| | TEXTS FROM THE EXPage 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | Maybe she is bored and has an unlimited texting plan!
Change your number. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2009 1:06:33 PM | When you text her back...YOU are engaging in communication with her!
If you really want to stop the DRAMA....stop ENGAGING!
Remember this...every time you engage...you are ENABLING her to inflict more pain upon you.
You deserve better and good luck! | |
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Posted: 11/13/2009 5:10:22 PM | Yup, as usual, Landra's got it. The reason she's doing it is selfishness, pure and simple. She wants to use you for what ever she wants, and right now what she wants from you, is a text buddy. Nothing more. If she actually cared about your feelings, she'd leave you alone.
The heck with "looking like a jerk," just tell her yer dun, and block her texts (if that's possible, I'm an OF, and don't "do" texting). | |
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Posted: 11/13/2009 5:22:58 PM | If its bugging you so much (it should, that's exactly what she wants), do this. Call
her and say, "I know u like me and would like to communicate, but let's do that chat-thing u want w me over dinner at your place, or an hors d'oeuvre at our favorite restaurant--- ixnay on the text-hay unless you have a relationship w me, see you @ 6:00, don't be late, ciao". If she says no, and you get another text later, send back, "@ 6 not b4"
This is a test. Test her right back by challenging as to whether she wants you "in the flesh", or not. She probably doesn't, which is why she dates other guys. Call it a crazy hunch.
This is a real common headgame some women play with guys they have just set loose. Don't let her rub salt in the wound. (I suspect there is a darker version of the book of rulz that has these kinds of teenager-syled tactics in it).
At least you will have challenged her on this dumb notion she has that she can dump you and then text away @ you like nothing happened, she's challenging your ability to stand up and be counted. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2009 6:36:24 PM | | It is completely normal for people who break up to have mixed feelings for months afterwards. She keeps texting because she is ambivelant. I suggest you guys don't have any contact with each other for at least six months--A year would be better. No seeing each other, no phone calls, no texting, no email. Give yourselves time to move on, get over things. Then, if you both still want to, try to be friends. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 10:42:18 AM | ever see a dog licking the window of the meat store? great PR for the meat store, must be something pretty good in there. That's why they text after the breakup: they're the meat u can't have, but they want to keep u licking at the window (try to come in they call the dogcatcher), makes other guys more attracted. It gets mysteriously translated to the next guy and their gf's @ TGIF on Thurs nite as this, "I'm so attractive, he won't stop texting me, another stalker", GF's b goin' "OMG not again? ewww", new guy be goin', "U are 2 hot, I'll protect U, princess", she be goin', "heh heh heh...suckahs", next month new guy be postin' "TEXTS FROM THE EX", gets deleted as redundant thread
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Posted: 11/14/2009 10:57:01 AM | | Lol. How do I get her to stop text? Let her text you. Because she will keep texting you. The question is are you strong enough not to reply to her text? If the answer is yes... you have the answer to how she can stop texting you. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 11:01:06 AM | Ummm ... maybe she just has him in a list of people she sends out mass texts to? I don't know if this is possible, as my cell phone is very simple (and I'm the first to admit that I have barely mastered the sending of simple texts and refuse to use text speak) and not a Crackberry or iPhone, but don't these newer phones act more like email where you can send multiple people the same message at the same time? Just throwing that out there, since no one else suggested it. It may not be as evil as some are making it sound ... just saying.
Either way, OP, you need to talk to her, not in text form (in my opinion, as text doesn't portray the full message) ... let her know how it's making you feel and tell her you need space and will hopefully resume the friendship once your heart has fully healed. If she is really wanting to be your friend, she will understand and give you what ever space and time you need. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 11:39:27 AM | So given your second post, you are not seeking a reconciliation because you know it won't work or because you are afraid she will tell you no which in your opinion will make you look foolish? If it is the latter, that's pretty stupid, if it is the former, ask her to stop texting you until you text her first, when you are over her.
This really isn't that complicated. You really ought to spend less time worrying about how you look and more about whether you are living the life you want to have. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 11:59:41 AM | Ask yourself "Why did we break up?". This is called passive-aggressive behavior. She is giving you messages in her text. She is letting you know that "she's doing something that we used to do together". Why do you think she is telling you that? Maybe she is trying to give you a message about your behavior when you were with eachother. It is a dig. Maybe she misses you and wants you to wake up and is leaving her options open by not getting too serious with anyone else. Ask yourself, ---why you broke up. Do you need to learn something here? for either this relationship or the next one? Stop playing mind games with eachother. Take a REAL BREAK. Evaluate your life and then communicate openly and honestly with eachother about what you both want in a relationship. If it is not what you want----then move on. If it is what you both want and there are issues---get the help and then get back together. It is your choice---but be HONEST with eachother.  | |
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Posted: 11/14/2009 7:53:23 PM | lts common for people to try to hold onto their ex's emotional life.
Cut her loose....and move on.While you still let her text you,it pulls you back into what you had together....and thats control.
She dont want you...and doesnt want you to be truely happy in your life.
Theres a sign for you....shes an emotional headf..ker.
ld be moving on very seriously if l were you.
ld even feel pissed about these head games shes doing.
ls she bored or something? is this going on in between each guy she dumps or dates.Shes actually still stuck back in the past also.Buncing back n forth from you to others.
Show her how its done...cut it off completely.
Never text back...
And text her as your last one saying.
"l will no longer entertain your need to hold onto my emotions...goodbye and look after yourself.Move on....its OVER....you no longer have a hold on me"
Youre being entertained by reading the texts from her because youre living in hope.
lf you do care about her...tell her to think about how her behavior affects others.
Because she already knows...shes just doing it for her own gratification. | |
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GAD33
| | Joined: 6/16/2009
Msg: 37 | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 3:45:00 AM | UPDATE: I haven't got a text for two weeks then the other night at 1am she texts me this. " @ one point in time i adored you. Thought you were the one. The more i think about it ,i cant stand you!
I couldnt resist texting her back the next day to tell her to never text me again. She said she heard i was saying bad stuff about her and her kids and that she wasn't feeling good and a couple other reasons why she said that and she was sorry.
Its like she just wants to pick at my healing scabs! | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 6:15:02 AM | Geez . . . . make it hot or cold . . cuz she just loves the "lukewarm" you.
Cold:
Tell her you want to only text those who are in your life and have a future with you. Suggest nicely she gets a life . . . . like her own custom one with a new guy or all by herself.
Hot
Suggest a hotel where ya can meet for some hot making out and raunchy foreplay or a strip club where she can meet you at. (use this if she is not into meaningless affairs)
Other idea . . . change your # or get a new phone. OR you can be a wimp and let her have her way with you forever. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 7:04:25 AM |
My question is if she doesn't want me then why all the texts? And how do i get her to stop without looking like a wuss or a jerk?
Simply stop answering them..
thecatsmeoww | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 7:14:30 AM |
Simply stop answering them..
My goodness! What a concept!!!! You are positively brilliant!!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 7:42:10 AM | Catsmeow nailed it squarely.
Simple, huh? | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 11:24:05 AM | | I think that is difficult to totally cut ties with a recent boyfriend/girlfriend. Especially in light of the fact that she has not gotten a new boyfriend as of yet. She probably dates a guy a few times, it doesn't work out for whatever reason and then it leaves her reminiscent of your past relationship. Kind of a "bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" idea. I would suggest, as others have, telling her you would prefer no contact for a while. What you are describing sounds like it's just prolonging the pain and hampering your ability to truly move on. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 3:18:26 PM |
UPDATE: I haven't got a text for two weeks then the other night at 1am she texts me this. " @ one point in time i adored you. Thought you were the one. The more i think about it ,i cant stand you!
I couldnt resist texting her back the next day to tell her to never text me again.
Congratulations! You did EXACTLY what she wanted you to do.
You engaged.
It ain't over til it's over and with the two of you playing the bullshyt games it will never be over.
What I don't understand is when 30-something became the new 12.
Doesn't anyone mature "normally" any longer?
Cripes. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 3:58:48 PM | | What I would do is, not text her back at all, I know it is bad! But at the end she will keep on textign you for a few weeks so be prepared then after a while u will see she will gradualy stop texting you.... Then she may call u a jerk but dont u want to help try and get closure? Have u had closure yet? ..... Seems to me that you both do like eachother but dont want to be together and dont want anyone else to have eachother... I would either do as i said and stop texting her or I would either just talk to her and find out why she is texting you .... Did that help ? | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 6:18:33 PM | | Sounds to me you want your cake & eat it too. You like the attention, so you like the idea of her texting you. It tells you that she still has feelings for you and you are still in the running, and you like that. You lap it up like a dog. However, on the other side, you don't want to be with her. You are acting really selfish and that is not fair to her. If you are not really interested and want to end it, then dont answer her messages back AT ALL, or tell her not to text you anymore. If you do like each other and want to be together, then do it. You are just playing games with each other and it seems to me you are actually creating this problem for yourself. You could end it now, but I don't think you want to. You like the chase.... her chasing you. Get over it. | |
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GAD33
| | Joined: 6/16/2009
Msg: 46 | |
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Posted: 12/3/2009 11:40:57 PM | | I told her not too text me anymore because i needed some time to get my head clear and she said no problem. We told eachother good luck and all that . That was two days ago. Tonight she texts me... '' I do miss you though:(" She wouldn't take me back but she won't let me go either! | |
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Posted: 12/3/2009 11:59:51 PM | | Get your phone company to block her number, or change yours, she's playing with you!! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2009 11:18:04 AM | Hey... here's something a GUY would understand in 'guy world'......Ever heard the label of being "a tool"????
How's it feel being just another one on her belt??? Ignore or block all of her texts..... Let her go to Home Depot and play dumb to get another tool.... | |
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Posted: 12/4/2009 11:19:34 AM | It's callled "game-playing."
Since you haven't told her to stop...or changed your number... then you are enjoying the game.
If you aren't enjoying it...tell her to stop...or change your number.
Simple problem...simple solutions. | |
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