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dont mind any women asking for my phone number..if anyone wants to call me..it is..077 666 666 666..please call after 6pm..cos ill be pissed off my head during the day..or just leave a dirty message on my answering machine
I will do it Chopper but it will cost you 69p per minute
Posted: 12/26/2009 9:52:57 AM
|I have recently had a response from a female, it just gave her name and her mobile number. I texted later to say maybe i could learn something about her and the reply just said please ring now, i want to hear you.|
Don't know what to make of this one, is she sooo forward or desparate or what, i haven't done anything yet.
Posted: 12/26/2009 12:11:52 PM
|It is a difficult one, i have been given numbers in the past and i have given out mine, most of them have been ok, nothing more came of it and numbers were deleted, but i have had a man call me wanting to discuss marriage and babies!, one proceeded to describe very discriptively what he wanted to do to me in bed!! and one texted me about 30 timesa day!!...so now i send messages through the site for a while and take it from there, i learning to trust my instincts more!!|
Posted: 12/26/2009 1:51:10 PM
|Wouldn’t be ideal if the site will give us the chance to communicate with each other in the way we prefer: email, instant messenger, text or telephone? You could choose which is your favourite method and use the site for it. Just as we do now with e-mail we could have if we wish a telephone no assigned to us without the need to use private nos.|
E-mailing suits me just fine. It’s an easy and not invasive way to establish contact and gives me the chance to get to know someone enough to know if I would like to meet the person but I can see is not for everyone. I hope somebody will pick up this trait and will create a site with a multiple choice of ways of communicating.
At least it will stop people saying to me: "here is my no. 07x...call me". Which is not very charming at all :).
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:06:30 PM
|That site already exists.......its your choice, its in your hands which method you choose. If you dont wish to call that person then dont carry on emailing. Buy a sim card just for talking to on line friends if you dont wanna use a "private number"?|
Its in your hands.
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:12:12 PM
|It's seems to pushy to me.. People send their number on first contact too.. I was asked earlier 'if I wanted to link up tonight' what do they think this is? a free red light district!|
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:25:43 PM
|The pics look of a very nice lady i must admit, maybe she is but i just feel a bit uneasy about it. I did send a brief e mail back but never got a reply to that.|
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:30:28 PM
It's seems to pushy to me.. People send their number on first contact too.. I was asked earlier 'if I wanted to link up tonight' what do they think this is? a free red light district!
Some do, I'm still recovering from the laugh I got from reading the "do you want me to come over and see you?" First message.
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:41:00 PM
|I wouldn't go on a date with a guy until I'd spoken to him on the phone - so I can't see why it's wrong - how can you "establish a connection" with someone otherwise?|
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:45:39 PM
|I think maybe it's just one of those things that is different strokes for different folks. I am not so free with my phone number usually but I guess I wouldn't have many objections if her profile and chats were captivating enough. Is it all relative? Where one person gives us confidence and makes it easy to feel free another person might not make us feel so free?|
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:51:36 PM
I wouldn't go on a date with a guy until I'd spoken to him on the phone - so I can't see why it's wrong - how can you "establish a connection" with someone otherwise?
I kind of agree with this. If you want to get to know the person use the number, if not ignore the message. Not exactly difficult.
Posted: 12/26/2009 2:54:17 PM
|I think it is different for different people. I don't give my number out freely either and to be honest I couldn't be arsed going to the trouble of having a separate phone just to avoid potential stalkers although I can see why people do it.|
Posted: 12/26/2009 3:00:45 PM
|if you give your number out to someone it's a simple case of blocking their number if you no longer want to have contact with them so I can't see what the big deal is - same as people freaking out over giving out their msn addy - delete/block is there ...use it.|
Posted: 12/26/2009 3:02:56 PM
|Some mobile phones don't allow you to block someone's number, that's why I'm wary of giving that one out. As for landlines, it can be harder to get shot of someone if you've given them your landline and they've turned psychotic.|
Posted: 12/26/2009 3:15:02 PM
|I agree about landlines. Nobody has my landline number. Most dates or meets will not result in our ideal partner being found. It would have to be going extremely well for me to feel good about landline numbers. That's one phone that us never off or out of sight.|
Posted: 12/26/2009 3:18:48 PM
|Good point about landlines altho when a guy gives me his landline number and it does happen quite a lot, it does impress me still. It definatly means he aint married for a start and that he has little to hide....well thats the theory lol |
Posted: 12/26/2009 3:21:25 PM
|iv was given somebodys landline..off POF..|
and they are on the forums..
and they found out im not a sicko
Posted: 12/26/2009 7:08:10 PM
|I am the opposite|
After a few messages to establish a liking, I offer my number
I find it seperates the men from the boys
Posted: 12/27/2009 1:39:26 AM
|Welcome to mobile dating! For all what you have said I don't see anything wrong with the phone calls and seems that quite a few of you are enjoying them. |
Although is not quite for me.
For me the whole dating experience is down to the date. I really need to see someone before anything else. And I can arrange a date with a few e-mails. So unless is quite clear that we are going to see each other I don't see the point to talk by phone. And if we are going to meet well I'll see you there...
Posted: 12/27/2009 1:52:16 AM
|I don't give out my mobile number straight away. After a couple of emails I will happily go onto MSN where it is easier to chat a bit more freely than email. Only after getting a better sense of someone will I give them my phone number.|
So many people seem nice enough till you move away from email and onto instant messaging, then the odd bods quickly show their true colours. I didn't realise there were so many guys that want to be slaves, are into bondage, would borrow my clothes. Those types I really don't want to call or give my phone number to - and my phone does not have a block facility.
As others say, each to their own
Posted: 12/27/2009 4:17:30 AM
|I agree, I usually find the game playing starts when you give your mobile number out and I can no longer be bothered with men that take forever and a day to reply to a text that they sent in the first place I mean whats that all about anyway.|
Posted: 12/27/2009 5:30:43 AM
Although it's quite disappointing when someone don't bother to answer you back (even more when he started the communication in the first place) is a very clear and positive outcome because you know for certain that this man is not remotely interested in you. And he has saved you a great deal of disappointments and confusing situations in the future. In these situations wouldn’t be rather 'dangerous' to talk to him? The truth is 'the game' as you call it has already been played. But I don't really know the dynamics of mobiledating and I'm pretty sure you know very well what you are doing.
I think e-mailing is a valuable filter to test and get a feeling of the intentions of the people in the site. It requires some effort, it has not instant results/gratification and only if both parties are really interested will take you somewhere.
I have few and sparse dates and I'm ok with it. I don't regret at all the unsuccessful situations I have through e-mailing. It clearly wasn't there and this is much better than an awkward date or an unsuitable relationship.
Posted: 12/27/2009 5:36:43 AM
|OP you seem to believe that you can get to know someone purely by emailing them? I've always thought that emailing was the first step then move onto phone THEN ultimatly onto a date. Some take longer than others to go thro the process which is their choice. However dont make the mistake of believeing every thing you read in an email the proff of the real person is when you meet up untill then take everything you read with a pinch of salt.|
Posted: 12/27/2009 6:11:21 AM
|That's very kind Belle. Many thanks I won't forget it. Deception is a real threat.|
Also, I know, I should have a little chat before arranging a date but I'm so lazy to talk by phone. My mum could tell you about it.
The e-mailing for me is only to see if I want a date or not (and most of the times it doesn't happen) and it's ONLY when I SEE the person that the real game starts :).
So far nothing interesting to report. What about you?
Posted: 12/27/2009 6:16:23 AM
I usually find the game playing starts when you give your mobile number out and I can no longer be bothered with men that take forever and a day to reply to a text that they sent in the first place I mean whats that all about anyway.
A sweeping generalization that isn't true of everybody.
But it is true of some people including women too. I doubt very much that your comment can only be aimed at men and I doubt that gender has much to do with bad habits and causing problems.
You only date men so of course it looks like them causing the problems. Do you think that every single woman replies to texts without delay? Do you think that every single bit of hassle here is the fault of a man? That's dilluded.