| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:30:29 AM | GTFO!
Now we're IDed to date ? hahahaha 
I'd laugh my azz off if she asked for my ID.....
Makes me wonder what kinds of weird phuckers you've been dating to get you that phucked up .... so that now you feel the need to ask for IDs.... Yikes! .... | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:01:31 AM |
so my question is, what are some reasonable ways to verify that people are who they say they are, and what aren't? and on a side note, what lengths have people you've dated gone to to check you out?
This is gonna make me sound like an extreme 'parnoidnus moronus' but:
- If you have a person's phone # you can do a check thru that. Some #'s are pubicly listed some are not.
- If you have a person's full or first and last names there are lots of seach engines other than google which can give you info. There are state/federal sites that hold records of such. Most are pubicly accessible if you know how to find it.
Oddly enough, having said so, only about 3 out of the dozen or so guys I met from online have ever revealed their FULL name to me. I never felt the need to ask. A lot of times just plain ol common sense can help you determine to a certain degree how honest a person is. .... Not saying I rule out not ever gooling a person, but perhaps if somehow my gut was telling me someting doesn't seem right, I would not hesitate to either. In the same token, if a date/potential romatic interest felt that he needed to google me, by all means -- everyone needs to learn how to take responsibility for their own safety. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:11:39 AM | LOL at yarimelma. i'm with you, sir. an honesty test?? WTF is that?!? i'd never ask anybody for ID.
and i think i'd feel more than a little insulted to get the third degree from some schmuck i'm meeting for coffee. excuse me, who the hell do you think you are, j. edgar hoover? it's a coffee date, moron! and personally, i really don't like to go straight into meeting somebody for the 1st time assuming the very worst about them right from the start... that's just some weird shit.. really bad form. and hey, if i'm going to assume something like that, then why would i agree to meet them in the first place?!? hello?
if you’re that afraid of people, stay home. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:16:47 AM | i look up EVERYONE that is interested in a date w/me, due to the fact that once i just happened to google a guy that was interested in me on here, and his name was all OVER THE INTERNET, for meeting a 12 yr old girl from craigslist for sex. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:57:35 AM |
i ask for id at the first meeeting after dating back to back liars. cover up your adress, thats what i do.
To what end? The only thing a woman knows when we first meet is my first name and what I like to do in my spare time.
So what would that be for? Make sure my first name is John? | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:01:13 AM | I don't so much worry about checking out how honest someone is on a first date... I figure if it goes much further THEN there's time for background checks (I have sources). As for someone wanting to know if i'm real... well i'll tell ya if you were to google me (i've done myself, my friends and family out of boredome)... You will come up with 27 of me across the US. I am one of the guys they made the movie Blackhawk Down about, i'm a school teacher in North Carolina and a grad student in Michigan. All amusing alter-ego's I suppose, but none are me, lol. The only things you will find out about the real me thru google are that i'm a mom (duh) and i've had poetry published (high school). Very exciting. And if you were to do a background check on me, you'd find out i'm divorced, have 2 kids (again, duh) and i've had one ticket EVER. Man, I sound boring!
My theory is this.... Whether you meet someone online, in the real world, thru friends, ... everyone can lie to you. It's just a matter of finding it out in a timely fashion. After some of the crap i've dealt with over the last few years i'm a lot more cautious and protective of my kids. So if someone is going to get all bent out of shape about a background check before meeting my kids or getting serious, that's a huge red flag to me. I wouldn't be offended to have the same done of me. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:08:58 AM | I'll show her mine if she'll show me hers!
I've only provided mine once, and it was an entirely reasonable circumstance. I went on a week-long trip as a first date with a woman from overseas, and we'd never met before though we'd communicated extensively for many months. I gave her local friends a copy of my license. BTW, the date was awesome, and our second date was in her country and lasted 3 weeks. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:22:07 AM | | I checked one's driver license last year. We communicated on the phone over one month. Even if I didn't feel he was a perfect match, I really liked to communicate with him whom told everything so nice. He told me he was four years older and 5'9". I thought our ages perfectly matched. Then we decided to meet. When I met him, he looked older like my dad and was almost shorter than I was because I wore high heels. I was shocked and had nothing to say. I didn't want to hurt him because I had some kind of sentiment for him from our communications. However, I clear knew I would be ashamed of walking beside him so I must draw me back to my own position first. While talking with him for a while, I had a chance to ask his driver license. He showed me his driver license and told me it was fake. I said nothing with my smiles until we said good-bye. Although he lied about his age and height, I never felt he was a bad guy. He was trying to find a nice one through his lying, he didn't know lying wouldn't work for him. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:28:06 AM | Checking a man's driver licence doesn't guarantee a woman's safety, it is better for her not to tell him where she live,where she work,her financial status etc..... Until she knows the man very well..
By talking to man you can learned his intentions by focusing and listening to him,,,,, I've met few guys on dating website, they want sex or money and they are VERY GOOD on con-ning and manipulation, they even have me check the website of their business, that they are big timer. Their calling card is " they love me so much and we will travel around the world". The cliches~~ how can they love me , when they don't even know me , we just met.... Talk about Goldiggers,,,,,, because I am wearing a bling blings and golds they assumed I am a Gold Mine.lol...
What I do is replay all our converstions in my mind 3 times of what he said what I said. And learned from there.. Personally I don't want to check a man's driver licence that is classless, unless I work as store cashier and he is paying me with a check then I have to see his driver licence, and write his id # on his check... | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:53:13 PM | If there's complete anonymity on the internet-- no one knows you, no one can vouch for you, you have no accountability-- should people suspend their disbelief and assume whatever you say is the truth?
If you won't go for showing your ID, what other options are agreeable to you? | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:53:26 PM | From the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about dating jailbait, but moving right along... 
If a date asked me to see my driver's license my response would depend on whether I found her physically attractive or not. Since my preferences tend to be for slender and petite women, if she fit the bill I wouldn't really care since she wouldn't really pose much of a physical threat to me unless she's exceptionally well-trained, at which point a fight to the death could be fun (and hot!) 
But in all seriousness, I can't see myself proceeding with the date because that kind of paranoid attitude means our personalities aren't going to jive - I'm too laid back to jump through those kind of hoops. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:59:05 PM | What is it that you actually want verified. I just don't understand - especially on a first date.
Give us a break girls. How would you react if a guy you didn't know asked for your ID on the first date. How many first dates get to a second date. This doesn't make sense.
Why don't you then asked him to email you his drivers liscence info so you can do your backround check before meeting him.
Puleeese | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:22:53 PM |
Why don't you then asked thim to email you his drive driver licence info so you can do your background check before meeting him. Puleeese
I would rather he email me his anatomy certificate, so I can run the checking on that....Oooh,did I say THat !!!! Ohhh, I am evil^^^^^^^^^^^ | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:39:30 PM | Given the ID theft today I would not want to show an ID. However, I'm fairly well known in my community with an uncommon last name and a bunch of newspaper articles published about me (community stuff, not anything like DUI). Someone could have their dog do a google search and find out as much as they want about me.
Another thought would be to show your CCW permit if you have one. The laugh there is that most people looking for ID would probably freak when they saw it but the irony is that you have been thoroughly checked out by law enforcement. It's easy to make the mistake in PA as the two cards look very similar.... | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:41:15 PM | i think thats pretty shameful people would demand to see your ID to date you.
I like to be honest to others cause it puts my mind at ease...if she cant see i am sincere than it's time to go.
Requiring ID checks is just a failure of character....if u cant catch a liar its your fault....try thinking and questioning next time | |
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