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 m_church
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^^^yep. Really, it is all up to the individual to take whatever risks they wish to take. However, it really irks me when people do not inform themselves properly about STD's and belittle those who do wish to take as much precautions as they can.
There is much talk on here about people who practice safer sex, but do not wait the minimum 6 month mean time between partners.

It's the mentalitiy of a lot of people... They cannot face up to things they find unpleasant... Or they think that paying lip service to protection is 'good enough'.... The same mentality allows people to drive drunk, but they put their seatbelt on...
 Whatisnewwithyou
Joined: 1/25/2011
Msg: 602
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Posted: 4/15/2011 10:42:20 AM
Maybe the girl in question made up a fake number from being annoyed at the question, just to teach a lesson about minding one's own business. Why be insecure about something that happened back in the pass. This as bad as being jealous over some one's ex boyfriend or girlfriend that was dated 6 or 7 years ago. I think this is very silly.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 603
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Posted: 4/23/2011 7:37:58 AM

(Whatisnewwithhyou) Maybe the girl in question made up a fake number from being annoyed at the question, just to teach a lesson about minding one's own business. Why be insecure about something that happened back in the pass. This as bad as being jealous over some one's ex boyfriend or girlfriend that was dated 6 or 7 years ago. I think this is very silly.


For some people, it's not silly; rather, it's very important. However, I don't think someone should be constantly guilted over his/her number. If either partner has a high number, and it bothers the other, for whatever reason -- they should talk it out, or realize that they're not compatible, and end it.

People should be allowed to have high, low, or average numbers, and it shouldn't be something that they're castigated for. Similarly, though, other people should have the absolute right to be upset about it, also without being castigated for it. I'm nothing if not fair...

Arlo...
 Promise222
Joined: 3/7/2011
Msg: 604
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Posted: 4/23/2011 10:48:49 PM
So your original post was in 2009...are you still together or did she move on to number 16 or whatever.

Just FYI...Women do the same thing as men...if they need some, they get some. If they meet someone they know is not a keeper and they need some, they get some. If she waited to jump into a physical relationship with you then she believes you are a keeper.

Sex is different with every man regardless of size or performance. Sex is different with the same partner every time. So asking a girl to tell you if you are the best...a polite girl will always say yes. It is like asking if these pants make me look fat...you will likely get the polite answer.
 mysterywoman999
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 605
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Posted: 4/24/2011 3:01:41 PM

Just FYI...Women do the same thing as men...if they need some, they get some. If they meet someone they know is not a keeper and they need some, they get some. If she waited to jump into a physical relationship with you then she believes you are a keeper.


Sadly, women are judged for this, and men are not.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
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Posted: 4/24/2011 3:40:38 PM

Many studies have shown that women cheat more often than men.


Sorry. Can't agree. Not remotely what I've seen. This is closer. . . .

with 28 percent of married men and 18 percent of married women admitting to having a sexual liaison, the survey found.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17951664/ns/health-sexual_health/

 mysterywoman999
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 607
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Posted: 4/24/2011 3:49:37 PM

^^^^ well its the one thing we should get away with considering the amount of double standards women get away with.


It is irrational and indefensible to judge women for having casual sex when you feel it is acceptable for men to do so. You want to engage in irrational bias? Go for it; you have lots of company. Thankfully, there are some men who are above that kind of thing.


like comparing a fat woman with a short man, he can't do anything about his height, but she can do something about her weight?


Certainly, a lot of women seem to care about height, but men are just as likely ( in fact, more so IMHO) to care about looks than women are. It doesn't matter if it is height, breast size, weight, her hair colour, or the size of her booty, men judge women by their appearance ALL the time. If many women have one area of strong preference ( height), it still doesn't make men LESS likely to judge women by their appearance.
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 4/24/2011 5:07:09 PM

It is irrational and indefensible to judge women for having casual sex when you feel it is acceptable for men to do so.

The thing is though, once you get past high school, men are not judged all that positively for having too many partners either. It's only in the teenage years and also those who have limited social or mental faculties that see it as a plus. Even the term "stud" is often used as perjoratively as "man-whore" or "man-slut" or even "player"....

Often, it's not the number that is being judged so much as the reason for those numbers... A woman who chose carefully who she slept with, regardless of the numbers, is going to be perceived in a much better light than a woman who couldn't say "no" because she lacked self-esteem or self-control...
Likewise a man would be judged better for sleeping with women he chose carefully, than if he simply fcuked drunken last call skanks...
 MsMicki
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Posted: 4/24/2011 9:57:17 PM
^^ depends on who's doing the judging!

I'd judge a man that "played" a hundred nice, respectable women far worse than a man
that picked up a hundred drunken skanks but was honest about his intentions.
 m_church
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Posted: 4/24/2011 10:42:49 PM

I'd judge a man that "played" a hundred nice, respectable women far worse than a man that picked up a hundred drunken skanks but was honest about his intentions.

I believe that is why I made this point....

Even the term "stud" is often used as perjoratively as "man-whore" or "man-slut" or even "player"....
 MsMicki
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Posted: 4/25/2011 7:26:38 AM
uh huh.......but I was commenting on this post you made......


Likewise a man would be judged better for sleeping with women he chose carefully, than if he simply fcuked drunken last call skanks...
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 612
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Posted: 4/25/2011 7:32:04 AM
Maybe if people stopped calling people drunken last call skanks, there would be some progress.....
 kayla1963
Joined: 4/1/2011
Msg: 613
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Posted: 4/25/2011 7:43:34 AM

Maybe if people stopped calling people drunken last call skanks, there would be some progress.....

No kidding, Mr. "Pejorative."
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 614
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Posted: 4/25/2011 8:57:55 AM

Maybe if people stopped calling people drunken last call skanks, there would be some progress.....

I'd say we ought to apply the same term to men who are, well, last call drunken skanks.
 PrunellaJones
Joined: 1/22/2011
Msg: 615
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Posted: 4/25/2011 9:59:40 AM
^^^^Good idea. Two wrongs always do make a right, don't they?
 verygreeneyez
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Posted: 4/25/2011 10:18:51 AM

Likewise a man would be judged better for sleeping with women he chose carefully, than if he simply fcuked drunken last call skanks...

LOL ~ yeah, those nasty women who are drunk at last call. We all know men leave around 11 p.m. to sober up, freshen up, and to cleanse their soul of being in the company of those wicked, icky creatures. Nope, men would NEVER be last-call-skanks their own selves.
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 617
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Posted: 4/25/2011 10:21:58 AM
C'mon folks, you all know that whenever someone calls a guy a manwhore or calls some guy a skank, it is often seen as funny. I've said it to some men I know "you're such a whore". Would anyone say that to a female (unless they are a close friend)?

Some people can get past old ideas, others remain entrenched in the past.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 618
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Posted: 4/25/2011 10:28:46 AM

C'mon folks, you all know that whenever someone calls a guy a manwhore or calls some guy a skank, it is often seen as funny.

I've never thought of a guy who gets drunk and stalks women at last call as anything but pathetic. I'm not sure I'd want to associate with guys who thought that was funny. I'm all for casual sex, but not in that way.

I've said it to some men I know "you're such a whore". Would anyone say that to a female (unless they are a close friend)?

My best friend is an escort and I wouldn't even say that to her.
 starzgirl72
Joined: 2/23/2011
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Posted: 4/25/2011 10:37:45 AM
Some people can get past old ideas, others remain entrenched in the past.

Very true. I saw one guy's profile on here recently where he said basically if you go out on a date with him, and came onto him sexually, he would gladly take you up on the offer but wouldn't see or speak to you afterwards. It's really a no-win situation for women...have sex too soon, and you're labeled; have sex not soon enough, and you're still labeled.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 4/25/2011 11:20:07 AM

I saw one guy's profile on here recently where he said basically if you go out on a date with him, and came onto him sexually, he would gladly take you up on the offer but wouldn't see or speak to you afterwards.

I can't imagine wanting to date the type of woman who would be attracted to that sort of guy, nor can I imagine any woman with any self-respect dating him.

It's really a no-win situation for women...have sex too soon, and you're labeled; have sex not soon enough, and you're still labeled.

It's only a no-win situation for women who want to date guys who label them negatively for doing what they want to do. You have to do what you want to do and just tell people to f*ck off if they don't like it. I've found that people are a lot more accepting if your willing to tell them to f*ck off than if you're demure and apologetic for what you've done. You always get the most crap when you give someone the idea that you regret what you've done and are embarrassed by it.
 starzgirl72
Joined: 2/23/2011
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Posted: 4/25/2011 11:57:04 AM

I can't imagine wanting to date the type of woman who would be attracted to that sort of guy, nor can I imagine any woman with any self-respect dating him.

I can't either but at least this one states it right upfront what he thinks; others like to say one thing and behave the opposite.

It's only a no-win situation for women who want to date guys who label them negatively for doing what they want to do. You have to do what you want to do and just tell people to f*ck off if they don't like it. I've found that people are a lot more accepting if your willing to tell them to f*ck off than if you're demure and apologetic for what you've done.

Or, once you see they're starting to treat you in a way you don't like, back off from them and move on to the next one.
 m_church
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Posted: 4/25/2011 12:57:04 PM

C'mon folks, you all know that whenever someone calls a guy a manwhore or calls some guy a skank, it is often seen as funny

Ummm it is? I don't think too many people would see being called that as funny.
 verygreeneyez
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Posted: 4/25/2011 1:24:19 PM

Ummm it is? I don't think too many people would see being called that as funny.

You might not. It's one of those double-standards that's common, and yes, it's acceptable and funny or "teasing in nature" or even a kudo when men call one another "ho" "manwhore" "manjina" "slut" "fuk-meat" and a slew of other things that I've personally heard (and even read right here in forums) when some locker-room talk (at the expense of the women they are boinking but not having relationships with) is going on. Much like "tap it" "hit it" and a whole bunch of other descriptives used to blather on about sexual encounters. Maybe you or your friends that you talk about all the time here do not do this, that doesn't mean it's not happening in other circles, nor does that mean others do not find it funny. Many do find it funny. JMO
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
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Posted: 4/25/2011 3:35:51 PM
^^^ I think it's funny! ...but then, I think most everything is funny!

I think it'sfunny that the word SLUT is used as a weapon towards women BY women out of jealousy or whatever!
I think it's funny that people who preach to us about certain things have lived lives MOREin line with what they preach against than those they preach to!
I think it's funny that a guy will seek out an easy girl but not WANT her for a GF!
I think it's funny that women want a wealthy man who is career oriented then cheat on him and complain that he doesn't have time for her!

...Oh the list goes on!
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 625
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Posted: 4/26/2011 3:59:26 PM

(happybunny8) C'mon folks, you all know that whenever someone calls a guy a manwhore or calls some guy a skank, it is often seen as funny. I've said it to some men I know "you're such a whore".


*shrug* If being a "whore" doesn't bother a person, then it doesn't bother them. Goes for women, just as much as men.

B'sides, the delivery makes a big difference, too: my Australian buddy can say, "Arlo, ya bastid!", and I know he's gearing up to buy me a Foster's, not calling my parentage into question.

Arlo...
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