| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:26:50 AM |
I'm sure one of your girls in the past had a genuine passion for you but you played them.... I'm guessing you were also playing behind their backs because of the inevitable ending you played out in your mind.
Now, karma has returned in the form of a red head with blue eyes.
It looks good on you.
You just may be right sir... I don't deny that. No one is perfect. | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:39:12 AM | I agree with peppermint petunias. She's playing you. She's a serious, worse than most, game-player. Next time she contacts you (and leave that to her - don't contact her first because she's feeding off your attraction to her), let her know that you're onto the game and it is unacceptable. period.
You are obviously as very nice & respectable young man who deserves better. Ya never know, she may turn out to be just fine, but the story you told doesn't sound good. | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:40:54 PM | | what i learned in my life, some females are enigmas. what i mean by that is they like to keep the mystery and the riddles going, and most importantly keep things unsaid, these are the girls who like to torture certain people, i know I am head over heels for one right now, well i can't tell you what she's thinking, but start having "other" girls come over and see what happens with this "enigma". | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:50:03 PM | | Scc533 maybe when you shared you wanted to go slow you answered the issue she wanted to talk about. Either she wanted to move faster or she is glad you want to move slower. Email or phone her and ask. ~Beth~ | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:58:43 PM | The games are killing me, I will admit to being a fairly emotional guy, and the past week has been rough... It is the romantic interests being let down that sucks but over the year of liking this girl we just happened to become fairly good friends also. What sucks right now is not only the idea that I am being played with by a romantic interest but that someone who I considered a friend is also rejecting me.
Scc533,
My gut is telling me that this must be one really hot looking girl for you to put up with all this BS from her.... or at the very least, she has a sexy way about her.
My take is that she is either a serious game player (and by extension, a really good actor as she has you fooled into thinking she's sincere) OR she has some serious hangups.
Either way my suggestion is to pull back and let her come to you.
It might also be a good idea to let her see you with other girls to drill home the message that she isn't your only option. | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:38:42 PM | if you WANT IT ...take the lead.. if you get shotdown ,you cant say you didnt try. Most redheads are tenacious (actually most women are) & lovvve tenacity in MEN ..maybe it is gameplaying or maybeshe's waiting for you to show your hand first (?) good luck. youre a taurus..show her the BULL | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:43:18 AM | If she had something to tell you, it was important enough for her to set a date and time to tell you instead of just saying it then and there. The fact she encouraged you to go first was probably to get a sense of what you were thinking and feeling. The fact she didn't say what she had planned was probably insecurity or anxiety, or maybe after you said what you did, it was no longer important or necessary - or appropriate. There are a variety of reasons - only she knows which it is. If she won't tell you what she intended to say, ask her why she won't and that'll help you understand it a little better.
It's possible she has been hurt before and feels intimidated when it comes to dating. I never dated a soul till I was in my late 20's because of various reasons - although nothing traumatic happened to me, it was just the way things went. So, who knows, she may be anxious about the whole courtship idea.
And you didn't 'miss the ball' on anything. Not going beyond kissing and kissing through the movie was just right. Not rushing someone into a sexual activity - especially when a virgin and inexperienced in dating is a good way to handle things. She probably just needs time to sort out her anxieties or reservations and time to feel safe with you. There are many levels of safety one needs to experience first in order to progress in a relationship, and maybe she isn't feeling too confident or emotionally safe with men in relationships considering how things ended in her previous relationships. Sometimes people are afraid the past will repeat itself..... Sometimes people are afraid that it's them or their fault that the relationships ended and start believing something is wrong with them or they're not lovable, etc...
I would suggest speaking to her about these issues. Ask her open-ended questions that have her reveal something about her emotional state/beliefs or values. If you're that taken by her, there's obviously something there you can't walk away from. If you're that taken by her, you probably would want the opportunity to truly explore it further before letting it go or giving up on it.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:20:02 PM | Try something. Go Super Aggressive with her once. Get too close to her as you are standing. When you hold her, do it strongly (not to hurt her), and be physical - as in brush against her strongly. Do not say please, just do and expect, and see what happens. She sounds like she likes aggressiveness and demanding - and is turned off by mushy and lovey stuff.
If she does an about-face, know that this is how she is, and who she likes. Then you have a decision to make. | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:17:19 PM | It sounds to me that she jumps in and out of relationships when someone starts to express feelings, she sounds like someone in it as an unemotional player(a cold fish). The only way you are going to get to know this women is to be indiffernt to her, keep your distance, but that will accomplish what? Making yourself more like her? Maybe the next time dont bring up your own stuff but let her say what she had on her mind.
I dont see this going anywhere, if someone cant express themselves with you, you might as well watch sports at the sportsbar and start looking for someone that is capable of giving as well as recieving. | |
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| She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:34:50 PM | | She is 19 and dating a few guys. I think you are expecting too much maturity out of her. Move on, date other people. | |
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