Roaul
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Joined: 4/14/2004
Msg: 76 | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/1/2004 8:03:30 AM | | As someone once told me dreams can join and we can have a night on the town without leaving where we are! Hogwash! Distance, age, maturity, and much more play into attractions, but the woman who gets you Roaul will be a princess for sure. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/1/2004 3:25:55 PM | | How about this you meet a guy who looks average, you talk throughout the evening and everything going average then in a bang of feeling a kiss goodnight turns into an amazing passionate kiss and one thing leads to another and before you know it passion has overtaken your morals and your at it like rabbits please explain? | |
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u wish
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Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 79 | |
| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/1/2004 4:02:29 PM | scorpio, I've read trough this thread and you havn't contributed anything positive since your first post. Leave it alone already.
As for sex on the first date, it is concievable that there's just such a strong attraction that it can't be helped. But if it's happening with more than one girl/guy and is frequent, well then it's just not right!! You want the person you have sex with to be special in some way, I would assume. If you have sex with just anyone on the first date, it isn't special. And the only way you get to have sex is by tricking the other into thinking they are special to you. Good question, hope I contributed something worth while. | |
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Roaul
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Joined: 4/14/2004
Msg: 80 | |
| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/1/2004 4:12:34 PM | | sure there are times when everything clicks and the first kiss leads to the abandonment of any morals you have.i am not perfect it has happened before but i dont date a woman just to get her into bed.i am human but i think there is more to dating than just sex. | |
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Loukus
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Joined: 2/15/2004
Msg: 81 | |
| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/1/2004 4:16:12 PM |
i am human but i think there is more to dating than just sex.
This just looks so backwards to me.
It's should be more like 'sex has nothing to do with dating'
The way THAT looks, is like, Sex is the given element of dating, and you can do other stuff too.
o.0 ugh.. I hate popular Culture. | |
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Roaul
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Joined: 4/14/2004
Msg: 83 | |
| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/2/2004 4:41:01 PM | | sorry about that what was meant was i a human,but i think there is a whole lot more to seeing a woman than just thinking about sex.my mind was thinking a lot faster that i type. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/4/2004 10:08:09 AM | | I went on the perfect date yesterday with a wonderful man. We had the time of our lives, and sex didn't even enter the conversation. He very politely opened doors for me, saw to my comfort, asked me to phone when I got home so he could be assured I made it safe. He even asked permission to kiss me at the end of our date. I'm very taken with this man, and what impresses me most, is that he too thinks getting to know the person inside out is more important in the first few dates than discussing sex as a primary topic. Our conversation was all over the board yesterday. We spent eight hours getting to know each other. He's just phoned to invite me to supper this evening, and I'm getting ready to go. I haven't been this excited about meeting someone in almost two decades. He makes me feel beautiful, intelligent, capable, sexy, and he is really understanding and compassionate. I think I may have found the man I was waiting for--time will tell--and sex is still not on the menu for this evening. lol | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/4/2004 11:43:12 AM | Personally,
I've been on a few bad dates. I like sex on the first date just because if the date is no good, well at least I got laid. I don't believe that sex on the first date ruins a relationship, I take it more like a complement. I believe that I'm insightful enought to figure someone out in broad strokes like within a few hours.
If we have sex on the first date I believe that she likes sex just about as much as I do, and that gives us something in common. I think its a bigger crime to be in a sexless long term relationship.
Women love to say they love sex, but many of them simply live without it, maybe even forget that they can do it. Sex on the first date, for me at least means we are on the same page when it comes to mutual pleasure.
This is another example of sex politics. I don't think morality has anything to do with it. Killing puppies is Immoral, stealing money is immoral, having sex is just fun. I would even go on to say that usually its women who think sex is wrong on the first date. Its no secret that women believe they are in competition for good men, therefore women who give it up are devalueing the value of sex. Now, Im gonna complain about cheap sex, as long as its good. But as a woman it must be like watching your stocks go down.
To finish, if you are an interesting woman, I don't think sex on the first date is a problem--talk all night! But those with weaker social skills have other ways of keeping a man entertained. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/4/2004 12:06:46 PM | | I'm glad to see that someone else is at least asking the question. I think the only reason someone would have sex on a first date is if they have a very low oppinion of themselves and think this may be the only thing they have to offer. How sad for both sides. Sex can be a sacred wonderful connection between two people, but as you have said this takes time, perhaps a lot of time. As to a time table, everyone is unique and every couple will be unique. First thing is to get in touch with who you are and value yourself before someone else will value you. Be good to yourself and you will be better for everyone else. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/4/2004 12:44:42 PM | I think there is a big misconception between sex and love. They are not the same thing. Sex is one of the most selfish single acts we participate in for our own pleasure. Love is a compliation of many selfless acts we do for someone elses pleasure. Now certainly you can argue that we participate in sex to give our partner pleasure as well, but in the end we are all in it for ourselves.
So sex on the first date??? Who cares... If you want to go for it...if you want to wait, that's fine too. But remember the old saying, why put off until tomorrow what you can do today. After all, tomorrow is not guaranteed to any of us. Don't ever gamble with time, it will always prevail. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/4/2004 2:20:07 PM | Another opinion I would like to offer to this forum and more specifically to you Georgie...
You go out on a date. You both find each other attractive. you engauge in stimulating conversation, one thing leads to another and you find yourself having breakfast together the next morning. I see nothing wrong with that. What I do think is wrong is the next scenerio.
The first few months, maybe even the first year, sex is a big part of your "new" relationship. But like a fire those flames start to die out. Over the long term sex takes a back seat to companionship and security. I have never heard of any married or long term couple say, "I love him/her for the sex they provided me." But guess what I hear all the time...and you do too. I hear, "how do I rekindle the passion and romance in my relationship." Now let's get real for a moment shall we. This question is really asking, "how do I bring sex back into my relationship."
For many of us sex is a pleasureable experience that lasts many hours, even days, after we have had it. It gives us a sense of security to know that someone finds us attractive enough to be intimate with us. It gives us joy because we now feel that we are desireable. So what happens in a long term relationship? We start to feel less and less desireable which in turn breaks down our willingness to engauge the other partner in loving and affectionate ways. In the end we are no more than a partnership in a comany trying to put our children through college.
We've all seen commercials for Viagra and the countless other sexual stimulants out there. These drugs are there because we are no longer sexually stimulated by our partner. If you think I am wrong in this assumption I challenge any man taking sexual stimulants to attend a full contact sex club without the medication and if you can not get aroused then I stand corrected. I will simply take one candidate that has no other medical complications other than not being able to perform sexually with their partner.
At the end of the day it comes down to this...sex is something we all want, sex is something we all need, and when we don't get enough sex we masterbate. And that my friends is the rest of the story. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/5/2004 6:43:24 AM | | I've been told time and time again that once I met someone I really was attracted to it wouldn't take long for making love to become part of the relationship. Because, in my experience, I'd never met anyone I was that attracted to that fast, before now, I thought this was crap, and was advocating waiting while dating until one got to know the new person very, very well. Well, I've met this wonderful man. I'm falling in love with him and I've known him for under a week. Never met anyone like him before. He's the most gentle, kind, thoughtful, open, honest, gentleman I've ever met since my husband died in 1988, and guess what---the advocate for waiting, made love last night with this wonderful man! Guess I can keep my thread going on the basis I still don't think sex on the first date is right, but dog gone it, I can't say anymore that once you've met the right person it can't enter early in getting to know each other, because it has. I couldn't be happier, and I'm falling in love. Nicest part, he feels the same about me. | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
Msg: 90 | |
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| I liked the ending the best
Posted: 11/5/2004 8:01:14 AM | How wonderful for me to read the first 2 and then last page of this thread to find at the end the words of a woman in love. You were right all along: that's when real sex kicks in. Meaningless sex before is a shallow choice some people make, but not all of us! Not because you're in love, but because you are in love.
Know why men can't catch mad-cow disease? . . . .. . . cause they're pigs! Unfortunately this did ring true in many of the male replies I've read. I apologize on their bewitted halves.
Hopefully the women involved have learned a thing or two.
You go girl! | |
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| I liked the ending the best
Posted: 11/5/2004 11:01:09 PM | Congratz, Georgie.
That's the way things are supposed to go, or however it comes about.
Cheers :) | |
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| I liked the ending the best
Posted: 11/6/2004 2:16:04 PM | | I am a oversea girl; I feel so sad now after I had sex with a guy after a few words. I was drunk and I just broke up with boyfriend. This morning I heard roommates talking about me with the word of 'animal'; That guy was the friend of them and I can feel they are annoyed even though I don't know why. I will never do that again because that guy seems he won't contact me again and that make me feel bad. But I am not regret. I am just afraid how to face my roommates. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/6/2004 8:17:17 PM | No offense to you as well but how many men HAVE you slept with?
I wouldn't mind sex on the first date. For me , in my experiences, I 've yet to find a guy who doesn't cling on . My question posed would be more like, "whatever happened to the good old fashioned one night stand?!" I haven't slept with as many guys as I would have liked. Sometimes I don't want to really get to know anybody with my heart and my mind. I think there's nothing wrong with sharing your body for a night as long as you always keep your power. That's what counts. How could I justify sex on the first night? IT's just answering the call of inherent primitive, biological impulses and desires. It's just man and WOMAN for that matter being what they are.Of course, unprotected sex in today's day and age with a short term lover would just be plain stupid. That's what would need justification. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/7/2004 1:11:05 PM | | I just got back from a wonderfully romantic three day get away where I was treated like a princess. We ate out, had a beautiful suite in a lovely hotel, I met all his family and friends, and feel like I've just returned from a formal honeymoon. Thanks for all the congratz in this thread. I waited 16 years for this to happen, now I'm in love and in heaven. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/7/2004 1:23:43 PM | you and other lady was email back and forth about sex on first date. Look at me!! I met a guy first night and we did have sex same night too. We had long relationship for almost 11 years and have two kids. | |
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xchuck
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Joined: 6/11/2004
Msg: 97 | |
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xchuck
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Joined: 6/11/2004
Msg: 99 | |
| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/8/2004 12:26:46 PM | | whatever...i started two longgg relationships by having sex on the first date...sometimes the chemistry is there the first night..too each his/her on. but i'm happy for you nontheless | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 11/10/2004 6:37:11 AM | Thanks Chuck. He's the most wonderful man. Sensitive, caring, earthy, old fashioned, honest, believes in taking care of his woman's comfort, and so much more. The 16 year wait was worth it. But we still didn't make love on the first date! lol
We've spent most of the last week together, but I had to come home to deal with a leak in my waterbed! grrrrrr! Can't find the d*mned leak either!
Must get going. Thanks for the congratz! | |
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