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| | Dating in Your 50's - Is It Tough?Page 5 of 16 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16) | Assuming I could meet someone dateable in the fora, I'd appreciate a skull and
crossbones displayed next to the forum thumbnail of those here for the forums only. 
For women who date, a simple chart: Thumbnail stamp versus Number of dates before
getting amorous
1 date - Exclamation point
2 dates - Mae West
3 dates - Pamela Ann Derson
4 dates - Barbarella
5 dates - Angelina Jo Lee
6 dates - Wonder Woman
8 dates - Sarah Pay Lyn
10 dates - Bo Dare Ech
16 dates - Hillary
and a lollipop or Raggedy Ann for the virgin, haven't accepted a date in 6 months. | |
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| Dating in Your 50's - Is It Tough?
Posted: 12/29/2009 8:33:02 AM | Geeze MM! You are really on a roll with that post! ...and nope, am not going to point out a number! lol
Not too sure just what this has though, to do with dating in the 50's, or getting a date? Are you perhaps referring more to how to keep a man interested after having a date? Now that one is surely and has surely been up for debate many, many times! | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 9:28:55 AM | Retract, retract. Would that I realize my posting had become plain asinine prior to hitting "send".
So, along with my favorite ("Only the truth is funny" by Rick Reynolds), I must consider this: That which appears truthful may at best only be asinine and prolix. | |
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| Dating in Your 50's - Is It Tough?
Posted: 12/29/2009 11:37:55 AM | "I can't help thinking "Spoken like 'a very sexual woman' who has never had her breasts, abdomen, back or inner thighs repeatedly lightly brushed with a man's facial hair."
That statement made me shudder, and not in a good way. I guess the women who posted it has never had a man with freshly shave face rub his soft skin on her breast, abdomen, back, and inner thighs.
Sure it is tough for men to dating at this age. How is he to know what a women find sexual either in appearance or sexuality. The same can be said that a women can't know the preference of a man at this age.
We all have the right to our preferences. We have had many threads about changing our preferences to be more successful at dating at our age. However, we all know that we can't change what turns us on or off. We are doomed | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 1:43:12 PM | ^^^TFF!!!
I thought I stumbled upon the "men over 45 with facial hair" debacle...er, I mean debate thread!!!!
dating in our geriatric years.
what are we thinking?
time to pull up the covers and die. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 1:49:14 PM | If you arent having the success you wish with dating then you have to CHANGE what you do...not **** about what the opposite sex doesnt want to do with you...
I dont think the purpose of this thread was for some to whine how unattractive (besides looks) they are.
Im full figured and have no problems getting dates...I also realize that very few men will appreciate my sense of humor so I am not going to spend their or my time and effort trying to make something happen when there is nothing there to happen with...
I prefer to be alone than with someone who is just lonely and anyone will do. I think most men feel the same way so when a man/woman comes across as just wanting SOMEONE, ANYONE then most are going to pass them by.
One thing I have picked up on is some people really need to UP their own self worth...so you have met SOME people in your life and they havent wanted to DATE you..well exactly how many are you looking to date...seriously if you want long term...it only takes ONE...so you just havent met the right one but ****ing about it will guarantee you wont either! | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 1:56:45 PM | | Amen, Saffire Eyes and b#tching about anything doesn't do anything to resolve it. Low self-esteem makes some fish want to tear others down to their level. It is Loserville and miserable to be around. | |
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Fifi47
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Msg: 108 | |
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| Dating in Your 50's - Is It Tough?
Posted: 12/29/2009 2:27:12 PM | | Being negative is not a gender-specific issue, both genders do it and it is not attractive, nor fun to be around. | |
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Fifi47
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| Dating in Your 50's - Is It Tough?
Posted: 12/29/2009 2:33:36 PM | | People who belittle others because they have different life's experiences makes them negative-if the shoe fits, wear it. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 3:00:02 PM |
People who belittle others because they have different life's experiences makes them negative-if the shoe fits, wear it.
Don't tell me what to wear. Bossy broads aren't attractive.
Perhaps some of the people who are finding dating tough at a more advanced age are the same people who found dating tough in their younger years. They just can't remember how tough it was back then.
For some of them they were married for a long time, and when they emerged from the marriage there was a whole new set of rules, buzzwords, catchphrases, attitudes, stds (used to be called vds), new aged philosophies, etc, etc, that makes dating strange and unfamiliar. Of course it's going to be tough at first for some of the oldsters.
Just be positive and learn a little each time out. Negativity will definitely keep people away.
Guy 1: *Sigh*
Guy 2: What's the matter?
Guy 1: I'm so lonely, women won't date me.
Guy 2: Well, why not?
Guy 1: All the shallow b****es are looking for rich young studmuffins.
Guy 2: Really?
Guy 1: Yes, a nice honest guy like me never has a chance.
Guy 2: Well what about that nice girl you were talking to last week?
Guy 1: What.... her? That fat ugly thing? I do have my standards you know.
Guy 2: *Sigh*
Guy 1: *Sigh*, I'm so lonely. | |
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Fifi47
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Msg: 112 | |
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| Dating in Your 50's - Is It Tough?
Posted: 12/29/2009 3:16:11 PM | In my younger years, the single women weren't veterans of long relationships they escaped. They did not have the history of their dreams falling apart and love turning to hate. They had not yet made the choice of ending the love that they were once glad to have had. These are those women, after what they went through, just like my ex is the woman in my life like that, and I am her ex, like these women have an ex.
Before, we sat at the table and licked our lips with anticipation as the meal was being prepared. Then the meal was served. Then we ate and almost choked and spat out what we could and barfed up the rest. We slunk off into the shadows to recover from food poisoning. Now, who wants dessert?
It wasn't MY fault. There is nothing WRONG with ME! The worst I did was, choose the wrong one. Now I KNOW IT ALL, and could be the perfect angel of love that I would have been all along, if not for the reign of the DEMON OVERLORD who stole my best years. And here I am, posed in my refurbished poise, not DESPERATE or anything, but if someone rare and WORTHY of me happened to astound me with some SPARKS, well, and I say this with my chest puffed out or my eyelashes batting coyly, as the case may be, I just MIGHT deign to give it one more try.
Somehow, a whole flock of other birds, not all that differently feathered, did somehow enjoy their relationships and remained together. They must have chosen better. They must have got one of the good ones.
Pardon me while I sigh: (sigh).
Yep, it's all their fault, whoever they are!
Silliness, is what it is, because everyone knows that to declaw and neuter love is the way to tame it. It must be a small harmless pet, to have hop up on your lap a few minutes at a time, then put out in the yard until you want to pet it again. I'm still as LOVING as ever, but only on my terms and when I don't need you, go lay down by your dish.
It's not tough. It's absurd. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 3:29:56 PM | Wowza! It still seems like you are painting all women with the same brush as your ex. How can you find that special and rare woman when you are expecting the worst in everyone?
I like my ex and there are moments, when I still see that wonderful man I married in him. I did not want my divorce, but I am divorced now,and going to make the best of the situation by trying to see the best in people. Life is too short to hold my heart close to my vest, behind a protective armour which keeps others out. I want to let someone in and that requires trust. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 4:03:57 PM |
I'm still as LOVING as ever, but only on my terms and when I don't need you, go lay down by your dish.
That is one of the saddest and most pathetic things I've read in a very long time. I am very glad that is not my perspective on life. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 4:22:17 PM |
I'm still as LOVING as ever, but only on my terms and when I don't need you, go lay down by your dish.
E X A C T L Y
So what's so tough about that kind of arrangement??
I go out on dates when I feel like it. When I feel like showing off my hourglass figure (haha) and when I'm in the mood to be charming and witty.
No...there isn't a lack of available men to date...but it is tough finding one that I'd want to bring home for keeps.  | |
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Posted: 12/29/2009 4:46:27 PM | For certain there is something missing but could never put my finger on it earlier either. Eventually I saw it as I put more attention and thought to the patterns of our behaviour (pre-POF). Firstly can you really expect another person whom you have never had any offline contact with to be sharing a pile of very personal info about each other which defines your inner self and without any commitment? I believe most are used to the commitment being there first. After that comes the long long talks.
You don't know if you'll like someone until you actually get close and spend some time with them in person, doing sweet nothing or spending time in an activity both enjoy previous to meeting etc. When there is commitment usually people tend to decide what they will overlook or tolerate by balancing it with their developing affection for that person. In my opinion I don't think I would let tiny differences stand in the way of romance but I am talking about a romance built on the old way of doing all of this. Offline.
I agree with the op 100%. The "instant gratification" and the "have it your way" idea of having the customized " match after all does seem to be overtaking relationship development online. And I am afraid that our consumer attitudes an habits have slightly influenced our mating habits. A good relationship is built one tiny considerate piece at a time that often can not be coxed but are better accepted when volunteered as in a statement of "surrender". And then of course there is always a chance that the " half" cannot resist the temptation to use these little tidbits as social currency amongst their peers. This thread is senseless without mention of the "serial dating" phenomena either... of which I am going to avoid any detailed existence of.
Sure dating is easy. It's easy because you can NOW just mumble in your brain, "no". And go on another date the next day/week/month. Hence the term. "serial dating". Some might say, "You take it all too seriously" while otyhers might return, "You aren't even serious about dating. Are you?" Some are serious and the others give up too easily I believe, Neither are wrong or right. Just chicken. (kidding) | |
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Posted: 12/30/2009 12:14:08 PM | I was thinking of this thread today...how if the kids in school could see how grown ups are acting about members of the opposite and same sex...what their feelings would be...
Life is simple, if you are unhappy...YOU ARE WHO HAS TO CHANGE...if you keep doing the same thing then ITS YOUR FAULT, people who feel they arent physically attractive enough to get the attention of someone are just USING that as an excuse...YES some vain people will still insist on *LOOKS at this age but over and over most of the men/women on the forums (exception to the nuts cases) are saying what they are looking for is someone who GETS THEM, not someone they want to pay for, not someone they want to help grow up...sport sex is meaningless...romance and intimacy are in...but then they encounter someone with a mean ugly attitude about what happened in their past relationships ....
The one thing I dont get, my first husband was a drunk, my second was a sex addicted bipolar pedophile ...they were my choice (granted neither were that when we met) but it was still MY choice...Im happy for the wonderful years we had together. Why I would want to try and blame ALL men for the lack in two men I just dont get...or why men who have an ex cheat on them, or was a **** or whatever and now think all women are evil etc...
We each are individuals, none of us are perfect...
Isnt it time to forgive yourself for whatever choice you made in the past and work on having a better future..or keep bashing the men/women cause they dont chose you or keep bashing the woman/men cause they pick someone younger, thinner, richer, smarter ...etc..they arent...THEY ARE CHOOSING A PERSONALITY over yours... | |
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Posted: 12/30/2009 12:25:01 PM | Moraima said, "I would date more, if I ran into less whiners."
I say, "I would date more, if I ran into less snide, control freaks." | |
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Fifi47
| | Joined: 8/19/2004
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| Dating in Your 50's - Is It Tough?
Posted: 12/30/2009 12:25:34 PM | | Yell it louder, or better yet, why not send an email to the person you are talking about instead of embarrassing yourself in a forum by possibly acting childish? ( just an opinion of a woman who has a fine personality) | |
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Posted: 12/30/2009 1:48:41 PM | "Moraima said, "I would date more, if I ran into less whiners."
I was refering to all those who believe or say they believe that the world has done them wrong.
I was thinking about some of the comments about how tough it is too date. Then I though, hello............we made it to 50+. Too many fine people don't live to be 50. I am sure they would have prefered to deal with tough dates, than not be on this planet. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2009 2:05:49 PM | I do not find dating tough. As a now jaded dating veteran I find it boring. Even if life is a bowl of cherries after a while even eating cherries can become monotonous. Although I meet new women almost daily and still date several times a week some time ago I gave up hoping to find "the one". She may not exist or if she does I may never meet her so if I want a social life I just keep on dating. Consequently I do meet many interesting new women and they can be refreshingly different from one another.
One of my best resources is women I used to date and with whom I have remained friends. In fact I just got off the telephone with one who is fixing me up with one of her friends. It turns out I already know the woman's mother, a local real estate agent, who still looks very good at 65 so this may turn out well. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2009 4:26:16 PM | I agree with you for the most part. The part I find difficult is still looking for my soul mate, and yet there is so much happening in my own life, that its hard for others to understand. I have a father who has a death sentence hanging over him, and having an operation in the next few weeks and yes it will be life or death - he is 84 and has been ill for the past three years and things are getting worse. Whilst I do keep my sunny side out, and try to keep upbeat, what guy wants a female who must be there at times to be with my father when he needs to be brought to hospitals in my town or to Dublin. Needs to be there at weekends to get his house in order, and ensure he has all his needs met. I have the same love you have for your children as I do my father and therefore, in crises and trouble, you know exactly where you would be, as I also know where you would be. People pass such situations off as too much trouble to be bothered getting involved. The same applies to my children - they need me - im there, though both are grown up and have left the nest. Life and strife is part of the human disposition. What I take heart in, I can take it, because if someone is not prepared to stand by me, when needed most - they are not worth it. As to being victims of some crime - I think its a crime that you feel a victim. We have to make our own happiness within ourselves before we can make another person happy. Yet you are right married people will say that not every day is sunny, that also applies to single people. We all have our sunny days, our down days, our optimistic days,- we are just as human as those married, and not all marriages are right either. We are all complex human beings and if there were a book to give us the right cue to reach our mate - they would one hell of a billionaire.
Take heart, you are not the only one that feels the way you do. We all have many days when everything you have said is so true - you are not alone. k | |
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Posted: 12/30/2009 4:41:14 PM | Don't know whether Moraima was chopped beef or prime rib in her younger years, but she's definitely one of the toughest, if not the toughest, dates today. Actually agree with her opinion regarding rough and tough, i.e. reality - regardless, would like to hear more about the upsides, too, Ladies.  | |
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Posted: 12/30/2009 5:03:10 PM | I'll take that as a compliment
Actually, the date with me isn't difficult. It is getting the date that is the tough part | |
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