| | Blocked by someone after no msg?Page 3 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | | i do know of some people blocking people soon as a message comes , thy look into their profiles see if thy like the look and then see what kind of job then block if they hvnt gt top flying job personally i dont look at a profile till after ive spoke a couple of times so i knw if i like them before even looking at a profile . | |
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Posted: 1/31/2010 10:21:48 AM | | If they don't find you attractive (and no it's not everything) but it is not nothing maybe they don't have time to chat or answer mails. I find that answering mails to be polite ends up in them thinking I am interested when I am not. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2010 1:13:41 PM | Blocked by someone after no msg?
Message: Anyone else seen this. Send someone a message, something like 'hey, hows things fancy a chat'?
It means they don't like the sound of you, or the look of you, and that no they don't want to chat, and they aren't interested in getting any follow-up messages asking if they got the first one, or why they haven't replied, or general abuse due to not having replied.
A flippant profile, scary looking picture and crap opening message really doesn't do anybody any favours, but at the end of the day it's really quite simple and all boils down to one thing; they don't like you and do not want to communicate.
What's not to understand?
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Posted: 2/1/2010 12:02:20 PM | | I like this Santoki guy..Damn right, scary picture, no ones type and crap initial message would get me reaching for the block button.. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2010 1:31:58 AM | I find it's a minefield between being polite and answering all mail( as requested by many, i e. "at least have the decency to reply") and being honest regarding level of interest. My own experience on here has been fairly even in as much as there are as many genuine men as there are fakes. It is disappointing to make the effort to arrange to meet to find that they either don't look much like their pic or they smoke when they say they don't or are so obviously after a " intimate encounter" after claiming not to be and/or not as single as they claim to be.
An example was one man who i did not find attractive who mailed me , i replied thankyou for the e mail but that i was not interested , i received a reply that was rude and uncalled for. So when you say please reply you must be prepared that the answer may be a thanks but no thanks! | |
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Posted: 2/3/2010 2:01:33 AM | Been lucky so far with regards to being blocked, although not 100% sure how to tell anyway.
I've only sent two messages, both of which actually got replied to. Don't think the first one was interested - didn't directly say but I have a sneaking suspicion and don't want to push it. The second said she was already seeing someone - either a polite brush off or true (probably the first). So I'll leave it at that. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2010 2:04:20 AM | I've been thinking on this and I've come to a bit of a conclusion......
It's like taking a child into a sweet shop, more often than not they'll spend all day trying to choose and eventually pick the biggest or best looking thing in the shop. Usually the one that's more packaging than product.
Yet if you don't take them to the sweet shop and instead just offer them a Mars bar, they'll happily wolf it down.
This website is exactly the same, too much choice and too many tempting offers that are all packaging and no substance. At least meeting someone in say a bar, there's not so much choice and you'd probably end up chatting to someone who at first glance wasn't all that impressive.
For the average, normal, everyday man/woman on this site (or similar), it's really difficult to get any sort of interest at all. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2010 4:15:18 AM | I have come across profiles that I dislike for one reason or another and I block them before any message is sent.
Smokers for example
People that have 6 children under 12
etc etc
I know there is not point in even talking, so its saves us both potentially wasting each others time | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 5:10:41 PM | | I don't respond to these sort of messages, but I wouldn't block the sender either. To me that's just rude and unnecessary. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 5:21:05 PM |
Having seen other threads like this, I'm starting to wonder if some people are just automatically blocking people who've contacted them and they're not interested in.
I think it's pretty rude to do this to someone who's only messaged you once and isn't making a nuisance of themselves.
However, I do agree with messages 4 and 5 in that you can't expect people to reply to one liner messages.
Agreed.
And going from past history, Do U wanna chat? means only a slide into banal dialogue of "Do you wanna see my **** pic?" and "What bra size are you?"
Maybe it's the word "chat" that puts people off, I know it does that for me.......... | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 5:31:19 PM | "do U wanna chat?" from women generally means about 1 or 2 more email exchanges before they disappear.
Oh, I had a message from a women wanting "Intimate Encounter" the other day. I found it amusing, but not wanting it didn't reply. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 5:32:46 PM | | Must admit never been blocked as far as I know! I probably get a 1 in 10 response rate.. which seems pretty good from what I've read on the forums from other guys! I agree its better to say something interesting rather than " Hello want to chat?" but I think all woman do is look at your picture and if your not their type they don't reply and delete your message whatever you say. If they like the look they will read your profile and sent a reply on a hello message. It's as simple (or as complex) as that. Straying slightly off the point.. I've probably had 20 or more women contact me since I've been on here (I didn't use this site for a couple of years in case you read my joined date! ) and I don't remember any of them ever messaging me with more than "Hello want to chat" and I always reply to them! | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 5:32:46 PM | | Agree with above. Find something of interest in their profile to centre the conversation around and ask questions about. If they don't have anything, they're probably going to be hard work in any case. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 5:35:31 PM | It seems people answer their own question in this thread.
The message you sent me was crap so I block you.
You are not what I am seeking so I block you.
You didn't read my profile - I know this 'cos you're not what I'm seeking and your message was crap - so I block you.
I block you instead of being polite and saying no thanks 'cos the chances are (based on years of experience) you won't take no for an answer and you'll message me again wanting to know the far end of a fart, half the time this ends in abuse.
Why waste my time with that?
I get junk mail through my letterbox, I don't feel obliged to respond to any of it, why is this so different?
A guy in a bar approaches me and I'm not interested - sure I can say "no thanks" but he's probably gonna be quite persistent (this is not arrogance on my part, I'm nothing special but drunken men in bars are!) and so I have to ignore you - block you, in other words.
Why do people on here think everyone they message owes them something? I owe you nothing. I've mailed people and been ignored and deleted. It's not the nicest thing in the world bit it happens. If you can't take rejection, don't ask!
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Posted: 2/13/2010 12:16:48 AM | I'm new to these forums so hope I'm posting/replying correctly.
Messages of "Hi fancy a chat" are pretty annoying.
I've got quiet a detailed profile (that isn't to veryone's taste that's for sure) but one lady contacted me and she had no photo and her "profile" consisted of a row of "X!" She told me she liked my profile and it was very detailed and could I tell her even more about myself and "fancy a chat!"
I told her that I'd consider it IF she told ANYTHING about herself.
She replied that I was really rude and arrogant.
Nowt so queer as folks. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2010 12:39:06 AM | i get enough similar messages i don't block i just delete moslty and ignore, or type back thanks for the message so what was it that interested you enough about my profile to send a message, usually no response lol
at the end of the day this is a dating site, so if you ever did go out on a first date and your partner told you all about herself and asked you about yourself..
what you think would happen if your response was : nice ceiling decor or come here often,:
everyday people say hi on the street, do you think their looking for a long conversation, (no) so even though you may have lot on thread saying shes rude no shes actually realistic, if her idea of something in common was fancy a chat she never needed to join a dating site in the first place | |
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Posted: 2/13/2010 12:54:23 AM |
everyday people say hi on the street, do you think their looking for a long conversation, (no) so even though you may have lot on thread saying shes rude no shes actually realistic, if her idea of something in common was fancy a chat she never needed to join a dating site in the first place
Gives the impression from what you're saying that:
(a) If you ask a woman to chat (who may even say on her profile, message me if you want to chat), you get ignored as she doesn't want to chat
(b) If you ask her things about things on her profile, you get ignored or blocked.
(c) If you just ask her out, or jump straight in with something sexual, she ignores you.
So woman are not here to chat or to go out with you unless they've chatted to you which they won't do in the first place in most cases!
Half the profiles on here don't allow for any introduction anyway. Something like "I'm a honest person" and nothing about interests etc doesn't exactly allow for you to start any sort of conversation.
At least asking her if she wants to chat gives her the opportunity to glance at your profile which may have something that she can open a conversation with. But they generally look at your profile and ignore you or just delete your message anyway. | |
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Carm0n
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Msg: 70 | |
| Blocked by someone after no msg?
Posted: 2/13/2010 1:01:05 AM | that is the hardest one to answer, what are you supose to say?
I get alot of 'hi's' so I just reply 'hi' then its up to them to stop being so lazy and start a conversation!
If it was her mail restrictions, she must have changed them since your first message, then it would tell you that and not say you were blocked.
Why were you sending another if she had not replied to the first one?
She can't have hit your mail restrictions because you mailed her, so she would be able to reply,
so what are you not telling us because this do's not add up | |
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Posted: 2/13/2010 3:17:17 AM | I blocked someone recenly without answering his message for the simple fact he keeps pestering me with one liners under different names  I know it's same guy as It's always the same photo..have already told him I'm not interested. in his profile he says he keeps get booted from the site and doesn't know why .. | |
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Comise
| | Joined: 1/29/2010
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| Blocked by someone after no msg?
Posted: 2/13/2010 4:23:20 AM | Blocked after no message seems so likely, to be untrue....
There may be much reason why someone might be blocked after one message, or any number of messages for that matter, what you can rest assured off is that you are not be blocked because deeply loved or even liked, with the possible exception of a hideous misunderstanding. So what you are blocked, you may be fortunate you are not banned in some instances.
Someone remarked that the expecting manners on a free site is a tall order , or words to that effect, manners are not purchased with a dating site subscription, moreover this site in particular is as well regulated as any subscription agency comically deluding some people they might get a better quality of clientele. In his defence he does go on to make some pertinent impudent comments thereafter. This site is sometimes used by people of both genders, who frankly belong on a straight up sex dating site, they won’t pay the fees presumably it takes to join what some people might consider odious, they try and get the “benefits” of such sites for nothing, and drag the tenor of the place down, all too often give a misleading impression to the impressionable.
Apparently some (maybe many) women are subjected to mail of a graphic sexual nature here, (not too graphic, most men are too dim to expound much) often wholly unsolicited. This is not tolerated by the site owners; or in the real world, it is however tolerated by the some women themselves. They prefer to cry wolf instead of doing something about it. Classy women won’t stay here whining on the Forums, and they will be gone in a heartbeat. Msg 68, albeit rhetorical, is right to some extent, there is NOT such a diverse range of people using this site.
You only have to look at some of the profiles and Forum posts, many are barely literate, they cannot even be irritating or offensive with style. It is almost understandable, when some of the lesser intelligent (men), lump all the women into a certain category, based on leering at profiles of women who look and read like they are auditioning for a lead role in some grimy home movie. They openly encourage tacky communications of a sexual nature. However, some women have never been subjected to such vileness, and can be deeply offended or hurt by it, some foolish men might mistake this for frigidness or naivety, it’s nothing of the kind, classy woman have studiously avoided gross vulgarity all their lives and come here to find it reeks of it, don’t expect a classy woman to hang around any such place, they won’t. They are expected to share a facility for instance with women who are here advocating and encouraging other women to take up career’s as Sex line operators et al.
Men wouldn’t dare talk to women in a Bar the way they apparently do in mail, they would have the tar beaten out of them, this is where dating sites differ substantially from ‘real life’ Those who remain to whine and whinge endlessly about men harassing and deceiving them betray themselves, their profiles crammed with warning and disclaimers, all smoke, that’s all, attention seekers who want to be classy and never have been...and never will be. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2010 4:42:38 AM | | I go with the thought that if someone blocks or deletes my messages, they do me a favour by not wasting my time. It has been said before and willl be said time and time again, not everyone floats everyone elses boat. Personally I want to talk to those who want to talk to me..................it's simple! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2010 4:45:37 AM | I've only read the opening post and this one.....
I go with the thought that if someone blocks or deletes my messages, they do me a favour by not wasting my time. It has been said before and willl be said time and time again, not everyone floats everyone elses boat. Personally I want to talk to those who want to talk to me..................it's simple!
and for me that's all that needs to be said.
Thanks, Ms Cakes, for saving me the trouble of posting here.
Oh. Right. Dammit! | |
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Carm0n
| | Joined: 11/21/2009
Msg: 75 | |
| Blocked by someone after no msg?
Posted: 2/13/2010 6:34:36 AM | I have no idea why anyone is answering this post, it is just not true, its impossible to have been blocked in the way OP describes, the whole thread is pointless and a total waste of time
And, why hasn't he come back to explain how he got himself blocked and why he was sending a second message when the first was un-answered! | |
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