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 1eyebob
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You know most guys dont stay completely hard during intercourse. It has to do with the blood flow in the penis. When a guy gets excited the blood fills up his penis making it sometimes hard as a rock. This is actually slightly painful when it gets this much blood pressure inside and is another incentive to bury it in something. It is not ow! ow! ow! painfull so some guys dont even notice it. It is good painful but a guy can only take so much of it. This extreme hardness is what causes "Blue Balls" in guys who are excited for a long time without relief. If you get a guy working it at half mast or better you are doing well. Of course how pleasant it is for you may depend how big he is after the slight deflation of the penis during intercourse. Just like for women orgasms for men are better the longer it takes to start. When we cum quickly it doesnt have much of the exquisite after sensations as the long distance cumming has. If you watch porn watch how the guys****loses a little of its ridgidness as the sex acts continue. If he stays to excited he will cum quickly. You dont want that do you? If you still have problems then work on improving your oral tecniques or better yet suggest something kinky you want to try or just start doing it if you are shy to speak about it.
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 roadglide5
Joined: 4/22/2010
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Posted: 4/22/2011 11:33:55 PM
I am 63 ! have asked the doctor and he said its the meds. I take ! I even have tryed the little blue pill ,won't stay hard and won't cum . It has gotten to the point I will not ask a woman to have sex with me , IT IS A VERY BIG THING FOR A MAN NOT TO BE ABLE TO KEEP A HARD-ON OR CUM . Makes you feel less of a man . I have been with 2 women in the last 5 years ,and won't try any more !
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 4/23/2011 7:22:36 PM
Starfish!
Women who lie there like a starfish make it very difficult for a guy to maintain his end of the performance.

this is not the majority of women.( so ballcutters get off my back!)
but starfish women do exist. but thats ok...Men can compensate and not complain but that means theres more pressure on men.

Starfish maybe very nice women regardless of shape and size and so-on. but they are starfish during sex.[ a (0(k-sock with arms and legs. - ]

medical conditions (guys around 60 with circulatory issues, prostate issues )
psychological issues
But no! women want a guy who is as hard as marble, lasts one hour, ejaculates when she wants him to, not too hairy, at 50 or 60 should still have the body of an 18 year old eunuch
what gives?

I say Bollocks! Guys you get a chance and its 1/2 hard just put the the mutha in blow thirty seconds later and let that smile come out!

have a shower leave a ring of hair in her tub, smack her azz say thanks and leave.

the way of the wombat! - eats roots, shoots and leaves!
The natural Tao of masculinity

can't cum? solution... a combination of jerkin your softy and prostate massage (check with your doctor if theres a prostate issue) - and then bingo! you will orgasm and mess the sheets!

Its all there don't feel so bad about it. Don't let other people put you down.
 northwoods57
Joined: 7/17/2007
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Posted: 4/27/2011 4:43:07 PM
male perspective: anxiety performance.
he is afraid he will not be able to perform to satisfy you,
so much, he gets antzy and afraid.
he needs to take it easy, enjoy the ride. whats the rush?
 sunnysideoflife44
Joined: 3/4/2011
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Posted: 6/13/2011 11:45:07 PM
This is not to put anyone down. All my life I have been able to last a long Time and control my orgasms. Their are times when I do not reach an orgasm but will be hard and this is no lie for hours. A lady friend who i see used to freak out and thought it was her. It was not just I firmly believe some men have this problem. Notice I say problem because it can be very frustrating. I do not use viagra or any of the other things. some younger men use viagra for an extra edge. I have been fortunate that women are viagra to me.
 sinfulsonar97
Joined: 4/30/2011
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Posted: 6/14/2011 12:27:11 AM
too much masturbation can cause this problem as well as drinking. I have the same problem where i can go for ever. Then again if their is lots of foreplay it doesn't seem to be as much of a problem. I have never had a problem getting hard but cumming can be an issue at times.

If a guy is having issues where its always an hour maybe he needs to concentrate less on you and more on himself. And I'm telling you foreplay means a lot to how fast a man can cum. Get him excited by kissing, stroking and touching his body and it might just change. And to be honest, if a woman just lays there and lets him do all the work chances are its going to be harder to cum. Work them hips and use that body. NO MAN LIKES A DEAD F&&K
 muniz1
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Posted: 6/15/2011 3:18:06 PM
why dont you have a pic posted?
 luciandwill
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Posted: 6/15/2011 3:52:01 PM
paxil makes it impossible to cum
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
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Posted: 6/15/2011 8:13:40 PM
Maybe stress, too much masturbation, emotional issues, depression all of those can be a an issue too all that.
 4asongkc
Joined: 5/13/2011
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Posted: 6/16/2011 10:37:56 AM
In no particular order of importance:

1, Stagefright. They want so badly to perform for you, that they get themselves in a knot, anxiety-wise.

2, Blood flow. Don't know the ages of the gentlemen in question, but this is why there is Viagra, Cialis, etc.. These drugs open up the blood vessels in the penis and lower regions of a man's torso in general, which is critical in "waking the Admiral".

3, Emotional noise/distractions. They may be worried, upset or angry over something that may not have anything at all to do with you. Or, it could have to do with you.

4. They might not be that turned on by you. That could be emotional every bit as much as physical. Contrary to popular belief, guys sometimes get turned on emotionally the same way a woman does. Just because a woman may be off-the-scale hot, does NOT necessarily guarantee that you're going to be able to "wake the Admiral". Or, they might sense that you're not into them as much as they're into you. Or, maybe they're NOT into you that much.

5. They may have a medical condition of some kind or another. In which case, they obviously need to get it checked out.

Hope this helps. Good luck!
 UnixGrand
Joined: 5/9/2011
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Posted: 6/17/2011 12:00:38 PM
Most pharmaceutical drugs cause erection problems. They of course cure one thing, but are a cause of another. Thank god I don't have the need for any prescription drugs.
 icboobs
Joined: 6/11/2010
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Posted: 6/17/2011 4:28:56 PM
Whenever I couldn't get hard/cum for a woman it was because personally 1.) I wasn't attracted enough to the female I was with, 2.) She was a prostitute... I can't get hard for prostitutes, I dunno why, 3.) I drank alcohol earlier in the day, 4.) I masturbated too frequently over the course of the last day(s)/week(s), 5.) I felt "distant" because of nonstop fighting, or I was upset about certain things she said, thought or did, and 6.) I was too insecure, stoned, or had too much on my mind. It has been forever since I experienced 2.) and 6.). Oh and I forgot 7.) Sometimes a woman can be coerced into having sex but she doesn't really want it. That can turn my thing into a soft noodle (which is probably why I can't do it with prostitutes).
 CheerfullD
Joined: 11/14/2010
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Posted: 6/18/2011 12:42:50 AM
Many times it can be from a side effect of a medication like bloop bressure meds can do this, Get Viagra!! Its not that he isnt into u he just is having problems you can tell if he likes u so I dont think thats it. But I have seen this happen from diff meds, and diabetes also, it sucks ha
 the_unforfgiven
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Posted: 6/18/2011 8:23:28 AM
It is definitely not your problem. I have had similar problem with some girls before, but not with others. Ironically, the girls that I couldn't get hard with were hotter and I loved them at the time. Don't know why but I just couldn't do that with them. I would get really horny all the time but a touch of her was enough to turn it off.
Never figured out the reason but obviously, love is not enough. You gotta have chemistry. I was with an asian girl for a while wich was kinda ugly but I could do her for hours 5 times a day!
The issue of not being able to come is also related to the same thing. When you are not hard enough you can't come.
 the_unforfgiven
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Posted: 6/18/2011 8:29:17 AM
When I was 22 I broke up from a 3 years relationship and I was pretty depressed afterwards. I met a girl in a week and the first time I couldn't get hard at all due to depression I was into. I was so embarrassed that I asked her to leave before having to take my pants off.
Next time I met her was in two weeks, I used viagra, worried of another failure, and the result was coooooool. I was as hard as a metal pole for 5 hours! She escaped from my room when I went to bathroom and I was hard the whole night, even I though I jerked off two times.
 tzigane
Joined: 5/19/2006
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Posted: 6/18/2011 9:53:26 AM
Erectile dysfunction is an early sign of heart disease, so you might want to find out if they have high blood pressure too. I watched a movie recently that proved that ED is not because a guy is too lazy to have his own erection, that in fact it is a blood flow issue, and an early sign of heart disease.
 UnixGrand
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Posted: 6/18/2011 10:58:14 AM
It's also cholesterol. Don't you think that cholesterol clogs everything, including the blood flow in the penis. There are labs doing research now that show that using Statins [cholesterol medication] causes Dementia, and Alzheimers in older adults. This is why we are seeing more, and more of it. Please take care of your bodies, so you won't need pharmaceutical drugs. They are a curse, as well as so called help. For me..... I intend to give god back what he gave me. A healthy body. No matter how old I get.
 Delta23879
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Posted: 6/19/2011 2:35:11 AM
Not sure how old these guys are, but many guys of middle age and older have erectile problems caused by medication and or prostate problems, it is not the ladies fault at all, they need to be very sensitive to the issue and go along with whatever the guy needs to do to get turned on as and when he can, oral, dirty talk etc etc can all help, but sometimes it just won't happen.

There are other sensitivity issues too where having taken Viagra, Cialis or Levitra you can get hard but you sort of feel numb and it takes an age to cum unless a lot of stimulation is used as well as normal vaginal friction.

Encourage the guys to see their GP if this persists, don't give up on them and please please don't ridicule them or blame them or you it happens to thousands.

Of course there are the usual tiredness worry and stress causes which can happen at any age too.
 sinfulsonar97
Joined: 4/30/2011
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Posted: 6/19/2011 2:47:22 AM
fore play says a lot. And over 30 lets face it we need it and want it like they do. sex that lasts longer than 45 min might be great but lets face it we want to cum. It doesn't matter how good it is at that point woman thing there is something wrong with them.

At 36 I have to learn to control my prostate and it sucks. I can cum but the more control i have over it i cum harder. Younger guys dint understand but, the older guys do. using your swank is one thing. but really learning to use it is a different ball game.......
 EasyPeasy72
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Posted: 10/4/2011 8:58:05 PM
Zinc and testosterone deficiencies, or being drunk just to name a few things that can physically mess a guy up.
 kthlni
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Posted: 10/15/2011 10:27:47 AM
no matter how many times ive cum-10-15 seconds of a womans tongue in my ear gets me hard again

so few women do it tho without asking

marco
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 10/15/2011 1:00:15 PM
Marco..you're only 19.
At your age I could keep a hardon for days..and usually did.
 Ranja111
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Posted: 10/15/2011 1:23:05 PM
That is a question I have too.
I had the same experiences. at times and as of late.
It`s either masturbarbation before the sex, to try to
hold on longer, or they slept with other people the same day.
I had a thread up, which got deleted, in which I pretty
much asked the same thing. What is wrong with a lot of men
being not really able to perform these days as they should be
able to. What`s wrong with them? Allk this talk they do about how
they can go, and go. And rhen they can`t even get out of the door.
I had one very good sexual relationship in the past year, but that was
it. Everything else was forgetable.many women told me4 the same thing about their partners. I love great sexual relations. But the men have seem to forgotten what inter human sex is. They have become Robots .Malfunctioning ones too.
 Cat*Eyes
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Posted: 10/16/2011 12:25:18 AM
The answer is simple, men jerk off too much. Another reason, is, they are on Medication, and/ or drinking alcohol. Another reason could be Diabetes. Excuse spelling.
These are the major reasons.
 duckbutr63
Joined: 10/3/2011
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Posted: 10/16/2011 1:06:09 AM
my reason is the anti-depresssants i got on when I found out my fiancee was sleeping with her bff ex to be, i get and stay hard, but gun wont fire but ince a week
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