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Perhaps "standard hetero sex", "pumpkin pie with whipped cream", "pumpkin pie with whipped cream and cherries", "just the promise of pumpkin pie", "pumpkin pie with topping while wearing costumes", "the denial of pumpkin pie using chains and motivational tools",
and any number of other possibles categories could be used....
I chose to make a Healthy Peanut Butter Chocolate fudge for my date this weekend. It has sesame seeds, sunflower seeds, and some shredded coconut, cocoa etc. I made it in little heart shaped molds. After I filled the molds I pushed a few sultanas in too!!! I wonder will he ask me if I am still interested in pumpin pie?
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Posted: 2/12/2010 1:44:26 PM |
Perhaps "standard hetero sex", "pumpkin pie with whipped cream", "pumpkin pie with whipped cream and cherries", "just the promise of pumpkin pie", "pumpkin pie with topping while wearing costumes", "the denial of pumpkin pie using chains and motivational tools",
you forgot "upside down pumpkin pie" ;-)
Thanks rearguard, this was the best laugh I had all day. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 1:45:03 PM | ^^^ I can't stand peanut butter myself. Hope he does not have a similar taste. Perhaps you should suggest some pumpkin pie first in order to head off any possible disappointment? | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 1:45:04 PM | One word.....
Tact
I've found it fun to meet a Lady for coffee...talk about Everything under the Sun...
Family, pets, music, activities, favourite colors, favourite flowers, favourite seasons, vacations....just yammer on and on....intentionally avoiding the subject...
Till she asks...'We've been talking all this time, and you haven't Once brought up Sex....Why..??'
'I was waiting for _You_ to bring it up..!!'
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Posted: 2/12/2010 1:50:28 PM |
I would agree that if a man thinks all women of their generation have no interest in sex, the one common denominator in the equation is the man. Not all men share the same experience.
Maybe people are talking across each other. Like the split screen scene in Annie Hall where the therapists ask both how often they have sex.
She: "Constantly! At least 3 times per week!"
He: "Hardly ever! 3 times per week at the most." | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 1:52:53 PM | "'We've been talking all this time, and you haven't Once brought up Sex....Why..??'"
Never once had I asked or been asked that question. My guess is that my picker workers too well for that question.
Grant me strength. What is everyone's rush to get to that question! Neither of you know to begin with if you even want the other person sexually. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 1:55:03 PM |
Neither of you know to begin with if you even want the other person sexually.
Hardly. If you don't think the person is a possible sexual partner rather instantly, you are not likely to try to find out. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 1:57:27 PM |
The only 50+ women who I know that aren't interested in sex are the ones who no longer desired their partners for various reasons (weight gain, inactivity, bad attitude, etc
The only 50+ single women I know who aren't interested in sex - per se - are those who were badly hurt in past relationships and are still too scared to "go there" emotionally.
I don't know any 50+ women in relationships who aren't interested in sex. I have a g/f who married her first boyfriend - she was 14 and he was 15 when they first started dating. They've been married now for more than 25 years.
They went on a vacation and she visited a sex shop before they left - bought strange lingerie ..lol..and edible paint and other stuff she didn't share. And she told me that they have this Christmas ritual - every year on Christmas eve they make love under the Christmas tree and he wears a Santa hat (and nothing else). She said it was easier when the kids were little - they only had to wait until 10pm. Now, they have to practically lock the kids' bedroom doors and wait until after midnight..lol.. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 2:03:18 PM |
^^^ I can't stand peanut butter myself. Hope he does not have a similar taste. Perhaps you should suggest some pumpkin pie first in order to head off any possible disappointment?
Given the nature of this thread that could be the guarantee??? Or perish the thought it could bring on even worse disappointment!!!!
Maybe I should just stick with the fudge after all I don't think it will be such a deal breaker..
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Posted: 2/12/2010 2:15:19 PM | "Hardly. If you don't think the person is a possible sexual partner rather instantly, you are not likely to try to find out."
Sigh.......................I never jump to conclusions.
The best sexual relationship I ever had, took several weeks to for us to realize the chemistry. Never of us were desperate to make to get involved with something that was less than spectacular. Yes, I was 50 at the time so that rates as older.
Why are so many so desperate to instantly find the one, or the one for this week.
Why do I get the feeling from the forum that people either suffer from the jading of rejection or are jaded from their constant changing of partners?
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Posted: 2/12/2010 2:16:30 PM | | ^^^^ Now now, Ms. cats, surely you are not suffering from a lack of confidence in the kitchen? I find it hard to believe that you would not be able to produce a pumpkin pie that was completely irresistible... | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 2:34:42 PM |
Now now, Ms. cats, surely you are not suffering from a lack of confidence in the kitchen? Well if he is into raw he has come to the right kitchen.. but I do fear my utensils might have gotten a tad rusty? Indeed I could certainly whip up some nice Guilt Free Pumpin Pie. So no problems there My raw bread just came out of the dehydrator and looks so darn yummy!!!  By the way anyone wanting a bite of the fudge can go grab it on my profile. Happy Valentine's Day Everyone thecatsmeoww | |
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Posted: 2/12/2010 2:46:42 PM | Thecatsmeoww
Too damn bad we are so far apart, you seem like a person that I would like to know. I am sure we could figure out how to make a good pumpkin pie.
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Posted: 2/12/2010 4:32:54 PM |
Not me saying this but hundreds of well -documented academic studies. So there.
well Mr. Post-Doc, why don't YOU provide the citations for the peer-reviewed studies? i have a subscription to Elsevier through my library at work and would like to see them.
you're the one making the assertions, it's up to you to provide the proof. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2010 3:03:19 AM | well I am 54 and still have a VERY active libido, how do I check if the man can still hold his own? with out getting stung as well? I guess that is the age old question....I guess get to know her first...Hmmm it's a hard one becasue i want to ask as well but if I do i am (almost) seen as a sex maniac!! ya can't win! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2010 3:05:04 AM | | RUBBISH RUBBISH RUBBISH...i just cant seem to get enough! because i dont get much the prob is that the men i want always want someone in their 30' or 40's and they are my age! 54!! | |
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Posted: 2/16/2010 11:22:59 AM | Here is my take on sex and dating.
Beginning...this is where we see if we like each other and are attracted to each other. And maybe have had a couple of dates.....this is not the time to be sexually explicate ..a first meeting does not mean sex or listening to you describe private parts. Nor does the other person need to know that you liken yourself to a porn star who can do it more times than a rabbit.....and being extremely blessed with male attributes that all women want.......and yes your always in high demand.
Middle....we spend time with each other and now we are getting to know each other and are feeling each other out. We are sharing more information and getting closer and as we are spending more time together we are probably going to be discussing sex. Talking about our needs and wants. Talking about problems we may or may not have. Talking about safe sex. Talking about what kind of relationship we looking for...
End. This is the part where we truly see if were compatible if everything went well with the middle of it. The middle should tell you if you really want to have sex with this partner or not.....and the end should result in sex. Hopefully satisfying both partners because they are open enough to talk about it...and being able to articlate what each other needs and wants in a sexual relationship.
Because this week has been a off week for me I have met a man that seems to think being sexually explicate on a first meet is socially acceptable this is not the first person probably not the last to do this. He proceeded to put me in my place because I told him this behavior is unacceptable to me. That I must be frigid. A perfect stranger describing his expertise in sex and telling me what he would like to do and commenting sexually while I was talking to him who also happen to be a perfect stranger thinks I am frigid. This week has been a off week for me...I have had two other men talk sexually to me without even knowing me. Most men I meet are perfect gentleman. Some aren't and have no idea how to be open about their sexual desires wants and needs instead reverting to high school behavior and antic's. In the process this makes me feel extremely uncomfrontable and very irritated. I like sex and want to have a great sex life. But with someone I know more than 5 minutes into a conversation. Great Luck in each of us sexes understanding each other........ | |
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Posted: 2/16/2010 11:36:47 AM | ^^^ I find it odd how you termed the getting-down-to-actual-sex part "the end." Is that cuz some of us may not be healthy enuf for sex or haven't had it for so long it just may kill us when we do?  
I don't disagree with what you're saying. I think some people are just... I dunno... in a hurry?... cheap?... and need reassurance that IF the 2 decide to have sex in the future that both are physically able and still find sex enjoyable/interesting (altho I suspect there's no "still" to it; you either like sex or you don't). No need to get explicit like the a couple of the men you're describing. But there's gotta be a delicate way to figure such things out.
Some threads make me feel so lucky that I didn't have to go thru some of these things. Heh! All the inappropriate guys I encountered showed their true colors 2 sentences into their second email. Dodged those bullets. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2010 11:54:29 AM | | You right. I shouldn't have used the end to describing the different stages. It does sound bad and that is not what I meant to convey. I am just frustrated at the moment and it flew from my finger tips. I just had my mechanic say something to me that was sexually explicit and my date did the exact same thing. I looked at the dress and my behavior and attitude very closely to see if there is anything inappropriate in my behavior to solicit these responses from men.......today I had on sweats and tennis shoes no makeup the other night I dressed nice......not anything inappropriate. I know its not all men. Just some.......just as its not all women just some. Like I said this has been a off week for me........ | |
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Posted: 2/16/2010 1:54:44 PM | I think some are misunderstanding what "approaching the subject of sex" means.
It doesn't mean locker room talk. It doesn't mean making inappropriate remarks.
I think the OP just meant making sure you're both still interested or not.
If one is and the other is not, then further interaction would just be a waste of time. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2010 2:22:31 PM | TruGold, I think you are right on there.
I have mentioned that the ladies always bring it up by the 2nd date and there have been some that thought I meant having sex at that point. That is not the case. The subject is brought up, I am quite sure the reason is as you comment, to make sure that we are on the same page. Just making sure that both are still interested. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2010 3:24:45 PM |
think some are misunderstanding what "approaching the subject of sex" means
Yes yes yes....you hit the nail on the head...pun intended. Perfect. It means communication. Perfect woman...perfect answer....Thanks | |
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Posted: 2/16/2010 4:04:23 PM | Tom 4342 - 2 funny an urban legend. ROFLMAO
When discussing relationships, wants, desires, wishes and dreams over coffee or a glass of wine with someone new that you might entertain the thought of moving things forward, in my world includes intimacy, as that is part of a healthy relationship. Now you might find this unbelivable as I'm over 50
However I have met some men who steer clear of any intimacy issues as some have reportedly said they are beyond the desire about sex. Now, I know that some men may have said that cause they were not interested in me romantically, but this does not appear to be gender specific. I know that intimacy is important with any relationship I am committed to.
Its amazing how many men have not had that little chat with their doctors about the little blue pill that will put lead in their pencil.  | |
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