| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:10:07 PM | So what OP? He gave so many weirdo/socially inept clues that you should've left first! As soon has he called you in the car and was like..."Durr....what if we aren't attracted to each other?" Isn't that the point of dating? I honestly would've turned my car around and went home no more words being exchanged.
Is he the last guy who will ever contact you? Hope you learned a valuable lesson OP, go with the gut, if there is a weirdo vibe... don't go on a date with them. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:12:14 PM |
He pursued me. He emailed me & called me.
And then he met you, lost interest in pursuing you, and went home... none of which is creepy.
Really, as "bad date" stories go, this is a remarkably mundane non-event. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:23:50 PM | Yeah, I was warned. I've been on many 1st dates, this guy was the rudest. I don't know what he showed up for either.
I don't know what YOU showed up for. Just the prospect of being treated that way would be enough to keep me from going.
If I were in his shoes, I'd at least see the "date" as making a new friend. I'm not the type to say "If you're not going to be my partner, I don't want anything to do with you."
I think this guy has a HUGE personality issue. I'm fairly sure he's incapable of any real relationship...romantic, friendly, family, or otherwise, and is just looking for hormonal satisfaction, and when you don't meet his expectations, he drops you like a hot potato. He doesn't respect people as individuals...he only sees them as objects. Don't be surprised if a few years from now you see a news story about this guy and the 25 corpses he has buried in his basement. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:28:36 PM | I don't know what YOU showed up for. Just the prospect of being treated that way would be enough to keep me from going. I'd at least see the "date" as making a new friend. I'm not the type to say "If you're not going to be my partner, I don't want anything to do with you."
I think this guy has a HUGE personality issue. I'm fairly sure he's incapable of any real relationship...romantic, friendly, family, or otherwise, and is just looking for hormonal satisfaction, and when you don't meet his expectations, he drops you like a hot potato. He doesn't respect people as individuals...he only sees them as objects. Don't be surprised if a few years from now you see a news story about this guy and the 25 corpses he has buried in his basement.
Wow, you managed to do a complete psychological workup of someone you've never met - or even spoken to - based on a single person's one-sided account of a bad date with them? Really?
Pretty impressive! | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:32:26 PM |
Wow, you managed to do a complete psychological workup of someone based on a single person's one-sided account of a bad date? Really?
No...just a cursory profile. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:32:53 PM | Wazhis wrote:
I don't see how this guy was a creep or a jerk, just the opposite. I think he was too nice to tell you he was not interested & gave you hints that you did not take. Hint, you drive the 40 miles, because I am not interested. Hint, I leave if not interested. Hint, one hour late. Hint, nervous, asked if you wanted to go in. He gave you several hints that you just didn't get. I think you put him in a bad situation & he just didn't know what to do. Sorry but if a guy isn't willing to meet you half way, then he really isn't that interested in you. Also, why on earth would you wait an hour, especially if he lives in the vicinity. The poor guy was probably sitting in his car hoping you would just leave. Sorry, but I think you may have pursued him & put him in a bad spot. Sounds like he was a nice guy & just didn't know what to do.
Oh my, Wazhiz is slick...this may be. :( If it's the case, it's too bad he beat around the bush and wasn't more...direct and upfront? | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:35:57 PM | he's a creep because he wasn't interested in OP... but that's okkkkeeey. Op wasn't interested in him either... but drove for 40 minutes anyway...
 | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:37:18 PM | (Really, as "bad date" stories go, this is a remarkably mundane non-event.)
I agree w/you there, out of time. There are much worse "bad date" stories out there. It was rude, that's all I'm saying. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:37:31 PM | Ok, I know we all need to vent our frustrations at times OP ..... So you had a bad date ....*Uff Da!* ...
Where is the moment we needed the most
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
They tell me your blue skies fade to gray
They tell me your passion's gone away
And I don't need no carryin' on
You stand in the line just to hit a new low
You're faking a smile with the coffee you go
You tell me your life's been way off line
You're falling to pieces every time
And I don't need no carryin' on
Because you had a bad date
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad date
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad date
You had a bad date ...
 | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:45:17 PM | he's a creep because he wasn't interested in OP... but that's okkkkeeey. Op wasn't interested in him either... but drove for 40 minutes anyway...
People have an innate 6th sense about other people. We all have it, but some are more tuned-in than others.
In addition to that, she used the word "creepy," not a word an observer might have used like "jerk," "a$$hole," etc. The word has the connotation of something just not being right about someone, and perhaps in a way that might be dangerous. It's probably not a word she would have used if she didn't feel that way about him somewhere in the back of her mind.
_______________________________________________________________
She has ;
Although I was warned, I still think he's a jerk.
I meant for the original post.
One CAN be a jerk and a creep at the same time.....I am :P | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:50:46 PM |
she used the word "creepy," not a word an observer might have used like "jerk," "a$$hole," etc.
She has ;
Although I was warned, I still think he's a jerk.
previous page....
It's bruised ego...nothing else. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:58:25 PM | Uff Da! |3lueseas, knew you were a Minnesootan.  Good song! | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:03:44 PM | Bad*Monkey, he wasn't a creep because he didn't like her... he was a creep because he had no social skills. Um, doh. And she has a bad picker. So the blame is shared between them.
But I don't expect you to recognize proper social skills given that you lack them... | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:36:54 PM | ^^^Heh. You read my mind Tuffluv.  | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:37:21 PM |
He pursued me. He emailed me & called me
Maybe so, and yet, you are the one that drove out of your way to meet.
You are the one resorting to name calling,
You are the one that made a thread about it, instead of learning and moving on.
When I first posted in this thread, I figured ok the OP is miffed because the guy was rude, no biggie. Now I come back to the thread, the OP has escalated to name calling, etc...
OP I am sorry you have to take some responsiblity here also. You did chose to meet him after he may have been rude he was honest. He may not have had the social skills you expected and yet again you chose to not only engage in email exchange, you had phone calls with this man. You are the one that chose a dinner date, and drove 40 minutes for it. It didnt' turn out to your liking and, then you chose to come out here and talk about calling him several names
. This is sounding like you got rejected and it stung IMO, Strange I didn't have this feeling in the morning now in the afternoon it appears blatent to me. IMHO | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:47:19 PM | | Move on and jst think 'NEXT!'. Life is too short to dwell on things like this. Put it in perspective and say to ursef 'did anyone die?' No, thenn thats it. Good luck tho wiv watever ur looking for. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:47:20 PM |
Bad*Monkey, he wasn't a creep because he didn't like her... he was a creep because he had no social skills. Um, doh. And she has a bad picker. So the blame is shared between them.
But I don't expect you to recognize proper social skills given that you lack them...
| |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:05:13 PM | | What the heck? Okey dokey. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:45:20 PM | | you know you should have gone with gut feelings, our intuition is the strongest thing we have and i dont think we actually rely on it enough. I had a similiar experience, except i had been chatting to a guy who was about 10 years my junior, he had seen pics of me and he pursued me.. anyway i was going out to pub with friends one night adn he wanted to come along and have a drink.. i tried to put him as was going to be meeting friends, anyway we met we were chatting, seemed to be getting along okay.. i was friendly even though he wasnt really my type.. but think even if you make a new friend that it has been successful, anyway he went to the toilet, and never came back!! now i thought that was pretty low.. at least have the decency to say anything... didnt bother me too much... just had a bit of a laugh over it.. felt like texting him and asking if he fell in!!! | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:53:46 PM |
But I don't expect you to recognize proper social skills given that you lack them...
You're flame baiting WOMAN! Go fetch me a beer... | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:55:33 PM | The guy sounds nervous as hell......shoulda took a big hit of whiskey from a flask before he went in the restaurant.
Sounds like extreme social anxiety. | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:57:47 PM |
he went to the toilet, and never came back!! now i thought that was pretty low
what a great story. you were offended to be ditched by a guy you didn't want around anyway. how dare he not think you were all that! | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:41:36 PM | | a lot of guys i have met tell of meeting women and ditching them quick or even lambasting them for not looking like their picture....i try to stay and talk to the man no matter what...but sometimes manners are not appreciated...i have had a few men accuse me of not really liking them and leaving abruptly..even though i am trying to be polite...i have also had guys accuse me being a working girl just because i was being nice to them..men are just rude, uncouth little beasts by nature... | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:52:52 PM | fairyviewroad, I am sorry of your experienced.
perhaps the man has no money to treat you,that is why he felt ackward ..
And he never meet so many people, that is why he has no manners..
I 've met a few barbarians on emails never pursue to see them in person...
I hope that the next person is a decent one ....
Who knows, perhaps the guy was intimated because fairy viewroad was so damned good looking with great personality not like some scarecrow with heavy make up on, who knows it all ,.. heheheheh | |
|
| Creepy
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:37:38 PM | First mistake...never drive such a distance for the first date...
Even half way is better.
No one should do something that makes them feel uncomfortable and it seems to me like he was being honest.
I guess thats why it's called dating...you have to go threw a few weeds to find the flower.
Better luck next time. | |
|
Home
login 
