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 looking_282
Joined: 8/1/2009
Msg: 26
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I can tell you what she told me.

And yes, to answer the other guy, we held hands on the 1st date and even made out. But she wouldn't allow anything sexual, saying she'd rather wait.

In the course of some conversation the next day she said, "..I can usually tell when a guy is trying to play me...it's always about sex with men based on my past relationships." She said, "I just want to try to have a relationship with you first." And she also told me that he always wanted to have sex with her all the time. So putting it together, what does it sound like to you?
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
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What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 10:52:49 PM

When a girl says that her previous relationships were entirely physical and that she wants to wait to have sex with me, what does she mean

That you missed getting the right place in line. A day late, and all that jazz.


Imagine the plight of a guy who was horny like those people who fulfilled it in their relationships but never had that type of relationship 28 years of his life, only to keep running into the girls who have, who have now developed the 'make him wait' standard because of their previous sexual relationships. Wow, what a beautiful world.

Some life forms have ironic sex lives.

Many men find themselves on the receiving end of all the resentment against "men" that has been building up in a woman's minds all these years. Female anger tends to be less focused on the particular person who has caused it. So you pay for something you didn't do.

She's damaged goods. You can't fix her, so move on and find a fresh one to break yourself and mess up for the next guy.
 Wishes Granted
Joined: 3/6/2008
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What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 10:56:27 PM
It sounds like EXACTLY WHAT SHE TOLD YOU.. She doesn't want another relationship based on sex and nothing more.

She likes you and wants to get to know you and you know her and then, hopefully you'll BOTH discover you are fond of each other and you've formed an emotional bond that will inhance your sexual experience. The sex will then heighten your already established emotional bond.. Now.. if it all works out well, you have a connection both inside and OUTSIDE the bedroom and, not just one or, the other. .. A relationship..

If you like her a lot too.. then be patient and have some fun getting to know one another and as long as she's open to your non-aggressive petting advances then you know she's not "friend-zoning" you.

Good luck
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 29
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 11:23:26 PM
Simply put, she felt that minus the sex, there was no relationship.

If that is the case, she wants you to look else where. If not, then let her know. Stick around if you think you got something special. If she feels the same way the sex will follow.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 30
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 11:38:49 PM
Ankle Air time.... her previous beaus got to rack up frequent flier miles
You are grounded, stuck at the terminal, flights are delayed or cancelled, your baggage is over limit, and your ticket has blackout dates and your luggage is over limit.
you probably aint clearing security either.


You should consider the train, flying for you is just not in your future.
 verityone
Joined: 10/23/2008
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What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 11:55:58 PM
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?


You want the cold hard truth, about she she means with 'you'?

1- It means that having sex didn't work in getting what she wanted.
2- It means getting what she 'wants' is more important than sex.
3- She doesn't enjoy sex enough.
4- She's not that sexually aroused by you.
5- The sex won't be that good.

In any event, it smacks of her wanting to use her sex and/or sexuality as a weapon sooner than later. Don't say you weren't warned.

6- If you stick with her, you're a volunteer, not a victim.

7- She'll use any 'excuse' to get what she wants, that she 'thinks' she can get away with, with 'you'.

8- She doesn't enjoy sex enough.
9- She's not that sexually aroused by you.
10- The sex won't be that good.

I know I already said those last 3 things, but I know some people don't 'get it' the first time around....
 =jinx=
Joined: 1/25/2010
Msg: 32
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/26/2010 12:08:34 AM

we held hands on the 1st date and even made out. But she wouldn't allow anything sexual, saying she'd rather wait.

In the course of some conversation the next day she said, "..I can usually tell when a guy is trying to play me...it's always about sex with men based on my past relationships." She said, "I just want to try to have a relationship with you first." And she also told me that he always wanted to have sex with her all the time. So putting it together, what does it sound like to you?


Means:
1. She didn't want to have sex or go beyond making out on the first date.
2. She felt the same way the next day.
3. She has a usually functioning BS meter - the BS being "I really like you/love you, want to get to know you, see us being together, yadda yadda" when all or most of what he wants is to have sex with her.
4. She has unfortunately had past relationships that have not met her needs (whatever those are, ask her) - they have been "about sex" "all the time" for the man (from her perspective, anyway) and she is telling you clearly that that is not what she wants.
 afournier
Joined: 2/12/2010
Msg: 33
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 3:43:05 PM
Zephyr....love ur reply!!! Very True!
 DebiDuzDishes
Joined: 4/9/2009
Msg: 34
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 3:57:02 PM
it always comes down to sex..

Do men even ask us out cuz he thinks we'd make a good future partner??.. or was he just looking at muh booty?..

Sex complicates things. How does one even get to KNOW someone when your too busy humping like a bunnY?

Men want "no pressure" from women?.. Why cant we have "no pressure" from men?

How many women here have had men tell them the LOVED them.. humped them like bunnies.. then just POOOF.. disappeared?

If i could still be your cinderella.. snow white or sleeping beauty AFTER lots of humping.. maybe waiting wouldnt be so important.
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 35
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 4:14:18 PM

Can someone explain this in detail? I've never had a physical relationship like her but keep running into the ones that have, and am having a frustrating time.


Oh to be 18 again! no thanks.
It means you have to get out of your parents house, get out of the basement watching porn and find the, "I'm a nice guy thread " to convince the wimins in the peanut gallery.
 Highlander9847
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 36
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 5:10:47 PM
Talk, Listen, Listen, Laugh Together, Repeat. When your apart consider her needs.
She wants to know your someone she can believe in and that tomorrow will be even better than today. If you have a life, it's gotta be something that creates a small sense of awe. Whether it's a job or a hobby, be that which makes you amazing. Your most of the way there anyway. I like this woman already. If it's not working after a decent time then she's not yours anyway. So your not losing. If your the best you when your with her and shes the best her when shes with you, nothing will stand between you.

Good luck!
 bennnconti
Joined: 3/1/2010
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 whenwillthiswork26
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What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 5:38:29 PM
People say all kinds of wierd stuff. Why cares what they mean?
Probably nothing, just talking.

I'm a bit tired of all these threads starting "What did she mean when she said..."

She was telling you NO to sex.
 nigelwright
Joined: 3/24/2007
Msg: 39
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 5:50:48 PM
It usually means her previous partner turned out to be only after sex.
But she finally figured that out and moved on.

This is very common as many men are out of bad relationships and very expensive divorces and the thought of parting with half of their home and worldly goods fills them with great fear !
 ghostdog1973
Joined: 1/2/2010
Msg: 40
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 8:23:03 PM
OP- It means her bf had 10" c0ck...and she could not get enough of him...he was hot and he did it for her completely...and he still gets her when he wants her.

she cannot get away from him, because the sex was soooo freaking great.

and she just isnt' that hot for you- but she wants you possibly as a bf, just without all the sex.


for me- if i heard this, I'd say- well that's all I am looking for so lets get to it.


i would not listen to a girl tell me sh1t like that and downgrade me like that at all.
 interplay
Joined: 3/29/2007
Msg: 41
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 10:06:20 PM
I would put big money on it that ghostdog is right.

How about that, some people are still honest thesed days.
 AZ Yankee
Joined: 3/16/2010
Msg: 42
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 10:19:30 PM
Means you ain't getting any...ever...never...no way.
 KissMeCupid
Joined: 2/13/2010
Msg: 43
What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 3/23/2010 10:46:03 PM

What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?


That the last guy they were with didn't care about anything but having sex and she wants someone who cares about her as well as her vagina.
 tarotdream
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Posted: 3/24/2010 12:11:32 AM
Tell her you're ready to wait for years. She won't like that indicator of her attractiveness.

She's still checking out your competition.

Low libido.

Not much attracted to you . . . but finds the rest of the package lovely . . . hopes she'll be inspired as time goes by.

How far can you be pushed? With concurrent loss of respect.
 =jinx=
Joined: 1/25/2010
Msg: 45
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Posted: 3/24/2010 12:23:34 AM
----------------->Read msg 26, the OP's followup as to what she said to him. It makes a lot more sense than the original post<-----------------------------
 Slyknight
Joined: 2/13/2010
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Posted: 3/24/2010 12:47:24 AM


In the course of some conversation the next day she said, "..I can usually tell when a guy is trying to play me...it's always about sex with men based on my past relationships." She said, "I just want to try to have a relationship with you first." And she also told me that he always wanted to have sex with her all the time. So putting it together, what does it sound like to you?


It sounds like she doesn't understand men but thinks she does, and is developing some bad (from your point of view) associations between sex and superficial relationships.

As BDJ and others have said, it smacks of using sex as a weapon and/or testing tool. You may well find yourself constantly 'proving' you don't want sex all the time. Likely she doesn't realise that a guy who wants a relationship with her will still want sex a lot too.

I wonder how she'd feel if you said "Don't worry... you're not that hot. We can just do it once a week or something. It's just your company and personality I like really."
 serenityCW
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Posted: 3/24/2010 12:53:05 AM
every "girl" is different. some believe sex implies commitment. some more mature girls and boys want a heart connection, something between the ears, growth and long term commitment with mutual goals/values. most who want more than just sex, also want monogamy. but more than friends with benefits. they want to be considered special and to feel you are special.
 JeepHammer
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Posted: 3/24/2010 8:44:36 AM

When a girl says that her previous relationships were entirely physical and that she wants to wait to have sex with me, what does she mean about what went on in those previous relationships? I can't imagine a guy telling a new date of his, "Let's wait, because my previous relationships were entirely physical...the girl just kept wanting sex..etc."


Two things,
1. They were young, unattached, and looking to have fun, explore sexuality,
Found someone that was 'Appealing', but found out there wasn't a 'Relationship' in the works, just sex.
These people generally grow up and start looking for something more.

This doesn't automatically mean they are damaged.
It could mean they were young, hormone driven, experiencing life, and generally having a good time with things.

I WOULD watch for other signs of sociopathic behavior...
Doesn't mean it's automatic, but be on the alert for Instant mood changes, an ability to justify or rationalize anything THEY want to do...
If they are too involved in 'Self' then I would hesitate to enter a deep relationship with that person.

Look for tell tale signs like,
"I THINK this is 'best'..."
Instead of,
"What Do YOU think about this or that situation"...
If they aren't taking you into confidence, sounding off you for guidance,
Then you are dealing with a person in the relationship that doesn't care about you,
Only what is 'Best' for them at that moment.

2. Older people will engage in 'Purely Physical' relationships because of personality problems, usually low self esteem.
They want someone... Anyone... To tell them they are 'Beautiful' and make them feel 'Wanted',
And if they have to give sex to get that feeling, that's what they will do.

Like when women have endless babies to make sure SOMEONE loves them, even if they have to be 'Mom' to get some of that 'Love'...

Or when people have long term affairs with married people,
They are usually so shallow with low self esteem they can't maintain a full on relationship with some one single in the real world.
It's a combination of not wanting to deal with another person in a full on relationship so they can concentrate on 'Self',
And not having a well enough developed personality to attract someone that actually WILL love them for who they are.
 Wishes Granted
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Posted: 3/24/2010 9:33:02 AM

it shouldnt make you feel intimidated though, perhaps you are a sensitive type that she can share her shoe shopping and interior decorating interest with.
Or, perhaps she's learned that she can have sexual passion and, multi-O's with a man that who actually loves her. Perhaps she's learned that a man often gets lazy in the courtship part of a relationship if he feels he doesn't need to court her. ..Now.. she would like to see if he's worth more than his dangly bits. Funny how most men's ego never feels attacked when someone is with them just because all they're good for is sex.. Quite the opposit for most females.. (things that make you go hmmmmm) Op; should feel his ego being stroked because she wants more with him than just an orgasm.

Sex for sex sake works when you're no longer looking for a life mate to bare your children with.. When younger and the majority of your 'relationships' are sex-only based, it just means (more times than not) that you're just raking up your numbers, putting yourself in a position to become addicted to "strange" and emotionally tormenting others and at times yourself, in the process.

OP: If you actually want a Relationship with this girl.. Don't look at her statement in a negative light.. just take things a day at a time and see what she actually means by it. Don't take the David Di Angelo graduates advice (and taunting) without a grain of salt.

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 guyinacorner
Joined: 8/20/2008
Msg: 50
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Posted: 3/24/2010 11:04:53 AM
when its allabout sex it means they ****ed allot. she probably never said no. and he was game to.
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