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 gadaveuk
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My name is Dave of Beckenham I am a compulsive Gambler and will be till the day I DIE! But today I have pains healed and nurtured, fears faced and frustrations resolved and I live a much healthier spiritual life healthier than ever before in my life just one day at a time.

I am able to be proud of myself today and the recovery program. I now have a clearer understanding that the addictions and obsessions were just a symptom that I was not able to process my life experiences in a healthy emotional way.

When I walked in to the recovery program I was very weak scared inadequate insecure lost soul that had an emotional age of an 8-10 year child.

Today at over 62 years of age some might even think that now I am a boring old fart and good for them.

Yet what people think of me today is not my responsibility, what is important are my healthy actions and that I interact with all people in a very healthy way.

Due to my experiences and being enlightened about myself and coming out of denial I am not the nervous scared child I use to be yet I do know that I needed to face all of my fears.

My child hood experience of being emotionally abused physically and sexually abused has now become my strength today, I know for sure I am going to hurt even more in my life yet it is how I process that pain is what counts.

Anger is and was my reaction to pain fear or frustrations, over time I have learned to heal those pains and clean those emotional scars.

The fears I had to face were once again all up to me to do and to face, all the time I lied in my fears I cheated myself of living my life to the full.

Now frustrations are covered by the serenity prayer, the only person I control is myself; I have no control over other people.

Due to painful actions and ridicule towards me I had lost most faith and hope in myself, the recover helps me understand that I am and was not all unhealthy in myself.

In coming out of denial and being honest with myself I was able to take responsibility for my unhealthy actions towards those very people I was supposed to love.

I now understand that by living in the pain and fears I was not living a healthy life, as you heal the deeper emotional pains you peel back the onion and the earlier pains come to surface and the tears run for the hurt child in me.

Then as those suppressed pains heal you find the spiritual values you were born with and the honest comes back in to your life once more, you even get excited at life and are able to achieve where once you thought you were a failure.

That curious innocent mind once it gets working can be very creative and productive, as you open up you are able to express your feelings in a very healthy way.

Do I fear or hate gambling today, living in fear of anything is not healthy for me today, if I hate anyone or anything I am only hurting myself.

For me hatred it taking unhealed pains of the past and turning it on myself. How does that help me? Forgiving people sets me free from feelings the victim of others and victim of my past.

Am I a victim today? Am I a perpetrator today? Am I a rescuer today? What do I feel I am today?

It is my choice to be healthy today, yet how do I define healthy?

If I am reacting from anger which is a reaction to pain fear or frustrations then how can I be at a peace within myself?

If I am interacting in a healthy way with all people and using spiritual values in every avenue of my life then I am a healthy person.

My conscience and my spiritual values if I am healthy or unhealthy, if I cause pain to another person then I need to look at myself.

If I am vengeful or justify cruelty then I am doing myself an unhealthy action.

For me to be spiritually healthy I need to practice each spiritual value in my life one way or another.

How many spiritual values do I practice in my life today?

Healthy spiritual values are unconditional loving unconditional giving forgiving apologize caring trusting trust worthy patience tolerance humility kind courteous sincere honest faithful optimistic self assured and well self balanced punctual courteous respectful considerate grateful very grateful content productive creative constructive nurturing sharing encouraging optimistic cooperative aware content stable humble open minded self confident calm proud and serene.

If I am person pleasing or doing things to impress people I am not happy with myself, if I am doing things out of guilt or shame for other people I am only cheating myself.

Are all my actions towards other people unconditional?

When I say I love you is it a question or a statement?

Do I know what love is all about today?

Do I give of myself unconditionally today?

If I am living in any kind of pain or fear then I am cheating myself of living my life to the full today?

Love and peace to everyone Dave.
 Passionate Gent
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Posted: 2/21/2010 8:14:44 PM
I generally trust people more so who follow some type of religion more than those who don't. For the very simple reason, the religionists understands that his nature is indomitably '"selfish", but at least he/she is seeking through their religion to squelch, or at least limit selfishness.

It's not even funny anymore when those who don't understand human nature continue to expect people to do anything different from what their nature demands.

All the science in the world can't retard "selfishness"
 Appreciative9809
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Posted: 2/22/2010 2:12:23 PM
O.P. --

So just tell the truth. Tell her that you're a Scientific Materialist. That's your belief, your metaphysics, and, whether you know it or not, it's probably your religion.

(Just to clarify: It is not mine)

Honesty is always the best policy, so answer with your actual beliefs. If beliefs don't matter to her, then she might like you anyway.

You're right to be looking for someone who shares your beliefs. Surely you already know where to look: A college or university, among the science and math students. There are female science and math students. Maybe some of them are Scientific Materialists as you are. Take courses in physics, engineering, or mathematics. There are females in those courses. Some might be Scientific Materialists.

You wrote:


Yeah, I usually end up just listening and asking a question occasionally, but there's no dodging the issue of what my personal views are, and why I hold them. I can see how turning a conversation about spirituality into an issue of rational enquiry and critical examination could seem condescending and offensive


What makes you think that honest admission of your beliefs is condescending or offensive? . If she brings up metaphysics or religion, and asks your opinion, and you tell her what your beliefs are, you're not going off-topic or changing the subject.

If you're being condescending or offensive, it has nothing to do with honestsly telling your beliefs. If you're condescending or offensive, it's your attitude, not your beliefs. The solution? Don't have a condescending or offensivse attitude. That attitude is often an attribute of people who are sure of their beliefs, but being sure of your beliefs needn't result in that attitude.



, but that's my usual thought process in most circumstances except those occasions when I obey gut instinct.


The gut instinct to forgo honesty? You can be honest, without implying that she's wrong if she doesn't share your beliefs.


By the way, I noticed there's a similar thread in the now defunct religion forum, but since it's not readily accessible, I decided to create a thread here.


Probably not the best decision. Re-start it in the science/philosophy forum. And it's difficult to believe that there is no forum specifically for discussing beliefs about religion, spirituality or metaphysics.
 want to travel
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Posted: 2/22/2010 2:31:30 PM
the only intelligent answer is from Helen,your problem is your living in the age of instant gratification, people in general have stopped thinking,the reality is most people who think they are intelligent, do so because they belong to Opras book of the month club
 namrael
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Posted: 2/22/2010 2:41:22 PM
OP, I think your approach is fine. I'm somewhat spiritual and study energy work, so I wouldn't want to date a materialist based on the part energy work plays in my life, and my desire to have a partner who supports that and believes in what I do. That said, it's also the kind of thing I'd rather know from the beginning, so I really like your up-front attitude. I know a lot of atheists, or others who might have faith of some stripe but don't care if their partner does, and sooner or later you'll find one of those and be happily compatible in this arena.
 happy-go-lucky_
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Posted: 2/22/2010 5:05:47 PM

just tell the truth. Tell her that you're a Scientific Materialist. That's your belief, your metaphysics, and, whether you know it or not, it's probably your religion.
Science isn't a religion, and neither is atheism (or agnosticism, for that matter). Also, are you suggesting that religion is bad?

What makes you think that honest admission of your beliefs is condescending or offensive?
I was talking about justifying one's beliefs, which requires critical examination. Whenever I'm asked why I believe what I believe, my answer basically boils down to the fact that my belief system is made up of that which is supported by physical evidence, and/or that which is rational, or at the very least, reasonable and plausible (after being subject to Occam's razor). I've known many religious/spiritual people to cry foul whenever their beliefs are subject to rational debate/enquiry, hence why I said that my way of looking at things rationally might seem condescending of other views under certain circumstances.

The gut instinct to forgo honesty?
Um...the exact opposite. I'm rarely tempted to lie in situations where I don't foresee any obvious personal harm to myself or my being put at a disadvantage.
 minako79
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Posted: 2/22/2010 6:58:17 PM
truthfully, this has been on my mind recently after my breakup, different path of religion rarely works for me.
I rather have someone who is or will be on the spiritual path with me, I'm not saying he needs to be a hardcore christian/catholic. I guess what I'm saying it'd be more comfortable if he respects my faith and will not try to change him.
I pray alot although I don't read the bible that much. I know it's so much easier to date someone with the same religious/spiritual beliefs.
 That Handy Man
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Posted: 2/22/2010 7:17:33 PM
How does religion enter into this subject of spirituality anyway?

And even spirituality is misunderstood, usually with people equating it with morality or some other code of ethics.

More often then not, it is in fact just another belief system, as are religions!

Being truly spiritual is having some understanding of this system of things and how in fact this physical reality is constructed and for what purposes.

It's akin to a mechanically inclined person. They understand the mechanics and physics involved with an automobile. It makes no suggestion as to what sort of driver they may or may not be.
 ace4114
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Posted: 2/22/2010 8:36:46 PM
That's like saying you don't care. You have to have some sort of values. What did your parents beleive in and how were you brought up. Its good to have questions and question your faith. People can't trust you if you have no set of values.
 m_church
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Posted: 2/23/2010 5:48:07 AM
Spirituality is fine.... in limited doses.... very limited....

All too often though it's some nebulous concept such as "crystal healing" or "energy healing".... The thing that I get a laugh out of is that some of the same people who ridicule Star Wars and the Force as silly (which it is!) then go on to embrace the same concept and call it "energy"......
 happy-go-lucky_
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Posted: 2/23/2010 10:36:25 AM

That's like saying you don't care.
How so?

You have to have some sort of values.
Of course, they just don't have anything to do with spirituality or religion; mine are humanist values.

What did your parents beleive in and how were you brought up.
My parents are mildly (meaning very loosely) religious, but I've moved significantly beyond even their weak form of religiosity and spirituality.
 Appreciative9809
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Posted: 2/24/2010 8:55:02 AM

Science isn't a religion, and neither is atheism (or agnosticism, for that matter).


Partly right. Science _rightly_ isn't a religion, but, to some people it is a religion nevertheless. If you uncritically worship something, then you make it into a religion.

Science rightly addresses the physical world. And nothing else. When someone compares it to spiritual, metaphysical or religious beliefs, or tries to apply it to an evaluation of them, then that person is trying to apply science outside of its legitimate region of applicability. Then it isn't science anymore. It's the science religion. When you try to apply science to a discussion of spirituality or religion, then you're practicing pseudoscience.

It is popularly believed, among science-buffs, that science is the ultimate word, and that this physical world is the ulitmate reality. Again, then it isn't science. It's religion.

There's nothing wrong with believing that your religion is the One True Religion. The social gaffe is when you tell that to someone who doesn't believe as you do.


Also, are you suggesting that religion is bad?


No. But, for its True Believers, the science religion is often a particularly dogmatic and intolerant religion. That's what is bad. Or at least it's bad for a date :-)


I was talking about justifying one's beliefs, which requires critical examination.


No one should be asked to justify their beliefs to you. And justify in terms of what? Your beliefs?


Whenever I'm asked why I believe what I believe, my answer basically boils down to the fact that my belief system is made up of that which is supported by physical evidence


So far, so good. That which is supported by physical evidence isn't religion. But do you see that what you just said has no bearing on someone else's feelings about matters that don't involve science? From what you said, your belief system doesn't have anything to say about your dates' spiritual feelings, and doesn't contradict or disagree with them, and is not an alternative to them.

I suggest that that's where you make your social gaffe: When you present your belief system (science) as if it were an alternative to someone else's spiritual feelings, opininions, study or beliefs.

Galileo understood the difference between science and religion when he said that the Bible tells how to go to heaven, but not how the heavens go. Do you see that something similar can be said about science?: Science studies and describes the physical world--and that's all.


, and/or that which is rational


Yes, that's where the problem starts. "More rational than thou". It isn't going to go over well when you tell someone that your beliefs are more rational than theirs.
Science is surely (usually) rational in its study of the physical world. But you speak of it as if it were an alternative to spirituality. No, it's a separate subject.

And there's nothing rational about applying science beyond its legitimate area of applicability.


, or at the very least, reasonable and plausible (after being subject to Occam's razor).


Nothing wrong with discussing what's plausible or economical.


I've known many religious/spiritual people to cry foul whenever their beliefs are subject to rational debate/enquiry


The ones who come to your door sometimes get angry if you try to discuss objectively what they say you should believe.


, hence why I said that my way of looking at things rationally might seem condescending of other views under certain circumstances.


If someone, religious or otherwise, tells you something that contradicts established scientific fact, then there's nothing wrong with telling them so.

But if they believe in, mention, like, or study something that isn't science, then you're out of line if you answer that your science is a more rational alternative to what they've mentioned. As I said, it's just a completely different subject. If you say that science is your belief system, understand that you mean that it's your belief system about the physical world. There's nothing wrong with that, but you aren't talking about the same subject they are. You can be as rational as you want about applying science to the physical world, and that isn't condescending or offensive.

This is barely on topic, because it's still about your question about how you can go wrong on a date.
 Thesumofallparts
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Posted: 2/24/2010 10:55:14 AM
This just happened to me on this very site.
Chatted with somebody over emails, agreed to pick a time/place to meet once she could straighten a few things out.
Then she emails me, asking for clarification on my "non-religious" selection.
She asks a bunch of questions, one of which I found somewhat insulting "Do you believe in anything?" Um, yeah, I do. I believe in the golden rule and treating others with utmost respect and kindness. I believe people should come together, not separate themselves (which religion is all too good at doing), and many more but no point in listing here...
The bottom line is that I find spirituality in nature, as I think all humans need some spiritual outlet. Nature is real, though, not supernatural, which I don't believe in (god, heaven, hell, etc.) because blind faith is a concept I can't wrap my mind around.
I think lots of people who claim they're religious, aren't, and are afraid to admit they're not believers.

Anyway, you can't go wrong being honest when interacting with a potential romantic interest. I won't have a religion oriented wedding, but if I waited until that time to bring it up, holy sh!t, our relationship could be in serious trouble!
You will find a non-believer, or non-spiritual person, who is kind to others and honest, just keep looking. There are plenty of us out there.
 Appreciative9809
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Posted: 2/24/2010 3:49:46 PM
Just to sum up what I was telling happy-go-lucky:

1. If, on a date, someone asks you what you believe in, when it comes to religion, spirituality, etc., your answer should just be that you don't claim to know what is beyond this physical world, because it isn' t something that you've studied or looked into at all. That's because you've been spending your time studying science, a completely different subject. That answer wouldn't be condescending or offensive.

2. You've said that your belief system consists of the scientific study and description of this physical world.

For one thing, does anyone disbelieve in that?--but never mind that.

When you present that belief system as an alternative to others' statements or notions of, or interest in, reality beyond this world, maybe that means that you believe that this physical universe is all that is, that this physical universe is the ultimate reality.

That seems to follow when you present it as a "more rational" alternative to discussion of what's beyond this world. If that's what you believe, then, as I said, _that_ belief is your metaphysics, your alternative to your date's spiritual feelings, and, I would say, your religion. I'm referring to your belief (if it's your belief) that this physical universe is all, and that this physical universe is the ultimate reality.

This forum isn't the place to go into the evaluation of that belief, but I'll just say this:

You said that you go by what is plausible and economical. The belief that I referred to in the last sentence of the paragraph before last isn't economical. It may at first seem plausible to someone who always believed in it.

I mean, is there any religion whose believers don't consider it plausible?

thesumofallparts--


The bottom line is that I find spirituality in nature, as I think all humans need some spiritual outlet. Nature is real, though, not supernatural, which I don't believe in (god, heaven, hell, etc.) because blind faith is a concept I can't wrap my mind around.


Fair enough. Your belief is that physical nature is all there is. Nothing wrong with that, and nothing wrong with saying so.

But of course you aren't a nonbeliever. You're a believer in the belief that physical nature is all there is, and that physical nature is the ultimate reality.

So sure, just be honest, but don't think that they're a believer and you aren't. You're a believer.
 happy-go-lucky_
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... your answer should just be that you don't claim to know what is beyond this physical world, because it isn' t something that you've studied or looked into at all.
That's not quite true in my case, I have looked into certain ideas about what's allegedly "beyond this world," for the simple reason that I was born into a family that follows an Abrahamic faith (although not very diligently). Consequently, I'm at least as well-versed with these beliefs as the average Christian / Jew / Muslim. I'm also familiar with Hindu and Buddhist philosophies. I happened to grow up in a society whose school system incorporates all of the aforementioned perspectives as a matter of course. That being said, my knowledge and understanding of these things isn't on a par with a religious scholar, but then again, I'm not an expert on science, either. It is true, however, that I don't know for a fact that "there's nothing beyond this physical world," whatever that may mean.

I have no problem admitting my own ignorance or acknowledging the current as well as the absolute limits of science. I do not, however, feel any obligation to acknowledge the possibility of anything existing absent any evidence for it--this is quite distinct from categorically stating that it doesn't exist. The only way to definitively prove the non-existence of something unsupported by physical evidence is to uncover a logical contradiction arising from within the set of claims being made about it. Absent that, I just shrug my shoulders and say I personally feel no compulsion to pick one belief system out of many competing ideas when a lot of what they talk about are things we can't test.

For the record, I consider most questions/speculations of what exists "beyond this world" or "beyond reality" to be incoherent and nonsensical because it is necessarily the case that neither I nor the person putting forth these ideas really knows what they're talking about (again, the problem is a complete lack of evidence, and so one is only limited by one's imagination as far as coming up with conjectures of this sort). Now, the other person may claim to just "know" that something is so despite the complete lack of evidence, but as you have already stated, that's a profession of blind faith.

You've said that your belief system consists of the scientific study and description of this physical world.
I believe what I said was that I only subscribe to ideas that are supported by physical evidence and reason. I doubt whether science alone can form enough of a basis for a complete belief system, although there are perfectly valid evolutionary explanations for certain aspects of morality. All the other aspects of one's morality stem from learned behaviour primarily, but also from religion-based rules that get handed down to religious people, from the lessons of history, and from (naturalistic) philosophy and rational enquiry. I happen to think that I have successfully jettisoned all received wisdom from religion that was at odds with the other sources of morality and have managed to come up with a coherent, secular belief system that is perhaps the closest thing I have to a "religion." So yeah, in order to properly function in human societies, science alone doesn't suffice, but I also don't think religion or spirituality is necessary--atheism and secular philosophy are as old as most religions, after all.

When you present that belief system as an alternative to others' statements or notions of, or interest in, reality beyond this world, maybe that means that you believe that this physical universe is all that is, that this physical universe is the ultimate reality.

That seems to follow when you present it as a "more rational" alternative to discussion of what's beyond this world.
To reiterate, as far as I can tell, both claims about "what's beyond this physical world" and a claim that "nothing exists beyond reality as we know it" are problematic, but there are subtle differences between the two that I don't wish to go into here. Perhaps an example might help. Let's suppose that we uncover evidence for ghosts and spirits--does that mean that we just managed to establish the existence of "something beyond reality" or that ghosts and spirits are merely natural (i.e. real and physical) phenomena subject to the laws of physics? Do you see what I'm getting at? This of course begs the question whether things "beyond reality" are by definition things that can never be observed or inferred using evidence-based study. People like me tend to naturally wonder whether such ideas are relevant outside of a purely academic and speculative realm--specifically, should ideas about the supernatural, otherworldly realm be allowed to dictate the day-to-day activities of real people in the real world? Certainly not when it comes to public policy, but so long as these ideas are strictly personal, I don't have a problem with them. I for one am thankful for the First Amendment, as are the vast majority of religious and non-religious people alike, I'm sure.

I mean, is there any religion whose believers don't consider it plausible?
There are lots of religious / spiritual people for whom certain beliefs or ideas are articles of faith. As far as I can tell, in such instances, plausibility is not a consideration, nor is the presence or absence of evidence, one just subscribes to some idea and that's all there is to it.
 Chasing~Cars
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Posted: 2/25/2010 2:28:35 PM
And we wonder how religions get started! There is an awful lot of verbiage going on her in defending ones belief or lack there of which is the belief that my non-belief is valid.

Personally, I question every belief that I think I have, hold or think of, to hold to any belief automatically cancels out the opposite view. To believe in no god points to the idea that there is a god to disbelieve, the atheist need the believer to debate.

To answer the original question, I don’t let it affect me what so ever, I don’t think you will ever find two people who believe in exactly the same thing but, can two people who believe differently come to terms with their beliefs? There is always room for negotiation and compromise. I answer the question honestly when it is brought up, I hold to no hard and fast rules, I just say that I don’t believe in anything as the ultimate because our feeble human minds are too small at this point to get it all but I believe there is something outside of what is currently known and I don’t claim to know it yet. If they are an ardent Christian, Muslim or Druid for that matter and they need the same, than so be it, we aren’t a match, but if they are open to let me have my thoughts and I’m open to them having theirs, anything is possible.

Same with a vegetarian and a meat eater, or a drinker versus a non-drinker, or a German and a Jew, some can make it work, some can’t. As soon as someone tries to force there belief or non-belief on another, or tries to point out the divide, it’s over, then it just becomes control.
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Posted: 2/25/2010 3:11:28 PM
Your God was nailed to a cross.



My God has a hammer.




Do the math.


 woobytoodsday
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I think there's a huge difference between non-religious and non-spiritual. In fact, they don't even take place in the same spot in our brains. Religion? Meh. Spirituality? Sine qua non. Having said that, I just had to go check ma hunny's profile ~~ I did not remember his view, lol! It's "non-religious" and yet he has a solid spiritual foundation and path. This is going to be one of those things that can only be discovered by asking, and over time. I do think that matching is the only way it's gonna work, though.

 FyrKrakn
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I've gone through a lot of spiritual phases in my life and I suspect most everyone else, has, too. I don't demand too much or too little, but the hyper religious with a spoon fed doctrine spewed from hypocritical mouths, I have a problem with.

If you have a doctrine of sorts that you feel everyone else should live by, and you live by it yourself without demanding it of others, though you be very religious in that sense, I can have a lot of respect for you, supposing the doctrine doesn't cause me to chuckle madly at the sheer idiocy of it.

it's a bad bad thing to have contempt in a relationship. If you feel it toward another, over any reason, be it their spirituality or not, or they show it toward you, walk away. Don't look back. Condescension, contempt, arrogance, superiority, whatever you want to call it, is poison in a relationship and if spirituality, lack or type, is what brings it about on one or both sides, it's a critical factor, if it doesn't affect the equality between you, then it's neutral or better as a factor in your success.
 Appreciative9809
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Posted: 2/26/2010 8:15:34 AM
Participants in this thread:

The posting that I'm replying to now is an entire page. I realize that this topic has no place in the Dating Questions and Advice forum. You shouldn't have to have it occupying a place in this thread. But please forgive me for posting this one last reply. Because the posting that I'm replying to is so full of errors, fallacies, self-contradiction and inconsistencies, and because of its arrogant tone, that I feel that it's only fair for me to be allowed this one last reply.

happy-go-lucky--

Where to start?!




Your answer should just be that you don't claim to know what is beyond this physical world, because it isn' t something that you've studied or looked into at all.


That's not quite true in my case, I have looked into certain ideas about what's allegedly "beyond this world,"...


Below, you say that you don't know for a fact what's beyond this world. So, in spite of your family's religion, and in spite of some religion survey courses, you have not found out that particular answer. That's fine. You aren't interested. You say you don't know. I already knew that, because you said you only subscribe to what is supported by physical evidence. Physical evidence doesn't say anything about the question of what is beyond this world. Hence, the unavoidable conclusion that you don't claim to know that answer, and hence my suggestion for what to say to your dates.


It is true, however, that I don't know for a fact that "there's nothing beyond this physical world," whatever that may mean.


That's good. It means that I was wrong about you, because you _don't_ make a metaphysics and a religion of science.

The problem is that, after saying that, you spend the rest of your posting implying that you _do_ believe that this physical world is the entire reality. In other words, you contradict yourself. A few paragraphs down, you speak of people who aren't coherent and don't know what they're talking about. Do you contradict yourself in the same posting, about what you believe because you're coherent and know what you're talking about?



I do not, however, feel any obligation to acknowledge the possibility of anything existing absent any evidence for it


Did anyone try to obligate you to acknowledge anything? I merely suggested what you could answer to your dates, based on an inference about your belief, based solidly on things that you had said.


I do not, however, feel any obligation to acknowledge the possibility of anything existing absent any evidence for it--this is quite distinct from categorically stating that it doesn't exist.


Is it? You don't acknowledge the possibility of it, and that's quite distinct from stating that it doesn't exist? :-)


The only way to definitively prove the non-existence of something unsupported by physical evidence is to uncover a logical contradiction arising from within the set of claims being made about it. Absent that, I just shrug my shoulders and say I personally feel no compulsion to pick one belief system out of many competing ideas when a lot of what they talk about are things we can't test.


No one tried to compel you to pick a belief system. I merely suggested that you answer that you don't know, based solidly on things that you yourself had said.

But, judging by everything that you say, other than that one statement quoted earlier, you _have_ picked a belief system, the science metaphysics and religion, with your much-repeated implication that you believe that physics, or the physical world is synonymous with reality. No one compelled you to pick that belief system, but you did so.


For the record, I consider most questions/speculations of what exists "beyond this world" or "beyond reality" to be incoherent and nonsensical


You mean incoherent and nonsensical like someone who says something as silly, meaningless and nonsensical as "beyond reality" (as you did in the above quote)? Or who can't even be consistent within one posting about his belief system?

I didn't say anything about anything existing "beyond reality". It's a self-contradictory expression. And you use it thoughout your posting, as if you haven't a clue that it is nonsense. Is that the sort of thing you mean by nonsensical and incoherent?


...because it is necessarily the case that neither I nor the person putting forth these ideas really knows what they're talking about


But you know what you're talking about when you repeatedly speak of something existing "beyond reality"? :-)


(again, the problem is a complete lack of evidence


Yes, isn't it. Like when you keep equating the physical world with reality, as if that metaphysical belief is somehow the true one, even though there is no physical evidence that tests, verifies or supports that belief. You criticize others for saying things that aren't tested or verified by physical evidence, apparently in complete ignorance of the fact that physical evidence doesn't test, verify or support your metaphysical belief either.


, and so one is only limited by one's imagination as far as coming up with conjectures of this sort).


Is that the guiding principle for writing your posting? By the time we get to the end of it, it will certainly look that way.


Now, the other person may claim to just "know" that something is so despite the complete lack of evidence, but as you have already stated, that's a profession of blind faith.


Like when someone criticizes metaphysical statements or claims other than his own, on grounds of lack of physical evidence, apparently ignorant of the fact that his own metaphysical belief likewise isn't supported by physical evidence?

By the way, I made it clear a long time ago that metaphysics isn't physics, and that it's really silly to want it to be supported by physical evidence, when it says nothing about physical matters or issues. You never got that, and continue to criticize metaphysics because it isn't physics and therefore isn't supported by physical evidence.




You said that your belief system consists of the scientific study and description of this physical world.


I believe what I said was that I only subscribe to ideas that are supported by physical evidence and reason.


You may have said that, and believed it, but it isn't correct. You subscribe to a belief, much repeated in your posting, which is not supported by physical evidence.


I happen to think that I have successfully jettisoned all received wisdom from religion that was at odds with the other sources of morality and have managed to come up with a coherent, secular belief system that is perhaps the closest thing I have to a "religion."


Coherent--Is that why you contradict yourself, and say hilariously nonsensical things like "beyond reality", and are seemingly unaware that you believe in that belief system on faith rather than physical evidence?


To reiterate, as far as I can tell, both claims about "what's beyond this physical world" and a claim that "nothing exists beyond reality as we know it" are problematic,


Except that, when you disagree with or challenge someone else's (unspecified) statements about what exists beyond this physical world, you yourself are thereby making your own claim about the matter--but that isn't problematic? By the way, you don't say how it's problematic.

Speaking at all about what does or doesn't exist beyond reality is more than problematic, it's asinine. But, once we overlook the silliness of speaking of what is beyond reality, the statement itself, that "Nothing exists beyond reality" isn't problematic at all. It's a safe thing to say, because it's a trueism. Anything, by being "beyond reality", thereby automatically disqualifies itself from being real, from having any reality.

Reality doesn't admit of things that exist beyond it. It shouldn't be necessary to tell you that.


but there are subtle differences between the two...


Not so subtle, really.


Perhaps an example might help... Do you see what I'm getting at?


No.


This of course begs the question whether things "beyond reality" are by definition things that can never be observed or inferred using evidence-based study.


...Or are an asinine thing to even mention, due to the meaningless and self-contradictoriness of such a statement.

Of course, all this talk of "beyond reality" tells us two things: 1) You haven't a clue that you're talking nonsense; and 2) You believe that "reality" is synonymous with the physical world. Even though there is no physical evidence to support that belief. Faith.


People like me tend to naturally wonder whether such ideas are relevant outside of a purely academic and speculative realm--specifically, should ideas about the supernatural, otherworldly realm be allowed to dictate the day-to-day activities of real people in the real world?


You catch on fast :-) I've already been telling you that metaphysics isn't physics, and says nothing about physical matters.

By the way, I've never made any mention of "the supernatural", or "the supernatural otherworldly realm". Those are your expressions. I wouldn't call what is beyond this world "supernatural", although it has been said to be more natural than this physical world. And you're implying that someone else claims that there is one supernatural realm, consisting of one world other than ours (or several?), and constituting one realm distinct from our world. Who told you that?

That brings up something else: Throught your posting, while criticizing metaphysics, quite unaware that you promote a metaphysics, you disparage statements by advocates ot other metaphysicses--But the problem is that not once to you give a quote, an attributed quote, as an example of what you're talking about.

In your ghost analogy, which I didn't even try to answer or comment on, due to its contradictions and questionable usages, you said "natural. (i.e. physical and real)." Again implying that physical is synonymous with real, and that both are synonymous with natural. There's a metaphysics, of interest to many people, which suggests that the physical world is less natural and less real than what underlies it and is metaphysically prior to it.

Does it prove it? I've already told you that metaphysics isn't subject to the the proof that mathematics is, or even subject to the kind of verification that is possible in physics, though it's difficult to make a comparison between such different subjects.

I've said in these forums that many metaphysical statements really have the force of "What if it's like this?..." or "Could it be like this...?" But there are some metaphysical statements for which it can be convincingly, or even conclusively, argued that, compared to other metaphysical statements, they are at least as plausible or economical, or that they are more plausible or economical. Maybe conclusive arguments are sometimes possible simply because words can say conclusive things about other words, such as your example of finding a contradiction between verbal statements.

Sure, ultimately, knowledge is only possible about things of this world, concepts about this life in this world. Sure, ultimately words can only really say something meaningful about this world and this life. As I said, metaphysics isn't physics. You keep rediscovering that and trumpeting it, and decrying it and complaining about it. The solution? Metaphysics is not for you. So bugger off and stick with what you like.

And remember that all of the above-stated limitations of metaphysical statements and claims apply likewise to your own belief (if it is your belief--you contradict yourself too much for us to know that) that physics, or this physical world, is all of reality.

So the only conclusion that your complaints can really lead to is that you don't like metaphysics--so feel free to stay away from it.

No one has said you should believe anything. I merely gave you advice about what to say, based on what you had said in postings.

"Tell them that you don't know", because there was solid reason to conclude that you don't claim to know (and you said so yourself at the beginning of the posting)

Or, if, as the rest of your posting implies, you do claim to know that the physical world ils all of reality, then that would be your answer when asked your beliefs.

Take your pick. I don't care. It's simple; you either know or you don't.

You know, happy-go-luck, this isn't productive. You can easily spew out these large volumes of nothing but incoherent self-contradiction and thorough sloppiness. And should I then take the time and trouble to go through it, circling your errors, fallacies and self-contradictions with a red pencil, to bring them to your attention? No one's paying me to do that. And you clearly aren't going to benefit from it. So I'm not going to reply again to this discussion. There's nothing more to say.

It isn't just that it's too much time and work pointing out your many errors, fallacies and self-contradictions. It's also your attitude. For you to expect help from me, you'd have to be a lot more humble and a lot less arrogant.

To other thread participants:

If happy-go-lucky is a spokesman for it, with postings such as the one I'm replying to, then "rational" Scientific Materialism is in big trouble.

And please note that I said that I won't reply to happy-go-lucky again in this discussion. That means that happy-go-lucky gets the last word. So I just want to point out that the fact that I don't comment on what he says next doesn't mean that he's said something irrefutable. It just means that there's nothing more to say to him, and that I've already respected him with more time than he deserves.
 FyrKrakn
Joined: 2/21/2010
Msg: 71
How important is spirituality?
Posted: 2/26/2010 9:19:25 AM
OP, this cut and paste argument freak is just looking for a fight, and thereby critically wounds the validity of his/her position. Please don't reply, it only feeds the troll. IF he keeps it up, I'm reporting him, it ruins the forums to go on off topic pushing for a fight.

Apologies are only worth a dam if they come with changed behavior, they don't count when they come before heaping more of the same upon us, the apology is then just insult to injury.

edit: I decided to be a b!tch and report it anyway
 Chasing~Cars
Joined: 1/4/2010
Msg: 72
How important is spirituality?
Posted: 2/26/2010 9:26:46 AM
Appreciative9809, you have way too much time on your hands.
 dave878
Joined: 2/22/2010
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How important is spirituality?
Posted: 2/26/2010 9:37:04 AM
This is a bugbear for me too, and I can identify with the OP. I think the desire for "spirituality" extending beyond mainstream faith does seem to be more prevalent among women, maybe as an echo of the traditional nurturing role, maybe as an (outdated, in my view) predictor of a mate's loyalty. Now I'm not interested in finding a carbon-copy of my own individual beliefs & values or in changing anyone's belief that brings them comfort, does no harm and can't logically be disproved anyway to my satisfaction. Nor am I about to reject anyone for having what's usually meant by a "spiritual" belief, because to me such belief/disbelief just doesn't play an important part in my life. Plenty of mixed-faith couples thrive, while others of shared belief fall by the wayside. But I can see the point of the poster who suggested that comfort in belief might be better enjoyed if shared by both partners. So it's not at all clear-cut. I'd certainly have a problem if a partner's religion dominated our life together (I could say the same of an unyielding "Disbelieve or be damned!" proselytising atheism that drove everyone else away!). I wouldn't have an issue with someone whose faith expressed itself in terms of peace, tolerance & compassion or as a vague belief in something "out there".

Should those of us who don't share an avowedly spiritual belief system be reclaiming the term for our own commitment to the ethics, standards and values that motivate us? I don't know: on the one hand I don't want to present myself as anything I'm not; on the other I dislike the notion that the beliefs and values I've thought long and hard about are lacking in the desire for truth and right that might be considered "spiritual" rather than mundane. Maybe when the word pops up we should ask what our prospective partner means and then offer a different interpretation as appropriate.
 happy-go-lucky_
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How important is spirituality?
Posted: 2/26/2010 9:53:18 AM

OP, this cut and paste argument freak is just looking for a fight, and thereby critically wounds the validity of his/her position. Please don't reply, it only feeds the troll. IF he keeps it up, I'm reporting him, it ruins the forums to go on off topic pushing for a fight.

Apologies are only worth a dam if they come with changed behavior, they don't count when they come before heaping more of the same upon us, the apology is then just insult to injury.
You don't have to report anyone on my behalf, it's completely unnecessary, I assure you. Let the mods worry about cleaning up this thread or nixing it completely if they so choose. I'm dead set against censorship, but I understand that the people maintaining this site have to keep the majority of people happy in order to stave off a mass exodus.

Should those of us who don't share an avowedly spiritual belief system be reclaiming the term for our own commitment to the ethics, standards and values that motivate us?
What term? Spirituality? I for one don't see the need; besides, it'd be misleading because most people have this general sense that spiritual beliefs are distinct from things that can be directly observed or measured.

I don't know: on the one hand I don't want to present myself as anything I'm not;
Exactly.

on the other I dislike the notion that the beliefs and values I've thought long and hard about are lacking in the desire for truth and right that might be considered "spiritual" rather than mundane.
That doesn't bother me. If an appreciation for science, freethinking and rational enquiry isn't indicative of a desire for learning the truth or figuring out what is moral or ethical, then I don't know what is.

Maybe when the word pops up we should ask what our prospective partner means and then offer a different interpretation as appropriate.
Sure, that's the best we can do. I don't have to understand the other person's perspective in order to respect their freedom of thought and beliefs.
 FyrKrakn
Joined: 2/21/2010
Msg: 75
How important is spirituality?
Posted: 2/26/2010 10:12:00 AM
yeah, didn't do it for you, did it for myself,
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