| Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:47:01 PM | This is such a stupid catch 22... you log on to see he's on and bust him - by being logged on. You knew your intentions as to why you logged on... maybe his intentions were just as he said - logged in to chat to friends. My middle name is Pandora - there's no inbox I won't open even if only out of curiosity... and if "you've got mail" pings - I answer... but I know what I'm up to and trust that my "friend" trusts me - so if I say I'm having some mindless entertainment and not up to no good - trust me!
OP Sounds more like you rejected him to avoid what you perceived would be the rejecting of you... I think you got spooked and ran... Sabotage is safe. | |
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| Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:37:04 AM | | Hmmmm.... well a month is still "early days"..... and you expecting him to commit to you after a month is pretty fast for any guy I think. Maybe he just wants to be sure you are the one, or keep his options open. Seems you expect him to just give up everything for you after only one month..... not fair. You are still on here.... why? If you both had agreed to commit, then you should agree you are not looking any further and take both of yourselves off this sites.... | |
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| Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:55:24 AM | Don't be too serious about on line dating and guys from here. 99.99% of the guys are here just to get laid. Don't raise your expectation from what you've heard. Words are just words. You could only trust consistency in his actions. Just let him do whatever he wants and live your life.
I thought every one on here 100% boys and girls want to get laid. That is the whole point.
OP Good that you both sent your seperate ways. just knowing some one for a month then haveing them want to move in with you. Not Good | |
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| Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:14:14 AM | | I just posted along the same lines in Waiting for the other shoe to drop. If a man keeps himself on the open market after meeting you and "making plans", it is my opionion that we should dump them because (1) they must have very low self esteem and need females to bolster it by approaching them (2) they still have reservations about us (3) they are too lazy and thinking if I get out of all these dating websites, it will be a pain in hte azz when I have to join all of them again. | |
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| Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:22:12 AM | Perhaps you're feeling crappy because you know (conscience) the knee jerk reaction was unjustified. Was it easier (more comfortable) for you to assume the worse? Why attack his creditability? Who died and left you the righteous torch?
Given the frequent talk time.. one would presume a mature and reasonable CHOICE.. allowing him to respond to your perceived opinion or observation.
I'll also add..
A month isn't enough time to make demands of anyone let alone an on-line acquaintance. He, like you.. are entitled to personal space and privacy without a hovering hawk in the shadows. Quite unattractive and perhaps an issue of control (don't know).
Take responsibility by acknowledging your bad behavior... after you apologize.
Or not. | |
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| Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/10/2009 9:03:31 AM |
Of course when I told him it hurt my feelings he was on here ...he just said well its just e-mails now hurry up and figure out a way to get a job up here??? I took that as a sign of exclusivity....my bad
I see that as a sign of poor communication in both parts. Each assuming something, yet not willing to concede something else. But I do have to tell you something very creepy. Him wanting you to move with him only after one month, is creepy. Perhaps you too had physical chemistry, but that alone a relationship does not make. | |
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| Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/10/2009 9:09:14 AM | | If he claims to love only you, but dates other women, he is a liar,and should be dumped. If he says he likes being with you, but also enjoys being with others, he is not as ready to settle down,and be exclusive, as you are. Can you stay around, in hopes he will change soon, or should you forget him, and find someone who will be exclusive? That is something YOU have to decide. Once you decide-no matter how you do-there will be some 'buyers remorse', or 'sellers remorse' which makes you fear you decided wrong. You chose door number two, but now wonder about what may have been behind door number three, The feelings will pass. Ignore them,and move on. | |
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