| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:28:17 PM |
he told me that he was celebrating his brother's birthday. Well....tonight, he was talking about his brother and he mentioned that he and his brother were born on the same day, five years apart. His bday is in December. I am disgusted right now....
He seems like a nice guy and I don't plan on breaking up with him over this...
How many lies does it take to be considered not so nice? | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:36:38 PM | Age has such a bad name...Lying is just plain bad.
But together...the perfect storm.
Most feel at an age of muture nature, it is not in their favor...so much depends on selling yourself and like a car a lower mileage better results, as is age...sad but true.
Ask a man...
2 cars everything the same but mileage...?
Picks
Less mileage.
Age is nothing but having more wisdom as we grow. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:56:10 PM |
Thanks to everyone for your input. I have been told in the past that I am "too picky" and I know I can overreact at times. I am a little wary of him...a few weeks ago, I had invited him to dinner at my place and he told me that he was celebrating his brother's birthday. Well....tonight, he was talking about his brother and he mentioned that he and his brother were born on the same day, five years apart. His bday is in December. I am disgusted right now....
Wow...it's already gotten to the point this guy can't keep track of his lies anymore...lol. If you can't remember the tales you've spun and to whom - don't lie. He sounds like a weirdo and not at all that bright. DTMFA! Cheers OP! | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:39:14 AM | I am in total agreement with Division77 and several others here . . .
To lie about ones age is pathetic. And honesty is the best policy in any circumstances.
If you lie small you have the capacity to lie bigger or more frequently.
Huge red flag and possibly more than 1 . . . | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:47:22 AM | yeah, it's kind of a red flag. On the other hand, maybe he's overly sensitive about having recently turned 40 - most of us can say that even if WE don't feel the difference between being 39 and 40 that we've seen how some others react to it!
So be on the lookout, but it might be he's not concerned about age and doesn't feel the need to share that info on a first or 2nd date. In the "real world", I bet you wouldn't ask for someone's exact age quite that fast and you wouldn't be able to prove if they were fibbing or not until a lot later. The online world has definitely changed the dating experience and messed with our expectations.... | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:52:33 AM | | I've noticed that when people are casual about fudging the little things, they will also tend to be casual about fudging the big things. But if there is a good reason...well, it's a situational thing. But I'm not comfortable when someone does it. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:20:06 AM | Thanks to everyone for your input. I have been told in the past that I am "too picky" and I know I can overreact at times. I am a little wary of him...a few weeks ago, I had invited him to dinner at my place and he told me that he was celebrating his brother's birthday. Well....tonight, he was talking about his brother and he mentioned that he and his brother were born on the same day, five years apart. His bday is in December. I am disgusted right now....
Welcome to the fun house OP, the slippery slope where you can't ever be sure what's real and what isn't. Having been married to someone who started out with little lies and graduated to big lies, I know exactly what you're going thru here. It does get to a point where they can't keep track of the lies. It does disgust you, and worse, makes you start to question yourself. I can already hear his excuses (he meant his other brother, or he calls his friend his brother or some expedient evasion he thinks you're gullible enough to buy). Sit him down, cards on the table time and tell him he has one and only one opportunity to come clean about everything, and if he lies to you again after that, you're putting him in your rear view mirror. And make sure you mean it! | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 10:53:37 AM | LaineeJ I just double checked where you lived to make sure it wasn't the guy I knew, but don't think he would travel that far south. Perhaps they are twins separated by birth and mothers
I think being on a dating site for a couple years made me not accept any lies.
Yesterday a book had a scratch on the spine. The scratch wasn't there when I photographed the book. I could not live with not telling the buyer about this scratch although they had already purchased the book. That is who I am. I feel it would have been untruthful not to tell them. I really try not to lie. I resent people saying everyone lies. I really try very hard not to ever misrepresent myself, stretch the truth, tell untruths etc. I have met others on here like that. I think those that lie are the ones that try to say everyone does it. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:23:38 AM | | ok there was a thread a bit back about the age 50 and mental blocks..... and then 40 was thrown up and then 30 ie women remain 21 and then suddenly overnight 29 but not 30, so there is a lot of BS over all here with the age thing, Ok Op the topic as wrote by you others went off on mad tangents you like the guy he likes you he admitted his age to be wrong........... see he was not caught out.......... you knew and asked and he said................. the real age, for all you know he may have felt guilty you did not say exactely how the conversation went, the details are vague.......... a lie is a lie......... so if I said what is the weight of every single woman on here would I get the exact honest answer????????? me I'm 210lbs and trying to PUT in on....... so when does a White lie become a major red flag........... he wrote on a profile 38 he Said to you almost 41 he did not lie to your face admitted his lie up front and was not backed into a corner. Stop overly fussing on that one, hope you two work out. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:47:34 AM |
Stop overly fussing on that one, hope you two work out. zzzzzzz No didn't you read, he has lied again... Someone that doesn't accept their age and lies about it seems to lie about other things. imo
Hey check the gaining weight later in life thread, I just stated my weight. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 2:29:43 PM |
Lying should be taught in schools from a very early age. We need to prepare the kids for adulthood.
LOL. Saw a t-shirt last summer that said-
Life Is Hard,
So Cheat!
If caught, Lie!
Frankly, I don't care how old her license says she is, or what the scale says she weighs.
But I do care how she moves, what she can or is willing to do, and yeah, how she looks doin' it. My hair has been pure platinum since my late 30's, and those carny folks can never get within 2 years of guessing my age, sooo, I get a lot of little stuffed animals. Lol | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 2:46:41 PM | I look younger than I am, 15 years ago I was dating a woman and had a lot of trouble from people saying I was picking up an older woman,,,,I was 5 years older than she was!!
I advertised on a dating site and put my age as 8 years younger, I met my ex partner and we had 10 good years together, everyone thought we were the same age, so it didnt matter, If I had been dating women my own age then it would have continued to look like I was dating my mother.
Of course I told her my age as soon as we we went steady, but she didnt believe me, I told her what had happened, and she laughed, ,,if you're the same biological age and attitude date of birth doesnt matter.
Age is a way of pidgeon holing you into a category, some people don't fit
Everyone tells little lies and I dont think 2 years is bad, but the situation it is used in can be illuminating, if he doesnt admit it or gets mixed up,be careful.
I am 56.
Don | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 2:53:37 PM | if you're the same biological age and attitude date of birth doesnt matter. wahhhh??? Your biological age is your actual age, the number of years you have lived. And if your age doesn't matter, then tell the freaking truth about your age. Gosh you won't even date women your own age.
People wonder why they don't look as old as others stating they are the same age, it is because so many people seem to be lying about their age...
There used to be a game called Lie, Cheat, and Steal. I am guessing there are some people that would be really good at that game.
I really wish people wouldn't be so hung up on age and then there wouldn't be so many liars. But the thing is, the ones lying seem to be the ones hung up on the age yet say they aren't... | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 2:59:18 PM |
I've noticed that when people are casual about fudging the little things, they will also tend to be casual about fudging the big things.
That I think is the key point. Everybody has lied at some point in time or another. Not everybody excuses their lies. If I am caught lying, I don't justify it. I accept responsibility and at the very least apologize, I don't turn around and put it on the other person to tolerate my dishonesty as acceptable behaviour. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:03:52 PM | | Met a guy a few years ago off different site. He lied about his age said he was 27 and had brown hair. .et him and he looked at least 40 and had serious balding with a comb over. I left him where he stood. I don't lie about being a fat chick and I expect the same honesty. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:07:34 PM | You biological age isnt your dated age, its the biological state of ageing your body is in, you could be 40 but smoke heavily and have a biological age of 50, and look it, or be 40 and look younger, so if those two people met, they would look years apart in age,,,ok?
Biological age is not your actual age!
Don | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:09:58 PM |
You biological age isnt your dated age, its the biological state of ageing your body is in, you could be 40 but smoke heavily and have a biological age of 50, and look it, or be 40 and look younger, so if those two people met, they would look years apart in age,,,ok?
Biological age is not your actual age!
If you follow the rules of this website and put in your actual birthdate, there will be no question. The age displayed will follow suit, and will not be a lie. It's really that simple. | |
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| He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned?
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:47:51 PM | | Usually, not always, one lie leads to many lies. Honesty is the best policy in any relationship. I had alot of nice guys and they lied about what they did for living, having a college degree,being single, etc. Be careful. I am honest, maybe too honest. | |
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