| | Would you have a relationship outside your race?Page 3 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | I personally just don't find many of the black women I see attractive to me. So I tend to date white and hispanic women. I've seen some beautiful asian and middle eastern women but most of the ones I met won't even consider it because of their strict families.
And that's their decision and that's fine too. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 5/23/2012 7:37:29 AM | | Definitely would! Aside from the obvious issues of perhaps major cultural or religious incompatibility I'd jump at the opportunity. When I worked at a uni I made some great friends with students of both genders from many different countries. Aside from anything else we'd have plenty to talk about. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/8/2012 5:32:05 AM | In all honesty, you need to do a lot of homework and research on the culture and lots of conversations and expectations of future scenarios.... and to be honest how the prospective in laws handle it and same.
My brother married a Greek lady who was first gen Australian. at first the disaproval of the family they ignored.
When their sons were born and not circumcised and baptised into greek orthodox the families dissaproval grew to ignoring... then they started throwing holy water on my brother when they visited.. which ended up ceasing all contact so his wife naturally is brokenhearted and putting the marriage on extreme levels of stress.
Cant expect any issue to "work itself out" and you need to look at all possiblities.. and nut it out.. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/8/2012 7:44:44 AM | | A relationship outside my "race"? I am a child of many races and cultures. My family, on both parents' sides, were travelers and settlers in many parts of the world. I am glad of that, because I lack the insularity of Anglo-Saxons. Vive la inter-racial relationships! True to family tradition, I've had several relationships outside the races that have contributed to the making of me. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/8/2012 11:02:40 PM | being of German back ground and a Christian I never thought I would face race/religion issues....
WELL...
I met a lovely guy who was an orthodox Jew with German background too (all good we had lots in common due to our German heritage etc...and got along really well)
BUT...
his family and his faith would not accept me, he would have been ostracized
so we decided to just remained friends, he knows he can call on me anytime if he needs me.
race isnt an issue for me, and I respect him and his values/beliefs and accepted we could only be friends. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/9/2012 2:23:15 AM | | The question was about RACE... I have no isssues with that but certain cultural and strictly religious ones I may well have. It would be something that I would have to weigh up on an individual basis. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/10/2012 4:28:57 AM | Maybe race and culture are so very intertwined....my apologies if I have gone on the wrong tangent.
I personally have no problem with inter racial love and togetherness, but I have seen of course associated issues stemming from it.
I guess why some people object is because some issues can be raised out of an interraccial union with chidren.
But as long as they are dealt with maturely and sensibly, .. it should be ok. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/10/2012 5:48:28 AM | MikeDownUnder wrote:
I don't understand the question, it does not compute.....
and also:
Are we talking about race or culture here?
Mike, the question is asking would you date someone who was not of the same race as yourself. For example, would a white Anglo Saxon date an Afro-American. The issues of culture and acceptance of a different skin colour into your family and community are issues being considered. So is personal taste and attraction.
I hope this has helped you. Please private message me if you need anymore clarification. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/10/2012 7:24:01 AM |
Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Perhaps huge cultural, political, or religious, differences might be problematic depending on the motivation of the two people concerned.
But it's not possible to "have a relationship outside your race", since there is only one. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/10/2012 8:12:35 AM |
But it's not possible to "have a relationship outside your race", since there is only one.
Is it that there is definitely just one race, or that we just don't have any objective reason to choose the particular division of genetic diversity in the way that leads to traditional 'races'? Didn't Witherspoon et al. say that the result of any such 'racial' study would depend on the way the variously sampled genetic information is applied to the population groups studied, with anything possible from one 'race' to multitudes of individual family 'races' depending on the arbitrary dilineation of 'clusters' in the sample population...?
Regardless of the problem of objective scientific measurement, wouldn't it depend on your definition of 'race' such that if it were a mere subjective and relative description like 'tall' or 'short' then groupings of arbitrary 'clusters' loosly matching traditional 'racial' delineation may still be a useable social description (though not necessarily an objective scientific description)? Perhaps the term is used in the former sense in the phrase "have a relationship outside your race" and is yet valid for this purpose as a linguistic tool.
For example, to say that a missing person is of 'middle-eastern appearance' may not be scientifically correct, but still communicates the approximate subjective idea in a couple of words what would otherwise take many sentences to describe. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/11/2012 2:19:50 AM |
But it's not possible to "have a relationship outside your race", since there is only one. Is it that there is definitely just one race, or that we just don't have any objective reason to choose the particular division of genetic diversity in the way that leads to traditional 'races'? Didn't Witherspoon et al. say that the result of any such 'racial' study would depend on the way the variously sampled genetic information is applied to the population groups studied, with anything possible from one 'race' to multitudes of individual family 'races' depending on the arbitrary dilineation of 'clusters' in the sample population...?
Sure, which kind of undermines the concept to the point of meaninglessness, hence their advice to be cautious in interpretations (and labeling) of allegedly genetically related 'population groups'. Witherspoon et.al. went further though and pointed out that regardless of whatever arbitrary boundaries are applied there will be significant numbers of any one group who will be more dissimilar (genetically) to members of their own 'group' than they might be to a member, or members, of any other group. Which kind of undermines the concept of 'group'.
Regardless of the problem of objective scientific measurement, wouldn't it depend on your definition of 'race' such that if it were a mere subjective and relative description like 'tall' or 'short' then groupings of arbitrary 'clusters' loosly matching traditional 'racial' delineation may still be a useable social description (though not necessarily an objective scientific description)? Perhaps the term is used in the former sense in the phrase "have a relationship outside your race" and is yet valid for this purpose as a linguistic tool.
The only validity the term has is as a "social description", a somewhat distasteful one considering its (fairly recent) origins and past uses.
I don't agree that that confers linguistic validity though, it seems more an incorrect usage than a correct one since there is a dissonance in (capital L) linguistic terms between the beginning of the thread title sentence and the end.
Not only are such (negative) connotations missing from words like 'tall' or 'short', those two words do actually have meaning, albeit relative and subjective.
Definitions are key here, and while none (of taxonomic value) is generally forthcoming for 'race' (as applied to homo sapiens), it is possible to create definitions of 'tall' and 'short' by plotting population groups on a graph - the likely outcome is the familiar 'bell curve' - illustrating no particular boundaries (other than upper and lower limits) and that most people are (inevitably) pretty average.
For example, to say that a missing person is of 'middle-eastern appearance' may not be scientifically correct, but still communicates the approximate subjective idea in a couple of words what would otherwise take many sentences to describe.
To say that someone is of "middle-eastern appearance" is not necessarily a 'racial' description - it describes apparent ethnicity - one should be aware though that appearances can be deceiving.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Jean_Charles_de_Menezes | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/11/2012 4:19:32 AM |
Mike, the question is asking would you date someone who was not of the same race as yourself. For example, would a white Anglo Saxon date an Afro-American. The issues of culture and acceptance of a different skin colour into your family and community are issues being considered. So is personal taste and attraction.
Race often gets confused with culture... they are not the same thing. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/11/2012 5:13:44 AM | Sorry guys n dolls ... I am gonna have to play the Bill n Ted card yet again
" Treat each other most excellently, Dudes " ..... Man that just fits everywhere dont it ? | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:28:02 PM | HappyRocker wrote:
How about outside your own species...
Do you remember that series from the 70's called "Lassie?" I reckon that collie with a dash of cherry red lip gloss and some eye liner...... | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/20/2012 2:16:25 AM | Shakespeare had some interesting comments to make on this question...
Haply, for I am black,
And have not those soft parts of conversation
That chambers have, or for I am declin'd
Into the vale of years (yet that's not much),
She's gone. I am abus'd, and my relief
Must be to loathe her. O curse of marriage!
Othello Act 3, scene 3, 263–268
Of course none of these doubts are true, but are all fabricated by Iago to prey on Othellos emotional and logical weaknesses. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/20/2012 5:40:30 PM | | I would not have a problem dating someone outside of my race. I find that the color of one's skin does not matter to me, all that matters is that you treat me with respect. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/20/2012 7:03:46 PM | After all is said and done, it's not even about race. It's about the accepted behaviour of the culture. What is acceptable to and normal to some is not always to others. So imagine you bring home an aborigine to show of to mum and dad. Generally speaking when you enter into a relationship with someone, you are taking into that relationship their extended family, and social circle.
If you are okay with a tribe of inlaws roasting a goanna on your living room floor and asking your mummy and daddy for smokes or money to by beer...then all the power to you. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/20/2012 7:15:25 PM | Way to play to 'stereotypes' GuessWhat...
Culturally as a country, I think most people have evolved a little further than that--
Race is not as big an issue for me, as someone being closed minded or bigoted. | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/20/2012 7:50:16 PM | Effie wrote:
Way to play to 'stereotypes' GuessWhat...
Culturally as a country, I think most people have evolved a little further than that--
Race is not as big an issue for me, as someone being closed minded or bigoted
Yes I hear what you're saying. I regret all those times I have been called a "white c##t" because I refused to give a total stranger a cigarrete or money for alcohol. Just calling me the latter would have been fine...I already know I'm white.
A family friend which we have known for decades married a Philippino woman. Next you know, the relatives are being imported from the Philippines one after the other, year after year, until over two dozen have arrived to date. And take a wild guess who they lived with and who sponsored them while they were getting started. And yes he had a huge greasy mark on his carpet as the whole clan used to put their food on the floor and share it communally. Appears attracting new cultures also attracts home renovations.
And Effie...its only stereotyping and generalizing if it isn't true. When it is true, it's called an "observation."
BTW....what's a cutie like you doing in a place like this....on a Saturday afternoon I mean ? | |
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| Would you have a relationship outside your race?
Posted: 7/20/2012 11:15:12 PM |
....its only stereotyping and generalizing if it isn't true. When it is true, it's called an "observation."
And when it's an alleged personal anecdote or made up apocryphal story designed to confirm a pre-existing bias it's called laughable. | |
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