| | What should i do?Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | What you are doing is wrong on many levels. No one just becomes interested in another girl while with someone else for 2 years. Does she snore? Do you snore? Are you messy or is she? Do you two fight a lot? Not much to go on here except for the fact that your name is on the lease and if is up in 6 months, I suggest you spend the rest of it on the couch.
Also, does she know you are going to bail on her? Some people live with their heads in the clouds and are none the wiser to what their SO is up to.
IMO, you can't handle being responsible and your only escape is to run into the arms of another person who doesn't even know that she is the object of your affection. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2009 2:16:01 PM | | be honest - tell her how you're feeling, ask her what she'd like to do | |
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Posted: 11/19/2009 2:23:34 PM | " I didnt actully fool around on her like i said that i was interested "
I give you credit for not cheating on her. Cheating damages the one that you cheat on.
And saying that you were interested... I am interested in winning the lottery. But I don't buy tickets. So I'm not THAT interested.. and you no more cheated on your G/F than I played the Lottery : )
What should you do... weigh it out.
But please know this.. sometimes the grass is not as green on the other side of the fence as it looks. And the G/F that you have... might not know how to open up to you about why things aren't as great as they were when U both signed the lease. YOU might have those same communication issues.
Please treat your G/F the way that you would like to be treated in the future. Karma can be a b*tch : )
And a lot of women want what the other woman already HAS. You might have some weighing and balancing of things that you need to do. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2009 2:27:30 PM | " Or find another job. Leases by law have to allow you to leave if your next employer is closer to your new "home". "
I'm not a Lawyer. Not now, not ever. And I don't dispense Legal Advice. To the best of my knowledge, there's no standardization of Legal advice regarding Leases, in every city, in every state. And the OP needs to read this before he might possibly act on what you assume is the universal law!
What should the OP do ? If I were him, I would talk to the Land Lord in confidentiality, and ask what their policy is...he should be informed of ALL of his options. Including getting back together with the woman he signed the lease with, if that's what's best for both of them. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 12:55:42 AM | | Sounds like you might have to stick it out for another 6 months, especially if it's a legal contract. Maybe by the time the lease is up, she will have a better idea that you are not interested anymore, if you play your cards right and cool down more and more. You have 6 months to slowly give her the hint that you are not interested, then it will make it a bit easier for you to leave. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 1:11:32 AM |
Sounds like you might have to stick it out for another 6 months, especially if it's a legal contract. Maybe by the time the lease is up, she will have a better idea that you are not interested anymore, if you play your cards right and cool down more and more. You have 6 months to slowly give her the hint that you are not interested, then it will make it a bit easier for you to leave.
Okay, no, don't do that. That's messed up. So many guys do this to make themselves not feel like a bad guy, meanwhile the woman is well aware of the fact that his feelings have changed and he just won't admit it, so she goes round and round in her head and wonders what she did wrong and hopes against hope that things will change and she can make it better because he says that nothing is wrong. Do not lead her along for six months so you won't look like the bad guy. That's what would MAKE you the bad guy. It's not all about what would be "easier for YOU". God! Selfish, selfish people everywhere! Be honest NOW. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 1:31:47 AM | Honesty is the always the Key. If you don't have "a whole lot of feeling" left for your GF you should tell her. Otherwise you would be lying to her and using her. If you care about her and the time you spent together, you can lead her on. Out of respect of the relationship you guys had, she deserves to know the truth. Just put yourself in her shoes and think how it would make you feel if someone you are with isn't in love with you anymore but decides not to tell you till 6 months later for their own benefit?
You are young bro, and you want to do the right thing. If you start lying now, it will become a habit later in other relationships and what goes around comes around and it could be done to you too.
Talk to her, be honest. In the end, she will appreciate it your honesty and not willing to hurt her by hiding your feeling for 6 months. Whatever happens, at least you are taking the right steps towards a healthy relationship in the future.
HONESTY & COMMUNICATION will always be the correct way to go. Good luck my friend and respect your partners as you want to be respected. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 3:37:33 AM | | Sounds like you screwed yourself well. Be your own man and learn from your current mistake. Dont put yourself in a position of compromise. Be glad . . . very glad your situation is so minor. If you were a Dad and had children by a woman you didnt love or like and had to pay alimony, govt fees, a divorce, and child support for 18 years then you would be far worse off. Wise up before you get there . . . . think or you will pay dearly for thoughtlessness. | |
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Savona
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Posted: 11/26/2009 7:43:15 AM | OP maybe you should grow a pair and tell your girlfriend what is going on. Ohhh I know its better to keep her in the wings while you get to know the new miss first.
Maybe your girlfriend will kick you ass right to the curb and all your troubles will be solved. Maybe he has seen a few men around campus and thought they were interesting but never chatted them up because she was with you and now she will have a chance to meet a man with more integrity.
Savona | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 7:54:37 AM | You signed a lease. You made a commitment.
A real man will stick out to the end of the lease and keep his promises.
A jerk would just walk.
A weasel would try to get someone else to carry out the rest of the lease letting you chase the new shiny toy.
Your call. It says a lot about the kind of person you are. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 11:16:40 AM | OP why not just tell her you're not interested in a romantic relationship with her anymore and give her the option to;
1. continue living together for the remainder of the lease as "roommates"
2. offer to move out and she can assume the remainder of the lease by herself.
I would be honest with her either way and let her know how you're feeling.
Good luck  | |
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Posted: 11/28/2009 6:08:07 PM | | just change the relationship from boyfriend/girlfriend to roommates...you can go out on her and she can go out on you...that is the only logical way to go..... | |
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Posted: 11/28/2009 6:13:10 PM | | I like startle's idea. lol Its viable. The irony is that she is not stupid and at some level she gets it. She may be well ahead of you. Now wouldn't that be interesting? | |
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Posted: 11/28/2009 6:13:35 PM | Tell your room-mate/GF exactly how you feel, begin to cool the relationship down, maintain your morals and the lease contractually, and eventually you can begin to be platonic friends with your roomie and perhaps date the new chick.
If you're upfront and honest and decent karma may not kick your azz.
Good luck with that. | |
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