| | Multiple children by multiple partnersPage 11 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | I agree with the OP about having 7 kids for 7 different fathers is ridiculous, how ever my best friend who has 3 girls, was in a ltr and had 2 then went onto another ltr had one more, neither worked out. She used to think it would be hard to find someone who is content on not having more and I can totally see why she would think this. She is with another lovely fella who has 2 boys, so happy days :D
It would take an awful lot for me to have another child with someone else, I mean I didn't think I would be a single mother who does? It happens though and once you only have as many kids as you can afford no one should judge
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| Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 6/1/2012 3:29:39 PM | Every situation is different, but in a general sense, it will tend to be held against the woman by most men. That's my opinion on it.
I think most people can let go of "one" of anything. Someone who cheated once in their life. Someone who divorced once in their life. Someone who had a one night stand once in their life. Once can be seen as a single bad choice or a bad turn of events or just bad timing.
I think most people start to worry when it happens twice or more. | |
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| Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 6/3/2012 7:56:34 AM | | I can see how it would happen maybe twice. Many people have the "oops" at a young age and that doesn't end up working out so they have one child with one partner. Then later on they get married, have some more children, and end up getting divorced. Then you have children from two partners. When it happens over and over again...dealbreaker. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 8:18:30 AM | | I find it unappealing. However, from a Darwinian perspective, those women are very successful at propagating their genes with sufficient diversity from the various fathers, that the chances of one of their children successfully propagating those genes is increased. The downside is that the children of most of those women may have disadvantages in their upbringing that reduce the odds of them successfully finding good mates themselves. Overall, it may balance out genetically. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 8:31:41 AM |
I find it unappealing. However, from a Darwinian perspective, those women are very successful at propagating their genes with sufficient diversity from the various fathers, that the chances of one of their children successfully propagating those genes is increased. The downside is that the children of most of those women may have disadvantages in their upbringing that reduce the odds of them successfully finding good mates themselves. Overall, it may balance out genetically.
Seeing how we live in a society where even the most inbred bottom-feeders are capable of survival, your synopsis really doesn't mean anything. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 9:10:06 AM |
Seeing how we live in a society where even the most inbred bottom-feeders are capable of survival, your synopsis really doesn't mean anything.
Indeed. Just shows that the bottom feeders may inherit the earth! They'll outbreed everyone else. | |
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| Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 6/3/2012 2:37:42 PM | So the children should not have been born ?
Children are a blessing.Enjoy life and stop having so many issues with people's choices . | |
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Posted: 6/6/2012 7:09:12 AM | FoRumOnly>>>
From a Darwinian perspective.
If the children are supplied with food and clothing by the mother or father that may be the case.
How many of these women/trollopes/ feckless fathers supply the cash to bring up the children?
In most cases large wadges of cash come from the state ie everyone else to bring up the children.
How Darwinian is that.
I say bring back the workhouse and or castration. | |
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| Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 6/6/2012 7:44:25 AM |
Children are a blessing. Enjoy life and stop having so many issues with people's choices .
Well, there are 6.2 billion "blessings" on this earth. As Chris Rock put it, even roaches have kids. People like to give childbirth a lot of rhetorical meaning. I don't see anything special about it. That whole "children are a blessing" mentality is the reason why we have inbred bottom feeders hitting the "print" button on the human Xerox machine, and just continuing the cycle. But I guess every society needs it's worker bees. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2012 7:50:39 AM | | Im a single mom. My older to kids are from my ex husband. We divorced after I caught him having an affair. I was told after having my daughter. I would have a hard time having anymore. I went 12 years with no birth control and after dating someone new 2years after my divorce....... I got pregnant a year later. It was a huge suprise. The father wanted me to abort the pregancy and I couldnt. I moved on and I am now raising my son on my own. He has been my rock and is what kept me going through a scary battle of cancer, I do not regret my decission to keep this child. I feel very blessed to have him in my life. I cant answer for the young lady with 7. But I can answer and stand up for myself and My right to chose life over murder. | |
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| Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 6/6/2012 8:22:18 AM |
Well, there are 6.2 billion "blessings" on this earth. As Chris Rock put it, even roaches have kids. People like to give childbirth a lot of rhetorical meaning. I don't see anything special about it. That whole "children are a blessing" mentality is the reason why we have inbred bottom feeders hitting the "print" button on the human Xerox machine, and just continuing the cycle. But I guess every society needs it's worker bees.
The pure, beautiful love & bond between parent & child, is, indeed a blessing, for those who value that sort of thing. The fact that other people pop out kids too, & the roaches in your house gave birth last night, does not in any way denigrate the blessed love between my children & myself. Do i wish birthing & parenting was a little more sacred in society, & that only people who were capable of loving & caring for children, & viewed them as blessings reproduced, of course, butas long as my family is happy & well loved & well provided for, what others do doesnt affect me, | |
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Posted: 6/6/2012 9:45:06 AM |
Children are a blessing
Maybe so, but many of those "blessings" end up as adults who are a plague on society, killers, rapists, thieves, pedophiles, con artists, sociopaths etc... | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 6:20:59 PM | ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Maybe so, but many of those "blessings" end up as adults who are a plague on society, killers, rapists, thieves, pedophiles, con artists, sociopaths etc..
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Well see this is an argument for why men who father the children should stick around to raise them. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 9:44:13 PM | Wow I wonder how I would get judged here. I have 5 children. Not only do some have different dads they have different moms and I have never met the the dads. I had a child when I was a teen. He is grown, successful, he got married in his 30's and just made me a grandma. Son # 2 adopted also grown and away. Had a daughter by some miracle with same man I adopted #2 with. Then adopted 2 more on my own as a single mom.
Once again all the horror stories are a small percentage of the population. You might want to find the real story before you judge a person. I babysit for a few mom's who have kids with different dads. The only thing I complain about is having to remember all the names. I just look at them as one family. That is how they see themselves. The women all work hard to support their children. They are good people. Sadly men/women don't show their true colors until after kids are born. Most are not on welfare, but are working their butts off and giving up everything to take care of their children.
Celebrate the good and the world will be a better place. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 11:15:55 PM |
Well see this is an argument for why men who father the children should stick around to raise them.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and agree with you...
As I see it, unless there is compelling reasons (rape, abuse, violence etc) then the men should be sticking around to raise the kids PROPERLY... I stayed, I wanted to make sure my kids were old enough, secure enough and able to function wll in society before things fell apart relationship wise... Yeah, sure, it's a sacrifice... But it's called being a man (or a woman) and taking the bad with the good... for the benefit of the next generation...
Yes, I could have bailed earlier, and maybe knocked up some other woman and left a string of toddlers in my wake... but I didn't...
I have little respect for women who were stupid enough to get knocked up by some loser... Sorry, but there are some things that are common sense...
I have NO respect for guys who knock up and fcuk off....
I do think that a lot of the problems of society are the result of too many single parent families...
And that's not a knock at single parents... They're doing the best they can for the most part.... Sure, there are a few who really should be sent to PARENT SCHOOL.... but for the most part, the parents try, but society, culture, economics, and the Nanny State intervene... | |
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