| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/4/2008 5:08:05 PM | Hot guys aren't mean in the same way that hot girls aren't mean.
If you had 10 guys a day beating down the door for a chat...you wouldnt have time to chat with the normal guys...you'd chat with the hot ones.
The hot ones after a while find that they have a choice and don't have to work for it...just use the same lines they used with the last 50 chicks.
When you show a flaw...they bolt, sometimes an explanation is required...but they don't have the time for you...have to move to the next one.
What takes work is to recognize character types from their chat.
I had a girl say once that "I dont want to date him because he says exactly what I want to hear". She is now living in a trailer with a mountain man and on welfare, so telling the truth was exactly what I needed to do(whew). Being honest isn't mean, even for us normal guys. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/5/2008 1:22:18 AM | Cause they let their looks go to their heads and become arrogant ***holes.
Well some do.
A lil arrogance is a turn on for me, but yea some go wayyy overboard! | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/5/2008 4:39:49 AM | you know there's just as many hot women that are down right vain ****es.
overly attractive guys and girls alike tend to compensate for their lack of personality with looks, and there are enough women and men that are shallow enough to feed their ego.
but honestly, i've met enough mean/bitter "ugly" women as i've met very nice "hot" women. So really, its a matter of who the person is. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/5/2008 5:19:59 PM | Hi Sister,
Why are hot guys so mean? because they think that they are too good for you. It's dumb, shallow and seriously, take it from me, I'd rather date a geeky computer nerd over a hot cool guy with all the ladies coming on to him ANY DAY. My best advice to you is to be careful what you wish for, the good looking, self-centered guys require daily ego stroking and when they don't get it, whoever they are with becomes old news, fast. Do yourself a favour and thank your lucky stars that you aren't with a "hot" guy, because what makes them hot, often makes them not so hot.
Consider yourself blessed to not have to endure the cheating, lying bull---- that comes with the hot package. And usually, they suck in bed, becasue hot guys like that, are all about themselves.
Just one girls opinion,
K. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/6/2008 8:32:34 AM | It applies to both genders. They're mean because they can be. There'll always be another person around the corner. I'm sure it's been said in the last 9 pages or so.
It makes me bristle when I read yet another topic saying, "Why do guys only want barbies?" or vice-versa. My question to that is, "Why would anyone want a person who's shallow, vain, selfish, and treats them like garbage?" Give me an average girl who's well-rounded and sociable any day over some stuck-up ****y priss who's afraid to break a nail, FFS. I'm having a hard enough time finding the former in the last two years, at any rate.  | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/6/2008 8:01:29 PM | unfortunately, the way to score with many, many, many women is to treat them badly, especially younger women....
and often, a guy learns that with those women, if he treats them well, he will lose their respect, and thus any chance with them...I could point you to a coupla profiles of women who express this eloquently... | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/6/2008 9:06:42 PM | There are just as many "ugly" pricks as there are "hot" ones.
But the hot ones are smart. They know they're hot and they know how to win us.
Women don't want the nice guy.
Nice guys try SO hard to be nice. They're always asking us what we want and when we want it and how we want it, and sure, that can be lovely. But they tip toe around certain subjects, they change their opinions to align with yours and you can bet your bottom dollar they'll be overly submissive in the bedroom.
It's nature..women want the alpha male.
The nice guy isn't going to defend us or fight for us.
You can't avoid the ***holes. All you can do is be a **** right back at him.
And chances are, he'll want you more. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/6/2008 11:12:57 PM | Well from what it looks like, only the physically unattractive people seem to have this issue. Guys will worship the ground than an obscenely hot girl walks on. They will bend over backwards for her and so much more. Same goes for a hot guy and the girls that want him . From my experiences at being called a jerk, and full of myself and etc. It was always a girl that i just wasnt attracted to. And im not the kind of guy who just gives people a false sense of hope/security, ie telling an unattractive girl shes pretty and that i think shes hot. I'm not going to lie about the little things. Girls seem to think that being rejected by a hot guy is the same as being a jerk or a****or**** etc... When its not the case at all. We can't force ourselves to like someone that we have no attraction to. The first thing people notice about the opposite sex is their appearance. Bar none, no one immediately knows everything about another person or anything else. The way you look is what gets peoples attention. So, if an overweight girl tries to pick up or flirt with a guy who is considered by other girls as hot, her chances of getting anywhere with him are slim to non, well unless hes got beer goggles  Most "hot" guys tend to stick to the malibu barbie type look or something similar and will shun the lessers away because like a lot of other guys said in this forum, they do have plenty more women waiting in line. But keep this in mind, some guys are not oh so tactful with getting the hint across that they dont want anything to do with you. Those are just choice words, and sometimes they are hurtful, sometimes not.
Girls can be offended pretty easily when it comes to being shut out by a guy they like and for that matter, the more times girls get shut down by a guy that is hot, the word begins to spread that hot guys are ***holes and jerks and etc.
Don't get me wrong, this whole thing applies to both males and females. Keep in mind that there are girls out there who are down right spiteful ****es and will go to great lengths to make guys feel like shit. So i think this forum title should be changed from why are hot guys so mean to why are hot PEOPLE so mean. It sounds a lot less sexist.
After all, we are all simply animals to begin with and animals will always go for the best of the best. Thats just the way things go. So guys and girls, remember next time you get shut down by someone whos hot, just remember theres always someone hotter out there waiting to put them down, or use them. So don't feel bad, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there is definitely someone for everyone.  | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/7/2008 4:46:13 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^he's got SUCH a point.
I'm sorry, but hot people want the hot people.
It's the truth.
If you're fat and gross, and a Ken doll isn't feelin it..he's not a jerk. He just wants his Barbie. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/7/2008 9:24:41 PM |
because, they know that no matter what they do or say...the women will fall for them anyway.....period.
Oh wow. this is just pure ignorance talking. no offense.
Women fall for them BECAUSE they are ***holes. being an ***hole is an alpha-male charictoristic and thus they are more sexually desireable and atractive to women.
I have been complemented on my looks from probably a hundred people, but alas, I havent slept with even close to the # that some of my less-good looking friends have. (not that that is what I am after, but its a nice easy objective measure) Why? Because looks are a very small part of what women find attractive. The big part is alpha-male attitude. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2008 10:31:47 PM | | Agreed on the alphamale attitude. I am a pretty sarcastic guy myself, and with that comes the never ending supply of smart remarks and the such. However, its usually out of humor more than trying to be a jerk. and like i said, people seem to be easily offended these days. Not the case with me, i have pretty thick skin for the shit that people say here lately. I can brush a lot off too, and when a girl has a conversation with you and sees this particular attitude they just go for it for some reason. No one likes a push over or someone you can walk all over. But there are limits to this sort of behavior too. You cant just go and be sooo sarcastic and mean that you make others feel like they are worthless. Girls just seem to like the tough, dont take no shit off of anyone type attitude. Never could figure out why. But its tested and proven. Im a pretty nice guy besides being sarcastic. And from what ive seen everytime ive tried to be just the *nice* guy, ive been dragged through the dirt. But the times i didnt return calls or just caught myself in a moodswing and was kind of a jerk to a girl on the phone, i couldnt seem to get rid of them. Not trying to say this is a *how to get a girl to want you tactic* Its just something that i have observed. Thus, the goodlooking guys just act like they dont care and presto they have a really hot girl like breaking down their door wanting to know what is so wrong with them that this guy seems like hes not interested in them. Its a huge mind game really. You just gotta know how to play it. Thats really all it is. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 7:28:56 AM | I see while I've been gone the self apologists have returned to explain to us all it's just human nature and bitterness. Ahh the exuberance of youth.
The hot people want the hot people and thats the way it should be because they are hot whats wrong with you all. Summarizes this mentality.. Which goes back to my point about laziness and belief of entitlement. Someone by virtue of what is currently considered attractive *and that is not universal nor constant in history by the way its very much a societal issue* is some how better or more deserving then others. It's a completely false and laughable viewpoint if one stops to think about it but why think about it if it works for your own advantage. Until of course it doesn't.
There is no such "alphamale" trait as ***hole or jerk, thats just stupid person excuse for "exciting and interesting" which is equally known as Darwin in nature such people would either kill themselves off for terminal stupidity or grow up and realize that all which glitters is not gold,, and that which cares more for its self then its companions is not a healthy person to remain near.
Much as the same lass shows ignorance that believing someone acting like a jerk to attract a mate or someone acting nice are equally not a jerk nor nice and both are just manipulating what they percieve to work. Or believing that nice=submissive. It's just easier to label then it is to think about what is vs what you've been told. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 9:08:33 AM | OP, Not all beautiful people are mean. Some are insecure with themselves and feel objectified. Some feel diminished based on appearance alone. Some are narcissists, some sociopathic. S0me are just very very immature. This isnt just men. Women can be similar.
Jus sucks when people are mean. Mean and judgmental people suck! | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 2:00:48 PM | FireKnight...I think you're lying to yourself.
Nice DOES equal submissive.
and YES, ***hole is prettymuch a trait women instinctively look for. Are YOU a woman?! Because I am. and I've talked to a LOT of women about this.
And actually, you SHOULD care more about yourself than your companions. You gotta put that oxygen mask on yourself before you help the child sitting next to you when the plane is going down. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 2:49:05 PM |
FireKnight...I think you're lying to yourself.
Laugh, Well you can think that all you like lass, but you've a very long way before you'ld be qualified to change from thought to realization or knowledge :). You lack much experience in life to be able to know of what you speak. I don't have the luxury of self denial lass and so I don't waste my time with it.
Nice DOES equal submissive.
Nice DOESN'T equal submissive. Manipulative believe it or not equals submissive. In order to get what it is one perceives they want one changes to meet the perceived need.
Very little translates into the bedroom I have seen many a thing you would never imagine as to how one acts in public daily life and private life.
Nice when it truly is nice merely is respectful, courteous, etc until there is reason not to be. Manners, courtesy, chivalry were all means by which true "alphas" as you would call them would prevent unnecessary bloodshed. The immature "***hole" that you confuse as alphas are just essentially apes lacking evolution and ability. I think it was more timely explained in the movie RoadHouse
Dalton: People who really want to have a good time won't come to a slaughterhouse. And we've got entirely too many troublemakers here. Too many 40-year-old adolescents, felons, power drinkers and trustees of modern chemistry.
Dalton: If somebody gets in your face and calls you a****ucker, I want you to be nice. Ask him to walk. Be nice. If he won't walk, walk him. But be nice. If you can't walk him, one of the others will help you, and you'll both be nice. I want you to remember that it's a job. It's nothing personal.
Dalton: I want you to be nice until it's time to not be nice.
Steve: Being called a****ucker isn't personal?
Dalton: No. It's two nouns combined to elicit a prescribed response.
It takes far more discipline to be nice then it does to fly off the handle and look tuff, more often then not tuff winds up on the ground with nice offering the hand back up.
and YES, ***hole is prettymuch a trait women instinctively look for. Are YOU a woman?! Because I am. and I've talked to a LOT of women about this.
No obviously (laugh) I am not a woman. I am the one who officially cleans up the messes more often then not. If you want to talk to a LOT of women I suggest you talk less to girls and young women and instead visit the shelters and talk to them. If you are looking for the ***hole trait instinctively your in for A LOT more trouble then you can handle lass :).
And actually, you SHOULD care more about yourself than your companions. You gotta put that oxygen mask on yourself before you help the child sitting next to you when the plane is going down.
No you should act to secure your own ability to act and you should care for yourself. However when it comes to the choice of action do you want the person who saves themselves by sacrificing you? We aren't discussing the oxygen mask, we are discussing who will actually stand for you, or the one who throws you into the fight so they can run away. Trust me when I tell you more often then you will ever know your "tough alpha"will throw you into the fight.
You still see things through eyes unopened to the world. Walk a few miles in my shoes before you think you have the answers on relationships LOL. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 3:03:05 PM | | That's exactly why, cause they know they're too good for everyone! Same goes for hot girls. That's the way the world is, attractive people are spoiled, snobby jerks and unattractive people are approachable. We guys are just as confused as you are, believe me | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 4:43:51 PM | Forum trolls exist everywhere, however your definition of them appears to be mistaken. Forum trolls post one-liners, don't have reasons for their positions and don't engage in dialog, but rather maintain "I'm right your wrong" no matter in light of what evidence is presented.
What's actually nice about this thread is that for the most part it's been relatively troll free. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 6:14:46 PM | | Sadly a lot of people are stuck up and full of themselves. Not every "hot guy" is mean, or a prick. However, in a society where looks are so talked about and focused on, it's hard for many people not to be consumed by their egos. You just need to find a person who is truly in touch with themselves and others.. who is fair and kind. That comes from a good upbringing. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/8/2008 10:18:02 PM | | This is really stupid and off base. I have met many guys (and girls) who were very good looking and were absolutely wonderful people. My ex wife was a blond bombshell and she was the most giving, caring, kind person on earth. People have told me I'm very good looking since I was 15 and I am as humble of a person as you will ever meet. Conversely, I have met many, many people who were not attractive in the least and they were just awful people inside. Behavior is much more about how you were raised than how you look. Way too many variable factors at play here to generalize that if you are a good looking person you are mean....way off base. People who have a problem with good looking people actually only have a problem with themselves. But it's easier to say that someone else is just bad. Think about it. | |
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| why are hot guys so mean ????
Posted: 12/9/2008 6:06:24 AM | | I know alot of pretty girls who are ****es. Guys? Other than high school when they all thought they were cool but they weren't, most of the guys I know good looking or not are pretty decent. But the girls can be real ****S! If they are, they are covering up for some insecurity or some inadequacy. There's no reason for someone who is good looking....anyone rather to be a mean and hurtful person. If you are, then all your external beauty fades instantly. tell that to your hunky friends! | |
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