| | why do men assume you want to talk sex ?Page 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | I'm certainly not saying there isn't men out that just want to talk nasty with females they barely know but why do we blame that on the men.
There are plenty of women out there that talk to men and women like that right away. It's a two way street.
I'll probably get pounded for this but oh well. Have you seen some of the way you women dress in your pictures? I'd want to cyber bang you too if I had a penis. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 6:21:10 PM | Why do you think all men ... er ... wait maybe that point's been made ;->
Reading the replies sounds like sex is like most topics in dealing with new people. In any new interaction some people take cues better than others and some don't care. We all ( or most of us ) work at communication while some folks are more compatable than others. The delete and block as pointed out would be helpful.
BTW Some of these posts had me rolling in the asile. :-> ... others rolling my eyes :-> | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 6:24:05 PM |
Possessions wrote: I'll probably get pounded for this but oh well. Have you seen some of the way you women dress in your pictures? I'd want to cyber bang you too if I had a penis.
Ok now I am off to read profiles
Possessions I love your style!
~Beth~ | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 1:03:26 AM | well , thank you for all of the replies to my thread , as a new user to a dating site , it has opened my eyes ! must point out that i was not saying ALL men ...sorry if i have offended anyone , have learned a lesson the hard way , but hey ho thats not a bad thing ...i have noticed that people dont read all of the posts from the start and get the wrong end of the stick lol ....and then comments get added that really are nothing to do with the initial post ! good luck to all , i have taken all the advice on board , and can now hopefully continue fishing happily ....good luck to all out there ! ..smiler x | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 7:51:15 AM | most are not looking for a husband so we can stay home and eat honey buns, and watch soaps. that is crap!
I am! I'm possibly in the minority, but where does the line form???
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Posted: 11/16/2009 8:17:24 AM | I don't ASSUME you want to talk about sex. But I HOPE there's a freak there in you somewhere who is slightly deviant and open to experimentation-!
Can't speak for your date, OP, but...what can I say, any red-blooded male (or female for that matter) with any sex drive whatsoever is always going to be thinking about their mate, the object of their desires, in a wild sexual way. While warmth, comfort, companionship, good conversation, similar goals, yada yada are certainly important, the craziness of rampant lust is what makes a relationship full and exciting, don'tcha think?
Who WOULDN'T want excitement in their relationship, as long as it's containable and there are boundaries of monogamy? | |
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Posted: 12/9/2009 9:35:00 PM | | well i have been on this site 3 months and i have talked to only 4 guys that didnt bring up sex and recently i talked to another one and just like you we hit off and hes only been on the site for2 weeks and i thought things were going great but then hes online all the time so the answer to your question is that all men are after the perfect playmate . | |
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Posted: 12/9/2009 10:37:59 PM | WOW, how did I miss this gem???
First off, my congrats to the guy with the soap operas and honey buns!! Way to go pal, lots of emails looking to take you home I bet!!!
Loved the assorted replies and assertions both positive and negative, many guys playing the safe side, many ladies walking the tight rope!! Really great!! LOL
Why do men assume you want to talk sex? Because it's enjoyable? Because it's part of a healthy relationship. Because they're interested in it!!!!!
Now why do women want to talk about feelings and emotions? Or why do they talk amongst themselves about shoe shopping or how the last guy they had in an LTR or was married to, didn't know how to load the dishwasher, work the washer and dryer or what a vacum was.
Now if he is looking to have an email chat or phone call, requiring a lot of kleenex and lotion, I can understand your dismay. But if he is trying to gauge whether or not you have a healthy interest, that's another story.
How many women can understand one little fact. When a woman is done with a man in marriage or reaching the end of her rope, the first thing to go is sex! There was a thread on here last week where a guy said he didn't have sex for the last 3 years in his marriage! There are loads of similar stories, now you ladies know, that you need emotional connection to inspire desire. Well some guys don't, they think your just cutting him off, cause your pissed!
These men just want to make sure your not a once a month gal, till you get to know him, then it's every anniversary and maybe christmas. LOL
Since I think we can all agree sex is healthy, a discussion should take place beginning on the first or second date. Now how the guy handles it, can be the problem. A checklist of positions and do's and won'ts seems a trifle odd. Similarly regailing you with his sexual prowess seems a tad over the top.
But a little sexual innuendo, and some conversation is great! That sexual tension between two people feeling the chemistry is highly desireable and should lead to better dating.
Any way, that's my view, debate away!! | |
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Posted: 12/9/2009 10:53:50 PM | Men love sex. They think about it MUCH of the time. Its going to come up in conversation at some point. As an adult, you should be able to maturely discuss it, at least on a basic level. Sometimes guys talk to girls about sex to feel them out about it, to see if they're interested in it with them, as in now, the very near future or when. So, be receptive to at least a little conversation about it. It can be an eye opener. It can save both people a LOT of time if they find out that they're not on the same page/timeline about it.
Respect and self-respect are VERY important. If he's just trying to get you into bed or wanting cyber sex (since thats not what youre wanting), just cut off communication with him and say NEXT!!
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Posted: 12/9/2009 11:02:37 PM | | The ones who are crude or forge ahead with their own agenda weed themselves out quickly for women who don't care to entertain them. It's a blessing to find out sooner rather than later. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2009 11:28:53 PM | tennesseeharleylady62:
"well i have been on this site 3 months and i have talked to only 4 guys that didnt bring up sex and recently i talked to another one and just like you we hit off and hes only been on the site for2 weeks and i thought things were going great but then hes online all the time so the answer to your question is that all men are after the perfect playmate ."
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Why isnt it okay for him to be "online all the time"? And how do you KNOW he is? Doesnt that mean that YOU are "online all the time"? Youre JUST gabbing online with this new guy and think somehow he owes you a committment of some sort, that its not okay for him to do what he wants? WTH? WTF? I wonder how you might act if you had actually gone on a date with him. I'm glad for HIM that the two of you didn't meet.
I am online in here A LOT. I do the usual perusing of profile, checking my email, etc. I also have female friends that I chit chat with and I've gotten into the forums. Until "he" and I make a mutual decision to see each other exclusively, I have NO obligation to ANY man. Neither does/did that guy have ANY obligation to you. Maturity comes to mind. I'm STUNNED.
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Posted: 12/10/2009 5:58:36 AM | | It depends on the person. I try not to bring it up and a lot of the times it has been the woman who brings it up in conversations. I've actually had a couple of women who I went out with a few times and it never was mentioned and I kept myself very much the gentleman and low and behold, they started dating someone else telling me they thought I wasn't interested because I never made a move yet or even talked about it. WTF?! You takee your time to actually get to know someone and it ackfires as well. Too many Fvcking games in the dating scene these days. Each one seems to be the polar oppostie of the previous woman. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 6:14:18 AM | Why do men assume you want to talk sex?
Ok..I read a lot of the responses..agreed with some and not with others. Not all men want to talk sex, it seems though that I attract quite a few of them. It's so frustrating to have an attractive guy, who seems to have some of the same interests..write to me..start to message on yahoo, only to find out on the third sentence he wants to know what my favorite position is, if I like threesomes..etc.
Hey, I'm no prude. I have NO problem talking about sex..geez, I'd even have sex if I had the opportunity. .. but I think the point is, I would like to know the guy first! I don't feel comfortable discussing something like that with some guy I've "known" for all of 5 minutes.
I've been called a prude, been told I'm frigid and uptight...because I've told men that I dont care to see their webcams or photo's of their private parts. Well, maybe if they had taken the time to get to know me as a friend and a person, they would realize that I'd be very willing to indulge..if the timing was right and there was some trust and friendship involved.
Well, I'm rambling..it's the coffee this morning..point is. .. there is nothing wrong with talking about sex, it's all in the approach.
Back to the drawing board:
I have to agree with your point of view. It seems women are just as bad as men with the games..I see my friends doing it all the time, it's like...damned if you do, damned if you don't. I hope though, that this doesn't sour you on all women..as we aren't all like that.! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 6:23:00 AM | JGirl,
It doesn't sour me. I've actually turned it into my favor in a way. I just get sick of the "game" of dating. So many things have changed since the last time I was single. Kind of makes you not want to play anymore. But hey, I love being in a one on one relationship so I'm stuck in the game whether I like it or not. You can't win the lottery unless you buy a ticket. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 6:27:13 AM | BTTDB
I am with you, I don't like the games..I HATE THEM..but I like being in a relationship, so I have to deal with them. I wish you all of the luck .. you sound like a good person. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 6:41:01 AM | JGirlinSD - I totally agree. Sex as a general topic? NP. Personal information? No thanks - asking mine or volunteering yours isn't going to happen unless until I know you enough or have enough interest to go there.
A rule for guys should be that when a woman brings it up, then it's time to talk about it. Until then, avoid bringing it up yourself. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 6:51:18 AM | Relationships of the kind most are seeking ARE about sex. Sex is the bottom line. Without sex, the rest is meaningless!
However!!!! Many men know that sex is only a part of a relationship, and that many women want some indication of relationship before bringing sex into the mix - especially if you haven't even met! Of course, some men only want passing sexual encounters, and if they solicit enough women, are likely to get just that. They are only willing to invest so much time and effort into getting to that goal, and then will move on to some other target. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 11:17:40 AM |
And how many of you so called good guys stand up here on the forums and seriously take the **stards to task? Very very few do it directly and with as much gusto as you do when fighting for something that directly affects you. And yet you want us women to be so grateful you are here, standign by silently, passively watching all the misery your bro's perpetuate.
Oh god, women even need protecting from the written word? Just stop reading if it's so dangerous and damaging. There, now you're protected. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 1:02:07 PM | Well I admit I myself have had a few men start out having (what I would) consider a normal (typing) conversation. Then WHAM! they feel it is time to get down to talking about sex. At that point I have NO PROBLEM, discontinuing any conversation after explaining that I do not discuss sex with someone I am not in a relationship with.(For me it is a matter of respect and values.)
I would not however, say that all or most men do this. I have talked to and met some very nice men.
I will remember in the future though about mentioning charging a certain amount of money per minute for sexual conversation. (THAT WAS TO FUNNY!!!!!!-I LOVED IT.) | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 1:34:30 PM | ^^^^ Oh no, not you too? they're coming out of the woodwork now
Is he really THAT hot? Seriously. Give me Shemar Moore any day of the week 
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Posted: 12/10/2009 3:18:03 PM | Interestingly I've had the opposite-you might say, happen to me.
I've corresponded with some women with an initial agreement it was only friendly, non-sexual, etc. They, not me, wound up talking about sex, asking me what I liked, did I enjoy certain things, that they enjoyed men doing certain things to them, etc.
??? Often men are portrayed as being only interested in sex, etc. Well, I had a different experience!  | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 3:31:15 PM | Most men think that 80% of the women on here are looking for a husband, so they can stay at home, eat honey buns all day, and watch soap operas
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Yummy sounds good to me, I love honey buns and love watching soap operas, 
especially during the winter, brrrr it's cold outside,
I ll make a delicious home made soup too,  | |
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