| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:00:21 PM | | Ugly guys can be mean too, but since you aren't interested in their affections, you don't notice their behaviour nor would care if you did. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:26:12 PM | Hot guys have girls chasing them or throwing themselves at them.
They get good at fast rejection. Any type of nice or kind behavior just encourages
women they don't want to keep coming after them.
It's a pain when a hot guy who is very kind doesn't really want you but he feels like he has to be nice to you. You can't tell if he really likes you or is just being nice.
He might talk to you and you think he likes you when he is really just trying to be nice.
I've had guys misunderstand my intentions and think that because I chatted with them in a friendly way that I really liked them and wanted them for a boyfriend. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/17/2009 2:22:27 PM | First and foremost...I feel it a bit pretentious answering this post. Personally, I don't see myself as hot. However, I do get plenty of attention...so I figured I'd put in my two cents for what it's worth!
As we all know, there really is no connection between "hot" guys and being mean. I'm sure plenty of guys feel the same about hot gals too. Where I live, in Orange County, it's a pretty common assumption. Hot is subjective, no one guy is hot to every woman...not even Brad Pitt. Perhaps it isn't so much about the hot guys being mean, as the mean guys being hot? Just ponder it a moment before crossing it off your list. Maybe what you find hot in a guy, is in fact what makes him mean?
Best of luck! | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/18/2009 12:59:03 AM | You have a point there ThreeItems!
Perhaps what we are finding hot in these men is their alpha male, alpha female attitude. For example, their aggressiveness, their confidence, risk taking, rebelliousness, “devil may care” attitude and their self pride. They are the pack leader, the “cool kid”, head of the cheerleading squad, rebel without a cause. More often than not these are what attract us. This personality type tries harder because they want to be noticed, and be seen as the best. They are likely to take care of them selves physically and try very hard to be physically attractive to other people, keeping up with trends, being fashionable and with good grooming.
Now the same kind of person with those personality traits (in my experience) is likely to be (at some level) arrogant, self-serving, dismissive, aloof or vain. They may be the type that likes to "be seen" or have the pea-cock, or ME-ME syndrome. Now they may not have all of these personality traits combined... but they have at least one that stands out.
This is because society values physical beauty so much. These same people have been treated "special" all their lives simply because they are pretty. Male or female. You and I are guilty of enabling this kind of behavior by excusing it. Giving them special attention, being nicer than you would to "average Joe" or "plain Jane", being more generous, hooking them up with things for nothing in return, and throwing ourselves at them emotionally or sexually and sometimes being envious of them. Beautiful people are used to this and when they don’t get it they get prissy, same as people with allot of money (if they are pretty and rich... watch out). If one person isn't treating them the way they like... just get another one... and it's easy for them. Romantic interests and acquaintances are in a sense, disposable.
Basically they act like BRATS because they are SPOILED and never see a need to grow spiritually or become mature psychologically or morally. We “normal” people face challenges like discrimination, rejection, discouragement, humiliation, we are exposed to all kinds of unpleasantness and are FORCED to grow up and develop, while “the beautiful people” can get by on their looks, and get away with so much more than “average Joe and plain Jane”. They are so accepted socially they learn to be charismatic when it's convenient. We fall in love with the IDEA of them that we project onto them because we associate being beautiful with being GOOD or better somehow. Ever watch a Disney movie? Ugly=BAD, pretty= GOOD. It’s so rooted in our culture that this will probably never change unless the whole world goes blind suddenly.
I’m not saying that this is true of all “pretty people” .Those that have had positive influences in their lives that have kept them grounded and have taught them humility turn out better.
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/18/2009 2:24:59 PM | | Because if they are a hottie and they know it, they can have any woman they want so they don't care how mean they are because to them there is always a long string of women waiting in the wings so they don't give a shit. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/19/2009 5:38:48 AM | Well, I'm not a hot guy, but I do know quite a few of them and here's my take:
Yeah, hot women CAN have any man they want, but hot guys really can't. The problem is that women assume that these guys can have any woman they want (besides themselves) and react accordingly. The result is that these hot guys are up against more barriers that other guys don't really have to deal with. They often have to work harder than less attractive guys and they are aware enough of their own attractiveness to know there's a problem there. Basically, they DO get lots of positive reinforcement to build up their egos, but it's generally from women who aren't on the market or are older or just aren't looking for a relationship OR it's from gay men, who have no qualms about openly praising male beauty.
So basically, these hot guys have a lot of women telling them they're hot in one way or another, but none of those women are actually interested in them. And then those who are don't send any signals at all because they're intimidated and the hot guys are pretty much left to just figure out which women to pursue, without any prompting whatsoever, half of which are going to be flighty because they don't think the guy is genuinely interested because he's "hot." | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/20/2009 11:34:33 PM | Why do hot guys end up with plain mousy not attractive females?
Whenever a really hot guy gets married it's always to a little mouse:
brown straight stringy hair, plain non-descript face, very average figure,
very average clothes, nothing at all anyone would notice about her.
And usually, to top it off, this mousy little woman is a b**** . | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/22/2009 9:47:25 AM | ^Maybe because she challenged him without turning into a psycho.
OR is a total freak in the sack
I am mean to women that feel they are entitled to everything because they won the genetic lottery. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:54:47 AM | | gee, the girls on here are complaining about men and the women have been doing it for years...thank gloria stineum ( i think I spelled that wrong) | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/22/2009 1:56:41 PM | I dont care how hot a guy is..if he's a prick I wouldn't imagine dating him.
My fiance is totally gorgeous but he is also really sweet | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:19:00 AM | Yep. Cause they know they can be. They get enough female attention as it is, so if it offends someone, they know they can simply move onto the next woman. Supply and demand. And when they have their looks going for them, they don't need to develop other personality traits like being thoughtful.
But take heart, there are a few nice hot guys out there. Most are taken, and the rest are just hard to find. I've met a few. I've also met ugly guys who are mean. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:30:32 PM | | Define "mean". Is mean the absence of "nice"? Nice is a feminine trait. Men are not supposed to be nice. Women are supposed to be nice and MEN are not supposed to take any crap from women otherwise they would not really be a MAN . And that's not mean its the way it is and the way it should be. So the real question is who is a real woman who can recognize a real man? (And no, we're not talking about physical abuse here-that's not the subject.) | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:52:03 PM | | Amen, brother! But I can tell you that it is amusing to to be slightly unpleasant to women who are under the impression that men have some kind of mandated obligation to enrich their lives or that particular moment. I'm talking about the parasites who pretend to be God's gift to civilization. One of my favorite sports. (And I'm way more cold than Hot.) | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/29/2009 8:49:04 PM | It also depends on your interpretation of hot. If you don't mean the ones who believe they're "Gods gift to women" - you can find mean actions in both attractive and not so attractive men (and women).
I know several hot (as in very physically attractive) men who are also super nice people and have known several "average looking" men who definitely had a vindictive and mean outlook. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:46:36 AM | | there is a book you need to read, its called tucker max, i hope they serve beer in hell | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:59:06 AM | | Maybe they dont want you think they are interested. That can be hard to convey when you are nice to people. People tend think nice means interest....... When it just being nice. Why do you feel a need to be friends with people based on their looks? I have had whole conversations with men and the only subject they want to talk about is looks (mine). That can be a dull subject at times. And after the first 5 minutes annoying. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:42:26 PM | | Trust me, it's NOT just a "hot guy" thing, lots of "hot" women are that way too, sadly it's a wicked two way street and they are that way because they KNOW they can get nearly anyone anytime they want. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 11/17/2009 11:10:50 AM | I have known lots of hot guys who were actually very nice
and pleasant. I can only think of one who was well known as mean.
I have seen hot guys who were not mean as much as just total douche bags.
Lots of those types around unfortunately. It stems from being a couple of
pliers short of a toolbox. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 11/17/2009 11:21:33 AM | Honey YOU let them... If you want to be used as a doormat...be my guest...
You are important you MUST love yourself MORE...
Darn as far as I am concerned, a person who treats one bad ARE NOT worth MY time I see them for the total losers that they are...
Ps ugly people ALSO can treat a person bad ...that IS if you let them.
Time to LOVE yourself ...
Good luck. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 11/17/2009 4:30:18 PM | ^^^^^
batman I think you got the answer!
A guy can be too mean to be considered hot...or too creepy. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 11/17/2009 5:20:49 PM | My friend and I did a social experiement last summer.. We were 20/21 and both incrediably sick of boys and thier azzhole ways so we tried being b!tchy b!tchy b!tchy (totally against our natural disposition) ..
When talking to people on the phone, we had to be on speaker phone and tell each other what to say. When we went out on dates, we would call each other and give play by plays afterwards and make a plan of attack (not answering till the 5th call, telling them they're boring, asking for things)
We perfected the silence during the car ride, looking out the window and rolling eyes when he asked if something was wrong..
Needless to say.. we had a lot of interest that summer from a lot of boys .. it's like boys like b!tches? Who knew.
It goes both ways. | |
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