| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:35:13 PM | I had been talking to this one guy off another site and we were planning on meeting up until my friend "googled"him. I never even thought of googling someone until after the info she found doing this search. She came back and sent me an email that included a link telling me that she thought I should read it before making my decision to meet with him.
Apparently this guy was going to court for manslaughter in a few months down the road for drunk driving that killed a teenage girl. I was in SHOCK.
I even remembered hearing about that on the news the year prior.....
He'd mentioned to me that he was going through 'something' but didn't want to talk with me about it just yet, saying that only him mom knew and that perhaps once we met and got to know each other better he would tell me and I could see why after reading that!!
I never did meet him, the info wasn't absorbing in my system but ever since that experience I do google people I talk to.....
And upon doing so..............
I met another guy 'off this site' who when I googled him found that his son was arrested in another province for manslaughter as well. Like wtf????
It was a terrible story, his son was driving recklessly with his GF in the vehicle when he lost control hitting a tree or pole killing her instantly.
Anyways never met him either LOL.....
I don't like that kind of drama in my life. But I absolutely find "google" to be a great tool in possibly learning about someone's deep dark secrets that they keep locked up and with good reason but I am happy when I find the keys!!!  | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:38:31 PM | People like these have serious issues, beyond control and trust.
Just to meet a new person for coffee or a drink.
It is not even a real date!!!
After a few "REAL DATES" with mutual interest, then it might serve a purpose other than paranoia. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:55:51 PM | This post is making me laugh because I realize how much I have changed in the time I've been here.
I've gone from trying to be careful by googling one of the first people I met...to being friends with someone for over a year and not knowing his last name! Does it count that I finally know it because I saw it on his license...his FISHING LICENSE!   | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:58:05 PM |
I'd say anyone who would ask to see a driver's license in a dating situation is a total nutjob. I would say "No" and get up and leave.
Before check that one's driver license, I really wished he could go away and leave me alone like what you would do. He had done the nut job first! | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:14:52 AM | If she says "Show me your driver's license so I'll know you're a legitimate man."
Then I'll say "Okay, then show me your breasts so I'll know you're a legitimate woman."
Okay, so I'll drink my coffee alone, she obviously wasn't a legitimate woman. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:26:30 AM | scottdehart:
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You darned HAVE a wicked sense of humor and I
 YOU.
Well, I think I like this Driving licence and Breast checking, so we women can flaunt our man made breast cost $15,000.00 with out being labeled show off.... | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:33:10 AM |
Well, I think I like this Driving licence and Breast checking, so we women can flaunt our man made breast cost $15,000.00 with out being labeled show off....
whipping it out (the license, that is) is now officially a part of every first date for me. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:45:27 AM |
If she says "Show me your driver's license so I'll know you're a legitimate man."
Then I'll say "Okay, then show me your breasts so I'll know you're a legitimate woman."
Okay, so I'll drink my coffee alone, she obviously wasn't a legitimate woman.
Haha...I like that!
My line is, "Sorry, I never show my license until at LEAST the third date." | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:52:44 AM | This has never happened to me, but I probably have been searched through some search engine.
I once had a guy ask me for my last name, and that made me suspicious. Especially since that was my first time talking to him on the phone. It actually made me feel uncomfortable, and I didn't appreciate that one bit.
I say the best way to get to know someone just to see if they are truly who they say they are, is to ask questions, but without interrogation.
Try asking the tricky question, but take caution while doing so. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:54:17 AM |
I met another guy 'off this site' who when I googled him found that his son was arrested in another province for manslaughter as well. Like wtf????
It was a terrible story, his son was driving recklessly with his GF in the vehicle when he lost control hitting a tree or pole killing her instantly.
Anyways never met him either LOL.....
So because of something his son did you never gave the guy the chance? Wow that is messed up. BTW I love the women who think you can just goggle somebodys name and find everything about them good luck on people with common names, go ahead you can google me all you want you will probably come up with about 59 pages worth of crap. BTW I dont believe your stories | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:23:28 AM | you people are mad. I assume this is an american thread? Because of the insane security conscious nature of asking someone for id!
I've been on several dates from here and if a girl ever asks me for id, i would be so offended i'd leave. Surely if you feel the need to see someone it means you like them, which inevitably involves investing a little trust in that person.
'i'm having such a lovely time tonight, i'm really glad we met. You seem like such a lovely person, on the subject of people got any id? ' as if | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:36:59 AM | I am totally agreeing with the GTFO.
If a date asked to see my drivers license, I would flatly refuse and end the date right there. If a date told me she did a background check on me, I would end things right there. I have nothing to hide but that is just ridiculous and I want nothing to do with a person who feels these are necessary steps in their dating process. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:08:24 AM | I would NEVER allow someone to run a "background" check on me. I view it simply as this. IF they're stupid enough to make BAD decisions on people they meet for "dates" then it's their fault. There is NEVER a reason to run a "background" check on anyone you're dating. I don't care HOW you've been burned. I am sure alot of you will say "what are you hiding"? Nothing, that's what. The very tone and insiunation that someone is "hiding" something when they refuse to disclose personal information for some schmuck to do a "background" check due to societal paranoia, is beyond description. I would never ask to do such a thing on someone i'm "dating".
If a woman ever DID ask me to allow her to do that, I would have a few words of reproach and that would end any possibility. Allowing someone you do NOT know to get your personal information, and justify it for "safety" is stupid at best. Someone would have to give me a valid reason do want to do such a thing. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:18:47 AM |
you people are mad. I assume this is an american thread? Because of the insane security conscious nature of asking someone for id!
rich willson, don't understimate the mentality of people, there is no such thing as checking a DL on dating ( a party of one on one) , it is just a joke, but we'll never know that some people will check your DL for what ever their intention is, ~ they maybe identity thefts,we'll never know,it is better to be cautious all the time, some people have a photographic memory on numbers.
In some incident I showed my my DL twice to 2 guys ( date) because they don't believe me of my age... and a guy showed me his DL it has something to do with some class of vehicle he was driving. Those are innocent incident..
Thanks David, /////from now on I will not show my DL to any dater I don't care if they don't believe me of my age.. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:53:58 PM |
If there's complete anonymity on the internet-- no one knows you, no one can vouch for you, you have no accountability-- should people suspend their disbelief and assume whatever you say is the truth?
If you won't go for showing your ID, what other options are agreeable to you?
Until I decide I want to know someone better, I'm going with complete anonymity on both sides. First or middle name only. If both parties decide to proceed, then more disclosure is needed. But a first date in a public place? There is absolutely no reason to show ID. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:58:10 PM | | I once had a guy who was really into computers try to use his hacks to lookup anything and everything about me on the internet. Weirdo. That didn't last. He kept emailing me too and wouldn't get that I was totally creeped out by that. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:11:12 PM |
However, I clear knew I would be ashamed of walking beside him so I must draw me back to my own position first
Wow this says a lot about a person and was badly written by a person with a phd who claims to do a lot of writing. See why you are single. | |
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