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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 3/20/2006 1:47:39 PM | Faithful and true,
I had an experience very similar to yours. He wasnt as bad tho, but it was scary. I'm extremly cautious now because of it. Now I run into guys that get upset because I dont give them my number or call them right away. I prefer to get aquainted online , before phone calls are exchanged. Then I'm told, I need to grow up. LOL. I figure the right person will show patience.
Thanks for sharing your experience. | |
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TJGren
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Joined: 1/25/2009
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:43:31 PM | I agree with all of the above (might be married, took your # to be polite, found something better, wasn't all that interested) and want to add one thing.
I don't sit around waiting for phone calls, nor do I take men's numbers and call them. If a man offers me his number, I'll take it and give him mine....and not use his. I put the ball in his court. I will obviously talk with a man if he calls and I answer, but I don't make the first move. I will call a man only to confirm plans or to return a call he made to me. Same with e-mails and texts. I NEVER call or e-mail a man first to tell him how much I liked the date. I only will return an e-mail or call to say, "Me, too," if he does it first. I do this for two reasons:
1) Women calling men cheats a man out of the thrill of the chase. If a man is interested in you, he will call. Calling him comes across as aggressive or as if you are chasing him, which kills attraction and makes the chase over too soon. Talking to friends of mine or thinking back to when I was younger and didn't have this attitude, a good part of the reason why men didn't call was because of something I did - coming across as too eager, needy, insecure, etc. Never come across on a date as if you're "grateful" to be there! A man is supposed to think he's found a catch and feel lucky to have the opportunity to "earn" you -- not feel as if the woman he's with is grateful to be out with just anybody.
2) I want to date only men who are interested in me. Male friends of mine have told me that they've asked women out who've called them or accepted dates with a woman who asked to avoid outright rejecting them. If you let a man call you, you have the assurance that he's into you and interested, because he's making the decision to contact you. If you don't get a phone call, consider that it's "his loss" and move on. Do you want to be with a man who doesn't think you're amazing enough to want to call ASAP and/or often? | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:45:16 PM | | if they don't call, so what? is it really the end of the world? DON'T THINK SO!! look at things the way i do, they CAN be replaced, bit like furniture really, if it's not up to much, get rid, let's face it the players are a waste of space, but i'm sure not all men are the same, just get out there with girls and make your own entertainment, oh, and take their phone no. if you have it, out of your phone, and if by chance he should call you unexpectedly 3 weeks later, just laugh and press end, usually works for me, and you feel great! HAVE FUN! | |
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Eenk
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Joined: 3/15/2009
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:41:29 PM | | Better things to do than listen to someone they don't really know blab for an hour about things of no interest to them. They could be playing Call of Duty 4 or something like that instead. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:58:19 PM | | Its simple.....if he likes you he will put forth the effort. If he doesn't he will make you chase him. Men really are not so complicated....we just need to pay attention. If they don't show effort and or interests..then move on! QUICKLY! Plenty of other fish in this sea sweetie! | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/15/2009 10:56:45 PM | | You know...I think most guys mean to call. Recently I DID this. Why didn't I call. I just didn't feel like talking. Or I was tired. And is it worse to call and say "I do not want to talk" or not call? | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:55:21 PM | | Women do the same thing, thats just how you play the game! Have you ever given a guy a number thats not yours?? Give him a break, just because he hasn't called doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Maybe you're just to available and knows where to find you. If you see this as a persistent habit, then im sorry to say that " he's not into you". My advice is to begin moving along and usually men when they feel they're losing someone will return to you. | |
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Romny
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Joined: 4/7/2009
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/16/2009 12:37:43 AM | He wants you to make the first move so that he can't be blamed when he uses your body as a storage space for his bodily fluids right before dumping you like a sack of dirty laundry....
So... are u gonna message him? Perhaps call him?
Why not? Life is short. Make your mistakes now before you're dead. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/17/2009 9:36:10 AM | MEN sometimes LIE.
WOMEN sometimes LIE.
Both sexes have a massive variety of reasons for inconsistencies in behaviour.
If it was me, and I liked the guy I'd probably ask him what was going on- you have absolutely nothing to lose if he's messing, and everything (potentially) to gain if he's not. I think knowing is better than wondering- welll, it works for me anyway.
good luck, n if he carries on like a fool- then he's probably a fool, so no loss at all really! | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/17/2009 9:52:22 AM | This horse has been beaten to death already, but I figured I'd grab a stick and join in the fun.
Not something that's limited to guys only, as already mentioned. There are guys who will call back, just like there are guys who won't.
If the person is sincere, then you'll hear back, if not, then just grin and keep moving. Lamenting over it certainly won't help matters. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/17/2009 1:12:50 PM | This just happened to me for the first time (regarding being friends rather than dating, and after more contact) and I'm 27. It is a bit of a slap in the face.
In response to: "citykitty if you were 18 I could understand why you posted a thread like this but 26!? come on, you know better and you know exactly what you gotta do as everybody else said it on here." | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/17/2009 5:34:04 PM | | I think rather than conveying my response in writing with respect to this extremely vexing question...... why don't I just call you to explain it fully.......so just wait by the phone until I do.....just keep waiting.......I will call............really. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/18/2009 6:49:40 AM | | beats me, think i agree with some of the other posts, guys are only using you as a back up, i dont like chasing guys and prefer to have them call me, but i also dont mind taking a chance if i really like him, if after a few attempts and he doesnt reciprocate then i guess you have to realise that he's not interested and move on, if your making the effort but he isnt well its wasting your time x | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/18/2009 1:22:51 PM | | Sometimes, they just say that to make the conversation end on a happy note. Then they decide later what they actually want to do. It's stupid. Happens every single day a billion times. It's like asking wy the sun rises. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:11:48 PM | OP this isn't a problem with a lot of men, this is a problem with the losers that YOU pick.
You are acting like a stray dog looking for their master; you know why these guys keep doing this? because they are flakes; you are choosing flakes.
If someone was that late for me they are done; why? because unless they are on fire or their mom and dad just had a stroke, I'm not buying their bullcrap. You make people respect you; you dont keep messaging them acting desperate.
Blow these losers off, or get used to them | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 5/3/2009 12:13:55 PM | 1. Maybe something came up
2. He had other plans
3. Maybe another female caught his attention ( a one with Bigger BOOBS, BUTT or LIPS) perhaps???
4. Maybe something came up
5. Perhaps he talked to the female and realized she is FULL OF IT and moved on - it happens to even ME at times-ha!
6. BAGAGGE aka "MEN issues"- that will get a MAN running faster than the FLASH everytime!  | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 8/30/2009 12:16:27 PM | I can relate to this but here is how I handle it.
I tend to accept invitations to dates even though this person may not be one who's profile would have triggered my initiating contact. Sometimes, the conversation gets to the point where we discuss whether or not to meet again. Sometimes it does not. If not, but while we are still out together, I say maybe we can see each other again but deep inside I know I am not interested. I just don't want to say that right there if he doesn't bring it up. When I get home, I email them to say thanks and to tell them 3 things about them and/or the date I liked. I then say I feel we are not heading in the same direction and so will not be in contact again.
My reasons for this method are simple. I want to build them up a bit in relation to the letdown. Meeting them in the first place gives them a chance to have a date which they can now look back on and talk about. I also want them to feel good about themselves the way I do when I receive one of those emails telling me I am not the one but there are nice things about me they can point out. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 8/30/2009 12:34:59 PM | | when a guy tells you that he'll "call you later" always take it with a grain of salt. sometimes they really do like you and they're being sincere, but other times they're just looking for the easy way out -- rejecting you without the messy discomfort of actually being direct about it. ya, it's spineless, but people (guys and girls) do it all the time. from their perspective, you're out of sight and out of mind, therefore they don't have to deal with guilt over your hurt feelings. cold and selfish as it is, that's why they do it. | |
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