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Posted: 7/12/2005 1:54:34 PM | The right woman could be dressed in a Nun's habit....and there would still be attempts at pawing....
The way a woman dresses has very little to do with her sex appeal. Some women can be in a bikini and NOT be sexy.... | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:55:10 PM | | Men for the most part want sex and women for the most part want relationship. You should only have sex with a man, who is interested in wanting a relationship with you. If you demand a relationship, first, and you lose him; he only wanted sex and will move on to another victim. Men, who score with a women and never calls her; is a player! His desire to score with you has been meet by your giving in to him, so he does not need you anymore and moves on to a new victim to conquer. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 1:55:55 PM | Sex on the first date isn't so wrong as long as you have talked about it and know there will be a future, or if you are merely wanting a physical relationship. The problem comes when you want more and he doesn't or vice versa.
Perhaps the way to handle such a situation in the future is, "Why dont u give me your number and we'll get together tomorrow night" Or just flat out ask if he feels it is like or lust. for the most part, relationships which start in clubs are more lust related, not saying like never occurs, but picture it from a guys perspective:
Skimpy clothes, bodies moving, rubbing, dim lights, drinks ... the inevitable is at some point going to cross his mind, and probably stay there in the back.
His "pawing" does not necessarily mean he is not interested in more, just that his horny frenzy began way back at the club, and he probbly misread some of ur cues to mean u wanted physical just as you did him wanting more. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 1:57:02 PM | Personally, I have RESPECT for myself and do it on the first date.
I do it cause I like sex, not because I have some freaky self-esteem issues that I try to solve by being promiscuous OR cause I get drunk and don't know better.
However, I WON'T do it on the first date because I am aware that there are way too many guys who will not respect me or want more from me if I do do them on the first date.
I used to think that guys who acted that way were too narrow-minded and I wouldn't want them anyways.... but as screwing on the 1st date is really limiting my romantic possibilities I am forced to change.
I don't think I should have to but I guess it's like one of those rules like gravity that only change in very specific odd almost impossible to find situations. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:02:07 PM | this reminds me of my ex GF. seems like for whatever reason she gets it on with some new guy shortly after meeting them, then a week later he's out the door, and she's all pissed off.
women, do not f*ck guys in the first 2 weeks of meeting/seeing them if you really have any intentions of getting to know them or having them hang around. you'll save yourself a lot of bs and other problems. | |
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mak423
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Joined: 7/10/2005
Msg: 32 | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:03:56 PM |
What could the girl do to make him want to spend time, besides sex that one night?
Guys only want what they want.
Get better at reading the signs and go from there.
The best thing you could do is to invite him and his buddies to go with you and your buddies for food after the bar. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:08:14 PM | | and further more your probably better off to leave it alone once the bar closes.....exchange numbers then see if the guy bothers to call.....if theres one thing ive learned its this...is the other person even bothering to make en effort to get the ball roling or not. take some time first and evaluate this a bit. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:09:05 PM | And I'm glad to finally be out of the whole dating scene.
BTW, I met my boyfriend at a bar in May. I didn't go home with him or to a coffee shop that night. We just simply exchanged numbers and email addresses and hooked up the next day. Within two weeks we were seeing eachother 3 times a week. Two months after our first meet, we're together almost everyday when his shift permits, and he just got a key to my place when he's working late. Since his division is close to where I live, I am now finding myself waking up beside him.
3 cheers for taking it slow.  | |
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mak423
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Joined: 7/10/2005
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:09:05 PM | I have had a great relationships with those who I have slept with in the first night.. it just comes down to what you are looking for..
..but its true, most guys just want the one night sex then more sex at a later date with no strings attached.
Always best to chat about it first if you are wanting more yourself.. if not, wait the suggested two weeks ;) | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:09:38 PM | First, you'd never catch me going to some strange mans place to watch a movie when I had just met him. Give him my number, if I liked him, sure... go to his place and let him paw me? If I allowed him to paw me and work himself up into such a rangy sweat then I'd have to blame myself, not him, for leading him on and being a tease...
If you conducted youself as a lady should there wouldn't be pawing or opportunity until you got to know each other well enough to know if it was going to last or not... (my opinion) My thoughts are that any man who met a woman willing to go to his place and let him paw her on the first night would think her easy goods, and if she's easy with him, she's most likely picking other guys up in bars and being easy with them as well... there is no respect gained in that.
Am I wrong men? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:12:50 PM | Hello
If you want a relationship, I would say too bad for the guy, and leave as soon as possible. If you sleep with a guy on the first night, he is most likely to not pursue you for a relationship. Being a guy I think this is absolutely ridiculus, but most of the guy friends I have would not pursue a relationship after sex on the first night. I am not sure why this phenomenom exists. I would pursue a relationship with someone if I liked them enough, no matter how things went. They seem to consider this a moral issue and this is not the type of woman you want to date. I never understood that. You liked this person enough to sleep with them, they like sex.... and you never know what led the person to make the decisioin to sleep with you. Maybe thay have not had sex in 6 months and finally let their guard down. I would say it is always worth pursuing. Anyway that is my outlook. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:14:14 PM |
What could the girl do to make him want to spend time, besides sex that one night?
She should just simply make it clear that she wants to come over but that no sex will happen. I had a great night before just listening to music till 4 am and chatting then just Sleeping together (clothes on).
If she doesn't feel like he gets the message, don't waste your time in going.
Plans with friends after is always good too.. though its usually harder to occomplish (due to lack of good places to go, or friends to drunkto be in public etc)  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:20:40 PM | What was going through the guy's mind? SEX, its simple
If that was what you are looking for then you found it, if when he was "pawing you" you said no or stop, then he should have.
If you are looking for a long term relationship, then giving him your number and saying good night would have been the way to go.
You had him interested, if he was looking for anything more then a amazing story to tell his friends he would call.
the pawing was because your a beautiful women and his hormones where going crazy! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:32:40 PM | | Here's the deal..A man who is single is hoping to get sex anytime he posibly can, unless he's offered it by a woman that he simply doesn't dig..If a girl will put out on the first date, I believe most men will take what they can get. I know a few guys that just don't have it "going on" with the ladies, so when one will finally give them a little butt, they'll fall in love and stay with her. On the other hand, I know some guys, won't mention any names, who can pick up a new chick almost every weekend. Guess where we, oops, I mean they, go? To the bars, clubs, keg parties and just about anywhere else that you know there's gonna be babes and beer. Rule #1-ignore the really hot ones. They've probably already been hit on by every drunk at the place. Go for the girl you kinda feel nobody wants. She'll be pleasantly surprised that someone is actually paying attention to her. Treat her like she's hotter than that hotty whose got 20 guys slobbering all over her. Yeah boyyy, she gonna like you for dis! Sad for her too, because she's probably goig to like you alot. Now the guy has the upper hand. He knows she wants to see him again, so she'll probably want to please him. If she's any good in the sack, he'll probably keep her around until he finds his next victim..After he dumps her, she'll be starting a thread in here, something like this, "I know he really cared. He treated me like a real lady and didn't even look twice at my friend. Please people, tell me what I did wrong!"..Fact is she didn't do anything wrong. The girl could have told the guy to F-Off, 'cause she don't put out on the first date. Then she could have gone home all alone, wishing she could be like that hottie with all the guys around her..Well guess what girlie! They all want to bang the hottie too!..Want to find a guy that really cares? Make sure he's sober and you're sober. It's like someone else in here mentioned, meet him in the day time and talk for awhile. Just remember though, he may not have had sex in awhile, and figure waiting another couple of days ain't gonna hurt..My whole point-Do whatever feels right, but don't get your hopes up too soon! Sorry to splill the beans guys, buuut, am I lying? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:43:34 PM | after having sex on the first date I wouldn't be looking for a long term relationship.
Not having sex on the first date even though she came over would mean she is interested, and not calling her would be a mistake. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:44:56 PM | A couple more cents worth. To OP and anbody else who hasn't yet figured this out. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING THAT ANYONE CAN DO TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE DIG THEM.
Like them as a friend, sure. BUT YOU CAN'T FORCE THE LOVE THING! IF IT AIN'T THERE, FORGET ABOUT IT!!! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:48:54 PM | Hey, if you are stupid enough to go home with a guy on the first night and are attracted to him...don't give in, play hard to get (it's more enticing) ask him for his number or maybe go for sobriety coffee (in public). Saying you'll go home with him is like presenting him with a green flag...he's not gonna stop until it's checkered baby!
Be mysterious and yeah, I find sex on a first date ruins things now that I'm experiencing the getting to know part of a relationship...the anticipation is killing me (if I ever get there) | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 2:53:36 PM | OP- If I don't dig her and she puts out, afterwards I'd be looking for my boxers and my keys.
If she puts out and I do dig her-
Call you tomorrow hon, you're wesome and thanx to you I had a greatnight.
Don't dig her AANND she don't put out-Dang, shoulda hit on that other chic! I'm going back to the club!
A TRUE FACT ABOUT ME PERSONALLY- If I really care about a girl, I respect her for the human being that she is..On a first REAL DATE, I never actually look towards sex. | |
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