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| IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN?
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:02:28 AM | [how shallow of you.
I'd love to strike one in your heart, possibly a bullet.
Charming aren't we, when he said a woman he did not say a jumped up kid he meant a woman. | |
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MIJen
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| IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN?
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:17:33 AM | "lump noodle" answers on a post card please????????? what is that anyone?????
it's simple woman don't or won't pursue a man, not this side of the water, your side yes seen it happen and heck is great and about time. This side no but we are always backward and behind your guys by 20 or so years. Heck I only seen the term here recently "booty call" friend was telling me all about it 15yrs ago from there. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 3:33:52 AM | Sounds like I need to be on your side of the water.
I think American males are much too difficult and American women much too free and easy here. We have trained American men that they can treat us badly and pick up the phone call us and get us to run to them and do whatever kinky thing they can dream up.
I find males in other parts of the civilized world to be much nicer and more considerate to women in general. That's a broad generalization of course and there are some great men I've met in America but none around me unfortunately. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 3:47:32 AM | | If a woman is hot she can do anything and still get a man. Truth most women can do just about what ever they want and get a man but it may not be the man they want, and that is the crux of the whole thing. The main reason women don't chase after men is because they are afraid of rejection, this whole thing about men not liking aggressive women is just a way for women to blame the guy if he isn't interested. It's not that he just isn't into you, it's that he is afraid of aggresive women. Could you imagine if men decided that the reason women turn them down is because we tried to initiate a relationship and seemed easy, so all men just stopped asking women out? I guess one of the biggest differences between men and women is that we are mature enough to know that if a woman says no it is because she doesn't want to go out with us, not because of some stupid rule about looking too easy. Girls if a guy doesn't like you it is because you just don't do it for him, it has nothing to do with how easy you seem. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 4:53:39 AM | This is why there is still traction out there for the old notion that not everyone should be taught to read.
Take the book away from her, chop it up, pour lighter fluid on it, then burn it. Wait for several dogs to come and urinate or poop on the ashes, then dig a hole, and put it all in there. Explain to her that this is the CORRECT way to deal with all such dating advice books. | |
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| IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:10:13 AM |
We are human beings with the same vulnerabilities and insecurities women have. (That's right - I said it - we are just as insecure as you are when it comes to the chase)
Men and women are different. We all know that. Game playing is unappealing, no matter who is doing it. Sheesh, life is short. Go for it!
I find informational books on how to replace a faucet or an electrical outlet really helpful. Books that tell me how to act or live life, no so helpful. The best teacher is experience and not through someone's distorted point of view, to sell books and make money. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:44:57 AM | Whenwillthis work26.....i realize your observations are based on a women's point of veiw but free,easy women who are only a phone call away is not the experience of alot of American men.I have the bad habit of being attracted to attractive women,and for the most part they are anything but free and easy,and alot of them are sexually inhibited,unresponsive and anything but kinky...thinking that their looks,like always,is enough.
The bad treatment you speak of most often comes from alot of women's bad habit of being attracted to machismo...some guy comes swaggering in like Clint Eastwood or John Wayne and they get all a flutter...this same man treats them badly and they take it because he's so...."confident" The real expression of confidence comes from a quiet respectful, due unto others kind of attitude...not some macho,loud mouth blowhard.
The fact is both men and women are responsable for the state of affairs between men and women in America today. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:47:13 AM | | Whatever, I make my own rules. If I like the guy then I am going in for the kill. We are in a new generation. A man should be flattered if a woman asks him out. If he isn't then he needs to get a life. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:54:44 AM | | The truth in that is that there is no point in pursuit. If you want a man and you say so, and he wants you, you got him. He won't run away for you to chase after him. That means the only possible situation where you would pursue is one in which the man doesn't want you. But with women, because they will run away even if they want the man, he needs to run after her anyway, so she can catch him. The difference is from how women get turned on being wanted. Your time being wanted is very short if you allow the distance to be closed right then. To keep the wanting going the distance is maintained. He takes a step toward her, she steps away, so he has the room to take another step toward her. She likes having him step toward her. If a woman takes a step toward a man and he likes her, he stands firm and she is done wanting instantly because by then he has her. Pursuit is about being wanted. Men prefer starting right in, while women prefer to prolong the prelude because it's the part they like best. In a relationship they will also create distances for the man to come chasing after them again, if he has been close too long and shows no signs of desire like he would in pursuit. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 6:04:29 AM | Anything done to excess is not good.
Too much pursuit came come off as being needy or clingy.
Pursuit is not as important as showing interest.
I have met a few women from this site (and others) where I was interested in continuing to see them and find out if a relationship was possible. In ALL (of my) cases the dating stopped because I was ALWAYS the one making the contact. I'm not even talking about proposing a date, but simply picking up the phone to say hello. I would even leave messages, but would not get return calls. When I would call the conversations were fine and we could arrange dates with no problems.
I don't know if it was a game or not, but my interpretation as that they were not interested in me. After about 3 dates I would lose interest. Simply answering my phone calls and saying yes to going out does not leave me with the feeling that they are interested in me. I was very interested in dating these ladies, but at no point got the feeling that it was mutual. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 6:47:52 AM | I just sneak upon em when they are least expecting it.... BAM.... hit em up side the head, and then drag them off to my woman cave. Much easier, and less work.
JUST TEASING! 
IMO: You can pursue without being overtly obvious or too aggressive. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 6:55:42 AM | OP-
You are, by all indicators, a man. What do YOU think?
Personal preferences cannot be dictated by anybody else.
There is no accounting for taste.
Bravo to those who buy such books...at least they are doing their part to
stimulate the economy.
What remains unclear is how their social life is enhanced by them.
I am a believer of the nothing ventured, nothing gained school of thought.
I am strong enough to accept no response, no thanks without being crushed. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 6:57:36 AM |
I just sneak upon em when they are least expecting it.... BAM.... hit em up side the head, and then drag them off to my woman cave. Much easier, and less work.
Hey, I'm ready for that cave. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 6:57:49 AM | Honestly...this stuff drives me nuts. Why can't we just be who we are and do what we want? And why do women say - oh my what if he doesn't like me, I may feel rejected and foolish...good lord!!! So that's ok for men but God forbid you may take that chance? And - is your ego so fragile it wouldn't withstand a polite "no thanks"?
Beam me up Scotty - there's no intelligent life here. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 7:09:50 AM | | if a female has any kind of sex appeal...she is being pursued plenty...if you want her but you drop the ball..sorry, your tough luck...gee, but it is so hard having to call and all that....well, that's the way it goes...the lady has a gaggle of guys...who are brave enough to call...so go to the back of the line.... | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 7:26:55 AM |
if a female has any kind of sex appeal...she is being pursued plenty.
pursued by men who want nothing but SEX, men with raging hard ons, hit & runners .....
But decent men... Decent men have a line of women waiting too.... It's a matter of supply & demand...
Hot women dime a dozen, but decent men..... well good luck... | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 7:28:59 AM | What year was the book published ~ 1950?
Don't confuse assertive with agressive ~ big difference. I'm optimistic and an opportunist .. if I see /want something, I'll work towards it or outright pursue it. If style or tendancy intimidates or is unattractive..... OK.  | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 7:37:20 AM | You don't have to pursue the man. You just need to show him that you are interested in him. I'm not saying to call him first, maybe send him a text msg with a hint of interest or concern. If he doesn't call you after that, then I wouldn't pursue anymore.
I come from the old-fashioned world of men do the chasing and the women decide if they want to get caught. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 7:39:41 AM | I am waiting for Motto Bella's phone call....
Still waiting
I think she is playing hard to get.
I won't call her though, I don't want her to know I am madly in love with her.
taps his fingers.
hums
OT
Do whatever floats your boat. I think women are missing out if they refuse to make first contact. Times have changed. Us men don't have to pursue the same way anymore. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 7:41:11 AM | It's true, a woman should NOT pursue a man. After all, she might catch him, then what? GASP! She might have to be in a relationship! OMG...shudders! She might have to show some emotion, or or maybe, Heavon forbid, affection!
Nope, no, nada, nyet....women should never pursue a man. | |
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