| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:04:10 AM | scd - msg 25
Communication is somewhat difficult sometimes. Mi espanol is poco poco...
Other than language issues we get along.
If you want intellectual discussions, there are plenty of female posters on this board who would engage you along those lines. And you already have a gf who takes care of your other needs. Seems like an ideal arrangement. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:58:35 AM | not sure why you are even asking this question. for me, a lot of what happens under sheets, stems from what happens between the ears and as a result of a deep "connection". if you study the chakras, there is a lower energy sexual connection and one that courses through your entire being. the latter comes not just from a mechanical release, but from the heart, communication, similar purpose or shared knowledge of something more profound. it's like comparing mc donald's to an exquisite french restaurant.
i've managed to find ways to communicate with people from other countries. often what pours out first is from the "heart". could i live with, or give of my entire being to, someone with limited mutual understanding of our everyday words over a longer period of time? it would be difficult for me and over time, draining. however, the limited interactions i have had, such as with my japanese and iraqi host students, have been worth the effort--just not as intimate partners!
i'm not good at picking up languages. given what i know from experiencing people who do speak my language, for me, it would probably not happen. often i experience, a deep physical attraction to someone just walking by. a lot has to do with my current state of singledom (my friend calls this "skin hunger"). however, once the banter starts, if there is not much between us, it sizzles quickly. on the other hand, sometimes i can communicate with someone, but the sizzle just isn't there. dam-n.... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:12:26 AM | | Speaking just for myself, there HAS to be more than just sexual compatibility for me to be in a relationship. That is just one of many components that make up a healthy, satisfying relationship. If our personalities, senses of humor, intelligence, morals, goals and aspirations are compatible, then there is, excuse the pun, nothing to talk about. For me, it is just as important, if not more so, to be intellectually and emotionally compatible than sexually compatible. I want all or nothing. You can help your partner be a better lover but you cannot change who that person is, intrinsically. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:42:46 PM |
What happens when you`re sexually compatible with someone but share no commonality otherwise?
I don't think it'll happen! I don't understand why you ask the idiot question. Does any couple here first sleep together then know each other? | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:38:10 PM | Ugh..... SCD you do have an active imagination, don't you? Either that or you're one very tired guy jumping from bed to bed (or car, floor, wherever it is that you have all this sex).
Easy answer for me; if there is no common ground, there's no sex. If there's not a intellectual connection, then it's no go for anything else.
Move on to the next in line at your stable......I can't wait to hear about the next *situation*. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:59:42 AM | | My friend going out on date's is to find someone that you are compatible with. If you're not, thank them for the evening. By the way a relationship is whatever is agreed upon between the parties. If sex is the relationship then that's the relationship. If you're looking for a long term monogamous relationship then state that up front and only date people who are looking for that. Anyone who can't understand if you tell them that you don't think the two of you are compatible after the date, that's on them. However if you sleep with someone that you know is not compatible with you , knowing that they believed that you were. Then you're dishonest, and you deserve what you get. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:33:02 PM | | Never happened to me...it usually happens with men who dont have much of a personality...and...the women...is entertained by how heigh he will jump when she says so.....it would be like a women screaming during sex...and the man being foolish enough to not know...she is doing it for sheer theatrics..and wanting the sex to finally end....out of sheer boredom.....but thinking he is actually pleasing her...Ha..ha... Ahh..yeah...i read that somewhere....silly situations...for silly men... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:55:17 PM | God Bless...do you sit home and think up this crap....just to have a conversation...because you come of as a man who has no clue about anything adult related...your asking silly questions....that....a 14 year old can answer....and comprehend without guidance from anyone.... Your not getting any are ya..?...and it's ok...nothing to be ashamed of.... You sir...would be an ideal match for that... Hayleylee girl.... Ideal...your both squirrely...you can ask each other silly questions all day long... Yup...she's the one for you.... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:44:01 PM |
Comon now aaamm he did say in his first sentence it was "strictly hypothetical", oh now i'm shaking my head, never mind his response in msg 25 blew that white lie up or wait is the msg 25 a lie, crap.
You are absolutely right Kim.
This thread is a load of BS.
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:49:11 PM | | I need more not that the compatibility would be good, but what happens when people mature and are no longer as perky? I want to be able to have a active and interested conversation at the breakfast table over a cup of coffee with someone who finds me interesting, Sex is a limited time frame which I will not put a number on cause I am smarter than that, but what about the other 23 hours? | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:50:17 PM |
What happens when you`re sexually compatible with someone but share no commonality otherwise?
I tried to make him be more productive and ambitious, shaping him to be what I wanted in a BF.. unfortunately video games and not wanting to work was too strong of a force to be reckoned with...
Still fun though.. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:29:06 PM | Every now and then kiddo I think you just might "get it" then you go and say something like:
"This person is orignally from another country where the language barrier sometimes is an issue."
So you think she is good enough to have sex with, but not good enough to make the effort to really get to know? I'd say this is part of the reason you are lonely. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:33:57 PM | Oh come on. Sounds like you are boosting your sexual exploits. One of the Gentlemen made a comment that he is looking for the whole package. Intellect Mental and Chemistry. Are you looking to find permission to dump her or are you looking for us to approve of you finding another woman with more character while F ing this one cause she allows it? This is why I don't want to find a man on this site because there are so many fish in the sea, men, like you, can do these things. Shame on you for boasting about your shallow exploits. And what a stupid woman to give herself to you so easily. Linda from Long Island  | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/15/2009 11:09:25 PM | | I guess it just depends on what you want and what you are satisfied with. If you want something more, then you have to get out. I dated a guy for 18 months like that. The sex was fantastic, but we had nothing in common. I questioned myself a lot about this and since it was only sex I wanted I continued to see him lol. But then things got a bit out of hand about 16 months down the track, and he didn't treat me very well outside of the sex, so I had to ask myself the question if it was worth it. The answer was no, so I broke it off after 18 months. He tried to come back to me several times after that, but I even refused to meet him for a drink. I told him I was worth more than that and if he couldnt respect me outside of sex, and even keep a decent friendly conversation and accept me as a friend, then I had nothing to do with him. I have never regretted it yet. | |
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