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| | Approaching the subject of sex with older womenPage 15 of 16 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16) | | just be yourself. i dont think you should have to think about how to approach the subject. sex is so over rated. either you're into the person or you're not. if you have to know right away then come right out and ask. i think we have to remember there is no right or wrong way. you just do what feels comfortable. just be yourself !!!! | |
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Posted: 2/21/2010 9:36:31 PM | I think if you put in in your profile in a good way, it would get the point across.
For example, I was looking at the profile of someone who posted on this thread...believe his name was 'Holding Hands', or something like that....anyway, what he said in his profile got the point across, yet wasn't offensive...at least not in my opinion.
He said:
I'm seeking a Long-term Relationship . . . that includes intimacy....when the relationship develops that far...
Not an 'Intimate Encounter'.
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Posted: 2/22/2010 3:32:56 AM | Came back and have been reading through the posts and had a great laugh,
there is sure some opinions on sexual relations between couples or strangers, it is split both ways.
my thinking is - if you are sexually compatable then its going to happen, if not - then nothing is going to get you out of the star bucks quick enough  | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 8:25:28 AM |
Came back and have been reading through the posts and had a great laugh,
there is sure some opinions on sexual relations between couples or strangers, it is split both ways.
my thinking is - if you are sexually compatable then its going to happen, if not - then nothing is going to get you out of the star bucks quick enough
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Posted: 2/22/2010 10:47:08 AM | Actually, since I am an older woman, it's been my experience that all men are interested in sex, some more than others, and I assume that if they have a profile on a dating/match site, even moreso. Unless they state otherwise in their profile, anyway, and yes, I have seen a few of those. By the same token, I would assume any woman who has a profile on a dating/match site is also interested in sex, unless she states otherwise in her profile as well.
The real question is whether or not they are they interested in sex with each other, not how or when to ask it they are still interested at all. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 11:25:23 AM | With all this talk on the subject, and all the expertise and advice dispensed, I am wondering if anyone has actually approached an older woman on the subject of sex, and what the results were? | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 11:30:11 AM |
I would assume any woman who has a profile on a dating/match site is also interested in sex,
Those women "of a certain age" who are interested in sex almost always say something to that effect in their profile, usually rather pointedly raising the issue.
On the other hand, quite a number of profiles make no even remote mention of any interest in any physicality whatsoever even as they DO make mention of fine dining, The Ahts, theater, weekend getaways, summer homes, skiing, horses, foreign travel, "little bisto's", "all the finer things in life", and "enjoying all that life offers."
Sometimes, one has to read between the lines. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 11:39:51 AM |
With all this talk on the subject, and all the expertise and advice dispensed, I am wondering if anyone has actually approached an older woman on the subject of sex, and what the results were?
Yes, potential for potential has been explored at some considerable length with some considerable attention to detail. Let's say the results showed a variance from times past. Not an absolute black and white variance, but less gray than might be hoped. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 12:01:51 PM |
With all this talk on the subject, and all the expertise and advice dispensed, I am wondering if anyone has actually approached an older woman on the subject of sex, and what the results were?
Clearing throat a little here.. How many do you want to know about for starters? I will only mention one for now. After dinner and during the drive home he asked me how I liked oral? I thought at first he was talking about how I chewed my food? The reason for that is one man previous commented that he liked to watch me eat.. So maybe this one was simply watching my mouth? Was I a good candidate by the way I chewed my food?
Okay I must admit I do have a little bit of a love affair going on with my plate at times but really? So I asked him do you really mean how do I like oral as in ................???? He said yes I am very oral and want to know if you are?
I thought silently to myself does that translate out to him being dead in the water? Most probably, so I answered very quickly that I simply hated it!!!
That ended the night rather swiftly and without any fuss or muss!
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Posted: 2/22/2010 1:54:48 PM |
I thought silently to myself does that translate out to him being dead in the water? Most probably, so I answered very quickly that I simply hated it!!!
Y'know what? I've come to hate jumping to conclusions, because sometimes I miss the edge and tumble into an abyss of one sort or another....
Such a question would most assuredly bring out "the  made me say that!"
I'd ASK if that was the only way he could do it.
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Posted: 2/22/2010 3:40:46 PM |
Those women "of a certain age" who are interested in sex almost always say something to that effect in their profile, usually rather pointedly raising the issue.
On the other hand, quite a number of profiles make no even remote mention of any interest in any physicality whatsoever even as they DO make mention of fine dining, The Ahts, theater, weekend getaways, summer homes, skiing, horses, foreign travel, "little bisto's", "all the finer things in life", and "enjoying all that life offers."
Sometimes, one has to read between the lines.
I will say first off that I read relatively few women's profiles, and those are uusually those of posters who have made a point I agree with in the forums, or that make me wonder if we live on the same planet.
I don't say anything about sex in my profile, but since I do mention having lived a physically demanding life with two adult children, I assume that's taken for granted, especially since what I'd hope to find some day would be a long term relationship.
I would also assume, if I were a man, that reading the interests of any woman who stressed find dining, the Arts, etc etc, was looking for high roller dates, or someone who could keep them in the style in which they wanted to become accustomed..
Back again to me as a woman, one of my first bfs was one who used 'the finer things in life' to refer to sex.
Sometimes it's not so much reading between the lines as understanding how the terms are defined and used. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 3:45:28 PM | cat - msg 360
After dinner and during the drive home he asked me how I liked oral?
My standard answer in similar circumstances is, that I like it best on my garage roof. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 5:13:32 PM |
Those women "of a certain age" who are interested in sex almost always say something to that effect in their profile, usually rather pointedly raising the issue.
not necessarily - some of us are pretty subtle in our approach.
i ... um.... slipped it in there (yeah, okay, pun intended), but it's a bit hidden.
as i said in my last post to the thread, maybe i should just list "sex" in my interests and see what happens!
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Posted: 2/22/2010 6:11:59 PM | as i said in my last post to the thread, maybe i should just list "sex" in my interests and see what happens!
Probably nothing. We don’t read.
But you say you slipped a hint in there? I went looking and found fourteen.
‘Course it’s been a bit dry here lately.
As for approaching an older woman on the subject of sex, I haven’t. They always beat me to it. The most recent wanted to know my feelings on oral sex. I told her the women I’d been with had rarely asked for it. (cough) | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 6:53:05 PM | ^^^right... i forgot that men don't read women's profiles!
But you say you slipped a hint in there? I went looking and found fourteen.
i'm pretty sure it's just a little two-word phrase buried in all the descriptive stuff of my profile.
‘Course it’s been a bit dry here lately.
a bit? sounds like the Sahara, the Gobi and the Kalahari wrapped in one if you're finding 14 hints in my profile.
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Posted: 2/22/2010 7:41:25 PM | I do not approach the subject of sex with older women .
I do not approach older women. Or younger women.
I do not approach the subject of sex.
With any women, older younger, whatever.
I've learned that lesson.
Besides, what business does a guy my age have, thinking about sex! He77, I can't even remember it, let alone approach it!
I think that at this age sex is out of the picture, as are other things like riding motorcycles, skiing, having hair, playing in a band, etc.
We should just each put a "reserved" sign on a rocking chair somewhere, and wait for the grim reaper.
Won't be long, now.
At least that's what the dang kids think, and they might be right.
Dang kids, anyway. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 8:48:11 PM | Kari135: "I would also assume, if I were a man, that reading the interests of any woman who stressed find dining, the Arts, etc etc, was looking for high roller dates, or someone who could keep them in the style in which they wanted to become accustomed."
See, I wouldn't make that assumprion. I've enjoyed some of the "finer" things in life. A wine cellar with good Burgundies and Rhones; Opera in Vienna; Theater in the West End; museum-hopping in Munich, and so on, but all that means is that I enjoy things like that. It doesn't mean I'm looking for a woman who makes 150K a year. I did a B'day dinner for my ex about 15 years ago. The entree was Pheasant with Truffles. I toted the Truffles back from Maison Troef (sp) in Paris myself. A friend who had spent considerable time in France told me is was the best interpretation of the dish she'd ever had. (I personally liked my Smoked Duck Ravioli with Hoisin Vinaigrette myself)(whoa, caught a potentially really hilarious typo in that last sentence hehehe) "Fine Dining" can be executed in any well-equipped kitchen; one doesn't need to drop $400 bucks in a restaurant.
If it DOES come to mean what you suggested, well, there are plenty of middle-aged execs with more money than ability or talent who can buy them that $400 dinner.
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Posted: 2/22/2010 8:51:54 PM | @Hollis: Dude, I jammed last night, and I'm going to open mics Wed and Sun of this week. Yer never to old to Rock n Roll! I think I'm a bit old to play like Vinnie Colaiuta, though.  | |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 9:10:55 PM |
See, I wouldn't make that assumprion. I've enjoyed some of the "finer" things in life. A wine cellar with good Burgundies and Rhones; Opera in Vienna; Theater in the West End; museum-hopping in Munich, and so on, but all that means is that I enjoy things like that. It doesn't mean I'm looking for a woman who makes 150K a year. I did a B'day dinner for my ex about 15 years ago. The entree was Pheasant with Truffles. I toted the Truffles back from Maison Troef (sp) in Paris myself. A friend who had spent considerable time in France told me is was the best interpretation of the dish she'd ever had. (I personally liked my Smoked Duck Ravioli with Hoisin Vinaigrette myself)(whoa, caught a potentially really hilarious typo in that last sentence hehehe) "Fine Dining" can be executed in any well-equipped kitchen; one doesn't need to drop $400 bucks in a restaurant.
I've enjoyed a lot of those things, too. I've worked in live theatre behind the scenes, I love museums of all kinds, I had and have friends who are both professional and amateur musicians including my late husband who used to jam with Hendrix, I've enjoyed gourmet and ethnic restaurants, I've spent more time than I care to remember on boats of all kinds. I've never been to Europe, but all over North America. Having said that, I wouldn't consider listing them as interests on my profile. To me, "interests" are the everyday things, not the once a year vacation things.
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Posted: 2/23/2010 1:11:26 AM |
Need more than 1 to be able to compute a first moment of any significance. Its mathematics, you know....
Call me lucky there was really only one other gent on fire from the get go. This one simply asked to spend the night with me before the coffee was even served. When I asked him about his mental state of health? He promised he just wanted to lay next to me and nothing untoward would take place..
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Posted: 2/23/2010 1:28:33 AM |
That goes for steering a conversation in the right direction too , so you don't have to come right out and ask these things
I think he had tried that during dinner but I took the wheel and I headed it off in another direction? Cause I do know how to do a little steering myself.. 
So finally he was so frustrated he just threw it in out of left field on the way home. However once he heard my answer I have to say he looked rather PO'd?
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Posted: 2/23/2010 1:34:33 AM | @Kari: I understand what you're saying. "Fine Dining" used to be an everyday thing for me. Listening to Opera a frequent thing for me, commonplace. The Finer Things in Life need not be relegated to an annual excursion to somewhere, so, in my view, someone who enjoys TFTIL is not necessarily seeking financing for her enjoyment of those things.
But the enjoyment of all that is something I actually would prefer to see in a profile. The usual drivel, i.e. "I'm a good person who likes kids and dogs" tells me pretty much zero, whereas "I lean towards the Romantic painters; Kandinsky and Pollock leave me cold" tells me a LOT about someone.
The more relevant detail, the better. Just through my experiences in life I know that I am eccentric and idiosyncratic enough that I will be a mismatch for 9 out of 10 women here, at minimum. In point of fact, I've found that CollarMe and Bondage.com are where I will find (and have found) the more "compatible" souls, so to speak. So the more accurate and precise the data I have which will help me in my quest for a life-companion, the better. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2010 2:58:33 AM |
The more relevant detail, the better. Just through my experiences in life I know that I am eccentric and idiosyncratic enough that I will be a mismatch for 9 out of 10 women here, at minimum. In point of fact, I've found that CollarMe and Bondage.com are where I will find (and have found) the more "compatible" souls, so to speak. So the more accurate and precise the data I have which will help me in my quest for a life-companion, the better.
Interesting what form your eccentricity has taken.. I consider myself an eccentric but am certainly not drawn to sites like CollarMe and Bondage.. Simply because my eccentricity does not exist in that particular venue. Also there are plenty of other mildly eccentric people right here on this site as well.
I consider myself mildly eccentric because I conformed until I hit my later years..
I think it is tolerated better now than when we were younger. After all it is kind of
expected and not at all unusual..Luckily I am not yet experiencing any physical drawbacks and my social freedom brings me less anxiety.
I consider myself a low profile eccentric because I usually do not care what other
people think and don't care to change what they think either.
I think the discovery of it for me was at a very young age. However the unleashing of it
did not occur until I was much older.
Not easy for an eccentric to couple with another.. I have read about one eccentric
couple that are living in a Spaceship-Style home.. They have a blog called of all things
The Konformist Blog
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