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Posted: 9/21/2008 5:33:49 AM | Ya I agree! I did a free weekend trial of eHarmony and I didn't like the idea of pre-set messages or you can only ask them certain questions. Plus it's like continuous blind dating cuz you can't see anyone's pics til you send them x-amount of e-mails or messages or whatever... and I am not generally a patient person. I like this site much better and I'm hoping to find some good fish again soon  | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 6:32:26 AM | btw, if POF is such a bad site for you why are you still on it?
Many of us are on POF for the forums.
if you had such a great relationship from e-Harmony... what happened?
As with many things in life, the quality of the product depends entirely on the quality of the individual ingredients. If both people are totally honest with eHarmony's questions, there is a greater chance of success, though there are no guarantees. Many people, however, answer the questions as they either think people see them or they want to be seen, thus skewing the results.
Bad ingredients make for bad products.
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Posted: 9/23/2008 6:17:44 AM | I agree. eHarmony definitely isn't for anyone who wants to rush into a relationship. This site is GREAT for those people. However, rushing into a relationship isn't likely to make it good for long. eHarmony's method is designed to get to know the important things about people and not judging them simply by looks and age like this site. Iin fact, that's sort of how my son was trying to pick his puppy... I had to help him realize that there was a lot more you needed to consider. Strange that a child can grasp something most of the adults on here can't.
I got over 200 matches in the 6 months I was on eHarmony. I found one really great one but we lived too far apart to make it work. Most of the rest were real quality men as well and that's definitely more than this site can say.
If it weren't so expensive, I'd still be on it. It is much better than this site. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 6:52:19 AM | | some of them sign u up and then when someone emails you, then they want you to pay to see it! I think they generated a fake email from someone to get me to pay! Never did meet anyone either. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 6:56:03 AM | NEIL CLARK WARREN MUST DIE!!! ....He might as well be Nigerian. Money grubbing piece of sh!t. I wasted 50 bucks on that site 2 years ago. My "soulmates" were allegedly 400 pound black women in Orlando. What a joke    | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 7:01:04 AM | E-Harmony...What a Joke! I tried it way back when they started, and look where it got me! Anyways, costs too much money for what they don't give you. I don't know about the rest of you, but besides, what I might find appealing about another(height, weight, hair color, etc) wasn't an option I was ever asked or given, and I find that having hobbies, interests and such in common with another is very important too! I was never asked what my interests were, hobbies were, things I didn't like to do, etc. And the screening process....what a joke too! Supposedly they screen out those who are not suitable...however, I got a profile from a "supposed" gentleman on that site, and the only word in every answer on his profile was "sex". I reported this and never got a reply from e-Harmony about their standards. Honestly, I have met others through other venues and well meaning friends and family and fared a lot better. In summation, don't waste time, effort, money, or hopes on e-Harmony.
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Posted: 9/23/2008 7:04:41 AM | | There is a way around being sucked in by the paying sites. DON'T use a credit card. Mail a money order, and you won't have to worry about automatic billing. I've done this with 2 paying sites, and never had a problem with billing, and the one was in Austin, Texas, and my snail mail reached them in 2 days from Eastern Ontario, used to take a week from Parry Sound to Huntsville, a total of 60 miles by road, go figure. The big drawback to any paying site is there are always a lot of non paying members who can't write you back, and a lot of paying members haven't figured they need to include their e-mail in their first contact. Yes, some paying sites do allow this! | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 7:12:36 AM | | This thread was first created in July 2005, and I can see by scanning the last few posts eHarmony is still crap...lol. I would never go back to any pay site unless forced to (meaning there are no free sites left). | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 7:30:47 AM | | You want out of eHarmony? Tell them that you have converted to Satanism and post some nude pics, doesn't matter where you get them. They'll drop you like a hot rock. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 5:37:32 PM |
I wish I'd known that Eharmony was a conservative Christian (oxymoron!!) site because I would have stayed the heck away and saved my money. I am a liberal Democrat and progressive Christian who would not date a conservative in a million years. I tried it twice, with disastrous results.
I tried it only to find that my matches were religious fanatics. Some of them were also conservative Republicans. One was an anti abortion zealot. These things turn me off royally.
On the bright side I am very thankful for POF and my many wonderful new friends that I met through POF.
it isn't an oxymoron. nothing about conservative christian is contradictory. however, you made a contradictory statement about being progressive when you said you'd never date another conservative in a million years. kind of closed minded to be progressive, especially since progress depends on different personalities with different opinions. i agree about eharmony, but i feel that the political soapbox could have been omitted from the testimonial since the thread was about eharmony and not boasting about one's stance with added quips about the enemy.
I wouldn't have written any of that if it hadn't been posted to comment on. now, reply nice, that's a progressive way of doing it haha. pof is a great place and it should have great success. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 5:38:32 PM | | Thanks!For sharing this info.I had a problem like that paid a years worth couldn't get it shut off had to get new bank card to stop them. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 1:22:33 PM | Wow, eHarmony wouldn't even give me a chance to let them screw me. I was one of the "20 percent" unmatchable folks, based on that two hour questionnaire I filled out.
I made the mistake of being bluntly honest on the questionnaire, thinking it really would help them find me compatible matches. I said yes, I am a smoker, and yes, I am an atheist and yes, I tend to take more than I give, and so on and so on. When they rejected me, I was annoyed. Just for fun, I went back and filled out the questionnaire as a robot would. Christian non-smoker, healthy lifestyle, drinks socially, likes walks on the beach, always honest and kind, healthy sexual attitudes but won't jump into bed with just anyone, demure and sweet and giving and perfect and so on and so on. Obviously, the second questionnaire accepted me.
I ended up at Match.com instead and met someone as imperfect as myself and married him last Saturday. Ironically, he'd wavered between eHarmony and Match himself but chose Match because it was cheaper.
For me, sites that allow you to contact whoever you want and vice versa are better. I don't like having only a limited number of choices. I had great luck on Match, but more than a few people told me not to bother with it because they hadn't had any luck at all.
I think that online dating is part chance, part perseverence. I met fifteen guys before meeting the one I married. I felt like giving up but could never quite bring myself to turn off the screen for good. It paid off for me. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 2:42:20 PM | about 5 months on EH
424 closed matches
392 matches i closed
$120
88 matches without a photo posted
31 matches that i found attractive
7 matches go into "open communication"
4 girls i exchanged #s/emails with
2 scam artists (& poor ones at that!)
2 girls i met in person who didn't look exactly like the pics posted but who were friend material
1 girl i like now who a friend introduced me to...we're going to coldstone for ice cream tonight! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 3:05:47 PM | i forgot to put this lil gem up, it's the message you get when you try to cancel. THEN they hit you with...wait for it.................................ANOTHER questionnaire !:frustrated:
" I know that some people expect to find their soul mate quickly. However, I'd like people to know that it took me over a year to find the right one. I want them to know they should never give up! "
--David, matched with Debbie
on July 19, 2005
yeah uh david, you can kiss my bum.
so the questionnaire looks like this, with my response as to importance of reason for cancellation:
Help us improve our service
Please indicate how important each of these factors is in your decision to cancel your eHarmony subscription:
The length of time it took to receive a match I wanted to communicate with:
Very Important
The subscription price: Very Important
The number of matches I received: Not at all Important
My concern about what others thought about my appearance:Not at all Important
eHarmony's matching philosophy:Very Important
The safety and security I felt using eHarmony:Not at all Important
The quality of matches I received:Moderately Important
The number of people I communicated with:Not at all Important
The discomfort I felt about communicating with my matches:Not at all Important
Please tell us, in your own words, the #1 reason why you are not renewing your subscription, and any other comments you may have:
The ice-breakers are mostly absurd, the price is too high with today's economy, most of my matches are "ghosts" (non-paying people), I can't pick which body types I like, there's no IM function, EHadvice is more interesting, lack of racial diversity.
THEN, AFTER ALL THAT...
Before you cancel your subscription...
Please take a moment to review these tips to improving your eHarmony experience. Before you cancel your subscription, why not communicate with each of your matches and find out why eHarmony brought you two together? Your subscription doesn't officially expire until November 5, 2008 You never know who is worth a second look. *Review your Match Settings*
Compatibility and chemistry are special qualities that often take time to find. Remember, each match you receive has been chosen based on the 29 Key Dimensions of compatibility proven to be vital to a successful relationship.  | |
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Posted: 9/26/2008 12:23:21 AM | I hate seeing their commercials - everyone is so in love & it's all thanks to eHarmony! Granted, the couples are cute, but please can the cheese!  | |
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Posted: 9/26/2008 4:19:22 PM | I concur! I signed up for their free weekend. Shortly I got a message from pretty much exactly who I would want to meet, so I stupidly signed up. Suddenly, my idea match was just not there. I think they tricked me, my fault, but it was pretty low.
And most all the "matches" were very far away, even though I had all the preferences properly set to state level. Didn't meet anybody, it's like the other members are in no hurry to meet anybody. | |
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Posted: 9/26/2008 5:31:04 PM | I am not sure about eharmony either.
I foolishly spent way too much time on their ludicrous profile questions. Then they ironically matched me up with a fellow I had been involved with some 19 years ago. He must be telling the same lies he told back then! 
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Posted: 9/27/2008 4:28:11 AM |
Yeh they are crooks I think the profiles are phony too.
Cash cow did you notice they chat you up then you renew and poof!
true dot com does this. I tried a free profile and decided to not to get the memebership so I deleted my profile and I still get emails from them stating I have 40 messages! So and so wants to chat...so and so has sent you a message..so and so number of men have viewed your profile. Viewed my deleted profile? Truly amazing! | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 4:31:43 AM |
Thanks!For sharing this info.I had a problem like that paid a years worth couldn't get it shut off had to get new bank card to stop them
Did you file fraud on them? I sure would have to get my money back that is BS. I had to do a dispute on Match dot com because they wouldnt stop. | |
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