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| | Totally sucked in...Page 3 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | I've had similar experience with my ex. We would make love, after which I'd cradle her in my arms (as opposed to turning over and going to sleep..:)) and we'd stare intently at each other, the feeling and connection was incredible - life in a bubble. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2009 1:32:32 PM | | I've had this particular experience...it wasn't anything that started with a physical touch or look...it was a final act that my wife had made...in that week before she passed...it was a decission I'd never have wished her to make...if I could have found any way around it for her I would have....she was forced, by her mother, to decide between her mother and me...and she chose me...it wasn't pretty...it wasn't a great poignant moment...it was really the absolutely crappy trenches of life...I wished it had never happened...and yet...I'm so happy for the gift. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2009 10:53:04 PM | It can happen with anyone at anytime. It just takes (one or) two people in this case to be willing to do it, to be vulnerable. Its a wonderful thing, especially when both are participating.
The extra beauty is to do it on a regular basis, only with breaks in between, days or weeks apart. It's a powerful, amazing way to connect.
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Posted: 12/6/2009 7:05:22 AM | wow that sounds totally amazing.
i believe that the longer the relationship, (when healthy) the stronger the feelings.
recently my ex would literally in a sensual way bring his lips close to mine and inhale deeply, like he was breathing me in... | |
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Posted: 12/6/2009 7:29:17 AM |
A tantric experience.
Yes. Be careful. I do not create tantric experiences with a woman unless she is very stable. Be careful what level you allow yourself to be into. It can be an experience of a life time as well.
Actually being inside of a woman's body can have huge rewards. Orgasms that won't stop to other things and visa versa. If she has a 20 minute orgasm it can change your life but if you or her are pretty evil there can be some damage. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2009 7:40:06 AM |
This time I was determined to approach the situation in a way I felt was more the way a woman would; that is more rationally, not just letting brain chemistry take over and sweep me along for the ride. I took my time to find out whether or not she was really the one for me in all of the ways I needed a woman to be. And again like a woman might do things, I chose to concentrate on the more transcendent qualities as opposed to "looks". While she is attractive enough, my concerns were more about character issues; honesty, generosity,loyalty, work ethic, etc. Only after my finding her character suitable did I truly open myself to the possibility of submitting and committing to the love she offered and giving equally in return.
So, it wasn't just the rush of brain chemistry that moved me to where I am now.
I am so happy for your damasteel.. I think dating for two years you truly get to know the real person and by the sounds of it you found yourself a real gem.
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Posted: 12/6/2009 8:29:48 AM | I wouldn't know about that connection honestly ... haven't had a relationship last long enough to get that far ... lol
Good luck OP, best wishes. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2009 9:40:26 AM | And yet an experience like that clearly doesn't mean that you've found something lasting.
Don't mean to rain on your parade, OP, but doesn't reading this thread give you cause to ponder? | |
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Posted: 12/6/2009 1:01:53 PM |
And yet an experience like that clearly doesn't mean that you've found something lasting.
Ahhh Lass, you miss the whole issue imo....the issue as I see it is that once having had that feeling...it is so overwhelming...even if the relationship didn't last, for, whatever reason...that it must be found again...for it is truly a wonderful thing...sigh... | |
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Posted: 12/6/2009 1:47:05 PM |
And yet an experience like that clearly doesn't mean that you've found something lasting.
Don't mean to rain on your parade, OP, but doesn't reading this thread give you cause to ponder?
Who said anything about it as gaurantee for a lasting relationship? It's an experience worth a lifetime in it self. No one knows how long a relationship lasts until its over. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2009 6:08:04 PM | I am happy for you OP... I am sincere but... I know... but...
I am of the camp that this feeling of love and exchanges of "feelings" with each other is not spiritual but a very primal urge all activated by the reptilian brain.
Basically the chemicals released in the brain when one is feeling those feelings is close to a high on cocain. I know... I sound like I am raining on your parade...
Have a look...
http://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html
http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html
I love Helen Fisher...
Yes I have experienced this... not only with humans but with my horse and my dog and my cat... no aliens yet (Sorry attempt at a joke here...)... This "communication" without words...
By the by... Q is my favourite character on Star Treck the Next Generation.
Enjoy the moment OP.
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Posted: 12/7/2009 3:52:13 AM | | I think it's one of those things where it's a moment in time where everything slows down and the absence of gravity is felt..that's the best way to describe it. I've only ever experienced it once with a very special man.... | |
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Posted: 12/7/2009 5:06:51 AM | when i was a fat boy well a really fat boy i meet this girl.. she loved me for my sense of humor my heart!! she thought i was beautiful. even though i no i wasent that fat and weighed like 15 stone and was 6 foot 3.. i still had insecurities..
she cried to me on our 5th date.. we was high.. eating chicken watching big brother i was 19 at the time.. she didnt open up to me about all the stuff she been threw i never gave her a chance.. but she always was there for me.. like always protected me.. had a knife ready to kill a demon for me.. sex was great she took everything from me.. and i didnt take that much from her! it was sad because she was the one that got away.. now im 23 i still think about her here and there and i forgot her name.. her real name!
she would of made me feel like life was worth living.. but everything was wrong and i was dumb.. but it gave me faith that there is girls thats worth everything you put yourself threw getting them.. took me 2 years to get her and i still messed it up..
all i no everytime i have something special in my arms i dont never let it go until they have to!!
might not be special to some but being raised around angry females showed me that one day i will be in love with the one!! just have FAITH!! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2012 11:53:47 PM | In an intimate moment with my SO, she began gently stroking my face while staring deep into my eyes. I felt as though she was literally sucking in my essence and making it part of herself. I felt totally powerless to "break" the connection. All at once I sensed what was happening. She was showing her own vulnerability to me in a way that made me feel as though I must protect it and guard it with my life.
I've had a similar experience, except I was the 'stroker'. I've never been able to put my finger on why I was so attracted to his face but I loved to look at it and touch it. One night I sat on the edge of the bed and stroked his face and looked into his eyes until *I* disappeared. Unlike OP's lady, I wasn't trying to suck him into me, I was trying to pour my essence into him. It was like a form of meditation I do where I feel my 'spirit' flow through my body and out my Third Eye. Except this was a connection without the flowing sensation; only connection and stillness.
Like OP's lady, I was very vulnerable. When one pitches, they hope the catcher catches. It was a transcendent moment for me that I'll never forget and hope to experience again some day. He didn't get it - I know because he has said he's only had that tantric experience with his ex-wife :-(. Or maybe he didn't want it. I'll never know. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 5:38:35 AM | | I had a similar moment once with a feed of Wendy's. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 7:00:16 AM | It happened to me one winter when the football playoffs were on. I had my head on his lap and he was stroking my hair. When I looked up I realized he had been looking at me and just feeling me breathe....Very sweet.
I think there is also a strong connection when two ppl are making love and just before either climaxes, they look into each other's eyes. I think that's a time when a person is so vulnerable and in a state of pure bliss, that it just clicks when their eyes lock | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 7:35:53 AM | | How romantic, must admit i like to stroke a man's face as well as other parts lol | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 8:36:43 AM | chameleonf:
A tantric experience. Indeed. Like soul gazing.
The last time this happened was unlike any other. As we looked into each others eyes, I could feel myself- my very essence- dissolving, along with everything else in the environment. Except, his eyes. Then his face began to change form over and over so fast I couldn't focus.. his eyes began to dissolve too and it felt like I was disappearing. Like I had absolutely no boundaries and could not tell who was who or what was what. I had to make it stop, it was way too intense. And he wasn't even touching me. | |
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