|How and when do you know when you're with the one you wanna settle down with?Page 3 of 3 (1, 2, 3)|
If you have to ask then it isnt the right person. Geez . . .that sounds like common sense . . .I have to stop giving clueless people common sense !!!!!
haha, well, I appreciate the common sense, anyway. I really did need it. It's not just his doubt that was so confusing for me. I felt he put his own wants and needs before mine most of the time, and he didn't even try to understand mine, let alone satisfy them... most of the time. My spirit was constantly struggling to be patient, calm, understanding of him, but I felt like the relationship was all about him, and I was just waiting to see if anything would change... hoping that maybe if he developed stronger feelings for me after seeing me try as hard as I was trying then he would show me the consideration and support I need in a relationship. If we can't be there for each other, be a shoulder for one another to lean on from time to time, then what's the point?
My self-confidence has taken a beating from this guy. Everything was about him. We talked, we hung out... when it was convenient for him--when HE was in the mood for it. And I tried to be patient and understanding, but I need some of that in return... He actually complicates my life, and makes me feel more complicated than I ever felt before.
I'm still fighting with my feelings because I still love him and want to be with him, but I don't see why I should struggle or fight or submit to his needs without him fulfilling any of mine. Relationships should be a two-way street, with both people caring for each other equally and showing love, understanding, support and appreciation for each other. Him and I just don't have that. I know I'll miss him. And I know I'll be sad. And I know I'll be very lonely without him.... but I can't say I didn't try. And I'll be proud of myself for sticking to a difficult decision that will, hopefully, make me a better person for being strong and for making myself available to find the love I desire, rather than morphing and suppressing myself trying to be the one he'll love.
He may not love me. But I love myself, and it's time I start showing it.