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Serenity Sam

Joined: 4/24/2008
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Why do people think its acceptable to tell you its not your fault? Posted: 11/7/2009 10:38:00 PM
Tough call. Why do you want to gravel for someone who gives no reason to end a relationship without first discussing problems. I have had similar times this occur. No advanced warnings, no conversations, just one day she decides she doesnt want a relationship, and runs down a mental checklist why. If I knew she had a check list, I would of wrote down some stuff shes not up to snuff on, lol. Why do people do it, heck if I know, I always thought before things go out of control like this, communications when an incident happens is the time to discuss it, not just end up and quit. But that is exactly why this sort of relationship isnt a good one, and there is no reason to find out why because the other person just isnt right for you, no reason to find out if you cant ask yourself and answer that question? Can I have done anything different that actually could of made a difference that doesnt go outside ones comfort zone? I did find my answer with the help of a suggestion and I was told I need a new picker. Yes I wasent picking the right person. She was right, not only was I not picking the right person, it turned out i didnt pick at all, they always came and picked me. Hows that for being lazy and not getting what one wants. Next one will be for me.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008
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Why do people think its acceptable to tell you its not your fault? Posted: 11/7/2009 10:48:54 PM
Unless I plan on changing myself, what's the point? He didn't like my hair color or style, I snore, I can't make homemade chicken soup, I suck in bed, I used my teeth, what??? I'm going to keep being me, so his reason for not liking me or us together is going to do nothing but maybe make someone insecure about themselves. What he hates some other man will love, I can only be myself, I don't need a list of why someone not right for me sees wrong with me.

~The Rock Man~

Joined: 4/23/2009
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Why do people think its acceptable to tell you its not your fault? Posted: 11/7/2009 11:01:48 PM
So why don't we just tell the other person were they went wrong? i found myself in this situation and i would much prefered to have been told what i did or did'nt do so i ca learn from my past relationships!! So can you please tell me your views on this please? People do not have to do anything wrong for there not to be a connection. What can possibly be learned from my dislikes that will help you with the next guy anyways? He's going to be a completely different person then I am, so how's it going to help? That's why I only worry about being myself. If it doesn't work out so be it. I do not need to know what someone else's opinion of me is, especially if they are not interested in me any longer. The only judgement or opinion of me or my life that matters at all is my own! Try it some time. It's freedom for the soul!

*motown*cowgirl*

Joined: 7/17/2008
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Why do people think its acceptable to tell you its not your fault? Posted: 11/8/2009 2:45:31 AM
maybe it's not that you did anything wrong, but that everything just wasn't right. haven't you ever broken up with somebody? imagine all the incredible ways it would NOT work... to have to give an "explanation". you don't need an indictment from your ex to learn something from the relationship. you only need the ability and willingness to question your own reality. it's called intellectual honesty, introspection, and self-inquiry... try it sometime!

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