| Situation, a little strange I know
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:15:41 PM | Inside I bet you're wanting your fwb (who, by the way, is probably not a "great friend"...once sex gets into the mix, things are twisted) to admit he has feelings for you and tell you that's why he is not okay with you and John. It's wishful thinking, because you have those feelings for him (demonstrated by being upset by the other girl) which develop naturally (more for women than men) when you have sex with someone. Bonding hormones. Anyhow, try to keep perspective - he may be jealous but it's not an indication that he cares about your feelings or wants to be with you in a more romantic way. He just didn't want to lose the sex with you. He's being posessive in a prideful way, not in a romantic feelings way. He isn't affectionate with you and you saw him be affectionate with some other girl. He is not going to suddenly profess feelings for you. It would be best if you forgot about him AND John and found someone else for a fwb. The situation is starting to get toxic for you. It can be so much better than this. And at 21, you can have an actual boyfriend who would be smart enough to not be flaunting another girl in front of you, and still not get that serious, because you are young.
The fact that he would even "loan" you out to his cousin is a very bad sign. Get these people out of your life. | |
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| Situation, a little strange I know
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:59:09 PM | you were only friends with benefits... yes he may be a little jealous that you've made a connection with his cousin but it was his idea to introduce you to him in the first place!! it seems his being a little selfish by making you feel guilty about it... a good friend usually doesnt do this..
i say.. he had his chance!! dont hide it.. let him deal with it.. he'll get over it in time when he see's how happy you two are together | |
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| Situation, a little strange I know
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:16:04 PM | | The friend has his chance with you, boot him off. Keep the cousin. However, if this creates problems for both then let the cousin go and go find yourself someone new without the drama LOL | |
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| Situation, a little strange I know
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:23:02 PM | | I don't understand having sex with someone without having an emotional connection between each other. Isn't that what dogs do? Just wondering..... | |
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| Situation, a little strange I know
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:26:58 PM | op
since you are leaving for africa anyway, this will all go away. do what you want. not what your former fwb wants or the new guy. you have choices.
also, what works for you works for you. ignore all of the posters on here that try to psychoanalyze you, or project their personal attitudes toward you.
good luck in africa,
kaylee | |
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Joined: 10/9/2009
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| Situation, a little strange I know
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:30:06 PM | | i'm thinking 3some action about to come on. You don't want to hurt your friend that called you over on thanksgiving for his cousin to smash on? He had a girl over and he was hooking up his cousin. Have some respect, if John sincerely likes you and you like him go out. Your friend treated you like garbage that he through on the sidewalk for his cousin. | |
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| Situation, a little strange I know
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:53:01 PM | | Not strange wuman. Beyond comprehension. Shag 'im or bag 'im. I'd be happy I got introduced to a new fishy. (winkie winkie) | |
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