| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 2:59:39 AM | | Nah, i don't think men's lives are complete without a woman, but i do think many can feel let down and disappointed with the whole relationships/dating game and decide to divert their energy and attention elsewhere. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:11:06 AM | | yep , thats exactly it after 4 years being single , thats exactly what i am doing or have done the last 2 years divert my energy to something more constructive | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:40:42 AM | For lots of us it's not that we need a woman in our lives, but would like one.
Most of us have mastered ironing and washing and cooking and cleaning - and men who went away to college or were in the forces will be able to fend for themselves. The only things I am totally crap at is pastry and sewing. On the latter I can usually get a girlie friend to do it - because if they want curtain poles putting up or their car sorted I'll help them.
So I don't see any difference between the guys who have their own places and a circle of friends and the women who have their own places and a circle of friends. Once the kids leave home males and females are in the same situation - and even before that it's similar if men are sharing child care.
For every man who has a full lifestyle there's a woman in the same situation - it's how entrenched in those lifestyles they are that's maybe the issue. If he has to go to the pub with his mates every friday and must go fishing every Saturday and she always meets the girls Friday night and gets angry if there are oily fingerprints on the kitchen taps or if he wants to watch football - it's going to be a problem. Some of us try to be more flexible. So it's down to meeting Mr or Ms 'Right'..... when 'Ms Right' comes out from wherever she's hiding. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:45:45 AM |
For lots of us it's not that we need a woman in our lives, but would like one. Seems like the same point can be made about women not needing a man to complete their lives. For me, it is not that a man is needed to complete my life, but that I would like to have a partner to enrich my life. I would not be interested in a man who is only looking for someone to have a casual, distant relationship with, someone for mainly sex. I want someone to share life with and to develop a close and intimate, lasting relationship. If that doesn't happen, I will continue to go it alone. It is not a matter of needing. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:03:54 AM | Its been really interesting reading peoples views on this subject because I was begining to think it was only me who saw it this way. It seems its more prevelant in the 45+ age group which surprise surprise is the age group that I am interested in!
I regard myself as a pretty good catch...single, own home, own car, kids pretty much grown up, no ex hassle, plenty of time to spare, loveing, careing, fun loveing AND still very sexuel but still no bugga wants me they would rather have "fun" doh!
before i think of possibly settling down
I would like to know when you think that might possibly be? Because as time passes and the years roll on the few available women will become even fewer. Hence even less for you to choose from. Hobbies, mates, work are not substitutes for a loving partner. I for one do not cherish the thought of growing old alone and cooking meals for one forever more. Maybe guys should look forward a little more towards the future instead of back at past disappointments.
Of course anyone man or woman can exist without the other but personally my life is much more enjoyable when there is someone of the opposite sex to share it all with. Now all I gotta do is convince them I am worth giveing just a little bit up for !
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:20:26 AM | been single 5 years and miss the man/woman time,
as for having no kids around......i would give everything to have them with me, women aren't the only people miss their kids!
our own place..........try sitting in your own place on your own for a month! then see if your life is so wonderful.
freedom to do as we please.......freedom to do what exactly?
complete.......no | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:21:54 AM |
can you ladies blame me, and guys like me, for not always wanting to jump into relationships like the ones i have stereotyped here?
So every 'chick' has 2 or 3 kids, no money and an alcoholic ex? Wow, I must have misplaced mine.
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:30:09 AM |
I would like to know when you think that might possibly be? Because as time passes and the years roll on the few available women will become even fewer.
Lets hope so......
Actually Hunni, you reminded me of something.......And what i say is by no means set in stone as exactly what has happened to leave you feeling like this. But i do know of at least one case and i'm sure there are many more....
I have a Female friend, very appealing on the eye, and she currently resides between the age of 45 and 47 (never reveal a Ladies age)
In her 30's she wasnt interested in Men, she had children to raise and she preferred to do this alone........She had tons of offers over the years. And never took any Man up on it...
Yet now, she would love a relationship, her children are grown and she's wanting some Man love.....
Yet she finds all the local single Men have gotten so used to the single life, they wouldnt have it any other way and definitely are not interested in anything more than casual sex.....
So maybe you could try looking at the younger model? Early 30's perhaps? Before they get too set in their ways..... | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 10:39:16 AM | I think there may be something in what you say Op,
I'm not sure what the reasons are. I suspect there'll be as many different answers to what people are looking for, as there are people.
Asking the question of people on a dating site is obviously going to skew the response.
All the men posting are members of a dating site. All are here looking for something that's 'missing' from their lives, and again their expectations/want/needs will vary across the whole spectrum, and I suspect that's true of the women here too.
The one thing we all have in common is we're members of a dating site, and that tells you something.
But I'm not sure what......
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 10:58:14 AM | | Depends i guess, i find living alone ok, i dont need a woman to look after me, it would just be nice to have a partner to enjoy life with. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:13:35 AM | In response to message 31
I in some way know were you are coming from as I have only 1 son who is 15 who pretty much does his own thing I have no ex in the background for obvious reasons haha
maybe in the cemetary hehe
But, I do seem to meet guys who live miles away have very young children and although I accept that, whilst they are so young its hard for them to start a new relationship of anything worthwhile, as in time factor, which isnt their fault and not much they can do to be honest
they work all week , see kids at the weekend or friends have their hobbies too ie gym or whatever it maybe.
I do however have a question which not sure if it should be another thread or if its been done before .
why do men in particualar assume that every woman who has a child, expects a man to come in and play dad ??? I have never really understood that as my relationship with my son is seperate from a relationship I have otherwise. he is my respinsibilty no one elses , I did meet someone and he was great more a friend to my son than a play dad if you get were I am coming from
I wonder if that is because of my situation ??? as my son is quite itteligent for his age he had to be and even though his dad is gone he has no issues with me meeting someone else , in fact I think he would be made up to be honest , as long as they were ok and not a fly by night .
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:58:57 PM | As I have never had a relationship I cannot answer as to weather a man's life is complete with or without a woman.
This means that I have developed over the years a life that is complete with friends and hobbies, however I would hope that should I ever be fortunate in forming a relationship I would find what time is necessary for it to stand a chance of working I would also hope that such hobbies as we both should have we should at least take an interest in if not participate if possible.
So I would say if he douse not make time for you drop him a move on to someone who appreciates you and is worthy of you. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:32:20 PM | well when you have children its not always that easy to make time especially if they are young and I wouldnt want that , I ended a relationship because of it kids come first always, so its very difficult and I get that totally.
I am not that selfish to demand time thats not available as it were...
so I think men do need women in their life but just find it difficult in any particualar situation.
were as most women who are divorced or single or whatever status live with thekids and cant wait to get away haha ;)
I am not needy either there is a difference between want and need defitnley ;) | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:44:12 PM | | I don't 'need' a woman to live a happy, contented life, I'd 'like' a woman to share my life with me but if I live the rest of my days without a significant other, so be it. I am not needy. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/9/2009 7:38:23 AM | I thought that everyone were more or less at the same place when you hit 30+.
Male or female you are going to be more settled, own home, social life, friends, hobbies, life!
Aren't you? | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/9/2009 11:13:21 AM |
I thought that everyone were more or less at the same place when you hit 30+.
Male or female you are going to be more settled, own home, social life, friends, hobbies, life!
Aren't you?
I wish I was…time to start again! | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/9/2009 11:25:42 AM | | I do think we all need someone in our lifes at some point in time, living alone makes you think that yes you dont need someone and maybe their scared to admit that they do need us. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/19/2009 12:57:06 PM | | hi summer ,quick note there are a lot of men here who are single parents also ,think the men you refer too have no one but themselves to look after with that they can be as selfish as they like ,more often than not at the expense of their own children ,they would rather have their bachelor pad than pay to take care of their kids ,guess theirs a moral in that the type of person like that will always be selfish in a relationship after all if they desert their own flesh and blood there future partner will be easy to dump if it inconveniances him. think most people need to feel that unique bond people in a close relationship feel | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/19/2009 2:24:44 PM | To say you NEED to be with someone to say that your complete, certainly doesn't sound correct .........well it might if your the kinda person who can't cope with every day life on your own.
When your single you make a life of your own and get on with it .
Some people like myself are happy being single .( which alot of people don't seem to understand what so ever .......happy being single ??? Yes!! )
I think that too many people presume that everyone NEEDS and HAS to with someone ( thats mainly down to peer persure from friends who are in couples e.t.c ) | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/20/2009 2:13:53 AM | definitely time for me to start a new relationship - ive been thinking about bagging an x box for ages and now single it seems like the perfect time to start a wonderful relationship with one.
Back to point. No definitive answer. Guys vary but so do women and im not sure with some people that they ever feel their life is complete whether it is to do with a partner or to do with work or other reasons. On the other side Im sure there are plenty of guys and women who want to settle and plenty who dont and plenty who arn't planning either way but will see what comes their way. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/22/2009 3:24:44 PM | | It's not about NEEDING a man/woman in our lives its about WANTING one and I feel that as time goes by it gets harder to let someone in to what is for many of us a full life as it is. I would make and find the time for the right person. Do I feel complete.....I miss intimacy and romance and company but not the domestic side of things. I am sure there must be a happy medium somewhere though. | |
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/22/2009 3:58:09 PM | i personaly don't need anyone, my life does not revolve around having a person there, and i am just as happy being single, difference is i would choose to be with someone, with is by far much healthier than needing someone. theirs a differing degree of urgency there
so no... mens lives can be quite complete without a woman. one could also argue the reverse, are womans lives complete without a man??
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| Are mens lives complete with out a woman?
Posted: 11/22/2009 5:03:48 PM | | yeah. women are lame fags 99% of the time. when they're not being lame fags they're usually busy being total tards. the weird thing is they seem to think they can inflict their lame faggotry on men. sometimes they actually get away with it and turn a man into a lame fag who can't stay out all night drinking and picking up whores because the lame fag at home will scowl at him for the next 5 months or just ****in moan for years on end. that's why women are lame fags. | |
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