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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 3/17/2007 10:45:11 AM | Some people bring "morals" into arguments not realizing that morality in and of itself is subjective.
This is because when it comes to morality there is "us" and there is the concept of the "other."
The "other," as in many other situations, is evil. "We" are right.. they are corrupt.
Some morality is the same everywhere. Murder, for example, is generally considered "bad."
Most things, however, are not black and white. There is a lot of gray area.
Religion, geographical values, schooling, peer group and upbringing all come into play when it comes to morality.
I felt that, given the number of times lately that people have used morality as a justification for their side of the argument, it was time to point out that morality is NOT a constant. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:18:06 AM | ["I feel sometimes in these forums like I’m a dinosaur who should learn new tricks, but I don’t think I could live with myself if I made love to five, ten, twenty or more men while cruising dating circuits while trying to find Mr. Right. So, can someone please try to explain it to me—Why is it accepted in today’s dating world to sleep with someone on the first date and how do you justify it in your head as the correct thing to do? "]
I don't believe women such as yourself are "dinosaurs" or that there are any "new tricks to be learned". The difference lies in perception. A woman can feel very comfortable with her sexuality without sex even entering into the picture on a first date. She has the ability to decide for herself when the timing is right for her and that will vary with each one of us. My thought is go with what you feel will bring to you the results you're searching for, for the right reason...just know yourself & be true to yourself. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:32:33 AM |
Sometimes the chemistry is there and the time is right. Doesn't mean it happens everytime they go out on the first date with someone though.
Well there you go. I can't argue with that. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:43:57 AM | not every first date sexual encounter ends in disaster! We met after an hour chat on another site, May 2005. Got together that Friday at 7 pm, the date ended the next Sunday am,,we now live together and love each other very much, and are very thankful for that first date! It was the first time she ever slept with a guy on a first date, and VIOLA!  | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 3/17/2007 12:36:42 PM | hi georgielLeopard(d197252)
I agree you did ask a normal question that you wanted others to reponse to you in a open way, As you can see here, you might of open up a can of worms, compassion for others on a frist date is important, which shows respect, as its the frist step in getting to know someone, its like treading on glass, hoping you dont get cut. With having sex on the frist date, gets the inabilities out of the way, then you look for the outer in a person.
In my day, it was getting to know the outer, before you get to know the inner.
These are the changin times of this world, as your daughter said ("get hip"), this the norm in most cases, but by no means change what you grew up to believe what you feel is right. you might have "old fashion morals" but to you, they are not, and I agree with you, it doesnt matter what words people put in front of the word "morals"
"old fashion" , Miss you have morals, and thats the key word here, You stick to them, as you rightly say, Quote "At the end of the day when my head hits the pillow it's a nice feeling to know I haven't hurt anyone else intentionally",Unquote.
What you show here, is respect for others and yourself.
And you might be on your own for the rest of your life, cause of your morals and belief in what you believe is right, but its better to live by what you believe is right, then to live by what others asume to be right. In our day, marriages lasted for 20 ,30 years, it had its problems, but the answer in our day, "work through it". these days, their's a rule for this and their's a rule for that, You dont have to work through anything, move on is the answer now. And you know what... thats why we have these forums, where people like us, are in search of "old Moral Values". We are the by-product of a chanin world. You stick to what you believe in, as with me, at least we can sleep at night. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 4/14/2007 10:02:37 AM | What I don't like about sex on the first meeting(date), is the catch twenty two for both sexes. For the male-if he attempts to have sex, he is just out to score. If he doesn't, theres something wrong with him.
For the female-if she attempts to have sex, he may tell his friends to call her, (shes easy) If she doesn't, then he'll say shes locked at the knees.
It's better to me to wait for a while to see if theres a possible long term there. That is of course unless they are both just looking to score to start with. Which would make both of them---SLUUUTTTTS!!! lol. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 4/14/2007 5:33:33 PM | If your a Dinosaur Leopard, then that makes two of us.
I think those who need or desire sex on the first date are in Despreration or something. Kind of violating all the rules we were raised by and those we raised our kids by.
As much as I miss sex, I won't be leaping into every woman's bed on a first date and probably not for the first several dates. Unless something drastic happens and the love of my life lands in my lap, then I can't say what I'd do. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 4/14/2007 10:51:56 PM | | you've got my vote 100% georgie. let user's use and be used. let them live their lives and you live yours. i agree with you and have been single over 7 years. i met a guy that i really clicked with, finally. we dated a few times and sex became an issue with him in discussions. i told him i wasn't ready for that. he told me that i have it all wrong...."if the sex is good, we stick around" he said. i told him he had it backwards...because if we aren't compatible emotionally....i don't want the sex! wait it out....you'll find the right one...and if not...no one will ever get along better with you...than you...lol. | |
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| I just don't get it -- sex on the first date?
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:26:24 PM | I have to say that I think sex is part of what a man and woman can share. It isnt the entire relationship or shouldnt be.
I would want my lady to be as much my friend as my lover. The person I can share so many wonderful things with.
Cuddling in front of a fireplace on a cold night is great but its the companionship and laughter and just being with someone special that makes the night not the passionate love making that comes after (its icing on the cake and not the whole cake)
So sex on the first date really defeats the whole purpose of why your even with someone. | |
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