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Posted: 3/19/2007 6:25:57 PM | Well I have to admit...at first I thot that maybe a few of you just had bad experiences with EHARMONY...okay,okay...a SIGNIFICANT NUMBER of you had bad experiences...but after reading all the negativity & the many, many people who have had SO much trouble & absolutely refuse to go there (again) because of the bad experiences, I certainly am GLAD to say that I'll be amongst those of you who wouldn't touch EHARMONY with a 110 foot pole...lol!  I've seen their commercials (as I'm sure everyone else has) & they make it look so definite. I'm sure it IS expensive but hey...EVERYBODY is on ALL these sites, aren't they? We seem to see the same ones on all these sites over & over again. don't we? So WHY PAY your hard-earned dollars to see the same ones, we can see on free or lower priced sites? Hmmm....good question!
I say...tell the old grey-headed coot to get his scrawny little a$$ off there & quit MISLEADING you into thinking that he can find you the "love of your life" when in fact...he can't...& he never will! 
awww...the heck with this...I'm goin' fishin' !  | |
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Joined: 3/12/2007
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Posted: 3/24/2007 3:24:13 PM | If you want to help POF, since they give this great service away FOR FREE, click on the advertisements he has, WHEN EVER YOU LOGIN, and visit his paying clients. This will help him with his bills trmendously, and is a great wat to say "thank you POF".
Trust me, with about 35,000 to 45,000 people online whenever I login, it has got to cost him a bundle in bandwidth. Make it worth his while! | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 5:02:31 PM | | Yeah, something similiar happened to me on "true.com"= try lie .com, I suposedly missed the date of my free trial by 1 day-they had my credit card info so i was charged $50 for the month, & didn't even get 1 date out of it. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2007 12:01:54 PM | I have used eHarmony for a few months, and I will share my experiences. I received matches, huge numbers of matches...matches coming in every day! But this was only the case if I had my geographical area set to 100 or 200 miles, or more. I don't remember the exact numbers. The problem was that the vast majority of my matches were from places that are a 2, 3, or 4-hour drive. Some of the matches were really interesting, but there is that distance thing, again. I recieved a total of two (2)...count them...two...matches from my home county. Or was it three? Doesn't matter. Two or three. All my home county matches closed on me. But, that was out of over 800 matches! I obviously am severely geographically challenged! Of course, when I extend my geographical area out very far, I capture some pretty big metro areas, including Atlanta. A lot of my matches were from Atlanta and Birmingham. I'm not driving 4 hours to Atlanta for dating, unless the person is simply unbelievably amazing in every aspect and feels the same about me. 
I have communicated with several, and have actually met one. There was no chemistry. She seems like a nice person, but that is about as far as it goes. I may meet a couple more who seem like pretty good matches. But, with the ones I still may meet, there is still the distance problem. They are both 2 to 3 hours away. Let's see, gas is almost 3 dollars a gallon...hmmm. I'd have to spend all that time on the highway dealing with maniac drivers who run red lights and stop signs. 
Some of them came across as a bit fanatical in the religion category, too. I'm a Christian, but some matches seemed a little obsessed with it. Some of them were obese. I'm nicely within the ideal weight range, and I exercise, so I'd like to date someone who is similar in that regard.
The main problem is the expense. I really can't afford to spend that amount of money each month hoping to find "my soul mate".
eHarmony can work. You could meet your future spouse right away. On the other hand, you may not meet anyone interesting, who is also interested in you. The same would be true for attending a party, going to church or shopping in the supermarket. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2007 7:23:01 PM | I tried eHarmony out for 6 months. Got lots and lots and lots of 'matches' ... most of which did NOT want to share a picture after that long, detailed 'get to you know' process'. I refuse to go on a "blind date" ... too dangerous in today's society. So, in all those 6 months, I only had one date. He was nice, but it turned out he didn't like or want kids... and I was the opposite. So... if they match people on compatibility, they didn't do a very good job with me and my 'date' ...
I do think they are way over priced, too. Insane. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2007 7:23:31 PM | A note...this purports to be a Christian site, but it is not. It is a money-making scheme, and the matching criteria aligned me with 3 or 4 men--all 1000 or more miles away. And all but one of them rejected ME before even getting to view their profiles. The sole remaining "candidate" was 3 inches shorter, 100 pounds heavier, and had zero common interests.
I have nothing against truck drivers, but I have nothing in common with a person who watches TV and goes bowling for hobbies. Nor do I want someone shorter than me! I wonder how my profile "matched" me, hmmmmm? Church attendance? Nope. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2007 8:35:07 AM | | I was also somewhat bewildered by some of the reasons that the women listed for closing the matches on eHarmony. Most of them gave what seemed like good reasons. I kept wondering about the ones who listed "based on statements in the profile, I'm not interested in this match". What did I say?! I kept wishing I knew what I'd said that caused them to close the match. It could have been a perfectly valid reason, but I just wish I knew what it was that I said. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2007 12:53:26 PM | That's another problem with eHarmony... you can't really communicate there. I closed a match once for a reason other than listed and 'other' wasn't what I wanted... and I DID want to explain to that nice man, but no choice. Not very fair.
And I don't know... that whole process, eh. It's nice ... but I have to admit I have cracked up, OUT LOUD, when I've seen some people's 'must haves/can't stands' ... WOW.
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Joined: 3/15/2007
Msg: 209 | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 12:10:16 AM | | There is no need today to pay for any "dating site" when there are so many free ones and all the same shit. No amount of money can buy you a "better" date. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 1:11:17 AM | I did the free profile there a few years ago. Unfortunately after that they decided that I didn't have a match anywhere in the country.
After that they kept sending me emails telling me how many people I would meet if I would pay them money. They even kept raising the 'free trial period' time frame. After a few weeks of their daily spam I wrote back asking
"If I'm going to really meet all these people how come your site tells me I don't have any matches anywhere? What's the point of paying money for your site when you don't even inform me of any possibilities?" I don't know if I was more surprised by the fact I received a reply the next day or what the reply told me.
I was actually told flat out that they looked at my profile and the reason I didn't have any matches was because of my religious practices stating 'other' and how if I changed to a specific denomination they would be able to match me with someone.
I definately replyed asking the person "Why would I want to meet someone by lying to them? How does that help build a relationship?"
I never did get a response to that email, although for a while there I did laugh everytime I heard their commercials mention honesty. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 10:38:47 AM | Eharmony has NO clue about matching compatibility. I remember marking that I am very liberal politically and that was important to me. The matches I got were religious freaks or conservatives. Just not my type!
POF is better--I've made friends who have made my life better. Maybe so far I haven't gotten any dates from POF but I've gained friends. That is a mark of success--as friendships are just as important as dating is, if not more so. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 11:36:49 AM | Hi E Harmony, the name said it all ...Harm/on/y just add/ou on the end and that says it all, I got matched up with a 75 year old from southern Iowa, about 600miles from me, we talked on the phone and found out he wanted a free nurse to live with him,since thats what I did for a living I told him I already had a job,and could not work for free. he said well he would buy my food. I hung up, and now I will find my own guy and hope I will not have to nurse him back to health, just for a date.......EEEEEEECCCHHHHHarmony is a rip off Please stay away from them.....only out for the money, and taking peoples money who just want to find real Love, I hope someday the right person gets them in a court of law........ | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 11:53:34 AM | If charges were applied to your credit card or through a debit card, put it in dispute resolution with your company..Usually you need to do this through their Fraud department, at least with my company you do. IF You've saved the copy of the email requesting cancellation or can pull it up on your system, submit this also with your dispute. At which point, your provider will then contact their billing department and haggle it out with them.
You may not win, initially, but enough complaints (also submitted to the BBB) will begin to set off RED flags to many many "providers". In which, others following your suit, of disputing and reporting will make it much easier for anyone else in the future to just have it reimbursed, the charges, and the provider will take care of it with the said "plaintiff" of disputed charges..
I don't know about any one else, however, coming from the legal/financial field, at any given time I do any business online, I bookmark it and then download it on a disk, for proof, and keep until all charges have cleared and I am satisfied with whatever products/services I've just paid for and or canceled. Or until I feel I no longer need documentation of said transactions. K, I'll shut the sam up now.
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Posted: 5/2/2007 12:47:09 PM | | Not only THAT, but they never send you profiles with photographs, and I told them repeatedly "NO MATCHES WITHOUT PHOTOS", but that was what they kept sending me since that is all they had. I told them if they think that "works", then they know NOTHING about Chemistry, because that is the name of the game, and they should not be in business. Finally I opted out of their "free" trial -- just in time -- made copies of my cancellation, etc., and don't you know that they continued sending me matches without photos? What dunces! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 1:26:38 PM |
and don't you know that they continued sending me matches without photos? What dunces!
Eharmony doesn't give you the option to reject profiles without photos before receiving matches. If you're so superficial you can't even read a profile before making snap judgments then yes you can quickly close the match. What's your problem? It's not that hard.
And just so you know, even if the matches have photos you don't get to see them unless you're a member anyway. Some people don't like that but I appreciate that because I value my privacy - I don't want just any old guy to get access to my photo before I decide I want him to have it. And I don't want to date men who are so focused on looks that they don't bother to read my profile before trying to initiate contact.
I see a lot of people bashing eharmony when there are some positive aspects of the system. But it's just like everything else... you can't expect miracles. Before you join a dating site maybe you should take a little time and read about it. That way you don't have unrealistic expectations and later go around bashing it. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 1:33:27 PM | JUST AN FYI-
I loved POF... Price was right.. but beware sometimes you get what you pay for. I had two crazy dates off this sites and three that I dated for some time... I joined e-harmony as well and actually as you all responded.. only met one that I dated.. and it was a distance thing... Just want you know it can work though. Met a man on eharmoney March 16 2006 and we married march 16 2007. It is all about chemistry and luck.. I wish all of you the best!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 1:59:36 PM | ahh...so that explains it: i'm a heathen..lol..i have no religion, nor do i want one. they said iwas 6% of the population that they could not help...awww..i was like, crap...so i actually have to go out now..hehehe..still have yet to do that.....cheers
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Posted: 5/2/2007 2:07:21 PM | They turned me down as well- then someone told me it was because I was not declaring a "religion"
since when did The Church of Nature not qualify?
Oh right- they give it away for free.
E Harmony- total Christian/ | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 2:44:26 PM | A good while ago, I decided to take the personality test "thingie" that they tout on television about being the best thing since the written word was invented.....
Well, I finished it and, you guessed it....no matches....WTF??? I thought it was just me and then I read this entire string and realized it wasn't me, but the site.....
I am glad I found POF since I have met a few really great people on it. I am looking forward to attending one or more of the events so that I can make a few women friends as well.....
Good luck to us all in our eternal search for our other halves!!  | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:47:37 PM | Had bad experience with Match. Try the 3-day free trial and then they charged me. I cancelled after three days. Well, lo and behold according to them I didn't. I got charged and I called and then wrote. They did reimburse me money back. I've noticed that a lot of sites say free and then - oh by the way - you want to email someone - that's a charge. Eharmony couldn't find me a match either. Wasn't aware of the christen "thing." That's interesting.
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:50:21 PM | tsweatt56 you were one of the lucky ones!! I was on E Harmony for quite a while and had matches, but never met one in person. What a waste of time. I can also see that many, yes many people on here have had the same (not so good) experience. I am glad there are free sites like this one. So many of us paid for Match.com, E-Harmony, Yahoo Personals, just to name a few. If you are going to meet someone online you will, if it's meant to be. If not, it's just a learning experience and to meet new people.
My ex sister in law met someone on E-Harmony almost 2 yrs ago and is engaged..there are a few this site has worked for, but only a few. Congrats tsweatt!! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 6:09:07 PM | | Remember, e-harmony will match you on 29 different dimentions. Yeah right. And the check is in the mail. I have not tried that one, nor have i actually paid for any other. I just did the free trial period ones to see for myself what they were like, what type of matches i would get, etc. Most from Russian women 1/2 my age. Another woman changed her picture and age in the first week. How do you all of a sudden lose 30 lbs and become blond when you were a red head? I called the customer care line and told them about it. They said they were going to shut down her profile. I asked what kind of backround checks are in place at this website. Silence, then, ahhhh, none. They told me they can not verify the people using their site. I said, yes you can. Do a backround check. Age, marital status, place of residence. Maybe they won't get all the correct info, but if the web site had any integrity at all, they would at least make an effort. Good thing i never opened up my wallet for them. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 6:30:38 PM | Just an FYI...the fine print at the bottom gives an 800 phone number and when I called they were friendly and quit charging me. Surprising I know! But, i do agree the matches sucked and they were hours away.
On the other hand, my cousin met her first match and 5 months later they were married. That was 2 yrs ago! He lived 2 miles from her. Maybe I just need to move to Phoenix...nah, nice place to visit...but I think I'd melt.
Good luck to all on your search. Don't give up! I know those special people are out there...I had one and he died ...not looking to compare him to anyone else...but if I could find one...why not another...call me greedy but I'll keep trying. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 6:32:55 PM | What a bunch of c**ts...
Seems to be alot of these evil b***ards are using the net to rip people off in one way or another.
FREE triasl seem to be the latest craze, be carefull out their all u internet junkies, don't get burnt!
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