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| | Yeah, we should all be concerned........Page 19 of 21 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21) | | I don't care how big or small the lie or in which direction.....I won't be with a LIAR. Communication and trust are the most important things in a relationship....if you can't communicate honestly you can't have trust. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2010 6:42:04 PM | ^^^^^^^So when your significant other asks you if this outfit make me look fat make sure you tell her the truth every time.... I am sure she will appreciate it. Just make sure your medical insurance is paid up ahead of time and you have a good lawyer | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 7/10/2010 7:10:30 PM | | It's sweating the small stuff. Does not mean generally that lies about your age..necessarily makes one a person not to trust. So if someone lies about being a couple of years older....wow...he/she lied, it becomes a big deal. But if someone lies and ther are a couple of years younger, that lie is OK ? I call a couple of years difference a little white lie.... Like ladies or men who don't want to admit that they dye their hair.....or that they take sex enhancing med (viagra)...or they got a breast enhancement.....are these lies? If you look younger than your years and act that way, your partner does not know your real age and thinks you even look younger than your younger posted age....what's the big deal? I'm sure that everyone lied about something during their lives.....are we all not to be trusted and are all labelled dishonest? I'ts the big lies that can have an impact on your life personally that matters...drug problem, alchohol etc.....don't sweat the small stuff. Life's too short. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 7/10/2010 7:18:24 PM |
I met one women who lied on her profile and said she was older by four years because she wanted to and make it into the over 45 crowd and date older men... when I met her she told me her real age. For those worried about a couple of years here or there would this ruffle your lie detecting feathers.
OK, I'll bite - how much older is that "over 45 crowd?" usually women who 40 or pretty close have no trouble getting accepted by that group because many men are looking for younger women. For example, I'm 48, and am a time-honoured member of the "over 60 crowd" already! Just worked out that way somehow - I never even applied for membership so........go figure.
Anyway, it is still playing with other people's profile limits. It's odd to go older, (unless you're an underage person trying to get into a club or liquor store) but in the end it's just another piece of fake data that someone has put on a profile to sway the reader. She could simply include her real age and and just set her own age limits however she wanted.
Tootles! | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 7/10/2010 11:39:05 PM | I struck up an email/met-on-a-dating-site interaction around 5 years ago with a man who had his age around 5 years younger. he offered his real age early on, but I wondered why he would bother in the first place. I was already 55 when this happened and was looking for a peer, not a cradle robbing. when I asked why the deception or omission of truth he said "would you have answered my mail?" I said yes, after all, his real age was within my search settings, so I felt off put. I told him that perhaps he should let the women decide if he's too old for their taste. his pics looked believable for his real age, so why lie?
we never met. there seemed to be a couple of obstacles which made me wonder if there was another reason why we never did.
I mean, unless you have no intent to meet anyone, why lie about your stated age?
yeah, I'm in the "why lie camp". | |
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Posted: 7/11/2010 12:28:39 PM |
So when your significant other asks you if this outfit make me look fat make sure you tell her the truth every time.... I am sure she will appreciate it. Just make sure your medical insurance is paid up ahead of time and you have a good lawyer
Um...yeah, I DO tell her if it looks bad! Yes, I have said you look fatter in that....It's called honesty! If you don't think you'll like the answer....don't ask the question!
What I think is funny is when they come out of the dressing room in the next outfit and think I'm "Just saying that!" when I think it looks hot....Um, wasn't my LAST response PROOF that I'm telling you my truth? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2010 12:39:13 PM |
Um...yeah, I DO tell her if it looks bad! Yes, I have said you look fatter in that....It's called honesty! If you don't think you'll like the answer....don't ask the question!
What I think is funny is when they come out of the dressing room in the next outfit and think I'm "Just saying that!" when I think it looks hot....Um, wasn't my LAST response PROOF that I'm telling you my truth?
yes, total honesty..
when she asks : "do these pants make my ass look fat?"
answer: "no, your fat ass makes the pants look fat'
muthski is one of the oldest-looking "45- year-olds" I've ever seen, with the possible exception of Keith Richards. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/29/2010 1:25:10 PM | Let's be honest.
I met a woman here who listed her age as 58. She looked 52. On the second date she confessed that she was 62.
Would I have contacted her if I knew her real age?
No.
And though it turned out that we didn't have a lot in common, we have become friends.
If a two year age lie bothers you, stay single. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/29/2010 1:38:41 PM | Look I apologize in advance for the post OK!
What differance does it really make?
If he said he was 8" and was 6" I could see the concern. But 39 versus 41??? Who friggin cares.
I have been on here since 2006. Met at LEAST 100 women from this site in person.
3/4 fibbed about their age by at least a couple years. To try and show up in searches longer by the younger set.
Who cares! If they look like their pics I am GOOD to go! I could care less if they fib about their age by a couple years at my age. When they use pics that are 20 years old or 100 lbs ago I am P.O. !!! But if they look like their pics and are two years older than their stated age I could friggin care less. gawd after this long dating online fibbing about their age by 2 years would be the least of my worries.
People lie on here about their height, body type, smoke, drink, do drugs, marital status etc...
Two years on their age? Sheeeesh I would pray that was the only thing I had to worry about.
LIKE I SAID... At least 3/4 the gals my age I have met on line lied about their age by a couple years. if they are fun and look like their pics I could care less if they are ten years older at this point. I want them to look like their pics. Any more than that is just gravy. When you have someone tapping you on the shoulder at a bar introducing themselves to you and it is obvious they used their DAUGHTERS pics than I have a problem. When you cant recognize them at all I have a problem. When they fib about their age by two years but are really single and look like their pics on an online dating site I am thrilled.
Cowboy
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/29/2010 2:13:44 PM |
What differance does it really make? It shows a lack of substance in their persona. People lie for a reason, that's to make themselves either more desireable, or to get them out of trouble... since we can rule out staying out of trouble in this instance, it would be for desireability.
I would never consider someone younger than myself as a potential partner. So two years makes the difference of what I find acceptable, and what I find unacceptable and I would be irked if someone lied about their age to circumvent the site filters... which btw, isn't that against the rules of this site? | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/29/2010 3:40:24 PM | If he said he was 8" and was 6" I could see the concern. But 39 versus 41??? Who friggin cares
Wow 19 pages and resurrected again. I wonder how many pages a thread on a two inch descrepancy would get. By the time this thread is done the man in the OP's post may be in his 50's posing as a 40 something. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/29/2010 3:58:04 PM |
two years makes the difference of what I find acceptable
I suck at lying, bluffing, just can't keep the stone face for it, so I quit trying decades ago, but-
If a person at 40 fudges by 2, he/she is 95% accurate, and that's more than good enough for whytwater, and government, work. If anybody, about anything, can vocalize a picture to another that is 95% accurate, it's a marvel.
The only time 2 years would make a difference to me would probably be in Arkansas, if she claimed to be 17 rather than 15, cuz 16 is now the age of consent in that state. Lol (They raised it from 14 just last year).
A year is a man-made measure, like the day of the week, and that's ALL it is- one imperfect way to measure time so that people can show up to meet at close to the same moment time, or watch a program on tv that they want to see. It doesn't measure development of any individual, their health, knowledge, physique, skills, sexyness, or anything else that makes someone attractive, or not.
I agree with Cowboy's post.
If one lies about the small they will lie about the big... proceed with caution.
That would be about the 20th expression of that same thought, in this thread, but it reminds me of a great scene in Little Big Man. Dustin Hoffman is walking his grandfather up a big hill to die at the top, and along the way, the old guy (Chief Dan George) talks about how he knows that Snake Woman, one of his wives, copulates with horses. She denies that, to the Chief, but as he says, "She's lying, of course." (btw, the Chief never dumped her for that, lol, and that whole movie is packed with great lines).
The posts on this topic, especially the ones that consider a 2-year (5%) misstatement to be a matter of larger, even weighty and grave, consequence, divulge much about the poster, and whether they themselves are "mateable", imho. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/29/2010 4:48:17 PM | I guess character matters more to some than others!
Some are only concerned about WHAT someone lies about or the degree they lie.... I only care THAT they lie in the first place...as I've said if the little lie is no big deal then why lie about it?
Oh, yeah there go the insecurity and trust red flags! | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/29/2010 7:57:15 PM | "The posts on this topic, especially the ones that consider a 2-year (5%) misstatement to be a matter of larger, even weighty and grave, consequence, divulge much about the poster, and whether they themselves are "mateable", imho."
I agree. They are looking for perfect and will not find it.
Again, if a two year age lie bothers you, stay single. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/30/2010 1:46:38 AM |
I guess character matters more to some than others!
Some are only concerned about WHAT someone lies about or the degree they lie.... I only care THAT they lie in the first place...as I've said if the little lie is no big deal then why lie about it?
Oh, yeah there go the insecurity and trust red flags!
Yeah I agree.
Also, seems to me that lying by a "couple of years" is most prevalent for those who've just entered a new decade in age, and they have trouble accepting that their real age has now put them "offside". Just like the guy the OP met, he doesn't want to get match up with women older than him, but he has no problem lying a little to circumvent the filter that other (younger) women have set which specifically filters guys like him out. It shows a lack of respect; a lack of respect for someone else's preference no matter how seemingly unreasonable it may appear to you.
I don't mind if someone is 2 years outside of my preference, I do mind if they lie about it.
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/30/2010 1:47:03 AM |
"The posts on this topic, especially the ones that consider a 2-year (5%) misstatement to be a matter of larger, even weighty and grave, consequence, divulge much about the poster, and whether they themselves are "mateable", imho."
I agree. They are looking for perfect and will not find it.
Yet all of us here are just as single...... So even with the lower standard you're still looking. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/30/2010 4:08:07 AM | Then there are those who take the attitude: "I was born in 1940. That makes me 39 like Jack Benny. You will proclaim it from the top of the tallest tree or you are garbage. Anybody who dares to contradict me is to be punished harshly for lying. See to it."
Somehow, that doesn't bother me. If someone decides to stake every fiber of their being upon forcing something into fact, then it is fact. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 8/30/2010 4:27:20 AM |
Then there are those who take the attitude: "I was born in 1940. That makes me 39 like Jack Benny. You will proclaim it from the top of the tallest tree or you are garbage. Anybody who dares to contradict me is to be punished harshly for lying. See to it."
Somehow, that doesn't bother me. If someone decides to stake every fiber of their being upon forcing something into fact, then it is fact.
One more time in English please. | |
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