put her off. I decided not to threaten her with the authorities as she wasn't exactly bunny boiler material.
Taught me a lesson though, to be more selective as to who gets my number. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:44:19 PM | As with all things with dating, it'll vary from person to person.
You can't judge those who ask for numbers early as being players, as players come in all forms (men & women).
For all you know, that maybe that person's preferred method of meeting ppl, and it may have worked in the past.
The fact it hasn't worked with you shouldn't be used to judge him as a player or "only after one thing".
He asked for your number, you refused - no big deal. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:48:34 PM | not very often
I recently messaged my number to a forum user and member who I had been messaging on here for a while, we almost met but didnt ,due to swineflu/bubonic/rabies impications , but at least we were able to inform each other without going on line.
However, a few weeks later we finally managed to meet up.
matty.
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:34:48 PM | I am careful who I give my number too as well , but can also block them so therefore not too worried.
but dont believe your giving out your number to the wrong person can be harmless...it is until the girlfriend finds it in their phone and you have to get the police to warn her to stop harrassing you haha
oh yes my fellow fish ive been there and it was someone off this site who is no longer here
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:55:57 PM | OP - What you did was right for you but I don't see what he did to make you feel so bad. All he said was OK bye.
I've met someone after a mail saying 'Hi I'd like to meet you' and another containing his phone number. Had the best date I ever had off PoF even though things didn't work out long term. Not something I do often, and not something everyone wants to do, but that doesn't make it BAD.
He may not be going about things in a way that you like, but that's just a different approach. If you feel uncomfortable it's your privilege to say no thank you. He was a bit abrupt, it's true, but his major mistake was picking the wrong profile. There are lots of women that WILL give out their phone number and chat, and maybe meet up on the strength of a phone conversation.
I think you're making yourself feel bad by assuming that he was judging you, but it seems to me you're the one judging him. To me his 'OK Bye' was a sign that he was someone that wouldn't be right for you, no worse than if he'd ignored an email you sent after he initiated the contact. | |
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