| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/9/2008 11:44:09 AM |
It's painfully obvious that the folks at eHarmony (more like eHARM!!) are not really concerned with helping people find happiness; their main aim is making money, by whatever means necessary.
I really hate to break this to you, but NO personals site is actually interested in you meeting someone. In fact, if you think about it, that's the LAST thing they want you to do, because if you find the "love of your life", you leave the site, and they lose your money.
Its ALL about money. There are so many people who want to find love so badly that they will do anything for it. As for me, if someone could actually find the perfect mate for me if I would pay them $1,000, I'd be willing to pay it. All personals sites exist because they make money. POF is free, but they get money from advertisers. But POF isn't a company like Yahoo or eHarmony, and advertising probably doesn't bring those companies as much profit. Or maybe it DOES bring them as much profit, but they are so greedy that they decided to charge you, too, and get the revenue coming in from two sources instead of just one. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 3:31:37 AM |
I have been on many sites and I have to say that one (e-harmony) has to be the worst! 98% were scammers.
I had a very good experience with my 2 years on e-Harmony. But consider this: If a person goes to a paid site as a scammer, how is that the site's fault? You think there aren't scammers on POF? You think there aren't liars here, too? The only difference is that POF is free to the end-user and pays Marcus $10 million a year for the priviledge. In fact, if you look carefully, you will find and add on POF that accuses POF of being a rip-off!
Any dating site is what you make it. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 6:52:47 AM | | It was a couple years ago when I filled out eHarmony's questionnaire and got the oh-so-nice Dear John (or, perhaps in my case, Dear Jane) letter saying "We are unable to match you at this time... 20% of people won't benefit from our service." Perhaps I was underage when I took the questionnaire because eHarmony doesn't allow anyone under 21 to use the service. Sure, I felt bad and thought that no one would ever love me, but I decided to try some other dating sites, particularly True, eSpin, and Match among others before trying POF, and I've had a pretty good experience. (My profiles on True and POF are both hidden at this time.) So I don't really care what eHarmony thinks. Plus, I like that everything about this service is free. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 7:24:25 AM | oh and stay away fro their sister site Compatibility Plus. Claims they are more forgiving a about peoples quirks . Excuse me ? They even make fun of the fact E-harm is too ridged
Stay away from Match. Too many game players and criminals on that site also any spin offs of Adult Friend Finder . Twice this year people have been convicted of grand thief and being on the run from a case of murder | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 8:04:18 AM | I havent viewed/ joined any dating site on the Net that has not enticed ...lol.....me into filling out a profile using the lure of the " free " word...except POF.
Every site i've ever been tempted to view has the tempting " free " word but...lol.....always a but eh......if you want to email / IM / message / contact etc etc....you get my drift.....then its cash wanted.
Whether it is this plan , that plan , or the other plan.....its part with cash.
They even send you an " email " from lilynonickers who is desperate to meet you...!!
Of course to reply........you have to be a........fill this in.......lol.....!!
They all cash cows.....feeding on the feelings of ordinary folk such as us. :frustrated:  | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 8:37:18 AM | Good advice. There have been class action suits against eHarmony and also Yahoo and Match for this and other types of consumer bilking, fraud, discrimination etc.
Many sites have 'dead' people on them. These are people who signed up for the service before Y2K and whose stated age doesn't roll over every year. As a result the 40 year old whose picture you see posted is now 50, or married, or dead, or no longer a virgin..
The only way we can change the behaviour of these sites (without going to court) is to boycott them by NEVER filing in their 'application forms' (they store your data and can alter it or resell it under 'terms and conditions').
I think this analogy is valid. "Even if you do buy Brand X at the supermarket why would you pay for it from a checkout girl who wore a bag over her head and refused to speak to you?"
That defines the behaviour of most personals sites. You have to remember that even though you're dealing with such companies at arm's length, you still have the right of choice. As a consumer, you should not allow such sites to disenfranchise you. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 8:45:07 AM | I did one of those 'free communication' weekends with eHarmony, and found someone who was just about everything I was looking for (found through the masses of men who were definately not...it asks about height-not important to very important- and I, being about 6'0", said "very important"....the average height I got "mached" with was around 5'5"...)
So I started talking to this guy and we exchanged phone numbers and had arranged to meet... Before I go furthur, I want to inform you that I'm straight edge... if I'm holding your hand and we're a fairly new couple, you're lucky.
THEN the REAL personality of this moron came out! I was asked a lot of rude questions which I kind of laughed off (he asked what I was wearing... it was 14:00/2:00pm...I'm generally fully clothed at this time). Then he told me that when we meet for icecream, that he was going to kiss me between icecream licks... when I objected (I dont' generally kiss anyone on the first date, let alone first meeting!), he told me not to be so 'uptight' and that 'it'll be ok' and that after our date we should go back to his place... and well it ended with 'future me' with cum on my face on video.
I'm loving the way the questionnaires worked on eHarmony... Stay clear of eHarmony | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 9:12:38 AM | Finally....someone has gotten a message out about eHarmony where everyone can see. They wouldn't even let me sign up! Amazing since I have four university degrees, work presently as a teacher, own my home, and do lots of charitable work. Now what part of that do they find despicable? I have friends who have heard bad stories about eHarmony.
The other one to stay away from is CHEMISTRY.COM. They took my money and fixed me up with two men from my area. The one was suitable but never replied. The other smoked and had no formal education. both being points I stressed in my profile. When I contacted them about how unhappy I was with their service, I was told to expand my settings. As a joke, I set my distance to 800 miles with them fixing me up with men way too old for me.
Moral of the story.....don't waste your money on either eHarmony or Chemistry.Com. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 9:39:16 AM | thanks designingwoman and everyone else for reminding me that dis harmony is a waste of time. I tried it twice and was almost ready to try it again.....thought maybe the third time would be the charm, (yes, I was also told for a while that they couldn't find any matches for me either)
but the worst scenario, was when I was matched with a guy who I had danced with occassionally at the singles' dances.....I thought....wow, this is good....I already have met this guy.......and he always seemed to be interested in dancing with me............then, when I got his rejection......what reason do you think he stated??? That there was NO chemistry!!!!! I don't need to be TOLD that!!!!
at least on this site, guys just fade away gracefully!!!! | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:52:40 AM | The therory behind eharmony and all other sites using "personality testing" is sound but in practice it fails miserably.
I was dating this shrink once and she told me that it all depended on your state of mind. When you were happy and in a good place in your life (just got a big promotion, the hottie at starbucks flirted with you etc.) you answer one way and therefore get one set of responses. When you are in a bad place (just out of an ugly relationship) you answer entirely differently and therefore get an entirely different set of responses.
After we broke up I tested her comments three times over two years and she was right. I did get three entirely different sets of results.
So, if your results vary based on your emotional state at the time of the "test" then this must also hold true for the people you are being matched with. If your match took their test on an exceptionally good day and you take yours at a very low point, eharmony may be able to match you but that doesn't mean you are compatible.
It only works when both parties are in an emotionally healthy and stable place in their lives... a place where the results will not change over the course of a year.
This applies equally to all those personality tests... even the ones on POF (which are horribly inaccurate to begin with!). | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/12/2008 6:00:04 AM | | I want to thank you for your advice, it is well recieved. It is a shame what they did to you and I have experienced the same from other sites. Don't you wish we had accessibility to their book keeping.The enthusiastic passionate progression should riffle though out the dating system to intercede for each other, to say we won't take it. Persverie my friend. There is a better happening somewhere else good luck. Doc | |
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kool4u
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Joined: 5/1/2008
Msg: 364 | |
| Ode to Glaswegian women!
Posted: 7/13/2008 7:53:58 AM |
Generalaized troll rant pulled - no basis - no merrit.
Moderator/POF | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/13/2008 9:26:51 AM | You know...while this ould be or not be a laughing matter....I have heard from different friends that eharmony actually REJECTS some profiles if they do not meet their EXPECTATIONS!!! Now how rude/stupid is that??  | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/13/2008 10:02:45 AM |
Stay away from Match. Too many game players and criminals on that site also any spin offs of Adult Friend Finder . Twice this year people have been convicted of grand thief and being on the run from a case of murder
I dont think Match is a spin off of American Friend Finder.. but American Singles is
Regarding match, I know of7 couples who met and married through match, and chemistry.com their partner site so I dont think they are all that bad.. However my problem with match was I wasted my membership because they kept rejecting every main profile pic I chose, kept on placing it as my second and third pic and leaving my main pic blank. The pics werent vulgar or anything , but match kept on saying it wasnt a head shot, which it was.. very frustrating to pay money,have no main profile pic, which gets people to look at your profile, but have 10 alternate pics when you click on the profile | |
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PAWS17
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Joined: 4/27/2008
Msg: 367 | |
| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 7/13/2008 10:14:30 AM | | I totally agree. I hung in there with them and had over 500 matches? and only met one. Saw him for about 6 months. Most never responded or I didn't qualify. Have seen many on here that have been on other sites. Free is better | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 8:32:32 AM | I filled out the questionnaire on eHarmony the other day, and I was immediately matched with 7 profiles...7 ridiculously similar profiles. Here's how each of them described themselves:
Dave, Ken & Reg: "I strive to understand other people's points of view."
John & Paul: "I am creative; I am able to express myself in unique ways (e.g., words, music, art)."
Brian #1 & Dave: "I tend to think "outside the box".
Ken: "It's important for me to create romance in a relationship, and to keep physically fit."
Paul & Brian #2: "It's important for me to take time to 'smell the roses', and to keep physically fit."
John & Dave : "It's important for me to create romance in a relationship, and to take time to 'smell the roses'."
Now am I missing something here? Are the "about me sections" presumably written by the people themselves, or does eHarmony shuffle in these stock phrases? Are there actual people behind these profiles, or is it all just smoke & mirrors? | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 9/14/2008 8:52:10 AM |
I have heard from different friends that eharmony actually REJECTS some profiles if they do not meet their EXPECTATIONS!!! Now how rude/stupid is that??
I'm nothing special, and my profile was accepted. I'd guess that they screen out drug users, those who are unemployed, and those who have issues controlling their anger.
I see two bad things with e-Harmony. Number one, you not only have to be a subscriber to contact someone, but you have to also be a subscriber to reply, which I have to admit that ALL pay sites have seemed to start doing (Yahoo didn't do that two years ago when I used it, but they do now). And secondly, you can't browse through listings at e-Harmony. There's no way to know if there's 100 single people in your area, or none at all. Oh, and I guess there's a third thing: They have something called "identity verification" where they charge you just under $6 just to confirm your identity IF YOU SUBSCRIBE TO THEIR SITE OR NOT. So I guess that's three strikes.
Anyone see their commercial where some woman is talking about all the fun she has sorting through her matches and deciding who to go out with? I was matched with one person in two months.  And THAT wasn't someone I wanted to go out with. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 9/14/2008 9:29:41 AM | | I understand EHarmony does not work with same sex matches, they say because there is no data to help them set up the same kind of matching criteria. The founder is a conservative fellow, I have read. Well, I am straight but it just may be a phase. I will not support prejudiced enterprises. I'm sure I could take that to the next level and it would rule out most of what I now participate in, but we all have our lines in the sand we are comfortable with. That's my line. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 9/14/2008 9:29:56 AM | | It's actually not a christian website. Once research is done they have several people working for them that dont even believe in God. They are also encouraging gay hook ups and marriage and one night stands. Although once begun as a christian web site they clearly aren't now. It is expensive and a waste of time. It made me feel like I was the one of the few left single in the world and that the only ones left to match me with were across the United States and completely not what I requested on my profile. It sucks all the way around. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 9:35:57 AM | | I too requested that height be very important because I am 5'7 and all but one of my matches were average of 5'5. Come on! Before this site I thought I was wanting something crazy to want someone I can wear my hills with ! | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 9/14/2008 10:07:31 AM | | eharmony said I was one of the 5% they couldnt match with anyone. Turns out, they are a christian site and I said Im not religious. Therefore was the problem Im sure. | |
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| eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!!
Posted: 9/14/2008 10:30:57 AM | Don't even get me going on eHarmony.............
Every time I see one of their commercials I want to puke all over myself
My issue with them was this.....................I went through the LONG, LONG process of filling out their form............only to get to the end, and be told "Sorry - we do not accept members who are separated"
This was like their 2nd or 3rd question of a 'brazillion'...................then why in the sam-hill could they not have come back with an automatic response THEN...............
I know why.................beause one of the last questions they ask is for your e-mail address.
To this day (ove a year after the fact) I STILL get e-mails from eHarmony....................
I fired of a not so lady-like e-mail...........can't imagine WHY I've not had a response from them......................... | |
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